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[ - ] I'm worried about my 3yo ds's weight, but it's tricky for me to see clearly b/c I have my own history with eating disorders. Watching him naked in the sprinkler today, I kept thinking about how his belly is so much fatter than the other kids', but I don't know if I'm overreacting or overfeeding him. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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my DS had a belly at 3 but no he has stretched out. but now i'm freaked out since i read the article in the WSJ today about heavy toddlers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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you are a freak. he's 3!!!!! just because you're fat doesn't mean he will be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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well, she's fat for a reason and passing her eating patterns on to her child can't be a good thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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she didn't say she was fat. she said she'd had eating disorders. huge difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Talk to your ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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i disagree. talk to your shrink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Why not start with ped first. If ped says no issue, take it to the shrink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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OP - I am talking to my shrink. And I'm not fat, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Have to admit that I've had the same worries for my 2.5yo dd. She's always been 'husky', as some have described her... and still has that protruding pot belly that none of the other kids her age seem to have in such a pronounced way. Everyone keeps telling me not to worry, they even out. So we'll just have to wait and see. Try not to worry too much -- it can't be good for you or your kid. In the meantime, just check in with ped and do your best to instill good healthy eating habits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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OP - You're right - I'll talk to ped. I don't want to make him crazy with food issues like me, but I don't want him to get teased either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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g/l! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I feel this way about my 13 mo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I pay my nanny this summer since she will be staying out at our summer place (1 hour away) from Mon-Fri? Do we need to pay hourly overnight? I would think not since my two kids sleep through the night and we'll be home in the evenings and early AM to take care of the kids. Then again, we are taking her away from home. Then again, she will be relieved of her regular 1 1/2 hour commute in from Queens. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Did you ask her? Does she have family? If no family, I'd say 150% of her regular pay and all meals. But, what do I know, I don't have a summer place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I offered her exactly that. She told me other nannies told her they were receiving a per hour overtime rate for all hours of the night. I think that's over the top. She is 23 yrs old and has a boyfriend in Queens, but she did not seem very bothered that she would be away during the week for 8 weeks. She needs the extra money and she will also be able to go home for a night or two sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I think what you are offering is more than fair. Everyone I know who has help at their summer house pays a flat weekly rate similar to a NYC weekly rate. It sounds like you are already offering more. If it was a one week thing I could see what she is saying but for the whole summer, that's crazy expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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I was chatting with my nanny today about a potential summer Hamptons job I heard abut for a friend of hers I assumed it woudl pay NYC rates (like an NYC live in ) she told me she had a short term job there (when she first came her wiht little experience) that paid 250 per day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:12 PM Flag
[ - ] is 24 children in a class a lot of kids? live in suburbia and pay a ton of taxes if that matters. tia. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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yes, it is a lot but it depends. i was very upset when i found out there were 24 kids in my DS's K class but then later found out that only 16 of them were in class full time and the remainder were only there for certain classes like gym and art and came with their own aides and teachers (not all, but some) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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How many teachers? In my 1st grader's class there are 27 kids, but two full time teachers and one student teacher, plus "specialists" like extra math and reading coaches. I don't really buy the argument that more kids is worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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wow. i hear that there will be one teacher's aide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] what is the website for parents with gifted children? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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www.deludedmommy.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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love you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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www.urbanbaby.com/talk/posts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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you mean hoagies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:50 AM Flag
[ - ] my 4 yo dc loves this child who lives next door. kid is a nightmare... no discipline whatsoever in house... frequent tantrums and "i hate you" etc... doesn't share and isn't encouraged to, but we always see them. i would like to keep my distance but feel awkward. wwyd? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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there was a girl who used to live directly behind me when I was a kid. my mom NEVER let us play with her b/c of how sketchy the family was. I think sometimes you just have to enforce the separation as the adult and deal w/ the awkwardness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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thanks. this is what i'm thinking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] NON G&T 99% moms only please. So for the rest of us - where will our dcs end up. I'm hoping my "only 98" dd still has a shot at a citywide but UB has me thinking its impossible.... and I don't think I can stomach our district G&T 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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which district G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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13 - bklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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where is the G&T in that district? PS8? PS11? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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282, 20, 9, 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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isn't 282 supposed to be okay? I've heard mixed accounts of 20 and not familiar with 9 or 3. What's your zoned school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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I couldn't reply to your post so I'm replying here. I think 282 is the best out of the bunch - but I went on a tour there and I didn't like the impression I left with. Administration clearly didn't give a crap about what parents thought and seemed pretty rigid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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That's too bad. I haven't toured it (in D15), but have heard good things. With a 98, your dd still has a good shot at citywide. Did you first choice NEST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Yes. What good things have your heard about 282? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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look this is all hype. there were just as many kids applying last year. there are not that many sibs as anticipated. the same schools are popular as before with the exception of nest...a fluke. basically the breakdown will happen as it always has. nothing much has changed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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You can't stomach your district G&T? I don't usually call "entitled" but come *on*! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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Not entitled but just want better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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So be one of the parents that helps make it better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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no one wants to do that if they don't have to. be real! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Right. So instead she'll whine and complain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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np: also zoned for PS 282 in Bk too - you guys just don't understand how much this school does NOT want parent involvement. it makes me really mad b/c it could be a great school. I'd love to get involved, and my DD is only 2 now. right now, it's too rigid for us to consider a viable option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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NP: I have a feeling you haven't visited some of the outerborough G&Ts. Queens has some good ones (and some bad) and parts of Brooklyn have some that are not at all good. Perhaps the poster is not entitled, but, rather, you are priveleged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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There are many options other than feeling entitled to a citywide. Any kid who scored 97+ is *just* as entitled. Lottery? Move? Private? Help make change? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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But here's the thing. The sort of person who makes change, who demands more from the public school system, is the sort of person who is called "entitled" all the time. BTW private is crushingly expensive, beyond the means of most people who live in district 13. Moving is an option, of course, but most of the suburbs with good schools are pretty expensive too. I feel lucky that I can afford to rent in D2 and have a decent option: I don't judge people who can't and don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Demanding more and taking action to bring about change are two entirely different things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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two things that are likely to occur with the same type of parent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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I don't feel entitled to a citywide per se - I just want a better education for my child at a school that has an administration that is welcoming to parents that want to be involved in their child's education. That is not the case with the district schools that we have access to. You can't change a school that isn't interested in changing. BTDT. Private too expensive. Tried lottery -- guess what its a lottery -- we were number 166 in a lottery with only 45 open seats. Move -- also expensive and can't afford to buy into a "good school" district. It is easy to say someone is acting entitled -- all I want is a good education option for my kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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What schools in Queens are good and what are bad in your opinion? Just curious... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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122 is good for elementary, excellent for middle school. I think 150 G&T in sunnyside is supposed to be good. There are some good ones in Forest Hillls (but I'm not up on them). You could probably do okay at 69 in Jackson Heights as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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Another 98 here who has worked herself into a tizzy after reading UB too much. Because I am district 3, I am also worried about being closed out of the top two district programs...Hopefully they will let us know soon and put us out of our misery [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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I just don't know. I remember thinking there was no way Hunter would have a cut off at 98% and yet they did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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I can't reply directly to the person who posted about Hunter's cutoff being 98 so I will reply here: That is a much more self-selected group (e.g., willing to shell out $300K and to go outside the regular process to seek out the application). Based on their application numbers they had about 17.5% getting a 98 or 99. For NYC the proportion getting 97+ was 6%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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~by "their" I meant Hunter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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(also can't seem to reply directly too all posts, esp. in a long queue of responses. tech glitch??) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:09 AM Flag
[ - ] What's the craziest thing you ever did to get a guy to like you? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Asked him to move in with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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marry him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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gave him a blow job in an inappropriate place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the best place for a brow wax downtown? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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i like shoba for threading [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Thanks. Never tried that. How is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] What food item can I send my father (in Florida) for Father's Day that would be special but affordable? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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what is affordable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Fat Witch brownies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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OP: Under $100. (Ideally under $75.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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sees candies or h&h bagels [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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OP: For some reason I can't reply to the replies....He would love Fat Witch brownies, but is really sensitive about his weight and I think the "Fat" would throw him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Dancing Deer cookies, great BBQ from Kreuz Market in Texas, meals from Home Bistro (my granddad always likes those) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Thanks--I was thinking about dancing deer, but the shipping is $$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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what does he like? where did he grow up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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OP: Boston. He loves sweets. In particular, fudge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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if he loves fudge, he'll love sponge candy -- it's this specialty candy from buffalo -- do a search -- it's such an unusual texture and taste -- totally addictive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Sounds perfect--just looked at the site, but they're closed for the season. Will have to remember it for Christmas though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Laura's Fudge in Wildwood New Jersey is the best in the world and they ship. The plain old vanilla is to die for and it stores well in the fridge. Not sure, how ever, if they ship in this heat. Also google something like boston favorite food basket and see what comes up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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np: and how old is he? You could do one of those nostalgia assortments including candy and treats popular when he was a kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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economy candy has a website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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then get him shari's berries -- chocolate covered strawberries -- so yummy. or try a gotfruit.com subscription -- you can get a 3-month sub and pick the months and fruits you want and it's not $$$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Dale & Thomas popcorn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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OP: Great idea! I think we have a winner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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or: Hooray! I gave this to my brother for Christmas, and he loved it. Think I send some to my dad, too, now that you've reminded me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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^^also, do you think this would be a good year end teacher gift? Need to find somethign for ds's 3 teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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NP: No. GCs are better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] will someone think im strange if i friend them on facebook. i know them thru a professional, not personal , setting 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I wouldn't request friendship unless you were work buddies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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so is it like stalking if i just want to do it to see about their life? not actually network online? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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It can seem that way...or just like you're hard up for actual friends (NP) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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really? hard up for real friends? sad. should i do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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I wouldn't. My only Facebook work friends are actual friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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we really don't know your relationship w/ this person. if you're not in reg. contact, or don't have friendly non-work conversations, I personally just wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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I don't think people really ever think it's strange [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Toronto mom - heading to NYC this weekend w/ good friend, no dh's, no kids for first time in long time...besides sleeping in, what should we do to soak up the city this week? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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A/C [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Nah--the weather will turn by then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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op: good idea... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Just kidding with the A/C. Where are you staying? You should stay at the Gansevoort Hotel hang out on their roof top pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Hello? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] A mom at pick up at our private ongoing school was there with her younger child. Another mom asked if he was coming to the school next year. She said "no, he is going to Anderson." So I said "oh did letters go out today?" and she said "no, but his scores were excellent." I was too speechless to ask if she was holding a spot at the private school just in case, but it certainly didn't seem like she was. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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maybe he got shut out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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she was probably hoping that you private school mommies would not realize the letters weren't out yet. btw, you sound like a major competitive beeyotch! I mean why would you feel entitled to ask her about whether she is holding a spot? just to humiliate her further? I mean, speechless? gimme a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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wow, you sound like a piece of work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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what is competitive about what I wrote? I have no horse in this race, and I wasn't the one who asked her if her younger child was joining her older one at the school, I was just standing with them waiting for the class to be dismissed. I never asked her anything. But yes, I was speechless that someone would assume their child is getting into A to the point of saying "he is going to A", not "we are hoping for A" or "whichever G&T he gets into." I mean, what is she going to tell her friend if he doesn't get in? Why would you say your child is going to a specific school when notifications aren't out yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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and why would the beeyotch mothers at your #1's school put you on the spot like that? and then come to UB to tell all? I admit the woman sounds insecure, but YOU seem to relish that fact. blech! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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np you've got issues, sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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maybe he already started at anderson last year b/c his birthday made the public but not the private cut off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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But then why would she say "his scores were excellent" as opposed to "he goes to A"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Everyone's scores are excellent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I am surprised that many UWSers on UB this year are talking about applying to NEST. No one I know going through this last year or the year before even considered it. Most ranked as follows: A, ps9, ps166, ps163. no NEST or TAG among them. Are people going to be seriously kicking themselves come the fall? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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come commute mornings in wintry January, sure. but keep in mind that last year, NEST was coming off a HUGE mess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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agree. was not on our radar last year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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People are sheep. Tell them something is citywide and they will flock, however inconvenient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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And mostly white! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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but I think it is a new phenomenon this year. no one wanted it when we applied. still would not consider it today over district G&T. people really got caught up in all the hype over scores and the like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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People who want A or 9 will not go to 163. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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yes, but they wouldn't go to nest either. probably private if not those twon publics, IME [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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And often it's either Anderson or private. Not even 9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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Ha! so true, and these are usually the ones with so so scores and not that bright. but parents will only consider Hunter or Hunter and Anderson. very funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:01 AM Flag
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I hope to be kicking myself. We weighed the pros and cons and decided it was worth it for us. If we are wrong we will regroup and try for something else for 1st grade (our zoned school is good so that can be a fallback) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:19 AM Flag
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