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[ - ] how much jarred baby food do you give in a sitting? ds seems to want more after a 4 oz jar. do you keep giving until they refuse? worried about overfeeding and him puking it all back up. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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How old? By 7 mo or so, my DD was eating 1 jar of fruit and 1 jar of veg for lunch + dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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ds is 6 1/2 mos. we started at 4 mos bc of reflux issues. i give him 1 4 oz jar at bkfast and 1 4 oz jar for dinner. should i be giving more, or starting to add lunch? im so confused, and very worried about giving too much food/formula bc of all the reflux/vomiting issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Then ask your ped. I started 3 meals a day at about that time. Do you do rice cereal/oatmeal too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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actually, at the ped GI's suggestion, we stopped cereal/oatmeal altogether. was causing constipation which aggravated the reflux. she told us to stick only to fruits and veggies. when i last talked to my ped, he was eating the stage 1 2.5 oz jars, and she said to increase to the stage 2 4 oz jars, which he now seems to want more of. ped told me to aim for 3 meals and 24 oz of forumla by 9 mos. right now he takes about 26 oz formula over 4 bottles: 5, 7, 7, 8. not sure when to add lunch and if/when to reduce/eliminate bottles. sorry to be so crazed, it's just very confusing to a new mom and especially bc we have had it so hard with the reflux and all the vomiting. i really appreciate your suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Sure--I think you should ask your ped for more direction though. My DCs didn't have reflux. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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no, i agree. was planning to call ped again. but it's still helpful to hear from other moms. thanks again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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if he wants more, give more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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so 1 jar of each at each meal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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It usually did just fruit + cereal at bfast; then veg + cereal + fruit (if hungry) at lunch; then fruit + veg + finger food at dinner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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if you're just giving fruit and veg purees, maybe he needs bulkier foods, meats etc. And I would definitely add lunch at this point and may talk to your pediatrician about doing FOUR meals a day. The meals can be a bit smaller and that might help with the reflux. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:52 AM Flag
[ - ] any divorced moms on? please give me some words of advice. i am miserable - dh has anger issues, refuses to change - but i feel so sad about breaking up the family, hurting the dc, etc. what gave you the courage to do it? tia. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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The courage came in realizing that dds didn't need to be in an angry environment and sometimes being split up is better. Our lives are vastly improved by the split. Our being mine and my kids. Ex is still an angry person, but at least we don't have to deal with him daily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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i can see that being true for me too. was the divorce process awful? did you initiate it or did he? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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It was a relief. I started it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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did he flip out? i'll have to move out, there's no way he'll move from this apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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He didn't flip out, but he was flipped out to begin with, so it was just part of the process. I did move myself and the kids. Now I am in charge of my own destiny and that of my kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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thanks for your advice, i appreciate it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
[ - ] am i a witch for cutting off bedtime story time because 3yo ds will NOT stop talking and talking and talking. what's the point?! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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maybe she just wants to talk to you instead of hearing a story? maybe you two could make up a story together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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wow - now i feel like a dumb witch. great idea. thank you! just need a little push out of my rut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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sure. btdt, believe me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] dh wants to spend father's day with me and dcs at a beach outside of nyc. we have a car but i don't know where we should go. we also would love to be able to eat at an outside seafood (lobster rolls) etc. Thanks for any suggestions! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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If you're willing to drive a while, in 3 1/2 hours (one way) you can be in Amagansett and you can to to a place called Lunch, which has great lobster rolls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Thanks, but I should have said, no more than an hour drive. Btw, we love, love it there! Especially the clam bar and cerils. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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i love long beach island in nj. about 2 hrs south of nyc. exit 63 off nj pkway. very quaint, nice beaches, great restaurants. love it there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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chk out seacliff or port jeff. sea cliff is adorable but village isn't on the water. i bet port jeff has places though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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spring lake is a lovely beach. can't recommend a lobster place near there though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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where is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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nj, I wanna say exit 105 on the garden state parkway. about 1hr 15mins from the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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spring lake is in nj. exit 98 off nj parkway. about an hour to an hour and a half drive. nice beach, cute little town with shops and restaurants. really pretty lake in town. nice place for a day trip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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could also go to spring lake in nj. cute little beach town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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how about long beach, long island - nice beach and boardwalk and lots of restaurants in downtown long beach - not sure about lobster rolls though. Plus, only 1 hr from city max. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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there is basically nothing on the boardwalk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] easiest way to lose 20 lbs? bfing and always hungry! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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oh sheesh -- do ww. you get mad points while breastfeeding. I lost 60 lbs doing WW while breastfeeding (over the course of a year). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone ever have betas that were low and slow to double and go on to have a healthy baby? I am 7 weeks and my numbers are around 12,000 and taking forever to double. RE thinks pregnancy is doomed. He is probably right which would make this my 3rd loss in a year. Ugh! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Sorry. My non-doubling beta was an ectopic pregnancy. Have you had an ultrasound yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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i thought that was okay for 7wks? i'm really sorry. is there anything they can do? my friend had this problem and just delivered a baby (not the same pg's though). one just finally made it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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OP: I know this is not ectopic b.c an early ultrasound at 5w3d showed it was in the right place. My second loss was an ectopic so RE was on the lookout for that. As for my numbers RE says that they should be hire and not taking so long to increase. 4 days ago they were at 7,400. Tomorrow is sonogram #2 so I guess I will know then what is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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have you been evaluated for an ectopic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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At a certain point, they stop doubling. I assume first ultrasound was too soon for h/b? Good luck tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yes, it was too soon for a h/b but at that point in time everything was measuring okay. Nurse at RE's office told me to expect the worst but I am sort of holding out for a miracle. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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Best of luck. I had a low initial beta (17) and everyone told me I was doomed. DD is 3 now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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for what it's worth, i had an early mc last year. then had serious spotting with this one, then passed a clot with serious bleeding. now 13 weeks and all seems to be fine. i thought for sure it was over and so far so good. hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Thanks for the words of encouragement. When I m/c about a year ago - my numbers looked great. I was blown away when sonogram revealed that everything had stopped developing 2 weeks earlier so I guess you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC - I miss you! Atlanta is full of morons. xoxoxoxo 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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I miss her too. LA is no where near as interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I just saw an episode of Jon and Kate plus 8 where he gets a hair transplant. Frightening procedure!!! Yikes. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I like that show less and less. The parents seem increasingly shallow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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eh, I can understand that feeling -- but honestly, would you turn it down if it were offered to you for free?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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ita. I have one kid and never get time to myself. How is it that they have 8 and have time to get regular haircuts and plugs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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If it meant flying across the country and leaving my sick kids at home, yes, I think I'd turn it down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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shameless product and other sponsor plugs and very little i can identify with. when does SHE parent?? it's all baby sitters and the dad as far as i have seen! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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ITA with this. She seems to have A LOT of help--no question they need it, but everything seems a little off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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and being on the show seems to give her less not more time with the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] How old was your dd when she was potty trained? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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2.3yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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26mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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2 and 1/2, though we've had 3 regression episodes (she regressed when dh went on a week-long business trip) She's 3 and 1/2 now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have a quiet window ac? Our Sharp is highly rated, but I can't hear myself think. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Our Frigidaire is fine. Not silent, but not too loud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] ok- i am frsustrated. ds is 2.5. he is really testing me. he is kicking, spitting, throwing. he was so pleasant before and his behavior was totally redirectable. all of the tactics that worked previosly do not get him to stop now. i have never hit him before. so i tried this new approach. he kicked e and wouldnt stop, so i gave his feet a light slap and yelled at him/. i did this again today when he spit at me. although it did stop the behavior, i do not want to use hitting to deal with these situations. is hitting (light slap, etc- not beating - just to be clear) ever a good option??? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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not your best option...best is to totally take away attention. put him in a room and walk away...say nothing. If he hurt someone else, comfort them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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no. read "children, the challenge" by rudolf dreikurs. if you want to do what you are doing, say in a pleasant voice, "oh, so you want to play the hitting game?" just like you would ask about playing candy land, and then hit him after he hits you, and do not hold back. he'll hit you again, you do the smae and smile, like it is a game. he'll stop real soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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OR1: wow....interesting apporach..kind of like the biting the kid if they bite you thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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well, the difference there is taht you are stating that it is a game. when you just bite back, you are not qualifying it as game and kids see it as retaliation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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this sounds insane. i'm sorry but game or no game, you're setting a very bad example. get at what is making him so wound up. look for the cause before treating the symptoms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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freak [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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That is super creepy. don't do that. weird.esp the smiling part right before you hit the kids. yikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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no, because hitting is out of control behavior on your part, and probably escalating his behavior, besides being totally inconsistent with what you're trying to teach him. Read some parenting books- How to Talk so Your Kid will Listen; Your Two Year Old, and whatever else you can get your hands on. His behavior is totally normal. Your frustation is normal too, and we've all been there. And if you've think he's bad now, wait til he's 3.5 :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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i actually have read the books... especially loved "how to talk so your kids will listen." all of things do work and that is why i havent gotten to this point before. but sometimes, i cant figure out what to do... i have been sooo frustrayed lately! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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dreikurs says, "tell your kid what you will do." ie: "I feel X when Y . I plan to Z" "I feel angry and hurt when I am hit (take out you hit me). I plan to go to the next room until things calm down" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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ive been doing all of that- it just stopped working recently! i guess icould just keep doing it and hopefully it will work again??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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exactly like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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he's not 'BAD" , he is difficult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] my mother is depressed- deeply in debt, lost her job, no insurance so no bp meds or hormones she relies on. my gfather- her dad- is very very sick with cancer. she keeps saying if he doesn't die soon she'll go put a pillow over his face. obviously they've never been close but they have stayed in touch. now she suddenly going down to see him for Father's Day and we're all freaking out that something will happen. she's never been violent in her life but she is very angry lately and just this weekend said he'll deal with her or die (to my sister who was trying to persuade her not to go). It seems so crazy but she's pretty desperate. can an otherwise nonviolent person be driven to do something insane? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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i should add because she thinks there is some inheritance there though i'm told there is none. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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You can prevent this from happening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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it just seems so crazy. i can't really believe she would do anything. she lives far from me but i have sisters near by and i keep calling them to say no good can come from her going down there. he specifically said he didn't want her to come and she said he has to deal with her. i'm as worried about her as him at this point. i can't personally stop her though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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You can get on an airplane or get your sisters over there. You can stop her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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well of course a person w/o a history of violence can chose to do something violent. I personally wouldn't let her alone w/ grandfather. she sounds really unbalanced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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i think she is unbalanced- a combination of depressing and being off her necessary meds. she doesn't reassure, like i would never ever do anything. she's like mind your own fing business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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have you told your sisters what your mom has said? who cares for your gf? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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yes we've all been talking. my gfather is very obstinant (sp) and won't allow any regular help. so my aunt goes down to check in on him and help when she can. my mom used to go but they got into a huge fight so she stopped going. he has neighbors and they are going to call the police is she shows up. i'm just trying to find out if she's going so they we can get ahead of it. she would drive down and its about 12 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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can you pay for her to see a therapist and maybe get some medication? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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i think first she needs to be seen medically and get back on her thyroid meds and bp meds to stabilize things, then maybe get her into therapy. she's about to lose her house etc and told me too late to help. its a total train wreck. she's really in a bad place. i can't imagine the stress she's under. my sisters are passive or angry but they don't help, they enable or judge. its so sad. this is also a life long pattern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] any public middle school news? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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yes. everyone heard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:29 AM Flag
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Letters have gone out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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UL had its 6th grade orientation on 6-10 afternoon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 08:39 AM Flag
[ - ] dh and I used to smoke a joint about once a month but I stopped when ttc and when I was pg. Now ds is 3mo and last night dh lights one and says, "Just take one hit. How much harm can it really do?" I said no, but I wonder, what is the deal with potsmoking and breastfeeding? All the studies I can find are about "heavy users," which I'm not. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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kellymom.com. I don't think occasional use is a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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but why would you with db in the house. and why would you risk owning/purchasing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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basically, it is fine in moseration. if you are so concerned about it, just pupm the night that you smoke. but if only smoking once in a while, i dont think thats necesary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] any public middle school news? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying to gague chances for Lower Lab. If you ranked it, what is your score? Where did you rank it? what was your first choice if not LL? and are you a sibling? I'll go first 99, 2nd after Anderson and not a sib. TIA 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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^^^ oops typo meant 98 (wishful thinking) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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I think you have a good shot, but what do I know. We ranked it second and my dc got a 97: I doubt it will happen. Not sure I care anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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ditto. you, me and everyone in D2, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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that is an UES thing. In Murray Hill/Gramercy, it was more A, N or 116, 116 or N, then LL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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99, 4th after A, Nest, and 11 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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Does anyone have an idea of how many qualifing sibs are out there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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I would like to know, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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we ranked it third after A and N. DS, 98. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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99?2nd after A, Not sib. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else out there sign a contract with a private school and then got into the public school of your choice? If so, what has the private schools reaction been....do you have to pay the whole tuition? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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You pay the whole year, but can use it as a charity donation, though it won't all count [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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yikes, for some that can be 20K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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lol. or like $34K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Which school are you considering giving up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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the vultures are circling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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can't reply to vulture post, but that's not it. I'm actually in the same boat and just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the deal with the show Bridezillas? Do they know they're being taped for that show? I don't understand why anyone would want to be a bridezilla. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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trailer trash getting their 15 minutes? i prefer plat. weddings myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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The women I've seen on that show don't seem all that bright, frankly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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they have no self-knowledge, which is what makes them act like bridezillas, and be willing to be filmed as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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