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[ - ] 18mo has shown a sudden independent streak, and only wants to feed herself. Other than only feeding her non-messy finger foods, any advice on how to allow her to do this and keep the kitchen, her clothes and her body from looking like they've been in a food fight? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Feed her in a diaper. At this age, she should be feeding herself 100% of the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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I think you have to allow her to be messy for a while. Serve very small portions, like a spoonful or two in a bowl at a time. In the long run, it will benefit you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] my housekeeper comes once a week. Dh thinks that since we've rented a house 2 hrs away this summer and he is able to work there all but two days a week, that I should have housekeeper come every other week and pay her only when she comes. Is this okay? What do those of you who go to the Hamptons all summer do? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.09.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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my housekeeper/nanny works half of the week at our summer home (and stays over night) instead of a full week in NYC. It is also a little under 2 hours by train to our beach hosue, so at times, she will clean there for the day instead for working in NYC, as needed. We also always offer our house to her and her family when we aren't there on weekends, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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also, she's housekeeper... not nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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I don't think it "irregular" or unexpected, but it does decrease her income (a moral consideration I think that good employers and those that can afford to do so take into consideration). Just let her know well in advance, if you can not afford to pay her. But I think that would be a hard case to make, if youcan afford to reant ahome for the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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this is a different situation...full time all week vs one day/week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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It sucks for your cleaning lady. If I were her I'd be looking for someone who could guarantee me full time work. Can you find someone who can use her on your off weeks? Can she do other things for you? Organize closets, bigger projects? If you can afford a full time summer rental I think you can probably find a way to make this work financially for your cleaning lady. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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first OR>>>>>ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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what do you pay your housekeeper per day & how many hours does she work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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I think your dh is being pretty inconsiderate. She's probably not looking for leisure time and would probably have a hard time making up the hours doing random things for other people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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:( yes, but he just told me that several times this summer when he came home mid-day she'd come and gone...collected pay and did about less than half day's work. Just told me this...wtf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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do you pay her by the hour or for a clean apartment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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then fire her and do it yourselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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your dh sounds pretty neeby. Why should your housekeeper suffer from less income while you are enjoying yourselves - leterally - at her expense? If I were her I'd find a new client. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] im looking for good sandals for my 2 yo ds. he loves his crocs, but he trips over them when running through the park, which he also loves to do. any suggestions for a good, supportive sandal? tia 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Try Stride Rite [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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ita.....I also like Columbia 's water shoes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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tevas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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I just bought the Crocs Otter sandal for my 1 yo. It is a regular sandal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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We love the Keen sandals! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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See Kai Run. They are super comfy and easy to run in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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Naturino [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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We like Tevas, but if he's addicted to Crocs, they make them with neoprene (sp?) now. They don't fall off -- it's like a little bootie at the top of the Croc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] when do the NYC pools open? best ones for 2 yo? (we live on the west side but will travel). what are the rules we should know? thanks! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.09.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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ew. the rules are join a private beach club or make friends in the burbs with a pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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what are good private beach clubs driving distance from NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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have you even been to one of the city pools? some of them are quite nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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OK princess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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They open in July. Lasker is Central Park is nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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the one at John Jay Park is v nice, and there's a playground next door. also free swimming classes (FCFS) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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OP thanks all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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OP: I agree...JOhn Jay is agood option, especially earlier in the day.....you can do some research on the rules, but I htink they include no "logo" shirts, clear plastic bag for small items in the pool area and bring your own lock for the locker. There are street vendors for a dog or ice crema near JJ and bagels and pizza one or two blocks away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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you are welcome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:14 AM Flag
[ - ] How many of you just pay your nanny to be at home while your child is at preschool for a few hours each day? Is this common in NYC? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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We did. But she also picked up a few more things to do - ran some errands, did a little more housework. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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op: is this something you negotiated before hand? or only after the nanny had been with you for a while and your dc started school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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She had been with us for 3 years. We had a talk the summer before school started. Situations change. Job responsibilities change. She seemed fine with it. Never griped to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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yes. it's very common. how else would you keep a nanny? preschool is 3 hours per day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I've agreed with my nanny to give her cab fare after 9:30 on weekends, but both times she's worked with us, she's gotten her husband to pick her up and wants me to pay her cash. I feel it's a bit unfair...the point of giving her the fare is that it's theoretically unsafe for her to take a cab home at that time of night, no? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Theoretically yes but for good will I'd give her the money as agreed. I used to give my sitter cab fare and she caught the bus which was her choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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i'd pay her. it is unsafe that is why her husband is picking her up. might be hard to decide on the amount. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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I just checked this--if you use an agency for a sitter, you have to give a set amount in cabfare. This might or might not cover sitter's cabfare, but they could opt to walk or use public transport. I'd view it as a bonus for a late night or for sitting on a weekend. I agree though that it feels a little unfair as it's not being used as intended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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I don't know. When I am on a business trip I always put the per diem amount for daily expenses on the expense report. Most of the time I don't use up the entire amount, though, and pocket the change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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I have been a nanny and have been offered cab fare on late nights, which I really appreciated. I have also opted to take the bus and save the money. This seemed like the less pleasant, but more thrifty option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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The agreement is you pay for her transport home if she works late. Once she's out the door it's none of your business how she gets home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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I always give my babysitters cabfare home. I believe it is my obligation to provide them a means to get home safely. If they choose to otherwise, that is their prerogative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:31 AM Flag
[ - ] i have rush out of work at 5pm and my mgr (who is great) keeps me on the phone forever. i will be late. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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yet you stopped to post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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yes -b/c i am just listening to him type something and then once in a while ask me a question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] am I wrong for breaking it off???? feel terrible now...guy is pissed and like "whatever"... did I mess this iup??? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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what did you expect him to say? thanks for dumping me, this rules? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I think about Hillary every day and cry. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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You gave up on Diana then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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And Heath [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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I cried too when I heard the news [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] so are dh's no longer allowed to have "do you have any questions?" posts. Where is the one from just a few minutes ago? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Seemed like it got dirty quickly. The first few interactions were friendly and then the trolls came out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] seriously, wtf? half of the posts I try to reply to brig me to the login page. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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^^bring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Yeap, Happened to me yesterday after I posted a few times. I assumed the UB gods decided I had enough chat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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it's so weird -- in the holiday wedding thread i can reply to some posts but not others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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