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[ - ] tra la! i went down a size. i still look (and am) fat, but i went down a size. i'm so excited. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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Congrats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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thank you. i'm really proud of myself b/c i had been thinking of doing something about it for a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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I hope you've got the motivation from this to keep going - well done [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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thanks. i hope so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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How did you do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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stopped mindless snacking. (i'm trying to go really slowly so i still allow myself to snack but only if i'm really in the mood not just b/c i'm walking past the pantry so i'll automatically take one, kwim?) and i'm trying to be m ore active in my daily life...i walk briskly instead of trudging along, i'll dance to music while it's on, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I lost the original birth certificate of my dd. Could I register for school with a copy? If not, where does one get a new one. We live in Brooklyn. TIA! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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vitalcheck.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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make sure you order the long form [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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You have to order a new copy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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go to city hall and request a new copy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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passport works too for registration [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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You can get one immediately at the Dept. of Health located on Worth Street. If you go early the wait isn't bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone know if there is any govt disability benefits for self employed? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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I think SSI if you've paid in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Really fancy wedding Sat. night..black dress...nude hose or black? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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there is really never a good reason to ever wear nude hose. Why do you need hose at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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it's a black-tie wedding at night...i'd feel funny with bare legs. I'm thinking black dress, black hose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Black or none. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I know my mom means well, but she is freaking me out! Pg with #2. #1 was a preemie and mom keeps talking about "if you have the baby now" and freaking out that I'm in labor if I don't pick up the phone on the 2nd ring and talking about what we'll do if we have to do the NICU thing again and things like that. Im 31 weeks. I know she's just nervous b/c of what happened last time but I wish she'd chill out! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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So tell her that. "Mom, I know you are worried. I am worried as well and it would be helpful to me if you would calm down." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Tell her her constant anxious comments are making you anxious and uneasy, which is not helpful to someone aiming for full-term. You understand her anxiety, but the best way she can help is by zipping her lips til the baby puts in an appearance, some time around 40 wks. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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My first db was a preemie, and I just had #2, who was late! It was a stressful pregnancy, so I feel for you. Hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I found an aprox. 3 carat diamond stud earring at the beach on Sat. I left my name and number at the lost & found. How long would you wait to hear before doing something with it (e.g. selling it)? I would think a diamond this big would be insured. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Do you also have to report it to the police? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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I told her that. She wants to sell it. It's probably a bog old cz anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I don't think it is a cz. But I'm going to find out for sure before I contact the police. No point in wasting their time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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How do you know it's real? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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OP here: I haven't posted here in forever, and I'm having a hard time with how this works. Anyway, I didn't know I had to report it to the police. I am trying to do the right thing. I looked at it under a loup and compared it to my own diamond earrings (that are not nearly as big). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm taking 10mg prozac while pregnant. feel good, less anxious, but nervous about taking meds. anyone done this before? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I would never take any drug while pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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i wouldn't do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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it's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I took 20 mg. Kids are fabulous. Don't worry. It's not great for the fetus for you to be stressed and anxious, healthwise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I found an aprox. 3 carat diamond stud earring at the beach on Sat. I left my name and number at the lost & found. How long would you wait to hear before doing something with it (e.g. selling it)? I would think a diamond this big would be insured. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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wait a month. do the right thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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You should be very careful, the person may have reported this earring stolen which could land you in bucket of trouble if you were to try and sell it. If you really want to sell it you should contact your local police dept and ask them what the appropriate procedure is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Thank you. I'll try to find out more. My dh is going to take it to the diamond seller where he bought my earrings and find out if it is indeed the real thing. I believe it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Legally, you are required to report lost property that you find to the police dept, unless it is worth less than $20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Yep - give it to the police, send it registered mail, stay out of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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You have to tell the police. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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How do you know it's real? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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OP here: I haven't posted here in forever, and I'm having a hard time with how this works. Anyway, I didn't know I had to report it to the police. I am trying to do the right thing. I looked at it under a loup and compared it to my own diamond earrings (that are not nearly as big). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Pregnant and have had 850 calories for the day. Trying to slow my weight gain (I've been a bit too indugent). How many calories should I eat if weight maintainance (for a week or two) is my goal? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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stop counting calories. eat healthy food until you are satisfied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Not everyone eats that way... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Eats what way? You shouldn't be calorie counting when pregnant unless you are being monitored by a dietician. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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Why not? Do you think it's healthy to overeat when pregnant. No one every said counting calories meant undereating--it means eating the right amount. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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So true. Many, many people have very abnormal eating habits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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I think 2500 is the norm when not pregnant - 2750 when pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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2000 for a non pregnant female. This is only a rough guide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Recommendations for a show in NYC. Want to buy in-laws something as a present. If you can, please recommend a musical as well as a "thinking" option. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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If it's not anytime soon, get tickets to South Pacific. They'll love it. Thinking option could be tix to something during the Mostly Mozart festival or if you can get your hands on Shakespeare in the Park tickets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Thanks, I will check out South Pacific too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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By all accounts it is incredible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Saw "A Country Girl" last week and it was fab, and the star appeal of Morgan Freeman, Frances McDormand and Peter Gallagher added sparkle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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OP. Thanks, I think seeing actors in person would be special for them... especially b/c they are not from the US. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Magic 8 Ball: Will my son be one of many Jacob's in his class? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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one of 2 or 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 41 and my DH passed away 2 years ago. I just started my first relationship since DH died and my boyfriend is 27. I still haven't introduced him to my 2 sons, who are 13 and 11. They don't know his age of hand, any advice on how to handle that? What about handling friends of mine who are commenting on the age difference? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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How's the sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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Really good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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Where do you have sex? At his place? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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His place or at the hospital. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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I wouldn't introduce them to your sons for a very long time. As for friends, I imagine they are concerned about you because they don't want you to be hurt more. I'm sorry for you loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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We've been dating about 4 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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I would suggest waiting until you believe that the relationship is going to be long-term or one that potentially leads to marriage. And you need to be clear in your head about what impact their reaction to him will or will not have on the relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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exactly, because it very well may not be positive. it's very hard for children to understand a parent moving on after losing another parent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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That's another of my concerns. How do I handle that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I would recommend discussing this with a therapist. I think other OR's suggestion is sound, that you are clear how you will handle their response to him, which at best will be wary and at worst could be outright hostile. Do not try to force a relationship between them unless you plan to marry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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Let the poor boy go. He needs someone he can have a life with and you need someone more mature. FWIW I would never say this to you in real life because I know you would slap me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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itd. enjoy. have fun. don't introduce a fling to your sons though. and fwiw medical students are a different breed. they're kind of stunted socially so it's more important that you're at the same stage rather than the same age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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I think she had her fun. Time to move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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what? she's like the black widow? he's a grown man. he can make his own decision. he doesn't need her to decide for him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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OP: This is not a fling, we are having a relationship. And he's 27 and he kissed me first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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I was defending you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Where did you meet him? Is he in to older women? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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We are both doctors and work in teh same hospital. We don't cover the same specialty, but ended up getting to know each other. He says he's never dated anyone this much older. I look younger than I am. We started as friends and it grew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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When friends make comments look them in the eye and say "he makes me really happy." Maybe just spring him on your boys - asnwer any questions they have before or after meeting him but don't give them lots of info ahead of time so they can make their own judgmenets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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Do you think it would be bothersome to my sons that he's younger than me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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I'll be honest, my sons are much younger than yours and I really don't know much about 11 and 13 yo boys yet. I would suspect that adults would make a bigger thing out of the age difference than kids would. Kids tend to pick up on different kinds of things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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what is going to bother your sons is not his age, but that you are apparently ready to "replace" their father. I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just speaking from personal experience and I've seen this go very bad more than once. Even adult children have trouble with their parents starting a new relationship after the death of a parent. And I think it's hardest on teens, especially teens of the opposite sex of the surviving parent...not to get all oedipal on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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This is something else I am concerned about. When my DH died, I didn't think I could ever fall in love again and I am not looking to replace my DH. To be honest, I wasn't even looking for a relationship when it all happened, I knew I wanted to see a man romantically again, but wasn't sure when I wanted to. I've told them I've been going out sometimes with a guy on dates. And I tell them how much I love their father and I do not want to replace their father. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I wrote a detailed reply and UB bounced. Now I have to head home. in a nutshell, it's good they know you're seeing someone. I would wait until they express an interest in meeting him without your prompting. that to me would show a curiosity and a willingness to accept. gotta run. I'll check back. good luck!!! oh and you deserve to be loved and to have hope. it's not about replacing anybody. I know thaqt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Ignore any implied comments and confront any overt statements. Nothing more. aka Don't feed the trolls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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congratulations too, i mean on new boyfriend. and sorry about your dh. that's very sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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With your sons, take your time and be sure you are at a stage in your relationship where they need to meet your boyfriend. As for your friends, those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Thank you. I am trying to figure it out with my sons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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I think this is awesome! How did it evolve from friendship to romance? What was the episodic turning point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Well we got along well and had a good friendship. One day we were both heading for our cars and my battary died. He helped jump my car and went with me to a mechanic to make sure I got a good new battary, etc. I took him out for dinner to say thank you and when we went to our cars after dinner, he kissed me and I kissed him back and it went from there. Three days later we had our first formal date. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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That is so romantic-I love it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Thank you. I know it was almost perfect, I would never have expected it to happen like that. Actually until it happened, I didn't think we'd have become a couple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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I would not introduce until you know it's a committed relationship, i.e., you're talking marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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we're not at that stage yet, but we are in a relationship. We probably won't be talking marriage for a while though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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np I don't think you need to be at the marriage stage to make the intros but I'd make sure it was fairly serious before introducing them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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well 4 months is way too early IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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How long would you wait then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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it depends on how serious you are. I posted above about discussing with therapist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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that is crazy. that could be years. they could get to mom's "friend" in the meantime [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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perhaps, but we're not talking about a divorce here. we're talking about the death of a parent. it's a little trickier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I don't agree with this, I agree it should be serious, but I would think that the kids reaction to him will have some relationship to whether she wants to marry him. I would not wait that long to introduce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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I disagree. She should not base a decision to marry on her kids' reaction, which will in all likelihood be negative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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so to recap. I think it's good that they know you're seeing someone. let them get their brains around that fact. speak occasionally and briefly about your boyfriend but follow their lead. wait for them to say, so when are we going to meet this guy. as I said before, that would indicate to me an openness and result in a better outcome. if however, your relationship progresses more quickly than dcs ability to accept, then I strongly recommend counseling to help them deal with it...and it can get rocky [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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I married someone 10 years younger than I am. My friends razzed me about it for a while, but stopped. His mother was none too pleased! I just shrugged all of it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone suggest a book on natural childbirth that is not hippy dippy and doesn't try to convince me that i only feel pain during childbirth if i choose to interpret it as pain? i tried dr. sears' book and it just pissed me off. i'm considering natural childbirth as a matter of practicality and just want tips on how to get through it as peacefully as possible. i'm not interested in hearing about the horrors of the hospital the way "birthing from within" describes it. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Out of curiousity, why wd it be a matter of practicality? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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epidural never kicked in last time. i suspect that it was misplaced b/c i NEVER went numb but nurses said my labor was so quick that it didn't have time to "catch up." i just want to have some coping skills in case this happens again. i was so completely terrified and i think that made the whole thing worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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I hear ya. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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np: I had this experience last time (except that there just wasn't time for the epi, not that it didn't work) and my nurse had no suggestions about breathing or anything else. On top of the pain I was shaking violently, which I didn't even know was a possibility - my OB recommended just taking the basic hospital run birthing class this time around. I'm going to try it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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op: have you ever taken a birthing class? i took a general one 8 yrs ago and i don't think that would do it for me again. i wish i had the nerve to take a natural childbirth class. i think i may need to suck it up and just do it. i just need to get over myself i remember that taking the class does not mean i'm required to go natural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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No, I didn't do anything. Was induced and had an epi that worked for first. 2nd was just a horrible experience. Apparently they spend a good deal of time on breathing techniques at this class, which is all I'm really looking for. I'm afraid of the natural childbirth classes too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Ina May Gaskin's books are very empowering and clarifying as to exactly what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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True, but they're also a bit "hippy dippy," as OP notes. OP: most of these books are that way--just try to read between the lines to get the info you need. That's what I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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or: ITA with this, and suggest that OP read it with an eye for the incredible amount of information as to what normal birth entails and how to manage the process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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op: thanks for the advice. i will definitely check out her books. you're right about reading b/t the lines and getting the info i need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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the best advice i was able to gleam from ina's books were the testimonials from women who delivered naturally and their experiences and howthey coped and to think of pain as coming in wavws and not to fight it. I had two surgeries earlier in life where I had to wait in the ER for @ 12 hours before they operated waiting because they didn't know what was wrong with me. And they couldn't give me drugs. After a few hours of fighting the pain and being upset by it from sheer exhaustion I just concentrated on relaxing as much as i could. This experience helped so much with my natural child birth. I loved Ina's books. Good Luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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This is kind of a ridiculous conversation because everyone deals with pain in different ways. I deal really well with pain - but the experience I had delivering my dd was something I never could have prepared for. The pain almost made me pass out - I thought my body was splitting in two - and it kind of was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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op: itda that this is a ridiculous conversation. i've had medicated and unmedicated childbirths and i truly believe that fear made the pain worse. just b/c you don't think anything could have made your experience better doesn't mean we are ridiculous for looking for relaxation techniques to improve our experiences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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But - you also have to be prepared for ALL experiences - you can't prepare for every situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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what, exactly, are you arguing against here? reading books about childbirth? thinking that it's valuable to learn about others' experiences? natural childbirth in general? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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you are allowed to try to prepare yourself-or- and I felt the same way. I knew I wanted natural and read up on how the body progresses so I knew what was happening with my body and in ways to relax as much as possible. Also, what i tell all pregnant friends, Tennis Balls! They are a savior. I was told to have my husband use them to massage my back, but i was dealing with INSANE siatica and I literally was using them to relieve pressure points. They were so helpful, especially when you first get to the hospital and are strapped to the monitors and told not to move for 20 minutes while they monitor you and the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I don't think there is more hippy-dippy than this one and the Farm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Childbirth can be extremely painful even if you think you are mentally prepared. Sometimes it comes so fast there is no way for it not to hurt in an astounding manner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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I had natural twice and I am neither hippy-dippy nor afraid that the epidural is bad for the baby. I can't say I read anything that "resonated" with me in a book per se, but if you want to do it, you can do it... The pain is fucking pain, but it does come to an end... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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You might like "the birth partner" by P. Simkin. The illustrations are pretty dated, but I don't recall the info being all "birth is painless and beautiful". It was more practical than uplifting--at least the parts I read. And I had an unmedicated birth; the class (Bradley-esque) we took helped a bunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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My advice is to remember that the pain you feel is for a good reason. When you feel pain, think about relaxing and opening (I just repeated these words to myself over and over and over). And as corny as it sounds, it helped to think about a flower opening. Also remember not to scream (which will tense you up), instead moan, dropping your jaw and saying uhhhh. I went natural without reading a book on it (for db #3)...I just asked for advice here on UB several times. And I found a website that was helpful...wish I could remember the name, sorry... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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Sheila Kitzinger's "Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone over 40 who went on to a second marriage or long-term relationship? Do I have any chance of meeting anyone I am even remotely interested in? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I am 39 and divorced, with 2 kids. I have been exclusive with a sweet, generous man for 6 months. He loves me and my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone watching the U.S. Open? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Yes - exciting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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What's the score? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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Sudden death after an 18 hole playoff! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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they tied after 18 holes. now it's sudden death on the 7th. Woods has the better lie after tee-off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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88/88 - 99 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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