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06.10.08, 19:55 PM General Topics
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dh and i aren't sure if we'll stay together. we care about each other. there's nothing huge or awful oging on. it's just that things aren't working. life is so much harder/frustrating when we're together. today was a good day. but there have been a long string of bad ones. it's a situation i never thought i'd be in. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 07:55 PM Flag
 

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Thing is if you have a few good days interspersed with bad days, you have a shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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i woudl agree if our sex life wasn't in the toilet. just not intereted in each other. we both want sex, just not with each other. we bicker over everything. misunderstand each other constantly. we simply cannot work otgether. i told him i thought it would be a good idea to have some time apart and suggested he take a short vacation on his own. he's going to NY to visit friends for a few days next week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Good to have a vacation from each other, but you sound like you have enough to stick together. The big sign for me that it was over was DH wanted to live a totally separate life from the rest of us. No park time with us, no birthday parties (even his own kids), wouldn't even eat dinner at the table with us. Would sit on the couch in the living room watching TV while we ate dinner at the table [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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it's good to hear your perspective. i really appreciate it. thing is, i think all the time of wha tit woudl be like if i had real time to myself. where i didn't have to answr to dh at all. that he would have dd for however many days a week,a nd i'd be free during those time. I know ther'es a lot more to it than that. and the thought of dd being the only child of divorced paretns is heartbreaking to me. i swear, i've even toyed with the idea of havin ganother child with dh soon just so she woudln't be alone. (Of course, i'm not that ridiculous to actually do it). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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Look, I now have my two kids all to myself. True to form, ex-DH never shows up for anything. I have to say I am quite happy about this, except when my kids say "how come Daddy never comes around to visit?" I have no time to myself and still enjoy it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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that is definitely tough. but i also know that feeling of preferring to be alone dealing with all the responisbility than to have someone there hwo slows you down bc you in some way have to consider him (or deal with complaining, comments, needs etc etc). that said, it hink my dh woudl always be there with dd. i feel like he and i just aren't together anymore. two parents taking care of our little girl. and it's been this way for a very long time. id' say on and off for three years. and more and more on than off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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np here. this is like my DH: a literal drag. he is like baggage. he is the opposite of help. it is easier to have him gone than to have him around, and the more stressful the situation is, the better it is to have him out of it. he is less than useless when the going gets tough. our ds was puking on a transatlantic flight and while i sat there and held the bag, DH yelled at me about money i'd spent buying DCs toys before the flight. i had to stay calm and instruct him to go fetch napkins. i haven't left, of course, but i totally agree that life is easier in his absence, and i console myself with the knowledge that i can easily live without him but not vice versa. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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i have to admit, i can't see my dh doing that. the yelling part. i can see him sitting in the seat across the aisle reading a magazine adn doing nothing unless i instruct him to. it also makes me sad when i leave him to take care of dd that he doesn't brush her teeth or hair. i'm not sure why those things get to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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