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[ - ] has anyone seen "don't mess w/ the zohan"? dh and i are trying to decide if it is worth going. i'm very pg and tired but could use a laugh... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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didn't see it but saw preview in movie theater. it looks pretty bad. im sure there are some easy laughs. i did see iron man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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didn't see it but it looks funny -- i'm going to see it this wk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] We're in the process of potty training our 2.5yo... had a couple of successes this morning -- one was good timing, the other on her own. The last few, though, she seems unsure/anxious about the feeling to eliminate and wants to be held. How do I handle this? Tried getting her to calm down a bit and sit on the potty when I knew she was feeling it coming, but she ended up holding onto me tightly and peed most of it on me before i could get her down. ok to hold her on the potty more firmly next time she does this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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find out what she is afraid of. maybe let her pee on one of those portable potties or someplace else. sometimes they're afraid of the flush (they might go with it). we used to say, 'bye bye pee, you go there, i'll stay here.' don't force!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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don't push her or it wont' happen. Maybe just put a big jar of jelly beans and m and m's out and show her and tell her whenever she uses the potty she can have 2 or 3. Then let her decide. Also, it helped my kids to let them pee sitting on the toilet with hteir diaper on to get used to it. Then slowly get her used to the idea of removing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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This is ds exactly. When he starts acting all crazy and clingy, I know he has to go. I take him in bathroom, lock door and act all nonchalant. Sometimes he decides on his own to sit on the potty (we usually read books while he does it) or he will start to pee and I say "quick let's sit down and finish on the potty" and he does. It's tough bc he holds it in all day to wait for diapers so we are doing cold turkey with underwear every where but crib. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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I agree - try a different potty. we are having good luck w baby bjorn potty - can put it in whatever room we're in and ds feels totally comfortable sitting on it. doesn't need help from us getting on/off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] help! my 8 yo dd is getting fat! we already are a no junk-food, healthy, active family. I think she's inherited her aunt's body type -- morbidly obese. What can I do now to keep dd from getting into the terrible weight/misery cycle??? 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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please talk to a ped and find out if she is really fat. and having a mom who harps on your weight is a big part of the weight/misery cycle. start with the sr, and look at what you are feeding her. 8yos don't get fat ont heir own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Stop freaking out and comparing her to her morbidly obese Aunt. She knows you think this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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ITA!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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morbidly obese isn't a body type. You seem like the problem here--has her ped said she is overweight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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OP: her last ped visit was 6 months ago. I'm not going to make an appt just for this! (she never gets sick) I'm telling you, I can see the difference. I have not talked to her about anything; I want to do something now to help her the way my own mother never helped me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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np - Are you overweight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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i was as a teen/adult until 4 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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So why did you say dd is like her aunt? Can't she be like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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OP: It's the shape of her body. I was chunky but not obese. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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ITA. Sounds like OP is projecting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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nnp. What do you mean, "just for this"? If it's enough of an issue to make you freak out and post on UB, where you MUST have known you'd get flamed, then it's worth taking her to the ped. Before you try to make dd lose weight or stop gaining, you need to have the ped verify there's a real problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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nnnp: you can't tell if an 8 yo looks fat or not. I am the one saying OP should work on portion control. every person I know who is fat and denies snacking eats 3 squares a day...usually heavy full meals like I ate growing up. some people, if not most cannot eat this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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That's fine, but my point is before she even thinks about working on portion control, she should get an actual medical opinion about her dd's weight. OP sounds like she has too many of her own issues to just start trying to change her dd's eating patterns without professional advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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not junk food, but likely more calories than she needs for her activity level and growth at this point. I would work on portion control. same thing happened to df's 6 yo. she was feeding her the same size meals as she did when she was a rapidly growing toddler who spent hours at gym class and the playground. the kid started packing on the pounds. portion control is what you need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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If you are truly a no junk food, active family then you shouldn't change anything. She is who she is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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I disagree. her calorie content is too high or she would not be getting fat. op needs to cut down her portions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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Not everyone has the same body type! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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morbidly obese is nto a body type. No 8 yo should be fat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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np: It's hard to know whether OP is just harping on a little baby fat or if her DD is overweight. But there is a difference between body types and overeating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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nnp. ITA, which is she needs to take her dd to the ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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keep an eye on what she drinks.....even healthy juices, etc can be very calorie laden.....this was the advice given to a friend of mine regarding her 8 yo dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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MOST fat kids are juice drinkers. Bad for teeth and no nutritional value you can't get from whole fruit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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OP: We rarely if ever give juice. Maybe a juice box with calcium in lunch, but 90 percent of the time she drinks water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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don't make her life miserable -- parents putting their kids on a diet does not help them lose weight. Check out kateharding.net. And, there is definitely a body type: thin people don't usually eat any less than fat people -- people have different bodies and metabolism. Just make sure she is healthy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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Thank you for posting that link (not op). Reading about the reality of the "obesity epidemic" is great. FInally some stuff I suspected to be true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Thanks for the link. I think her points are very valid. And you are probably right about naturally thin people eating as much. But in my DH's case, eating less and more importantly following South Beach has resulted in him no longer needing meds for Diabetes II. He thought his endocrinologist was full of crap when she said he wouldn't need them if he dropped 25lbs, and she was right. Now, even when he treats himself to a dessert or candy, his blood sugar levels do not spike. It's been amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: I would like to get her evaluated without her knowing what it's all about -- does anyone know any kind of professional that specializes in this sort of thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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start with your regular ped. while dd waits outside, brig up the subject and see what she thinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I just saw above...really...you aren't willing ot take her to the ped, but you wan tot take her to a specialist for a sneaky evaluation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Endocrinologist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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did you breast feed her? For how long, if you did? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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I guess the means no. There is a serious correlation and since this is your fault, you need to get DD the help she needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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np: She didn't respond because you are ridiculous. Correlation is not causation, so your blame game doesn't work here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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lol. my mom did not bf me and i'm not fat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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OP: I bf for about 3 years. lol that's not it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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That is such a mean question. If the OP didn't bf (and she did), what is she supposed to do about it now? Start bfing her child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Ask her regular pediatrician... call with height and weight and birth date, see what ped says. Don't overreact! If ped says test blood for how she's processing food, do so. If ped says relax, relax! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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this is a fabulous idea. thank you. i can do it while she's at school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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your dd is growing. she's not your little peanut anymore. her bones are growing. she is taking shape. leave her alone and you see a dr asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think DOE is looking diversity for each school? AA DC have more chance to get popular school even score is not 99 or 98? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.08.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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i asked at NEST and I know for a fact they are not. Just numbers. Which scares me -- they're not even looking at gender, supposedly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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I have a ds, and do not feel it is fair to put him ahead of others simply because he is a boy. he has a very high 99, and I would prefer that he be chosen for that over his sex. same for other types of diversity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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is dc's name rahim washington? how else would doe know dc's race? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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How does that name show diversity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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I heard DOE is checking application form(we originally submitted before DCs took test) to see which race we checked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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where did you hear this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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bull [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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There was no race option to check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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doh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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I'm not worried about it as far as my very high scoring boy is concerned; I just do not want to send him to a class that ends up being 20 white kids from the UWS. That cancels out the "gifted" curriculum in my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] What's a nice light summertime drink other than a white wine spritzer? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.08.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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gin and tonic and mojitos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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^^although they are not low calorie if that is what you are looking for! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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Pimms cup - think it is Pimms, soda water or 7up and a cuke spear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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maybe not light, but sangria--white sangria? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] need a rec for an east side ped. who is willing to (slightly) modify the standard vaccination schedule. my current ped refuses so am looking to switch. am in gramercy, but willing to go anywhere on east side or chelsea. tia! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.08.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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did you ask pediatric associates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Not sure if he would be willing, but you can try Dr. Barry Price (25th and Madison). We love him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Why can't people do their own cleaning? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.08.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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no time! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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I don't get any joy from it and I am fortunate enough that I can afford a housekeeper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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ditto. the joy of cleaning has always escaped me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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Same. I spent a lot of time cleaning bathrooms and vacuuming rugs while I was growing up. I have less than no desire to ever do it again and since I can now afford to pay someone to do it for me, I am more than willing to outsource that chore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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ditto!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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hate it. yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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because I do everything else--why do I have to spend my small amount of time scrubbing the toilet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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I live in NYC and almost everyone I know has one. Is this true in the suburbs? I am not making a judgement. I am just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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limited time and patience. wd rather spend my energy doing fun stuff w ds and cooking for family. paying a housecleaner gives me some extra leeway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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It's not that I can't, it's that I don't want to and can afford to pay someone else to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Why are you being judgemental about people who don't do their own cleaning? If you work 60, 70 or more hours a week and want quality time with your dcs and can afford to hire someone - what's wrong with getting help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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No time. DH and I both work long hours and I would rather spend my non-working hours with db than cleaning the apartment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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Because I hate it and it makes me miserable, therefore I outsource (and am slightly less miserable) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] is there a bug going around? 2yo has a fever and is vomiting. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.08.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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looks like there is one going around your apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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my 2yo had a 24-hour thing. lots of vomiting, slight fever. next day was almost like it never happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] how often did/does your newborn eat? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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my first ate every two hours, like clockwork. my second slept more the first coupleof weeks, so probably every three hours or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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how old? up until db was 6 mo, he nursed every 2 hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] nanny agreed to clean apt as one of her responsibilties when she took the job to take care of 9 mo db. 6 mos later keeps suggesting that I get a cleaning later. I pay her 110 a day and don't say anything when she shows up late...(I mean, i don't get upset...what's the point) wwyd? tia. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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typo- cleaning lady [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Bring up the original contract and tell her that you would be happy to renegotiate. If you get another cleaning person, you will lower her salary. negotiate in good faith and see what she wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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op. thanks. this is what I was thinking. if I bring in comwone to clean every 2 weeks, how much can I lower her salary? we have a small 2 bedroom apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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how much do you have to pay the cleaning person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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I would guess 100 each visit...? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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op- the other thing is... the job is sort of cushy. db sleeps sometimes 3-4 hrs during the day. I really don't see why she can't quietly clean during this time. she'll tidy up but barely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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fire her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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I was thinking this as well. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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I had this problem. I advertised for a nanny/housekeeper and I was extremely clear in all interviews about the job duties. I have two kids, but both are in school and all the cleaning was to be done during the 15 hours that there were no kids at home (previously all the cleaning was done by a separate cleaning lady in 8 hours so 15 hours should have been plenty.) 4 months later nanny/hk wanted me to hire a cleaning lady. I tried to make it work, by sending out the laundry and doing some parts myself. But it was clear that he attitude had changed and the first time I mentioned something about something not getting done, she quit. I saw it coming and had started interviewing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] If a coworker trashed another coworker, told you he was a snake, etc wouldn't that reflect poorly on the one that mentioned all of this crap? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.08.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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Gossip and such mean spirited conversation always reflect badly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Finally broke down and put the a/c on in the LR, midtown and it's brutally hot. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.08.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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??? What took you so long? It's hot and muggy outside! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I cant tell if db is teething or has a virus from being in day care for the first time last week. Vomiting, drooling, putting whole hand in mouth, runny poop. Dr. said change formula. Hated soy. I'm at a loss - just gave tylenol and he fell asleep. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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describe what baby vomits? how old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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db is 3 months. vomit is pasty and gross - total upchuck. Dr. said it could be a bug...but Dr. Sears said the baby may get stressed out before hand making him suseptible to infection...hmm... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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hmmmm.... could be either one - it doesn't really matter which it is. Did you take temp? Do you use bm at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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you don't have to answer, if you do - concentrate on that - its easier for a virus tummy. But, just keep count of wet diapers, check temp and confort db. That's all you can do. Don't overdose on the tylenol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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oh, and babies who aren't in daycare get virus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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... too, so don't stress out on that one too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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no temp. doesnt seem unhappy when pain subsides for an hour at a time. but doesnt want to eat (Very unusual). One dose of tylenol yesterday, and one dose today - and only .6, not the .8 dr. said to do. I'm afraid of orajel because it says for 4 months and he;s only 3. Just got hylands tablets - maybe i'll try that when he wakes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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my ped was anti orajel anyway, so you can skip. The heat can get to babies too. And sometimes they just are not hungry. Just keep an eye on things, you are doing great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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Not sure about the vomiting but all the rest sounds like teething to me. Maybe check again with ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] has anyone heard about 41/3 lottery? When do they plan on telling us? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.08.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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I am still waiting, both G&T and 3 registration. Hopefully we don't have to go twice. Maybe 41/3 is waiting for G&T result. Do they have get together for incoming K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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nothing. i'm worried we'll have to let either zoned school or g&t know without knowing our options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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maybe you will get them both the same day! And to answer above, 3 used to invite incoming K to all school picinic - its on Friday. If you want, you could still come. It's on the street by the school, can't miss it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] How did you make it through the cruising stage with your db? DD is all over the place--and fast! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.08.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I'm afraid you just have to get used to it and move anything valuable up high [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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