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[ - ] is smoked salmon ok to eat while preg? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.16.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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it's on the no no list unless heated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Do people in Park Slope have affairs? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i would assume that people who have affairs live everywhere. Why would people in PS be immune? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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no, against their DNA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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not true but keep on living the fantasy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I know several. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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men or women? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Am considering trying one of those hide-the-good-stuff recipes books for dcs, 4 and 1. Which is better, the Sneaky Chef or the one by Jessica Seinfeld? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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paperback edition coming out soon eh Jess? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I really enjoy force feeding the green stuff to my kid. it's the highlight of my day. why hide it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] db is almost three months. i'm thinking about trying to have another soon. i'm 37. am i crazy? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.16.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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no, why crazy? cuase it's soon? or cause you think you're old? soon is true, i'ts pretty soon. old, yo'ure not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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both - and thank you. tell me how crazy it is with two that are too close at age! or is it crazy even if they're not? :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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I would aim for more like 18 mos - 2 yrs spread, not 1 year. You will feel crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] What does your 9-10 month old eat? Mostly purees still or more finger foods? Spices? Need some new ideas. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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do you have Anabel Karmel's baby food cookbook? there are a lot of good ideas in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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finger foods only, no purees. lots of spicy foods. Basically everything we eat cooked a little longer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I chose to stay home with dc. I worry about how I will get back in the work force etc. I don't want to do what I did before so whatever I choose I will most likely be starting from scratch. Anyone else feel like this or in the same boat here? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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no i kept my job but if you want to go back to work someday you can always go back to school first. i think that's what most mom's do who decide it's time to hang up the apron in exchange for a $$ job. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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I already have a masters and we really need the income now. I just don't see how we could afford school on top of everything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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what do you have a master's in? or what field where you in before db's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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I worked in TV. Have no desire to go back into it either. Very stressful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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tv sounds like a fun job, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Tim Russert just died and the sound booth. How fun does that sound? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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^^^in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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yeah, i did not think about that :-(, but he was doing like 4 jobs in the same time. if you are not a big tv personality, but work behind the scenes that should not be too stressful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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It's very stressful. More so for the underlings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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i kept my job but most mom's who hang up the apron in exchange for a paying job go back to school and learn whatever it is they want to pursue as a career. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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hmmmm, that isn't true of anyone I know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i think a gazillion people are in that boat. and it's tough, there's no good answer honestly. if you were workign you'd struggle about that. and in a way it's good that you didnt' like your career before, so you're not really losing ground on something by steppign out. tyr to just enjoy it and deal with reentry when the time comes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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Thanks. I guess I did like the money though now that we're making it on one salary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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i'd start putting feelers out to people to see what is out there. if you are thinking of changing careers, you need to do somethign to position yourself. maybe see a career counselor to help you do this. otherwise, if you need the money, go back to what you were doing and go from there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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i am in the same boat, have an mba but stayed with dc for over 5yrs. almost impossible to get back to work now. not sure what to study though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Curious how old you are? I worry too about age. OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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late 30s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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Columbia MBA here. 41. MBA is totally expired. Might as well not have bothered. Let me know if you figure this out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Does the age thing worry you too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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back at school. looked for a job/career I could do part time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] What do people think is the best DISTRICT G&T program in the city? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Anderson or Nest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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Those are citywide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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oops sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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LL or PS9 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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We toured 11, 116, and LL and preferred 11 to the others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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With 9 only accepting one class now and 166 getting the "spillover" of top scorers I think that will match or even eventually surpass 9 on the UWS. I think the one class thing will be a turn off for many who don't want their kids to be with the same kids for 6 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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np: I think being with the same kids in the early grades is a positive thing, especially with a G&T peer group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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We have a boy and were very concerned that the balance would be off and he would be stuck with just 6-7 boys for 6 years. So far all I have heard getting into 9 (other than sibs) are girls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone get a neg preg test result day before their pd was due but get a pos the next day? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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no, but if that happpend to you, yo'ure preg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone use/have the Ikea high chair? Is it good or awful? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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it is awesome all plastic so you just sponge clean it. so fast, so easy and it comes apart so you can take it on road trips or check as cargo on an airplane. the best thing about it is the price. i think i paid about $15-20 for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Sad to say, but now that I know my dd's placement (happy!) I kind of don't know what to do with myself. This makes me realize how much of my time I've spent worrying about this. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Just out of curiosity, do you work? Has your DH been equally consumed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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I don't work, and no, he hasn't! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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i work and just got the call from Nest today while at work. i was and still am walking on cloud 9! Congrats to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Thank you so much. Same to you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:08 PM Flag
[ - ] what are some good crib toys for 3mo 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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I thought you were suppose to keep the crib free of toys at that age. Only a mobile would be appropriate imho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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op - oh. not even toys that you attach to the side of the crib like mirrors and such? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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np- nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] how old do you have to be in NYC to go to kindergarten? 5 or 6 by dec 31st? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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private or public? for public you have to 5 by Dec. 31 i think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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that's why my parents were able to send me to K at 4.5 yrs old (my bday was dec 29th) -- can't imagine doing that now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay Brooklyn, what's your vote: Children's School or G&T at PS230 (Kensington)? Pls explain your vote. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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Haven't visited 230, but I loved the Children's School when we toured. They have great test scores, and you can't beat the 2 teachers per class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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We chose our local zoned (261) over Children's School. There may be two teachers in every room, but there was little focus when we were there for a 1/2 day with DS (he was a SN child and they needed to see him in environment). DS was more focused than more than 2/3 the other kids, the paras were doing things like making snacks instead of being with their individual students, and the two teachers didn't teach in tandem (the other one was doing paperwork). Kids didn't pay attention during circle time, and this was April (Kindergarten). The upper grades looked amazing - I have no idea how the kids in the class we saw became those students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Kensington? the craziness has moved across the ocean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Wow! these are some great choices. 230 has a proven record in g&t education and the kids go to twain and other great m s from there. On the other hand, I know people who prefer children's school to ps 29. Excellent school. I think other factors should decide--distance and the child's score. If the score was very high, you might want to consider 230. what was the score. If children's school is closer, you should go for it. Either way, you can't lose! Congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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You're so wonderfully upbeat. Thanks! The score was top 1%, which is why were thinking our dc should be among other G&T kids. Children's School is closer, tho. When you say 230 has proven record, what do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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230 is probably the oldest g&t school in brooklyn and they have been doing it for a while. It has a great reputation among teachers and I know people in their 30s who went there. They have been doing it for a very long time unlike all the other porgrams in the district. However, children's place is a very special school that should be able to deal with gifted child. Also, if you live closer to children's school, the commute to 230 might take a very long time. The school buss might take 45 min or so to get there. It might not be worth it in a long run. I would say, to go for g&t school if you were zoned for children's school and could change any time. Since this is not possible, this is a very hard choice. did you look in to g&t at ps 38 or 10? Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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Children's school does allow for different learners. In theory the model should apply to gifted as well as special needs children; in practice that is not the case. 230 has the oldest G&T in the district, but the school is overcrowded and underfunded and there is the awkwardness of the G&T program being a school w/in a school. 372 is just the opposite, when it comes to special needs kids. Anyway, thanks for your informed opinion! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Help, no flames please. Was dating a guy I was really into, he ended up going home one weekend and saw/hooked up w/ an ex, told me right away, then a month later, apologized, sent me flowers, etc... so now we are emailing again. I know I shouldn't get back together with him, but for some reason I can't find the strength to tell him I think we should not be in contact anymore because I still have feelings for him and I can't imagine just not emailing him back. On the other hand, I wonder why I am even emailing with him now after all the $hit he's put me through. I just can't seem to let it go. :( Any advice, wise ladies?? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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i remember you from the other day. and i think you should give him another chance. i think exes can be complicated in weird ways, and not necessarily an indication that someone is bad news all around. so give it a shot. why make yourself miserable. if it's not meant to be you'll see it quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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oh, thank you... I feel like he is my mr. big! all my friends are like "why would you even ever talk to him again"... but it's not easy to just walk away like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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ah. yeah. try to not worry about what anyone else thinks. sounds pretty clear that you like him and want to try again. my only question, how long were you with him when he got with his ex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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on and off since last summer... but nothing really ever happened until recently and it was about 2 months that things were going really well then he freaked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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agree, nobody here knows better, and you have to take your chances [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Try him one more time. One the plus side he told you about the hook up right away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I remember you from the other day too. I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole. Everyone I know that's cheated once goes on to cheat again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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we weren't exclusive though, so I think he just flipped out... I'm not defending his behavior, but as someone else pointed out as well he did tell me right away, he was freaking out about it actually... it's not like he was lying to me or 2-timing me. Now that would be inexcusable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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you didn't mention last time that you weren't exclusive. If that's true, what's your problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Why would he feel guilty and you not want to talk to him if you thought at the time it was ok to sleep with other people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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I'm not sure I understand what you mean... my problem was that he was with me and did something that he knew full well could sabotage what he and I had together, and of course that doesn't sit well w/ me. If he was really "into me" ... why would he have done that? And now the emails and flowers... I just want to get it out there, tell him what he did was $hitty because it hurt me, and either let's just be friends or talk through this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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np: That's a ridiculous thing to think and say. Why be friends with someone who hurt you like this? Either agree that you weren't exclusive, people have complicated histories with exes, and he did something stupid but not deadly. Or you shouldn't want him as a friend anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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so you're saying either get back together or just go our separate ways? we get along so well and have so much in common - that's why I would like to stay friends, but you're right, it's probably not possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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You're an odd duck - your expectations of people are both too high and too low at the same time. He made a mistake during a grey area in your relationship. Doing so made him realize what he really wanted - you. OR he's a dirtbag who cheated on you and however "fun" he is, isn't worthy of your vagina or your friendship. You know him, pick one and stick with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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wow, that is a really interesting way of thinking about it... thanks for your advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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This still doesn't really make sense. You're either exclusive or not. If not, then he shouldn't feel the need to apologize. It sounds to me like you thought that you were exclusive at the time and are now playing semantics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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To be clear, we were not exclusive, but I think he sensed I wanted it to be exclusive and it was going in that direction. After the whole thing happened, I just figured he wasn't that into me but after he contacted me and keeps suggesting that we get together, I'm confused and I want to get everything out in the open. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Now I understand. You may want to start with this. You made him sound like a sleaze before. He made a mistake, and I think that you were right to interpret that as he's not that into you. But now he's acting really into you. I think that you need to have an honest face-to-face talk with him about what you're looking for and if he can honestly provide that. I also think that you need to figure out if you can handle this betrayal. Being friends is probably out, because neither of you really wants friendship, you want a relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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thank you so much - you're right... I need to talk to him, face to face. After all, what do I have to lose at this point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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after a year of on-and-off and then what he did when we actually were dating, isn't he telling me through his actions he doesn't want to get involved in anything serious? I mean, am I crazy to even have a conversation like that w/ him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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It depends on what you mean by on-and-off. I agree with the person above, you need to figure out if he's a good guy or a dirt bag. I am guessing that you haven't been clear or taking charge of the relationship and letting him set the terms. It is now time for you to set some terms. If you don't think that he can be honest about what he wants/is able to do, than you need to move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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geez, get rid of him. why bother with an indecisive loose cannon? it will always be like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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np... how could you possily know this person is an "indecisive loose cannon" from one post? people make mistakes. and if he and OP weren't exclusive, then i don't really see the issue. esp since he apologized for it. seems like if OP can move past it and it's clear that he won't do it again, no big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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were you clearly exclusive when he hooked up with his ex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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no, we were definitely NOT exclusive at that point... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I found three tiny black bugs in my 5-year-old twins' bed. No bites are apparent on my kids' bodies...the bugs don't look like bedbugs, comparing them to photos on the Internet. What else could they possibly be and what should I do about it?? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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could be anything I would put bugs in a zip lock and take to the ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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is your pediatrician also an entomologist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:21 AM Flag
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do you keep windows open? it's summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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maybe carpet beetles, maybe lice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Wow, these school moms are absolutely nuts. Really scary! So glad we'll be out of this town before dcs are old enough for this crap. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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^^Signed, product of South Carolina public school system, summa from Yale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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summa gumma wrooma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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good post. educational, helpful, clever and with a hint of whimsy... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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they're not nuts, they're normal but under nuts circumstances. this sucks for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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I wasn't nuts until I started in on the NYC school system, I promise you that. I'd give anything to have a simple, decent zoned school that everyone went to automatically, like you probably did in SC. Everything except having to move to SC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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NP: Then why didn't you move to a zone with a decent school? They do exist and they're not all crazily expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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np: I bet she'd still go nuts trying to coach her kid to get a 99 on the OLSAT to get into the G&T... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Just saying, SC is known for its crappy schools. And yet many in my graduating class went to great colleges and went on to be very accomplished people. Some perspective, people. And you have clearly never been to Charleston, SC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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I have, actually. LIfelong NYer and prefer to stay here with friends and family. The public schools in my zone are "decent" but not great or even good, like many in district 2. There are definitely a limited number of those and not all of us can afford to live there. Of course people can come from "crappy" schools and do terrifically. But many more people who go to crappy schools don't. In any event, you make choices: an apartment with a separate bedroom for your children with a decent school nearby, or a studio in a great school district. I chose the former. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] another cooking question: recipe calls for a large bunch of watercress. all I could find was a 4 oz. fresh package. is that equivalent or do you think it's more? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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what are you making ? it must not have to be a very exact amoutn if they said a "large bunch"... just use what you have... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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more, but I wouldn't sweat it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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thanks, guys... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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