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[ - ] How can I go about potty training my city-dwelling, 2.9yo boys who have never pooped on the potty? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Roll up the rugs. now, this week, asap. Get two potties and keepem where they play. Most important: naked training. Leave em naked this week. Kids hate feeling yuck on their bodies. Put them on the potty 15 minutes after eating and drinking (or whenever they typically go) let em watch a show. If any thing, anything hits the potty, praise lavishly!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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^^^^and never use pullups. And buy some enticing big boy undies! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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If you're still around...THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Also 2.9 is sometimes young for boys. If they're not ready, just wait. Pushing and making a big deal creates more stress for you, makes the whole process take longer, and can even sometimes make kids withhold. Follow their lead and it can be so, so easy. Not trying to stop you, just trying to tell you to de-stress.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:26 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD gets frustrated and hits me, DH, MIL sometimes. We do 1,2,3 magic and it does help but sometimes I find myself getting angry myself after being hit for the Nth time, almost automatically striking back when she gets angry and lashes out. She has been hitting a lot in the past week. I have no idea why. She is 3.6 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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is there anything going on at home? moves? new sibs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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no moves, no new siblings, no real stresses and things are better then ever before with DH & I [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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i would work on teaching her what to do when she is angry. teach her how it is ok to feel that way but not ok to react that way. we would always tell our kids to use your words, use your words [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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np: we used to do this with DS and I'm laughing because one time he was mad and went to hit me. I stopped him, told him to use his words. He stopped, thought about it, and then said "I'm mad at you mommy and I'm going to punch you in the face." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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lol sounds like my son [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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OP: Ok but what do I teach her? To say she is angry? Punch a pillow? Not sure at all and could use some direction. I'll read a book if I have to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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there are books that label emotions that are geared towards toddlers. if dd is in preschool, talk to teachers about this or just look through bn or amazon about books. also, learn to control your own anger-keep it in check and model for her: sally, I feel angry too, but we both need to calm down to resolve situation. you can defuse situation and model for her good behavior. but teaching dd to label and begin to understand different emotions (like feeling happy, sad, angry, etc) is good start [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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I know most would disagree. But if you slapped her back real hard once or twice she'd cut it out. F the super nanny crap - smack her once really hard and tell her to stop - she'll straighten up fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I am not going to go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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My DD did the hitting thing when she was 2.5. After being embarrassed in public a couple of times - my method worked. I don't hit my dd anymore (now 5) time outs work just fine. She really was just going through a bad spurt. I listened to my sister who believes in corporal punishment on this one and it worked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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There has to be a better way. You can not hit a small child 'real hard' and expect that there will be no emotional consequences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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OR - Perhaps. But I can't believe allowing a child to hit her parents and other authority figures without consequences is good. 3.6 is old enough to know and understand that this behaviour is inappropriate. FWIW - I did not only hit my dd - I also told her that her behaviour was unacceptable even if she is tired, frustrated etc. When I only "talked" though and there were no other consequences she didn't listen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 09:34 PM Flag
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idiot. what works in our home is just take away her current most favorite toy for a week. no warnings, no 1-2-3 when it comes to hitting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 10:00 PM Flag
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You are the idiot. Not the same method works with all children. I have an older dc and taking away his current favorite toy would work. My dd is not that attached is anything so she could care less when you take something away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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this has to be a joke. TERRIBLE advice. probably no sense in arguing with or, but op: please don't abuse your child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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LOL. So the way to teach a child not to hit is to hit her? Whoo boy. That's a good one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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Books:_Raising Your Spirited Child_ by Mary Kurcinka and _The Explosive Child_ by Ross Greene. Look for triggers and try to redirect before it gets to the hitting stage (is she getting frustrated, tired, hungry for protein, over/under stimulated, could it be a reaction to something she's eating, etc.). Talk (if she's a verbal type) outside of the moment, get her input on strategies, what her experience of these incidences is. Yes, try hitting pillows or other gross motor activities. Go to a quiet, neutral place with her to cool off and just "be" with her (don't do a lot of talking or demanding explanations from her in the moment). Validate. I know someone who has dealt with an explosive child, it has been really hard for her at times, but rewarding too, her son really sees her as his partner in learning to deal with his own intensity. Good luck... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:18 PM Flag
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...rewarding too, her son really sees her as his partner in dealing with his intense emotions and its gotten a lot better over the years. Good luck... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:21 PM Flag
[ - ] ok, let me rephrase...If we found a house to buy on our own at an open house (our agent didn't even tell us about it) what do we "owe" her? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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You still need a broker for all the paperwork, and the seller pays the broker regardless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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but maybe we could offer less and she could take a smaller cut? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Do you not understand how the system works? The seller is paying 6% to their broker regardless. Their broker either keeps it all, or splits it with your broker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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price is cranked up to make up for agent's cut, so if cut is less price might be less.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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But in nearly all cases the seller will already have a contract with their broker - they cannot lower the commission rate at this stage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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not necessarily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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You do NOT need a broker for the paperwork. We did it without. OP, you don't "owe" her anything unless you were under contract with her during the time period (in which case, read the fine print, you may be OK or you may not). Either way, the OR is right, you don't have to pay her anything - it doesn't hurt to put her name in (if you like her) and the seller's broker with split the commission with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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though if you try and split the brokers' fee with your RE agent, the seller's agent may balk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Nothing. But what do you have to gain by cutting her out? The seller's broker isn't going to hand you a piece of their commission. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone train for a marathon and eat constantly? I am ALWAYS starving. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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yes, of course. your body is burning a tremendous number of calories - especially when you begin the lengthier training runs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I did but still lost weight until I tapered at the end. Then I actually put on a few lbs. before the big race! But I loved being able to eat whatever I wanted (ice cream after all long runs) and having it not matter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think someone who is 5'6 and a size six is fat? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Mooooo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Morbidly obese. They should be required to buy at least three seats whenever they fly on an airplane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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Are you serious? Definitely not!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to SAH. The only reason I won't is that I know how hard it will be to re-enter the workforce. I see how my colleagues look at potential hires who took even a short period off (for any reason) and know that if I ever check out, it will be for good. And I absolutely hate that. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Can you get a part-time gig? I think it's really true, by the way, that checking out makes it really hard to get back in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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OP: Not unless I want to make a major career change. My position must be full time and there a very, very few positions in my function/industry that would allow pt work. It's all or nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Sorry, OP, but UB won't let me respond to your post below (OR here). I'm in a similar industry (financial services). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I'm trying to get back after just 6 months out (lay-offs) and I'm finding it hard. But the economy is not good now. Maybe otherwise it's not so hard? Either way, I would say don't plan on being out for too long and do things to maintain contacts, keep yourself marketable. No one cares if you were class mom... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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OP: I have seen people who apply for positions after taking a year off to care for a sick spouse or an elderly parent be torn apart by hiring managers. The attitude is "either you were in the trenches working, or you don't care about your career and are not worth my time". It is brutal, and has gotten worse, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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It's terrible. I really feel like once you have kids they totally write you off anyway. I"m less driven than I once was but I still want to be taken seriously and this frustrates me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Is this A? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Nope, but I'd like to meet A so we can share experiences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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A is a good friend of mine going through what you are. GL! It is a really tough market. I am so done with my job but wouldn't think of leaving right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there any place within 2 hrs. of NYC that's a great kid day escape? I'm looking for a Legoland type place for my 4 year old. Already did Crayola factory in PA... not interested in Sesame Place... any other ideas, lesser known? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Land of Make Believe in northwest NJ is very old-fashioned but I have loved it since childhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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^^Dutch Wonderland is adorable, but about 3 hours away. We stay at the Willow Valley Resort when we go - it has a huge indoor kiddie pool with slides, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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np- I was just going to book this place for our getaway in Aug. We are going to Dutch Wonderland and Willow Valley seemed like a great place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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nnp: Do you guys know whether they have suites? Hate staying in a regular hotel room on vacation. DH & I end up hiding in the bathroom until ds finally falls asleep and then giving up and going to bed at 10PM. Not much of a vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Yes, they have suites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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my 4 yo loves victoria gardens and you don't even have to leave nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Looking for a getaway with an overnight stay as a preschool graduation present. DS is big on hotels with pools and free breakfast... we just need an attraction to head to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Hershey Park? How was Crayola, btw? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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what's wrong with coney island? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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NP: I love Coney Island, but it's not really an escape...it's gritty NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Sesame PLace is tons of fun, lots of water rides. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Fruit-picking up near Red Hook; easy drive staight up the Hudson. Wave Hill is a short trip and great on a nice day. There's also a water park near Catskill, NY that's cute. Jersey shore; it's northern section is an easy train ride. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.18.08, 09:40 AM Flag
[ - ] i want to look at all my credit card charges and group them by use so i can see where all our money goes. Can i do that through the cc company or should i download some software? Mac user. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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you can do it in Quicken [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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you can do that with Quicken but to do it to all past charges would take a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Any real estate agents on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:17 PM Flag
[ - ] OK so the summer tutoring post got me very concerned about my 4.5 year old DD. We are hoping for Anderson. She is a December kid. She cannot read at all. Should she be able to? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.08.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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NO. Leave these s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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children alone and let them be children and have a carefree childhood. Good lord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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It's fine, honestly. Even if she were a January dc, it would be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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very few kids at Anderson, Hunter or Lower Lab enter K really reading, but most know the alphabet and some letter sounds and have been read to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Last night my 4 year old asked me what a word was. I tried to make her tell me each letter and the sound it makes. She burst out crying and said "mommy I just wanted to know the word." The first time in my life I felt like a helecopter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:39 AM Flag
[ - ] dear moderator. can you please put down the mojito and tell the tech team that we still can't reply to posts? thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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You can reply, but if you are the first one it does not show up until there is a second reply. Weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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NP - There are some posts to which I can't reply. Obviously not this one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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And, there are occasionally posts that have no "reply" option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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No - there are some posts where if you hit reply, you get sent to sign-in - even though you're already signed in. And there's no rhyme or reason as to which posts let you reply and which bounce you. NP by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] has anyone done one of those herbal colon cleanses? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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uh, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you consider someone who was 5'4" and took a size 8 to be fat? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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kind of, yea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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not in the slightest. Not skinny, but not fat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Not necessarily. A lot of women would look good at that weight - bone structure and muscle mass make a big difference in how a size 8 looks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I'm 5'4 and 136 pounds, sometimes a 6, mostly an 8. I don't look even chubby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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OP: I'm 5'4" and 131 -- almost never fit into a 6 unless it's vanity sized. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Sorry that you're big boned [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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LOL, whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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ditto only I'm 142 and more often an 8 but sometimes a 6. In fact, my measurements would make me a size 14 but I fit size 8 in major retailers like Banana, Ann Taylor, Gap (vanity sizing?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Muscle is considerably heavier than fat and changes all proportion. As a fashion stylist with over 20 yrs in the fashion/beauty industries, I've met some(not all) really thin women and girls whom lack tone and fitness; it's not a pretty picture(in real life). Additionally, sizing is one of the most bizarre aspects in clothing merchandising; it varies so widely from label to label. Saying size 8 is not subject to any uniform standard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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If you look good, feel good and maintain a good energy level, then 5'4" sounds hot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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In any 'size'. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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no. not skinny, but def not fat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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No way. What's wrong with you people? Since when is a size 8 fat???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone on who lives in clinton, ct? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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I grew up in Madison...the next town over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] does your nanny do db's laundry, is laundry is in basement of apt building? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.08.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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yes, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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no, and no -- it's in a room next to the nursery... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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