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[ - ] Anyone besides me sending a child to 9 G & T K and excited about it?? Post here. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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congrats! I have a 1st grader there and we have been so happy at ps9. welcome! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I am! Very excited! I think it's going to be great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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My DC got a 99 and PS9 was our second choice, we got our third choice, We would take PS9 if the seat was offered to us so those who DID get 9 should be HAPPY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Me too! See you at the picnic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Please Recommend: We are looking for a stroller that is very light and folds easily for a 3-4 year old. Thoughts? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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Volo [ Reply | More
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maclaren volo [ Reply | More
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volo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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maclaren triumph -- great shoulder strap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 friends and I got pregnant at the same time, all due this week. DF and I had miscarriages. I got preg again right away, she is still ttc. Spoke to her today, and mentioned it. She got upset, I appologized profusely. She still seemed upset. I honestly did not mean to be insensitive. Anything else I can do? (sorry for the repost from earlier) 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I had a similar thing happen when my friend was ttc. I guess I just put my foot in my mouth. I tried apologizing, but it didn't seem to work. It was years, and a few babies later that we can actually laugh about how stressed that time was in our friendship. Just know that it actually has little to do with you and more about how badly she wants a baby right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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ITA with this. Had a similar situation as well - I could tell she was upset initially, but she adjusted and acknowledged that it was her sensitivity given all she has been through and nothing I said or did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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what did she get upset over? that you are pg again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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the 3 of us have kids born w/in a month, then got pregnant again, and all would have been due the same week. She and I had miscarriages, I got preg again right away. She is having seceondary infertility, still ttc. I mentioned how crazy it is that friend #3 is having her baby any day, could have been us too. She got v. upset. Not sure how to right things. Already apologized for being insensitive. She was still clearly upset [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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That was quite insensitive of you. Send her a card. It was clumsy but innocent, but choose your remarks about all things pregnancy-related more carefully when you are talking to someone undergoing infertility treatment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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i truly did not intend to be insensitive. It is so difficult, bc I am pregnant, and can't hide it. Just referenced that I can't believe that I/we would have been due this week, and I can't believe it. Just bc I am pg again, I still think about what could have been. Feel bad for hurtu=ing her, but don't know what else I can say or do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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just try to be more sensitive. You sould like a really good friend and she is just hurting. Sometimes it's really painful but hopefully she will get pg again soon. Hopefully either way, she will be less sensitive some day too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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or: she did apologize..is she supposed to tip toe around her just because of her TTC issues? Some ppl who are having hard time TTC need to chill out. The world is not out to get them. I had a hard time TTC but never took my disappointment out on others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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people are all dif on this though. Some people have a m/c and think "well, it happens". Others grieve hard for the loss. There is no right or wrong way to get through disapointment. Good for you that you are very healthy but some people need a little more help and compassion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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or: she needs to chill. I know she had a loss but to get pissed at you like that is just a little dramatic. Not like you didn't lose your baby too. You already apologized. Nothing more you can do. Don't kiss her butt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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little compassion maybe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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compassion? She apologized..what else is she supposed to do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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probably nothing. OP sounds fine. I was talking to you. You sound kind of insensitive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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Dear X. I feel like a clutz for upsetting you yesterday. It wasn't my intention but it was insensitive and I wish I had used my head before opening my mouth. I really value your friendship and the time I spend with you, and I hope you can forgive me. Love You. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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ah, the sensible one in the group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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There's only so much apologizing you can do. She probably just needs a bit of space right now. I would send a card apologizing and then let it drop. You can't fix it and she's not going to feel better for awhile. Let her set her own pace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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OP - I think I will e-mail with another apology, then leave the ball in her court. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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I think that is good advice. You didn;t mean anything by it and she is hypersensitive. I've been on both sides of that fence and know what a minefield it can be. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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no, you shouldn't do anything else. i'm in a kind of similar situation and miscarrying and ttc'ing is so emotionally difficult. i can't say i'm handling it spectacularly well. if someone says something that set me off, the last thing i want to do is rehash it. you apologized, now do her a favor and drop it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Agreed from a mom who just had a m/c (#3) and having fertility problems. I'm raw and I hurt, but don't care to rehash it either. The note suggestion above would make me feel better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I get a black shirtdress, under $100, and not belted? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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try H&M. the ones on 34th street have better selections. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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uniqlo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] have the East Village progressive schools done their lottery yet? we're in district 1 and handed in application a long time ago, but still haven't heard anything. does anyone have any info/update about this? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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what did you put down as your first and second choices? My dd already goes to East Village Community and we do know families who have already heard by now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I might also recommend calling the parent coordinator at your desired school; they should be able to tell you. And persistence pays off with these schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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thanks. 1. earth school, and 2. neighborhood school (though we like both equally). i've been in touch w/ the parent coordinator every couple of weeks, but just thought i'd ask here before calling again. (i start feeling like i'm being obnoxious by calling so often!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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you don't put two first-choice schools down! What are you going to do if you get neither?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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i was answering the questsion: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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"what did you put down as your first and second choices?". ---> 1. earth school, and 2. neighborhood school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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No, I mean when you apply to the four progressives, you're supposed to put down EITHER Neighborhood or Earth as your first choice, and EITHER EVCS or CW as your second choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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(because Neighborhood accepts only people who put it down as the first choice. So you could end up getting accepted to neither one, and then what will you do?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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shite. didn't know that. so if we don't get earth school we don't have a chance to get EVCS or CW?? (feeling headache coming on....) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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^^ not sure how i was supposed to know to put down one of those other two schools as our 2nd choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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okay, don't fret. I don't mean to freak you out. Someone should have told you that's what people "usually" do. Essentially, putting Neighborhood down as a second choice is like not putting anything down at all, if you kwim. Because they're only going to accept first-choice spots. It's very likely that EVCS or CW will have spaces open if you don't get in to either of your choices. We really love EVCS. it's a great school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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thanks. i wish i'd known this before putting down our choices. (sigh) will hope for the best. fwiw, i just looked at the copy of the app. and we did put CW as our 3rd choice so maybe there's some hope there. (didn't have time to look at EVCS...now wishing we had.) thanks for your replies. wish us luck. : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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good luck!! You will be fine!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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eh...not sure i understand. did i screw our chances somehow?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
[ - ] I can not seem to control my anxiety. I went on Zoloft about 2 years ago after a series of really awful events, but went off when things calmed down. Zoloft made me gain weight and interfered with work life, sex life, etc. Has anyone had better luck with another drug? I'm crazy about going back on anything, but if it would help me function better, I guess I will try it again. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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I had great luck with prozac and cloimipramine - took the combination for a few months and haven't had anxiety issues for a couple of years now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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Did you have any trouble with weight gain? My doc said that she wouldn't use prozac because it caused more weight gain than Zoloft. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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no, but at the time I was skinny (not any more, unfortunately) so wasn't too sensitive to that issue. Since it turned out to be fairly short-term, I would have done it even with weight gain to get relief of symptoms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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I think that's were I'm headed too. I just need this feeling to stop so that I can find some happiness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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That is exactly where I was; it had become so debilitating. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Just got snubbed--Saw a kid from my ds's class in the park with his mom. I was friendly and Reintroduced myself (we'd saw each other everyday at pickup!) and said "Hi"--She totally turned and walked away. Really uncomfortable hour as our the two kids played together. She stood about five feet away and talked into her cellphone. UGH! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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WTF is wrong with some people? Can I just ask what neighborhood you live in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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what a bitch. sorry you encountered such rudeness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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OP: West Village. She's always been cold to me. Not sure if it is just me or everyone, but I've seen her chatting it up with other mothers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I really hate this kind of thing. I had a similar experience the other day with a mom I've met several times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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My experience with women like that is that they're like that, in various degrees, to everyone. It's never just you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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I live in the West Village. You want me to jump her for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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np: I like you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Okay, maybe she was having some sort of family/friend/work crisis. I only suggest this because when my mom had terminal cancer, I'm sure I behaved this way. If she wasn't dealing with a catastrophic event, then she's a jerk and be glad you aren't stuck talking to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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OP: She seems like the sorority girl type... Meaning, elitist. I think they are pretty wealthy (certainly wealthier than my family). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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Just let it go. It's not even worth wondering about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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SO happy we no longer live in NYC. The competitive, snobby, mean-girl mom enviornment SUCKS. I'm so sorry this happened to you ... what a b*tch that woman is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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you think this only happens in nyc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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the snobbiest worst moms i ever met were when we lived in the south; it's NOT just a NYC thing - but it sucks when it happens to you. i hope the OP can just let it go and find some normal people to hang out with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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OK, just continue to smile and say hello and don't do anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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so, out her here :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I looked through the master list and wonder. Where are all the 97 and below folks going? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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District programs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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We got into MSC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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FWIW: September boy and staying at preschool. Didn't like the G+T option because ds's score was too low so going to do the private route in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] wohm moms - when you went back to work after maternity leave, did your pre-pregnancy clothes fit you? if not, what did you do? I don't think my clothes will fit when I go back in August and wondering if I should use a personal shopper to help me put together a basic m-f 9-5 uniform to get me through until my body goes somewhat back to what it was before. Did anyone do this with any success? TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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My pre-pg clothes were not even close to fitting, so I did the personal shopper route for work wardrobe. Worked out really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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what does the personal shopper do for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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I didn't use a personal shopper but I got a few things in the larger size and wore them until I got back to normal. I got basic things like black pants, pinstripe pants, etc and plain tops so everything was interchangeable and I could get by with not as many pieces (you can wear the black pants more than once in the same week, but not something more distinctive). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:14 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone giving up a spot at MTW for g&t? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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yes, long time ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] wohm moms - I am going back to work in 6 weeks; dd was born early may and I don't think my pre-pregnancy clothes will fit by then. what did you do if you were in the same boat when you returned to work? did anyone use a personal shopper at nordstrom or saks, etc, to get a m-f 9-5 'uniform'? I work in a biz casual environment that leans towards more business-type attire and I want to come back looking put together. tia for any tips, advice. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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how far from pre-pregnancy clothes are you? Just lose the weight. no money for a personal shopper. no money for new clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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I went back to work in Feb. after ds. Found a lot of sale stuff at Ann Taylor, Loft, etc. It's not easy and the sizes were depressing, but it was only temporary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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op: i think my bone structure has changed, so it's not a weight issue. I'm petite and I think a lot of the weight has come off because I look like I am back to normal but my pants don't fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] have people gotten letters re: G&T placement yet? (hoping to hear that dd will get off of one of the wait-lists she's currently on, once those letters go out...) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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G&T letters are out, and responses are due back by June 20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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thanks. will keep my fingers crossed for a few more days then. (they're basically stuck in this position anyway since february!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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all the doe office, they give information over the phone! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Has everyone gotten G & T results??? We have not. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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Still have not received ours. Hoping for the "duplicate" in the mail today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I hope you do not mean your G&T TEST results [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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We got our letter in the regular mail and through courier service today. Have you tried e-mailing? We got a response that way as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I never even got my OLSAT results. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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Did you ever find out why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Nope. Spoke to Nicky Rosen and she said they'd re-send. They didn't, and I sent several reminder emails asking WTF (politely). Never heard a word back. I hate those fuckers. Dd got into a private school but even with major FA it's going to be difficult for us to swing; I was planning to switch to public G&T if it was a possibility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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That's insane. This is the worst story I have heard yet. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I know, I'm pissed. I mean I'm grateful (VERY) that dd got into a good private and we got FA. It will be great and we'll be happy. But still. It's really annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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It sounds like the company that did the scoring lost your dd's score. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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you will hear from the DOE over the summer with the option to get your child retested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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i went home at lunch and had my letter - it had old address on it even though i had changed it TWICE with them. so, i'm guessing my courier one is at the old apartment. got 1 choice and we are so happy. so glad this is over. good luck to all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Where will you be going? Are you the poster who lives near 52 Chambers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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yes - that is me. we are going to NEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Good for you!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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thank you! waiting for these results all weekend was horrible - but my excitement has made me forget about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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