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[ - ] does anyone know the procedure (in NY) for getting a temporary handicaped parking permit? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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nyc.gov -- tried to do it when my son was in a wheel chair. It takes minimum of 6-8 weeks just to get the thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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op - nevermind, answered my own question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Anybody ever deal with oppositional defiance disorder? Anyone know any professionals in NYC that can handle this with an adopted child? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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You mean misbehavior? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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No, she means ODD (np). It is lately overdiagnosed, but is a real problem, often found in conjunction with ADHD or OCD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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np: it's an actual diagnosis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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this is a rude response. odd is a real illness - though it is overdiagnosed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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the overdiagnosis bit may explain OR's comment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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OP: And it's more common with adopted children, which is why I mentioned that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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np: Don't have referral, but have friends in LA whose DS has triad syndrome - ADHD, Tourette's and OCD. A variant of this has ODD instead of OCD. Medication and therapy has worked wonders for him. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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not to make light of your situation (and no, I can't help you with a referral), but my sister jokes that all her students have ODD. She teaches middle school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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OP: I'm keeping this on watch; gotta go pick up kids from school. TIA for any names or information -- maybe even a very skilled, very experienced child psychologist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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Yes, there is a doc. He wrote a book. Hmmm.... I think its called The Explosive child. If you google you will find. They have a website where you can list your address and they get back to you in a few days with any docs that have trained with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody trying to get into a zoned school with extra spots from out of zone & have to do a Placement Exception Request (variance)? The school accepted my dd for K but then told me I had to submit this PER to OSEPO & they are saying I won't get letter until August!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.11.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I would find out who actually has ultimate authority to grant the variance. If it's OSEPO, then you should make back-up plans, just in case it is denied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Random poll, but do you leave DC's bedroom door open during the night? 2.5 yo DD has been asking to keep it open so to avoid a fight we have been, but wondering what others do. Thx. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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8 y.o. and 5 y.o. sleep with door open. 2 y.o. sleeps with it closed. Before the older two had to get up for school anyway, I would leave the door open while they were awake and then close it when I went to bed so DH getting up didn't wake them. Now they have to get up before DH so we leave it open all night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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our 3yo absolutely insists on it being open. he will freak out if it's closed. i think at that age they start being afraid of the dark and being alone. we used to fight him but just gave up and moved on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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lately we have been closing it at their request, but we have to make sure the youngest can let herself out (3 y.o.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Yes. Always have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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why would you fight about this? What is the problem with having the door open? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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np: for us, ds's room opens into our main living space so when the door is open it's really hard for him to fall asleep. he can see us watching tv, eating snacks, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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so be quiet until he falls asleep, then shut the door for the night, and then open it before you go to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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keep it open unless ds gets out of bed too many times, then threaten to close it if he can't sleep with it open. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:16 AM Flag
[ - ] any opinions on cruise lines? Some better than others? Any ones to stay clear of? Thanks 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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Did Carnival. It was like going to a huge hotel at a beautiful location, and then not being able to leave the hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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there are many diff price points - Crystal and Cunard are among the more deluxe. you might want to check out a book describing each cruise line and usual customers, in case you want to avoid the young parent crowd or the geriatric crowd, for example [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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DH and I like Royal Carib. Food is ok, specialty restaurants are great. Extra $20 pp, and worth it. Never been w/ kids. We like the variety of things to do, I can relex on the ship while he explores, then go to the beach or other local spots on island days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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my IL's do lots of cruises. smaller ships are usualy nicer but more expensive; as i recall they likes silversea a lot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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my in laws love crystal cruises but they are in their 70s and the youngest people on the boat. i've done a princess cruise which was pretty nice and a disney cruise that was amazing.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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Disney Cruises are great. They have activities for everyone and not all of them involve characters (i.e. wine tastings, great specialty restaurant). Loved it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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raddison was great, very luxurious. i was sent on a press trip so didn't have to pay for it but it was really really nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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we really liked Celebrity. Not as upscale as Crystal but nicer than Carnival and really good food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Larchmont vs. Pleasantville 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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i've heard pleasantville doesn't have school bus service. is that true? if so, take that into account... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I believe that's true, but, then again, neither does Larchmont. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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We are a biracial (Asian, Jewish) couple living in Larchmont with three small kids: 5 yrs, 2 yrs, and 3 mo. We've now lived here for close to three years and are ready to get out. The town itself is charming, has nice facilities, good schools, is close to the city, etc., and we have met some nice people here and there, but for the most part we are not enamored of the people here. Prior to this, we lived in Oak Park, IL, which was very diverse, artsy, big student population, and friendly. No matter who you passed in the street, you'd always exchange hellos and sometimes stop to chat. My eldest son particularly benefited from this and was a very outgoing kid, in part because most kids would respond easily, regardless of race, class, whatever. I kind of thought that was the norm among kids - after all, what do they know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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np: very interesting. do you think you'll find the same situation in other NY suburbs (i.e., do you think it's the NY area that produces this vibe, or Larchmont in particular?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I like to think it's just certain towns like Larchmont and not Westchester in general, but I have no real information to base that on, except that I know there are towns in Westchester that are more diverse. I used to live on the Upper West, and I absolutely loved it. No one in NYC cares who you are, how you're dressed, whatever. I felt incredibly at home there and would love living in the city again if I could only afford it and didn't have kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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However, our experiences in Larchmont have been mostly terrible. Nothing is quite as soul crushing as watching your kid try to play with others and have them shut him out or give him dirty looks. I honestly can't understand it - if this were some isolated incident, then oh well, but it's now happened enough times that it seems the norm. And now my son has had the ever-pleasant first "Look at me, I'm Chinese" with eyes pulled way back taunting from another kid in his Kindergarten class. Likewise, I get funny looks from the older residents in town and even some thinly-veiled hostility from people in the hardware store. Is it because I'm Chinese? Because I'm not dressed in nice clothes? Because of my haircut? Who knows? All I know is I'd had enough. So my question to you all is - is Pleasantville like this? Our initial experiences there have been good, but I wanted to get some perspective from people who actually have lived there or are well-familiar with the town. Will it just be more of the same, or is it more of a town like Oak Park, IL? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Pleasantville seems like a really nice little town. My sister lives there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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I love Pleasantville and OP you will get so much more house and land for your money in Pleasantville. It is a slightly longer train ride to the city, but well worth it. I vote Pleasantville all the way -- also, I find it to be quite diverse. When I take db to library in the afternoons there are children of diff't races and everyone is friendly. I have had nothing but positive experiences since moving to Westchester. (My son is biracial, black and white). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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This is great to hear, and I'm particularly encouraged by the fact that your child is also biracial and would likely face similar issues as ours. I'm keeping my fingers crossed to hear more stories like this one from people living in Pleasantville - so far, so good... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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I didn't know that pleasntville was diverse, you wouldn't know that from the school stats, you know the ones that shows the racial breakdown of the students. Are you refering to Pleasantville School district? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Larchmont mom: Wow, I think that's awful. I really wish families like yours would move to Forest Hills instead of Westchester. My daughter's excellent public school is 50 percent Asian. Couldn't be more diverse here. We are mix of Jewish/WASP, btw. We had an international brunch party in her first grade class that was a blast. Is it that people can't get over the "Queens is icky" factor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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^^And we have bus service! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Forest Hills sounds great. Not that I need a location to have a huge Asian population per se, but it just needs to be tolerant of people who are Asian and not see Asian people as some weird oddity or as undesirables. Unfortunately, we're definitely stuck in Westchester, because my spouse's parents live in Croton-on-Hudson and we need to live somewhat near to them (they help us out often with picking kids up from school, etc.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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FH mom: in-law support is great. That'I just wince at the racist cruelty of these other kids. But even in FH there is intolerance. Right now some people turn up their noses at the Russians coming in and building big houses. Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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I know that no matter where you go, there will always be some bad apples. Even in a diverse place like Oak Park, sometimes I was made to not feel welcome because of my race. But if it's exception rather than the norm, then no big deal - I can roll with it. But if it's like Boston, where waitresses and even salespeople working in the mall would pointedly turn their back on me and help others around me, then I say "no thanks" and look for happier places. These are not people I want my kids around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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Wow, Larchmont Mom your story is pretty sad, we are also a interacial family with biracial kids(black/white)and we did wonder about Larchmont's lack of racial diversity when we house hunted there, but felt that since DC will be in Mamaroneck School District which is diverse they will be okay. In the end we chose Mamaroneck even though we could easily have afforded Larchmont and couldn't be more happier here. Everybody says hello here to us and the kids, playdates are no issue and we see lots of brown kids and biracial kids at our favorite playground the one on the Harbor Island so our kids blend in easily. mmm perhaps you should move to Mamaroneck too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:51 AM Flag
[ - ] I am at total peace with my 99 DS going to our local, zoned school. I love the school and was not that happy on the NEST tour. I'm betting we'll hear he has a seat at NEST, but we're not going to take it. I can finally sleep! 70 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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meanwhle parents of other children who don't have a good zoned option and really wanted NEST have many more sleepless nights ahead... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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Yes - doesn't seem like OP really cares about this little detail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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OP: You're right. I don't care about that detail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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np: I can't stand people like you, who think that the rules somehow don't apply to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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np: I'm confused. We went through this process so long ago and apparently things have changed. What did OP do that was wrong? It just sounds like she was exploring all her options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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She listed a school that she wasn't happy with and will not accept a seat at that school. Since there are no waiting lists this year, she will be denying a child a seat at that school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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^^^but maybe she hadn't decided at the time of the deadline for application [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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The process required her to make her decision by then. Not now. With a 99 and NEST As her first choice, she's guaranteed to get that seat. And she knows she won't take it. By giving herself the luxury of deciding now, rather than 3 wks ago, she has taken away a seat from another kid. No wait lists this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I see. That is rather selfish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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^^^and the thing that really makes it infuriating is that it's only people who have a good alternative who are going to do something like this. very entitled, and will have very entitled dcs, no doubt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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np: not so. She was not guaranteed her first choice and the process did not require her to make a final decision at the time of applying. I completely understand OP's decision to keep her options open. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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YOu're dead wrong. You clearly do not understand this year's G&T process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:58 AM Flag
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what the hell are you talking about? When you ranked the schools you did not have to know exactly what school you would send your kid to or not. Your kid scored well enough and that means you have another option. I ranked all 10 choices in D2 but at this point of time it looks like I am only going to accept my first 3, maybe 4 top choices. But then I might think differently in a week when we get our letter or when it comes to register my child. I like to have options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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You should never have ranked programs where you would not be prepared to accept a seat. This process is not about giving you the widest range of options. You misunderstood (purposefully perhaps) this process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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wow. you guys are something. I did not misunderstand the process. You are putting a meaning into it that I don;t think is there. My kid has a right to get a spot. And that she will get. If I accept it in the end or not is an entirely different matter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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That's just not right. There are no wait lists, so someone else will pay the price for this "luxury" that you have given yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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You know what? That seat that I gave up will end up in somebody's hands. When it comes to popular schools there will not be empty seats. The DOE is going to oversubscribe anyway. Then there will be retested and newly tested kids over the summer. In the end the spots will be filled. Maybe not with YOUR child but with somebody else's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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No one knows that for sure. You're just trying to rationalize your behavior now. Whatever. People like you are always trying to game the system to fit their own needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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Nobody knows nothing at this point of time. We do know, though, that the DOE does oversubscribe the G&T programs based on past acceptance rates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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Only b/c you don't know the children. If you did, I'm sure you would care and might actually feel a pinch of remorse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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Then why did you take that seat at a citywide from some kid who WOULD accept it???!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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np: do we know that when she listed it, she felt the same way? its possible she applied, time has passed,and she's changed her mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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that's what I was thinking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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IT DOESN'T MATTER. Everyone was supposed to decide when they mailed in their form. There are no wait lists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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you know, two years ago we were told no waitlists for G&T either. adn yet, somehow, kids got in later in the process after spots had been declined. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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We can only hope that the DOE will allow that to happen. Clearly something needs to be done about the flaky parents like the OP. The DOE should really go back to using wait lists. People just cannot be trusted to follow the rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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also, people move unexpectedly, etc. it just seems silly to not have at least a small list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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np: ita. not in nyc but if NEST finds itself with 20 open spots is it truly not going to fill them? is it a public school? in my state schools receive funding based on numbers. our magnets would never turn away qualified students [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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i'd assume they will at least slightly overaccept at most of the schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I toured one of our district G&Ts this winter, and this is precisely what happened 3 yrs ago. So the 2nd grade class has only had about 15 kids in it since Kindergarten. Yes, it could happen. At a citywide, it's probably less likely to happen, but still. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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and they didn't get any applicants to join the progrma in 1st or 2d? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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which is why it's goo to pleasantly keep in touch if you qualify and want to go there. If there are spaces I would guess they would take someone who has been in contact and pleasant about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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why did you select NEST if you were not going to take it? Or did you just decide the commute is too much of a hassle and this is an Ego Defense thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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we made the same choice for dd and have never regretted our decision [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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That's kind of where I'm heading with Nest. I put it down because I really thought I would consider it, but the more I think about the commute and what our DS could do with the extra 2 hours a day. I will probably decline if we get a spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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so if my 98 doesn't get a seat I know exactly who to blame... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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An anonymous poster on UB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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yeah... your DC, for not getting a 99. Crack the books next time, one-point-shy mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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yeah I know, but how much can I punish the kid? he is still grounded and not allowed to drive the car until he shapes up--I figure in about 12 years or so he might have learned his lesson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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FWIW, I used to teach at NEST, and would never send dc there. That was under the old administration, tho--not sure how/if it's different now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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do you have ex-coworkers you are friendly with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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Can you say more so that your post could be useful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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the only useful thing she mentioned was that she taught there under the old administration. I.e. she has absolutely nothing to add anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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np: In fairness, she qualified her post with, "FWIW" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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Then why post if you don't know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Well, it is a chance to say something negative about NEST. Collect fifteen of those posts and you get a prize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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That's too easy--you can find 100 like this in just the past two weeks. You have to set the bar higher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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No. They have to be your post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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why take the test if you were happy with zoned school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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np: I think a lot of parents hear all the crazy talk and start to believe it - that their child can't get a good education unless in a G&T school. Then the dust settles, they relax a bit, and realize it's just not true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Your an ass. Clearly your post is meant to create angst among those parents you know are waiting, praying and hoping that their kid gets into NEST. You are selfish and self absorbed. I hope your post is a fake - or that you get hit by a bus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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np: You hope someone gets hit by a bus over a school slot? Good god, the DOE has turned us all into crazy people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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OR: Figuratively speaking of course. This process has made me a bit crazy. I do hope there is a process for a 2nd chance at schools where other people who got in decline the seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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I hope so too. But everyone needs to take it down a notch. It's not like OP was keeping your child from a cancer doctor or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Get this: the process is not about me or you. You have to see the bigger picture. OP giving up a seat at NEST might put somebody at a disadvantage but at the same time gives an opportunity for some other family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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How do you know that some other family will get the opportunity? If the OP had played by the rules, then the more deserving candidate should get that seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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"more deserving"? I would love to see how you decide how one kid is more deserving than the other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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Score, dummy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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"Score" is a stupid answer. All kids in the 97+ bracket should be treated equally, for example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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What all of you are forgetting is that they will likely OVERACCEPT - so by giving up a seat, it is helping all the others who do accept NEST achieve a class size that is in line with what it should be! If everyone accepted - the class size would likely be too big. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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The problem is they will only overaccept by a certain margin. Whether the DOE accurately gages the extent of the problem illustrated by this OP is unknown to us. I hope they get it more or less right. None of us are forgetting that. But it's really annoying to see people like the OP who flagrantly disregard the rules of the process for their own personal convenience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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Yes but think about all the people who Don't come on UB, who never were told there wasn't a wait list. I am sure there are tons! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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What rules are you talking about? The rules according to UB? The rules were to rank your choices and wait for your placement letter. Nowhere was there a rule that says: btw, only rank the schools you will most likely accept when assigned to you. Unless you give me a link to where such thing is mentioned there was no such rule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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OR above and I concur with you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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There is no wait list. 'Nuff said. If you can't figure out the implications of that, that's your problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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But no where did they ever publicly state that actually! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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Waitlist or not does not matter. The DOE over-enrolls kids in order to deal with the folks that decline a spot. Then there are kids that are going to be retested due to errors and kids that move to NYC over the summer and will be tested. Those fill the other spots. The implications of me not accepting a spot are nil in the greater view of things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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98 ds here and same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I wonder how all the angry angry moms on this thread feel after today?? LOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of score is considered "great" ERB score? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.11.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Guess and I'll tell you if you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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96 and up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Great? 99. Good enough for any private? 95+ It's not the determining factor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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98 or 99. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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np: i agree with this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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98+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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oh and ideally no spread [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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97? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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99/99/99 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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95+ is great and don't let anyone tell you different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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95+ are great scores. But there are loads and loads of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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What do you mean? Can you explain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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ITA. Several hundreds of kids with 95+. People who claimed to be working in the admissions posted only the 99ers can a second look (not that 99 guarantees acceptance). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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What? I have worked in admissions and generally 95+ are considered more or less equal - depending on other factors & the school's own IQ evaluation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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Maybe not at your school, but there were at least 2 admissions ppl who said 99 get a second look bec they're rare, not that they are much more advantaged. Just a second look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Do you mean a second look despite a mediocre play date? It that is what you are saying it is true. A bad play date, though and that is it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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They didn't specify what they meant. But they said 99ers get a closer look. Whatever that means but sounded like a slight advantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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99x3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What does good daycare cost in the city? Fulltime per month. Thank you! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.11.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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When we looked into it (UWS/midtown), it was about $2100/mo for an infant FT (8-6) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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Can't reply to you, so replying to myself (OP). I suppose an 18 mos old is still and infant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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We pay $1400 a month in E. Village. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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For full time? Do you mind my asking the name of the place? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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Manhattan Kids Club. Includes breakfast, two snacks, lunch and diapers. People are great. There's another one near Washington Square, but I don't know anything about that one, although it's run by the same directors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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That's almost frighteningly cheap. What sort of degrees do the staff have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Stupid question, but is it safe to assume OB's office would call if I failed my 1 hr glucose test? I was tested on Mon and was told someone would call me w/results yesterday. Have a call in to nurse now, but I'm worried as I had borderline GD with my first pregnancy. Thx. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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I had to call for mine today - they didn't call me and had the results only a few hours later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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I actually called my dr a few days later about another matter and she said btw, you failed your gtt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Posting here so I bite my tongue in real life: I'm so tired of listening to a friend complain about her ds' behavior as if it is unavoidable. She gives in to tantrums, does not follow through on threatened consequences and allows him to speak very disrespectfully to parents, friends and other adults. Then she complains about him as if she was simply dealt a difficult child. Tell me I'm judgmental if you must but she alternately accuses me of being too hard on my kids and then says I'm lucky my children are naturally well behaved - as if they were born this way. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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you were me, and the friendship suffered, though I never said anything major. Just too difficult to be around ppl like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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I get the same thing from a friend of mine! She tells me what a great kid I have and then she is so disapproving about how "strict" I am! As if the two have no relationship. I admit that my child is naturally good natured and happy, but his behavior is, in part, a result of a lot of hard work on our part. You are right to be annoyed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Due with newborn soon and have a 2yo. Feel like the only person in NYC w/o nanny or babysitter few times a week. Our moms all did it, but why do I feel like it will be impossible to handle the two alone? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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Ask your mom - she probably had help. I don't remember it this way, but turns out our neighborhood teen sitter used to come 3 afternoons a week (one of them was just so my mom could have a bath in peace!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on with Gestational Diabetes? I have just failed my glucose screening test and have to go in for the three hour test tomorrow. I know a lot of people (but can't find a %) fail the first test and pass the second test but I'm trying to prepare myself for a GD diagnosis. Other than being over 35, I have no risk factors, not overweight, no family history, Caucasian etc. I haven't been eating great so now I'm beating myself up over that, even though I know a lot of it is beyond my control! Anyone btdt and have experiences to share? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.11.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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I know about a dozen women who failed their first test. None of them had GD. I know I'm not an official study, but hope this makes you feel better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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It does make me feel better - I hope I get the same result tomorrow but I'm a pessimist so I'm prepping for the worst. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Not the info you want but I always fail the first test and have never been dx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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No, anecdotal cases of people who have never been dx is good. Gives me some hope! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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I had it with pregnancy #1 and it was totally controlled by diet. That said, I wish you luck w/test tomorrow - easier to not have it at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Did you have other pgs w/o GD? Assume db was fine and healthy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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I'm pregnant with #2 now and haven't yet been tested. OB is assuming that I may get GD this time around, but I was so borderline last time that it may be I don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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FWIW, all I did was test my blood sugar a few times a day and saw a nutritionist on what I should eat to avoid sugar overloads. Had a few extra appointments, but baby was actually underweight, if that's possible, despite the GD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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I think it's something like 85% pass the 3 hr test. I wouldn't worry. I had it with pg 2 and it was easily controlled with diet. Kind of a pita but not the end of the world. DS was born after due date weighing 8 lbs even. Pg. again and just on the diet and testing a little instead of doing the GTTs again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
[ - ] zipcode poll 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.11.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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10025 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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live 10021 work 10022 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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07922 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:52 AM Flag
[ - ] I was set to send ds to public, but I heard from 2 parents ready to pull their child out due to overcrowding. DS will be starting K a year from September. Am I too late to tour the privates? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.11.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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not at all. apply in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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What's your zoned school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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what makes you think you'll be able to get into private? the crunch is everywhere. If you're downtown go to PS 89 tomorrow am at 845 to meet with scott stringer and demand more classrooms! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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I am in ps6 area. I probably won't get in. But I don't want to regret not trying. I want to make an informed decision [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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