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[ - ] I'm trying to save on groceries, purchased a bag of black beans and a can of goya corned beef made in brazil. Has anyone make the brazilian corned beef? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.08.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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eww. canned meat? not sure how that saves you money, or could possibly be god [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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I'm the op and was unsure what to try, it may not save me money in the long run but have you tried it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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try black beans and rice - skip the meat. soak the beans and then cook with some seasonings - I like a little s&p, cayenne & different herbs. Maybe add a little meat like sausage to the beans. Serve with saffron rice - either pre packaged or make regular rice and add some saffron when you add the rice. Then serve with some cheese and cilantro, green onions or parsley. Yum! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] My 5 yo ds is a god-awful brat. At the grocery store today he was being typically bad - running and making stupid noises (he is mildly autistic, but he makes the noises because he knows they are annoying, not because of his condition). I did my usual useless attempts to reason with him, threaten him, etc. So, I was just trying to get what I needed and get out asap. My ds blocked the aisle so this 60ish woman couldn't get by. She said, "Move!" I turned and grabbed him and apologized the way I usually do and she gave me a terribly dirty look. I'm not used to that, people are usually not so mean about his behavior, especially when they see how apologetic I am, and how frazzled I look. So, I said, "You know, he is only 5." She replied, "I've raised 3 kids who didn't act like that." I then told her that he was autistic, and she ignored me. I repeated it twice, and my blood was about to boil over because she wouldn't even look at me. Then I told her she was being incredibly rude, and she said simply, " I wasn't rude to him." I'm really upset about this encounter. I know I can't control my ds. Nothing works. It makes me crazy to have people look at me like I suck, though. I'm not one of those people who defends my bratty kid's behavior, and says that he is just 'spirited', or some crap. Why can't people be a little understanding?? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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you say that you did your usual useless tactics...why? try someting different. what you can do is pick him up, and say in a calm manner, 'i am sorry you did not want to come shopping with me today" and say nothing else. go to the car, return home and do not bring it up again. do that 5 times and you won't have a problem in public again. suggested reading, "children, the challenge" by rudolf dreikurs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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that's lovely in theory. in reality, I didn't have time to put all the stuff in my cart back, return home, then go back to the store later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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^^^I'll look up the book though. I certainly do need some help. thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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you are welcome. you can find the book on abe books for a bout a buck. and you can do this. go for practice runs. if he is going to do this frequently, then you have lots of opportunity. next tijme you go, go when you don't really need anything. pick out a few things. he will misbehave and you can do it. or, you can leave the food with the manager and go back later. you need to do this or you will have problems each time you go. the book is great, by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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perhaps he is fulfilling your prophecy that he is a god-awful brat. you certainly expect him to be that way each time. he is just holding up his end of the bargain. you need to change the way you interact with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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I honestly don't know what else to do. I think he may be ADD, or something, in addition to being autistic. He gets into this 'zone' when it is impossible to get through to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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he needs no more labels. act more and speak less. and maybe curtail your label of autism. you need not get through to hiim wiht words. he knows what is appropriate behavior and what is not. he is just trying to get ot you, as you even say in your post. 'he knows they are annoying'. don't allow it to be. keepit all inside. you are giving hiim an audience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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ITA. is he receiving any therapy/treatmeant? maybe they can help you change the dynamic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] today i was folding laundry. 21 mo dd wanted my attention and started to fuss, and then started to cry. i was putting away things and just going on about my bussiness. then, eventually, i hugged her and tried to console her. she said, 'no cry, no cry'. is this normal? i don't always run to her when she cries and i am wondering if she thinks that she is not allowed to cry. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I doubt very much she thinks she can't cry. When you console her do you say anything like don't cry to her if so she is probably just repeating that back to you. It sounds normal to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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no. i sometimes say, 'you can cry' but i don't pick her up. there are times in which i do not want to console her because then i will be inviting her to repeat the behaviors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] anybody seen kung fu panda? is it too much for a 4 year old? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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my 2.5yo was okay with it. my 5yo looooved it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Central Vac. good or just marginal. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 yo dd is an even more picky eater than months ago and will only eat bland things, noodles, rice, pasta. if i mix anything into them or put sauce, she flips out. any tips on how to deal? tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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ignore it. let her choose, do not mix stuff in. offer her healthy things. and as soon as you put it on the table, your job is done. read, child of mine. typical behavior at this time. give her a multi-vitamin f you are worried about her health. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Received rejection from the D1 lottery yesterday! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.08.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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You sound happy. Are you just happy things are moving along? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Do I? In a certain way, at least I know now. Of course I am interested in that D1 school, or else I would not have applied. I think the exclaimation mark meant disappointment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Oh, I am really sorry. Are you waiting for G&T? I hope something works out for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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We have already registered dc at our local zoned school. It is a very good option. We are just interested in one particular D1 school for some other reasons. It will all work out. No, we are not waiting for G&T. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think? Letters tomorrow, Wednesday, Friday? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.08.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I predict people will begin getting letters on Thursday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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can you guess letters from DOE or school?? How did they do last year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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I am not believing that rumor (that letters will come from the schools rather than DOE) until I see it confirmed by an Insideschools staffer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Friday - if we are lucky.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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i think they mail on friday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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Monday, and I want to be pleasantly surprised.... I wish.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Anderson? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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If the poster is right who said the schools themselves will notify us not the the DOE then we will all find out on different days... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Oh please let it be before Friday. We have to register DC at a lottery school by Friday and I want to be sure we're making the most informed choice. How can we without knowing G&T or other lottery placement? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Can't you just register at the lottery school and if you get into a G&T you prefer, switch out to the G&T? Is that really wrong to do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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we registered at our zoned school because we were worried we would be shut out. We will give it back for a G&T spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I guess we can but I am concerned that a) it could somehow interfere with the G&T process (?) and b) it's really unfair to people waiting for that school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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That is kind of you, but I think if the DOE cannot get its act together to provide you with adequate information then all bets are off. I also don't think it will impact G&T in any way, but I am not an expert on that and wouldn't want to give you bad advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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I'm guessing June 24. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone what zipcodes are good in Riverdale? want to search for place to live in the PS 24 district. Any idea of zipcodes? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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I think that you can search by school district on streeteasy.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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PS 24 in Riverdale zip 10463-7746 is good for zoning. I do know they start bussing kids out after the classes have capped. You should really call the school to find out if they're already overenrolled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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isn't 10471 also in the zone? that's the fieldston section. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Ask Judy at insideschools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have dc who had severe temper tantrums?My almost 3 year old dd has been having these very bad tantrums lately..always when we say no to her e.g no, now its time to leave the playground kind of thing...she goes ballistic..crying, screaming..generally loses control..but it can last for 20 minutes or so and it takes her a long time to come out of it...any advice?we ignore, and always follow through.. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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Sounds typical for the age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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ita - sounds like you are doing the right things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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we had the same thing for a solid hour! stoppped after 2 ddays of ignoring (even you facial expressions!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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I'm going through the same thing. She will be 3 on Tuesday, and loves to embarrass me! I totally ignore her and all the idiots who like to stare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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try giving warnings when you are going to go through a transition. Also give her choices about what is going to happen. DO you want to walk or ride in the stroller when we leave in 5 minutes? If they feel they have control over the situation, even if small, it seems to help us a lot. Now can you help me with hitting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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don't ignore... validate. for a child this age, NOW is all there is. try to see things from her perspective and come up with win-win solutions (and yes, this may be harder and take longer at times, but your relationship will be strengthened immeasurably)-- jmho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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mine has never had a tantrum... he also eats sushi and can twirl spaghetti on his fork, likes to discuss the Oped pieces in the Times, and is starting a book club for his peers... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] how much cash to give for a wedding? coworker and pretty fancy hall. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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hall? is this in the suburbs? at least $100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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$100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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in manhattan? $200 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Need help with Newborn Nanny Salary. New mom going back to work, baby will be 3 months - thinking of paying $450-$475 week - 4 days at 40 hours, sometimes a little more. We have a 1 bedroom if it helps in establishing a wage. Tidying up too, baby laundry only. Thoughts? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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sounds good to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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that is cheap-mine was $500 and didn't do anything extra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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This seems a little low. We will be in the same boat in a few months and expect to pay $650 for 5 days a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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im paying 500 for a live in 3 days a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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on the books or off? We pay $15/ hour + tax... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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Realistically, you will be payng closer to 500. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh just left for hong kong on business trip, before he left spent an hour lamenting all money we are spending each month.I'm a sahm and he basically makes me feel like I'm a such a drain on our resources..making comments such as 'Well I'm the one who has to go out and earn a living" etc...Wanted to practically kick his ass out the door...we have 2 dds and I feel he doesn't appreciate one bit what I do.. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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That isn't very fair of him. Tell him what childcare would cost if you were working. I'm sure he would rather have you looking after his kids than you going out to work to pay a nanny to look after them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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the quandry of the SAHM mom-you're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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I am sure that he does appreciate what you do (whether he shows it or not is another story). You also should appreciate the unique pressure he is under to be the sole provider for the family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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