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06.10.08, 20:08 PM General Topics
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Never sent my kids to sleep away camp b/c not in our background or culture. But now SIL has invited 13-y-o DS to visit her on other side of country and I'm so anxious--not least b/c she does not have kids and we don't get along and I worry about her influence upon him. Am I being irrational? I'm letting him go but I feel so worried. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 08:08 PM Flag

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why don't you get along? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:10 PM Flag

OP here, it won't let me reply to your q. We haven't gotten along for years, nothing active, just a lack of connection or fondness. I find her pedantic and insecure; she can only relate to me if she can give advice or try to say things that she thinks bugs me. She's invited my son b/c we tried to visit earlier this year and she said no to our whole family coming (I have 3 dcs). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:22 PM Flag

np... i don't think i'd let my 13 yo ds go in this particular situation. (that said, i only have a 4 yo). can she handle a 13 yo ds? does he particularly want ot go? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:24 PM Flag

That's just it, I don't know if she can handle a 13-y-o. He says he wants to go, but who can trust the judgment of a 7th-grader?? She and her DH are both academics, heavily into displays of their knowledge and very judgmental of those who might know less or know different things. Do you think a 13-y-o can deal with that for several days? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:28 PM Flag

YES for several days. it will be good for him. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag

i think if that's your concern, that he will leanr for himslef whether or not he can deal with it. it may be a pita for him, but that's not such a big deal. as long as he's physically and emotionally safe. i think you can trust the judgment of a 7th grader. unless, of course, he's historically shown very poor judgment. if you let him go, make the deicison for himself, it can only help your relationship with him and with your SIL. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:32 PM Flag

what is your background/culture? It's good you are letting him go and also fine to feel worried. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:25 PM Flag

rather not say for privacy but we're a mixed couple and i'm from one of those over-enmeshed, boundary-free families where no one separates. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag

I thinks it's good for kids to spend time with family members. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.08, 08:30 PM Flag