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06.08.08, 14:28 PM General Topics
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help! my 8 yo dd is getting fat! we already are a no junk-food, healthy, active family. I think she's inherited her aunt's body type -- morbidly obese. What can I do now to keep dd from getting into the terrible weight/misery cycle??? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 02:28 PM Flag
 

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please talk to a ped and find out if she is really fat. and having a mom who harps on your weight is a big part of the weight/misery cycle. start with the sr, and look at what you are feeding her. 8yos don't get fat ont heir own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Stop freaking out and comparing her to her morbidly obese Aunt. She knows you think this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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ITA!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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morbidly obese isn't a body type. You seem like the problem here--has her ped said she is overweight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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OP: her last ped visit was 6 months ago. I'm not going to make an appt just for this! (she never gets sick) I'm telling you, I can see the difference. I have not talked to her about anything; I want to do something now to help her the way my own mother never helped me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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np - Are you overweight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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i was as a teen/adult until 4 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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So why did you say dd is like her aunt? Can't she be like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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OP: It's the shape of her body. I was chunky but not obese. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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ITA. Sounds like OP is projecting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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nnp. What do you mean, "just for this"? If it's enough of an issue to make you freak out and post on UB, where you MUST have known you'd get flamed, then it's worth taking her to the ped. Before you try to make dd lose weight or stop gaining, you need to have the ped verify there's a real problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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nnnp: you can't tell if an 8 yo looks fat or not. I am the one saying OP should work on portion control. every person I know who is fat and denies snacking eats 3 squares a day...usually heavy full meals like I ate growing up. some people, if not most cannot eat this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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That's fine, but my point is before she even thinks about working on portion control, she should get an actual medical opinion about her dd's weight. OP sounds like she has too many of her own issues to just start trying to change her dd's eating patterns without professional advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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not junk food, but likely more calories than she needs for her activity level and growth at this point. I would work on portion control. same thing happened to df's 6 yo. she was feeding her the same size meals as she did when she was a rapidly growing toddler who spent hours at gym class and the playground. the kid started packing on the pounds. portion control is what you need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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If you are truly a no junk food, active family then you shouldn't change anything. She is who she is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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I disagree. her calorie content is too high or she would not be getting fat. op needs to cut down her portions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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Not everyone has the same body type! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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morbidly obese is nto a body type. No 8 yo should be fat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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np: It's hard to know whether OP is just harping on a little baby fat or if her DD is overweight. But there is a difference between body types and overeating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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nnp. ITA, which is she needs to take her dd to the ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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keep an eye on what she drinks.....even healthy juices, etc can be very calorie laden.....this was the advice given to a friend of mine regarding her 8 yo dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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MOST fat kids are juice drinkers. Bad for teeth and no nutritional value you can't get from whole fruit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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OP: We rarely if ever give juice. Maybe a juice box with calcium in lunch, but 90 percent of the time she drinks water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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don't make her life miserable -- parents putting their kids on a diet does not help them lose weight. Check out kateharding.net. And, there is definitely a body type: thin people don't usually eat any less than fat people -- people have different bodies and metabolism. Just make sure she is healthy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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Thank you for posting that link (not op). Reading about the reality of the "obesity epidemic" is great. FInally some stuff I suspected to be true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Thanks for the link. I think her points are very valid. And you are probably right about naturally thin people eating as much. But in my DH's case, eating less and more importantly following South Beach has resulted in him no longer needing meds for Diabetes II. He thought his endocrinologist was full of crap when she said he wouldn't need them if he dropped 25lbs, and she was right. Now, even when he treats himself to a dessert or candy, his blood sugar levels do not spike. It's been amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: I would like to get her evaluated without her knowing what it's all about -- does anyone know any kind of professional that specializes in this sort of thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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start with your regular ped. while dd waits outside, brig up the subject and see what she thinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I just saw above...really...you aren't willing ot take her to the ped, but you wan tot take her to a specialist for a sneaky evaluation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Endocrinologist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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did you breast feed her? For how long, if you did? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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I guess the means no. There is a serious correlation and since this is your fault, you need to get DD the help she needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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np: She didn't respond because you are ridiculous. Correlation is not causation, so your blame game doesn't work here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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lol. my mom did not bf me and i'm not fat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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OP: I bf for about 3 years. lol that's not it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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That is such a mean question. If the OP didn't bf (and she did), what is she supposed to do about it now? Start bfing her child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Ask her regular pediatrician... call with height and weight and birth date, see what ped says. Don't overreact! If ped says test blood for how she's processing food, do so. If ped says relax, relax! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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this is a fabulous idea. thank you. i can do it while she's at school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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your dd is growing. she's not your little peanut anymore. her bones are growing. she is taking shape. leave her alone and you see a dr asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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