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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Two questions here. 1. If you are divorced/separated, do you feel like it has irrevocably affected your kids? 2. If my husband's take home pay is about 5x his income (ie mostly bonus-based) would child support be calculated based on salary or take home pay? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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good question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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1. my parents are divorced (since I was 7) and it irrevocably affected me, but not really in a bad way, and in retrospect I wouldn't have it any other way. 2. It depends, I suspect. My dh is a law partner, and when he got divorced, his child support and alimony was definitely based on his potential earnings, not on his minimum draw (NY). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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i believe child support is on gross pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] My soon to be 14 mo eats carbohydrates, chips, cereal, fruit, milk, yogurt and sometimes cheese....that's it...really. ANYTHING else I try he either stares at it, rolls off his tongue or throws it on the floor. Is anyone elses's child so picky? Is this a sensory issue? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.05.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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that is impressive variety [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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just keep trying other foods. over and over again. my ped told me the literature is very clear in that you have to try foods at least 15 times before you can really say they don't like the food. and bring it up with your ped if you're really concerned. keep a food log for a week or so and keep trying new foods and see what happens... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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so you don't think it is sensory then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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try diced veggies (carrots, corn, peas, etc) -- fresh or frozen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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eats a few peas at times.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] any moms of 8mo's out there? are you "brushing" or wiping with gauze dc's first teeth? should i be doing this?! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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I buff polish every night. Also floss. So important to start that early [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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8.5mo. I try to brush teeth and gums with plain brush and db loves to suck on and play with brush. But honestly I often forget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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never bothered - teeth were perfect at 3 year check [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Hubby is leaving to India on a business trip, I need an idea about what he should bring me back. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Rebecca? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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is that a type of fabric? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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yes, crude and rough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] 2yo was referred to a developmental ped today. DH is angry about it and insists there's nothing wrong with him. In my gut, I think he ds has some sensory issues and we should have him evaluated (and the appointment's already been made), but, of course I want DH and I to be on the same page. Any one else have a similar situation? Dh agrees that it's our job to make sure that we are helping ds with any issues he might have that prevent him from thriving, but he has all this hostility toward doctors and I wish he didn't... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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My DH and I had the same reaction when we were referred to dev ped. it took us a while to accept that there was an issue. sometimes it just takes time. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Stick to your guns, if you think he might need some extra support, he probably does and if he doesn't...what's the harm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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It's really hard. I imagine your DH is in the position I was in over a year ago, which is denial, and not wanting to accept something might be wrong with my child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Obama ditched the press and stayed behind in Wash DC to meet with HRC 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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and? is he collaborating with the devil? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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i so hope he picks hrc, that way he can lose [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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is that what you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] All this talk about private schools seems overwrought. I know so many middling products of both private and public schools, and so many amazing products of private and public schools. Private seems great if you have a smart and talented child, but if not, it's just an pricey experience for the mediocre. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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maybe your kid is mediocre but mine is not ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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ITD. I think the bright will do well any where. I think privates help develop the gifts of those who might otherwise have been mediocre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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i disagree - mediocre kids can actually stand a chance at private school - mediocrity is not an option there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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OP: Is 4 years at Brearley and going to Carnegie Mellon amazing or mediocre? How about 4 years at St. Anne's Belfield and going to Ball State for college? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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NP: You know that just because you go to a place like Brearley you aren't automatically entered into a top college, right? You have to compete with all the kids from all the other schools. Harvard doesn't take a whole class from one school. In that regard, sometimes you are better off going to a no name high school and being the superstar there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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op: exactly, private school is no guarantee. for the mediocre, it's just a pricey experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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You misunderstand me. I'm not saying the kids who went to CM or Ball State from Brearley are mediocre, I'm saying they had to compete amongst stars to get places. This was a tough year for college admissions. If some of those kids had been at less competitive schools, they might be going to "better" colleges. I know nothing about Ball State, but Carnegie Mellon is not a bad place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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but who is to say that the outcome had those kids gone to local public wouldn't have been community college? in which case one could argue that private helped them reach their highest potential. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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^^^or not going to college at all. Most kids from public schools don't. Private school can make a huge difference especially from kids from lower income backgrounds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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You have to be kidding. It matters what you learn there, not where you go to college. BTW, both DH and I went to crappy state colleges. Yet he managed to become president of the company he works for, making millions. At some point your skills and abilities matter more than where you went to school. He's got a bunch of Hardvard and Princeton people working for him, and people from almost every college so desired by UB. It's not all about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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nnp. If your ultimate goal is for dc to get into Harvard, maybe. But if your main concern is the 13 years of education dc receives between K and 12th grade, dc is better off at Brearley or another top school than at a no-name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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well that's not what I was talking about. my boss's kids, all were C students in public, he sent them to private to put them in an environment where just getting by with a C was not acceptable. Now 2 are grown, 1 still in college. I wouldnt say the 2 older ones are super successful, but probably better than they would have been in public. My point is, its not just the super bright who go to private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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OP: Carnegie shpws that a child is not confined to the liberal arts oriented "stuff" of private schools...has better engineering than any of the Ivies and a top notch musical theater program. I'd be thrilled to have my B girl attend CMU, thrilled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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^not OP, just addressing the OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 06:49 AM Flag
[ - ] we live in a townhouse. 5 yr old daughters room is on top floor. our just beneath. the only spare room is on the floor with my daughter's. a male friend of dh's is staying over. it is one of his very dearest friends since childhood and he has 2 kids of his own. am i nuts to feel a little uncomfortable about his proximity to my daughter? i hope i am. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Close her door and use a monitor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Yes, you are being nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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it seems you are alone in your opinion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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No - I think it's just instinctive. Any way your dd can bunk with you that night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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No. I always am aware when we have male guests near my son's room. You're right. If you feel that uncomfortable then have her sleep in your room or re arrange the sleeping arrangements. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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ugh. dh will give me SUCH a hard time on this one. jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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I would be uncomfortable too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I would be uncomfortable too - although I'm sure it will be fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Most abusers are close to the family. Trusted, if you will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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if some thing were to happen, and I don't think it will, do you think dd would say some thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I think so but I think all moms think so and obviously many are wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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i never leave my children alone with anybody except their father, grandparents and my sisters. not alone w/preteen cousins, bil, family friends, etc... it's just not worth the risk, my guilt, mental damage, years of therapy, however slight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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np: people may think you're paranoid, but i think you're very smart and i plan on being the same way. my friend's 5yo dd was molested by an older cousin. you really never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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how much older was the cousin? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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better safe than sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] is it safe to eat peanuts when pregnant? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I would not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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no. traces get to baby and could make baby allergic later. that said, i couldn't resist a little peanut butter and so far dc is ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I had a lot of peanut butter and dc is NOT ok. Had none with 2nd dc and so far she is much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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yes. everyone needs to calm down about this stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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did you know there are essentially no peanut allergies in 3rd world countries. they actually save kids lives with a fortified PB product, give it to starving infants to keep them alive. none of them have peanut allergies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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what did ob say? no one ever told me to not eat pb for 3 pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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ob has never said any thing, but I've noticed some allergy post on ub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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heard you should limit it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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i hate eating pregnant peanuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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thanks, you made my night. this site stinks now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I want to bring 7 week old to movie tonight in a Bjorn. He will most likely be sleeping the whole time (hopefully). Have you ever done this? What are your thoughts on this? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Movies these days are REALLY loud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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go for it. we only did it once when db was 6 wks. i wish not i had done it more. go to as many as you can while he sleeps like this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Will it be a loud action movie? I'd say no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I agree they are really loud, maybe if you sit all the way in the back and cover its ears.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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As long as you are prepared to leave if he makes any noise, fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, we are prepared to leave if he makes a peep. I think we're gonna do it. Thanks for the replies :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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we did this all the time. bf if db wakes up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll...Blake for a girl? Mia? Lila? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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no, mia or meea? lila or leela? hate names that are ambigious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Need help with a boys name...Have you heard any good ones lately? Do you guys like Gavin or Brody? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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no no marcus, colin, desmond, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Paul [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Raymond. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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poor kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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what is wrong with this name? Classic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Love Gavin and Frederick. Think a little boy named Freddy would be the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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love Frederick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] IB/Finance moms- How are you doing? This credit crisis has me down. I work in one of the most affected areas. I'm about to just throw in the towel. More work with less people. Dealing with triage. More pressure. Layoffs occurring constantly. Longer hours. Expected to be grateful I have a job, but no guarantee I won't get laid off days before bonus announcement. FWIW- I'm pretty junior work in a cost center, no 7 figure salary for me even in great years. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP- I'm also earner of 60% of our HHI. If I do quit, we have to leave the tri-state area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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OP- No beaten down finance moms on? How about DHs? I could use some commiseration right now. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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my dh was laid off. it sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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How is he doing? A lot of good pals laid off. Sucks for those laid off and those left behind. Good luck to you guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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he has his ups and downs. hopefully it will turn around soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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dh was laid off 3/31. He is having a meeting tomorrow re starting his own business with the support of a small IB. Wish us luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Laid off IB mom here and I was 100% of our income. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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That really sucks! Did you have savings? I've started to hear of former colleagues who were laid off getting jobs. I'd guess 15% of those laid off have found new employment. I know, not the best of %ages. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Yes, we will be fine, but I am pregnant, so can't even try to get a job for now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Good luck. Try to enjoy the time and the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I have 3 wo twins and i want to get a simple sling to carry one around. I'm thinking the peanut shell, hotsling or kangaroo. Any recs? Moby seems way to complicated to me. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Hotsling was very easy to use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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I could not figure out the peanut shell for the life of me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone else with 99 olsat/bsra NOT submit G&T application to DOE? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.05.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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If so, where do you live and does your dc have an ethnic name? Just testing a theory folks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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NP - the person I spoke to at DOE, when I was concerned that my return receipt coupon hadn't been returned to me (3 weeks after mailing my letter), told me they would be calling anyone whose child qualified (90+) and didn't return a preference form to confirm that they had purposely not returned it - not that it was lost in the mail. so i think your theory (that they called the woman in harlem b/c they were looking for diversity) is off-base. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I agree with you (in fact I cited what must have been your post from a few weeks ago in the other thread!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Ha. How funny. Although when she told me that I had to counter with "But our phone number was incorrect on the form and no one from your office responded when I called, as instructed on the form, to correct it. How exactly did you plan on calling us?" Her response: dead silence. Ah. The good ole DOE. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I think that they did that on everyone's form but that they have our original testing request forms. I have a copy of that saved and my telephone number is printed very clearly on that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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You give them way more credit than I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Well we submitted our form (actually two because we sent the first one certified RRR and the DOE person we spoke to suggested we send another via regular mail) so I am not expecting a call unless it is to question why they got two forms--so I will likely never know if they got my number right! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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If you want them to call you and confirm receipt I suggest two ways (both worked for friends): 1) call 311 and lodge a complaint or 2) fire off an e-mail threatening legal action. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Wow-those are both pretty extreme! We did get back our signed return receipt so I am feeling pretty confident that they got it. I would be very nervous about any threats right now given that they have not announced my placement yet--I can definitely see my son dropping to the lowest lottery position in his score band if I am a PIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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One office collects the forms (and they hired "consultants" to go to the post office!, they outsourced the data entry to other "consultants" and another office does the placement. No way they would be coordinated enough to blackball anyone. :) Good luck btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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thank you! You too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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90 OLSAT here. Still no call about our form. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Maybe they're calling by score and going down the list? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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would guess so too. as the lowest possible score, i guess we will soon know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I doubt they will call THIS late... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Just put this in a new post, but we got the call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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That is us. Live in Manhattan, no ethnic name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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^^^No call from DOE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Did you get a call from the DOE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] My new boss invited his relatively new team for icecream today and duped us into an aerobics class. I almost died when I found out I had to change into shorts with my boss and collegues. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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oh gosh --- I totally would be pissed-off for that surprise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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it was a test to see how you react to a surprise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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I would have been so annoyed, especially since I havent shaved my legs in weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you put your dc's desk facing a window or a blank wall...I'm thinking the wall maybe better for concentration, but the window better for dreaming???? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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good Lord [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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OP- well, I'm having it built into the wall so it's a decision. He's 5 so I'm not asking him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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old enough to aks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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ask your kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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How old? I'd be inclined to face the wall (and put a bulletin board on it) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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I have 2 boys and they are very little but I truly truly believe if you treat them like they need a padded playroom they will need one. Don't sell you son short...give him a desk where he can breath and he will learn more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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OP- no, but he's a boy and I cannnot foresee what problems/issues are ahead with a teenage boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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definitely a window. Because it helps the eyes to switch back and forth from a short focus to a long focus. And it helps the brain too. The child will be able to stay at the desk longer if they get that visual break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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