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[ - ] Never sent my kids to sleep away camp b/c not in our background or culture. But now SIL has invited 13-y-o DS to visit her on other side of country and I'm so anxious--not least b/c she does not have kids and we don't get along and I worry about her influence upon him. Am I being irrational? I'm letting him go but I feel so worried. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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why don't you get along? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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OP here, it won't let me reply to your q. We haven't gotten along for years, nothing active, just a lack of connection or fondness. I find her pedantic and insecure; she can only relate to me if she can give advice or try to say things that she thinks bugs me. She's invited my son b/c we tried to visit earlier this year and she said no to our whole family coming (I have 3 dcs). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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np... i don't think i'd let my 13 yo ds go in this particular situation. (that said, i only have a 4 yo). can she handle a 13 yo ds? does he particularly want ot go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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That's just it, I don't know if she can handle a 13-y-o. He says he wants to go, but who can trust the judgment of a 7th-grader?? She and her DH are both academics, heavily into displays of their knowledge and very judgmental of those who might know less or know different things. Do you think a 13-y-o can deal with that for several days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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YES for several days. it will be good for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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i think if that's your concern, that he will leanr for himslef whether or not he can deal with it. it may be a pita for him, but that's not such a big deal. as long as he's physically and emotionally safe. i think you can trust the judgment of a 7th grader. unless, of course, he's historically shown very poor judgment. if you let him go, make the deicison for himself, it can only help your relationship with him and with your SIL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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what is your background/culture? It's good you are letting him go and also fine to feel worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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rather not say for privacy but we're a mixed couple and i'm from one of those over-enmeshed, boundary-free families where no one separates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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I thinks it's good for kids to spend time with family members. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag
[ - ] dh and i aren't sure if we'll stay together. we care about each other. there's nothing huge or awful oging on. it's just that things aren't working. life is so much harder/frustrating when we're together. today was a good day. but there have been a long string of bad ones. it's a situation i never thought i'd be in. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Thing is if you have a few good days interspersed with bad days, you have a shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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i woudl agree if our sex life wasn't in the toilet. just not intereted in each other. we both want sex, just not with each other. we bicker over everything. misunderstand each other constantly. we simply cannot work otgether. i told him i thought it would be a good idea to have some time apart and suggested he take a short vacation on his own. he's going to NY to visit friends for a few days next week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Good to have a vacation from each other, but you sound like you have enough to stick together. The big sign for me that it was over was DH wanted to live a totally separate life from the rest of us. No park time with us, no birthday parties (even his own kids), wouldn't even eat dinner at the table with us. Would sit on the couch in the living room watching TV while we ate dinner at the table [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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it's good to hear your perspective. i really appreciate it. thing is, i think all the time of wha tit woudl be like if i had real time to myself. where i didn't have to answr to dh at all. that he would have dd for however many days a week,a nd i'd be free during those time. I know ther'es a lot more to it than that. and the thought of dd being the only child of divorced paretns is heartbreaking to me. i swear, i've even toyed with the idea of havin ganother child with dh soon just so she woudln't be alone. (Of course, i'm not that ridiculous to actually do it). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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Look, I now have my two kids all to myself. True to form, ex-DH never shows up for anything. I have to say I am quite happy about this, except when my kids say "how come Daddy never comes around to visit?" I have no time to myself and still enjoy it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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that is definitely tough. but i also know that feeling of preferring to be alone dealing with all the responisbility than to have someone there hwo slows you down bc you in some way have to consider him (or deal with complaining, comments, needs etc etc). that said, it hink my dh woudl always be there with dd. i feel like he and i just aren't together anymore. two parents taking care of our little girl. and it's been this way for a very long time. id' say on and off for three years. and more and more on than off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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np here. this is like my DH: a literal drag. he is like baggage. he is the opposite of help. it is easier to have him gone than to have him around, and the more stressful the situation is, the better it is to have him out of it. he is less than useless when the going gets tough. our ds was puking on a transatlantic flight and while i sat there and held the bag, DH yelled at me about money i'd spent buying DCs toys before the flight. i had to stay calm and instruct him to go fetch napkins. i haven't left, of course, but i totally agree that life is easier in his absence, and i console myself with the knowledge that i can easily live without him but not vice versa. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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i have to admit, i can't see my dh doing that. the yelling part. i can see him sitting in the seat across the aisle reading a magazine adn doing nothing unless i instruct him to. it also makes me sad when i leave him to take care of dd that he doesn't brush her teeth or hair. i'm not sure why those things get to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:37 PM Flag
[ - ] My 2.5 ds is ready for a little-kid scooter. I'm clueless about this - Which one should I get and why? TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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anything w/ three wheels. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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I got my then 2yo twins three wheel Disney Princess scooters and immediately regretted I didn't just get the Razor two wheeler for them each. Live and learn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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NP: No way my 2.5 yo could handle a razor. HE has the Micro Mini, I think it's called. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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razor scooters for 2 yos?? um, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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You'd be surprised. This is what I thought, but then all of my kids same aged friends had 2-wheelers when they had the 3-wheelers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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anyone hear of the huffy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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i think the huffy scooter is perfect for a 2.5yo. i would NEVER get a razor for a child that age. my older son had it and then handed it down to my younger son when he got a razor at 5yo. google huffy micro mini scooter. it's $20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Well then. Now I'm just waiting on one more disappointing letter from the DOE and our year of hell is complete. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Hope you get some good news. I like you and can feel your pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Who posts their questions on both urbanbaby and youbemom? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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youbemom is rude and mean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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its like high school over there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a restaurant recommendation please. We are a group of 14 women coming into the city to see an 8:00 show. Any feedback would be helpful. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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ruby foo's - family-style asian food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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What do you like to eat? There are some family style Italian places near Broadway, Tony's and Carmines. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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was also going to say Carmines. I love that place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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It's good and the food is great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I get some art for the nursery? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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etsy.com, ebay.com, art.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] any UBers who are waiting for G&T letters for THIRD grade placement? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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nope. first grade here though. wondering if letters will go out at same time of K letters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] About how many oz. of whole milk does your 12-15mo drink a day? Is it with meals or by itself in bottles/sippys? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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We're still transitioning from formula at 12 mo, but she drinks 3-4 8 oz bottles each day (she doesn't usually finish them). Plus water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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This sounds like us, just started yesterday. She eats well at all three meals but just didn't seem too interested in the whole milk (would only drink 2-4oz/bottle yesterday), but then I took the chill out of it for her last bottle tonight and she drank the whole thing! Just wondering if 24-30oz was about avg. plus water and meals, but sounds about right, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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Right now my DD will only drink milk when it's combined with formula...not on its own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Yesterday I did 1/2 1/2 and then 1/4 3/4 so it was not ice cold at all, but today it was right out of the fridge and she didn't care for that at all. So I warmed the last bottle under running hot water and she gulped it down. Is it a temp. issue at all for your dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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32 oz in a bottle - drinks 3 8oz bottle /day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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3 x 8 = 24 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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18 oz/day at 18 months, plus she east really well (even though she's peanut) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:04 AM Flag
[ - ] I posted earlier that i thought gifted programs weren't good for kids. It's not personal. I've taught in all sorts of programs. From inner city to middle level to gifted. It sets up a hierarchy that prizes certain achievements and doesn't allow the kids at any level to express and achieve to their potential. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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you know, you could say this about any school environment. by its very nature, schools prize certain achievements over others, and kids rarely have opportunities to express themselves beyond the school curriculum no matter what program they're in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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i tend to think the US system (not commenting on other countries bc i don't know them to the same degree) is not one that works well. we ask younger children to sit for large portions of the day instead of oging out and running around, explroing. we ask them to take tests to determine what they've learned. and they don't teach how to think. i've also taught university, and it's a huge problem there as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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curious your thoughts on homeschooling? the more I consider the K classroom for my fidgety, distractable ds, the more I am tempted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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i have considered it. but i'm not sure i have the patience or organization for it. i liek the idea of banding with a few other moms and oding it together. also, i know many people say the social aspect of homeschooled kids isn't an issue, but to me it is. again, the idea of working with some othe rmoms seems very appealing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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my ideal would be three homeschooling hours w/ my ds in the morning, then send him to a school environment for recess, gym, art, etc...sigh. can't imagine any school allowing this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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if we had stayed in nyc, i would have talked to friends of mine and worked out a school of our own. something smaller that could include programs at any of hte hundreds of organizations in the city. (btw, i'm not sure there's so much art, recess or gym at schools anymore). so much better to go to the Met, then draw in central park afterwards and run around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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I don't know. Lots of happy alums from my dc's gifted school. Lots of accomplished alums too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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accomplishment tends to be measured by the same standard as gifted. so you teach gifted kids what they're supposed to want and many of them get it. but there are so many things that are overlooked bc it doesnt' fall within the range of what is "supposed to be." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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I have no idea what you're talking about. These are people successful in all kinds of fields. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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i'm not just talking abt success in established fields. beyond that, i really can't get into this here. it's not the right forum for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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^^but how is this... what if your gifted, ivy league graduated ds or dd decided to leave and travel for as long as s/he felt like it and sold jewelry to make a living along the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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I'm talking about creative fields. And unless you're talking about home porn or making meth, I don't see why you "can't get into this"! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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see what i said above. even the creative fields can be relatively limited and limiting in many areas. there are so many things that are cutting edge that aren't accepted. and so many potential life experiences that seem frightening and "out there" so people tend to think of them as unacceptable. but they are unbelievable ways of learning about life and the world. and teach you to learn, think and take care of yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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Do you really think that it's only gifted schools which would limit a dc in these "cutting edge" experiences? I would think it's more about family, about culture - don't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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it's most certainly both. but a child who doesn't fit into the school system. feels s/he doesnt belong is more likely to try something so different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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OP here.. i'm aslo having troubel replying.. i only say ivy graduated bc i think of it as the college equivalent of gifted programs. and after spending all that money on school, i think people would have a very hard time thinking their child would then not "use" the degree s/he earned. i think most 21 yos woudl have a hard time going against what his/her parents and schools expects of him/her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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Sorry but I have to cut this conversation short since this not being able to answer below a post is really driving me crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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i hear you. and it was verging on a good one between two mutually respectful people. so it goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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And sorry for answering your above question re jewelry making & traveling here but UB is wonky & I can't reply under your post but - sure, that's fine as long as dc is supporting herself. Why wouldn't it be? And why do you write Ivy graduated? I just said that dc goes to a gifted school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have the link to the list of lottery numbers that were drawn for MSC?? Or was it erased? Any help much appreciated! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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don't have a link, but saw it on inside schools, in the forum section, under pre-k and k topic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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you mean the blog section? don't see a "forum" section....but can't find it in the blog section either... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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it's under the "news" section, I think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Saw the post earlier about grandmothers NOT being good nannies. I work 25 hours/week and considering having my mom take over the nanny duties. She's only 61 and very energetic (was an elementary school teacher before she had kids) and we have her only grandchildren. It sounds ideal to me, but my mom would be making some fairly major life changes to work this all out, so I want to be sure it's not a mistake! 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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life changes like what? is your dad supportive of the plan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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parents are divorced - mom is considering selling her house and moving closer to us to do this (we would likely buy her a condo) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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it's not an easy decision. it changes the dynamic of your relationship. living closer. much more interdependence. we're asking similar questions about my family. we're currently living with my parents and will be in town for 2-3 months. they've said it's fine for us to stay the whole time, but we're thinking it woudl be best to get a temporary place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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suggested reading: "children, the challenge" by rudolf dreikurs. he talks about this. it used to be that gparents helped out wiht the family, but now it is very different and suggests not to do so. gparents should not help raise their gchildren. you may think she is not, but it is, more than a sitter would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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i recognize that she would helping to raise the kids, but i actually thought that would be a good thing (i.e. "it takes a village"). Why does the author think grandparents should not be part of the raising of children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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np... i have to admit... i think it's a good thing too. why not have more time with family members? it woudl be a big adjustment. and there' sno way of knowing how things will affect you. but if you're close with your mother, there's a good chance it can work out extremely well. you just all need to define your boundaries and then keep them as respectfully as possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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i think it's different for everyone. i would never ask my mom to take over as nanny. (putting aside of course, that she works full time). She is very controlling, wants to do things her way and doesn't really get that kids have a lot of energy and need to play. she's great with dd in short amounts, but someone needs to be there to intervene when she's reached her limit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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my mom watches my kids 1 day a week. tough when i had the second. she wasn't willing to do the 2 alone so my dad comes to help get 3yo to school and back while she deals with the baby. it's working well for us and i give them every opportunity to change their mind. our main issue is that they do have lives so when they travel or have other conflicts then i have to switch my work days around. only work 3 day/week so it does usually work out but fortunately me work is flexible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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my work is very flexible and i think my mom would be really good with the kids. i just worry that having her move is fairly permanent and (obviously) a big investment for us to buy her a condo (although hopefully a good investment if we are buying now when the market is somewhat low). my mom says that she wants to be closer to our kids and complains about my current nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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how do you get along with your mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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really close - we talk every day, she is probably my best friend. however, we struggle some when she stays at our house for longer than a week, just because she needs her own space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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uh-oh. that does not sound good, actually. sorry, i smell trouble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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what part? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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last sentence, both parts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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fair enough - - i just keep hoping the good (and there is a lot of good) makes it worthwhile to try to work out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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np is it something you want to do. what struck me abt that last description you gave is it sounds like your mother wants it, and you're more going along with it than really wanting it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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it sounds like a great opportunity for your kids to spend some time with their grandmother. what would you do otherwise? get a stranger? day care? neither are anywhere as wonderful as family - this is the way it's done in so many other cultures and in our own up until a generation or 2 ago. i'm all for it as long as it's not dangerous or disastrous for the relationships. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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op here: that's my initial reaction, too. i always had a really close relationship with my grandparents and want my kids to have that, too. my dh doesn't see any potential problems because his elderly grandmother lived with them when he was a kid. i do think there are potential problems, but keep hoping this can work... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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if there are potential problems, there will be problems and you will not be able to go back to what was before. but, good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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i don't mean potential problems unique to our relationship, i mean that it's naive to assume there will be no problems associated with changing the relationships in your family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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np but there's also the potential for their relationship to become something more complex and wonderful. they'll have to depend on each other in ways they've never had to do before. when you can go thru this and work it out, you get closer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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do it!!! and good luck - honestly - it will be awesome. my kids love their gram and grampy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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there are pros and cons to every option for daycare. You just have to figure out if for you these pros outweight the cons. possible pros are obvious, possible cons - it's your mom and you can't tell her what to do if you disagree with her, you can't fire her, and you may end up projecting/dealing with your own issues rawther than truly evaluate what's best for kids. For eg you may think she's being controlling or something b/c you had that experience w her or thought you did when she's not. good luck, it could be great just realize that there may be problems, not insurmountable of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] awww, paul newman has terminal lung cancer. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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is that confirmed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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i had heard he was very ill earlier this year from an agent friend in LA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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it was announced on channel 11 news at 10 this evening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Aw. Love him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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ugh. mil just died of this a year ago. it's not a good way to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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was he a smoker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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used to be. but not for many years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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friend is an oncologist... says "It's not a matter of if you will get cancer, but when and what kind"... cheery, no ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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np: Well, as people are living longer and not dying of ailments that can now be controlled with meds - what else is there to die of? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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I'd prefer a hammer to the temple [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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^^ sorry, I couldn't reply to you for some reason... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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Ditto. But OTOT, Paul Newman lived to a good old age in good health until now, even though he was a chainsmoker for 40+ years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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Yes true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend's baby is turning one in a couple of weeks. He is mentally disabled, and this year has been a difficult one for the family. I'm not sure what I should buy the baby for his birthday (they're not having a party for him, but I want to get him something). Clothing? I'm afraid of buying a toy he won't be able to use and hurting their feeling. Any other special ideas? TIA. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Clothing is good. Can't kids of any mental ability play with wood blocks? Those are good too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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My niece (I posted below) is adorable but she can not play with blocks. She is not interested in figuring things out, stacking, etc. Does your friends' baby enjoy toys? Music? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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how about something that covers a wide range of abilities - like nice wooden blocks or a musical shaker toy - like egg maraca thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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i like this idea - egg shakers, box shakers, scarves, ribbons on rings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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My niece doesn't like toys, does your friends' baby? If you dont' know, maybe you should get the baby a cute bathing suit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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my standard one year old gift is a doll stroller- would that be ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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op: Unfortunately not. He can't quite sit on his own yet, so walking seems far off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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as long as he can walk he'll love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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bristle blocks- Tactile, safe, colorful and will be great for at least a few years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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not for a 1-yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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np: Why not? We have them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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so do we. her friend's kid has motor-control issues and other SNs, so something that requires a focused level of concentration and some hand agility is exactly what she is not looking for (as she posted) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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^^exactly NOT what she is looking for [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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I guess I found that they were great even when DC were babies - they would just hold one in a hand at first. Later, they require less skill than regular blocks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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she doesn't want something he can't master yet, that will potentially make the parents feel bad. she doesn't want a building toy the kid can just rub he pieces of for now. (not that people don't buy with an eye to that all the time -- just that it's not appropriate in this situation). and if you have a typically-developing kid, it's hard to really grasp how difficult something as small as sticking those pieces together really is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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Well, my child is SN. He has dyspraxia. The bristle blocks are very common in OT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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funny coincience -- my ds is dyspraxic too. it's not the same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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No, definitely not the same. But I still say a good choice. Not knowing the specifics of this child, I guess maybe I think that OP shouldn't worry so much about offending or upsetting the parents. (How's your DS doing? My DS is almost 7, his speech is much better, fine motor skills still a mess.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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(1) cute bathing suit/rash guard, floating toy for pool (that he can sit with his legs through the holes-- there's a spin around baby float on onestepahead.com that looks good. They have a babycarrier so you friend could wear her baby in the swimming pool if that would make her more comfortable (2) A wagon big enough for the kid to ride in stuffed with a bunch of small toys... when he can sit up he might like to ride in it (3) Step2 has Naturally Playful Sandbox (small sandbox with a cover) which might be good if they have a yard (4) I assume he has the LeapFrod Learning Table-- if he doesn't get one--even if he's on his tummy, he can push the buttons... then when he can sit up and stand up it's a toy that just gets better. My 2.5 started playing with this at 8 months and still loves it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:09 AM Flag
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and by the way, I think it's OK to acknowledge that some of what you're getting might be "looking ahead," but you know he's going to "get there" at his own pace. Hopefully they'll throw him a bash for his second birthday. Also, maybe post this on the Special Needs Board for more suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:11 AM Flag
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ITA about the looking ahead part-- my MIL bought my daughter a bike for her 2nd birthday-- a REAL bike, twirlers on the handlebars etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:14 AM Flag
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My niece is a SN child and did not sit up until she was a year. She actually does not like any toys. I think this poster had some wonderful ideas (less the leap frog stander - that could depress them) but you should have a feel for the child or go with the clothes idea. My niece loves to float in the pool in a ring, loves MUSIC, but doesn't watch videos or play with any toys at all. Toys R Us has special needs toys, but each kid with delays is SO different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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the peek-a-blocks would be good -- particularly the touch-and-feel ones [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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you know what? tupperware makes a very cute stacking bucket set. you could also get a classic ring-stacker (fisher-price, i think?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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http://order.tupperware.com/coe/app/tup_show_item.show_item_detail?fv_item_category_code=7000&fv_item_number=P10057341000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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or this: http://order.tupperware.com/coe/app/tup_show_item.show_item_detail?fv_item_category_code=7000&fv_item_number=P10057342000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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board books, flap books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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How about a CD with children's songs? Anyone can listen to music. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone help with a Father's Day gift? DH loves watching tv shows on DVD (Rescue Me, 24, Arrested Development), so I'm trying to think of another show he might like that he didn't see when it aired. Considering Alias or Heroes - - anyone have opinions on these? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Band of Brothers. It's about soldiers in WWII. I love watching it. Your DH will likely love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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It's good but it's on the History Channel all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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That's another one he saw and - yes - loved! So, something like that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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get him the boxed set of The Wire. its amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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OOO... what's that one about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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hbo show about inner city baltimore. the whole series is incredible. some of the best tv ever made. it's complex and can be confusing to follow but the payoffs are huge. i seriously loved it. i've seen every episode and would be so happy if someone bought for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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yes, dh is watching this now and loves it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Heroes is good. Have also heard good things about Flight of the Conchordes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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What's Flight of the Concordes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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