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[ - ] Have you ever worked with someone that came to work without brushing their teeth? This person runs to the bathroom and brushes their teeth within minutes of sitting at their desk. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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Maybe they have coffee on the way into work and dont' want stained teeth or perhpas they brush after breakfast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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ITA. Esp. if they are also brushing after lunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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that is gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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I don't think so...she probably brushes more than most people, once at home and after every meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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She probably eats breakfast on the way to work and brushes when she gets there. What is so bad about that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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That doesn't mean they didn't brush in the morning. They may have had coffee or some fruit on their way into the office. Or maybe they are a smoker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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Do they also brush their teeth every hour? Meet me - I have OCD and brush my teeth at least 15 times/day. I'm in therapy/take meds but it's very tough. So maybe your coworker has OCD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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Could be, she eats breakfast at work so that's not it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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maybe that person brushes teeth in morning but then has coffee on the way to work and wants to brush them again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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i have invisilign and i have to brush all the time. maybe they are just brushing to avoid stains too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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Isn't that preferable to not brushing at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My nanny just called to tell me she needs to reduce her hours, effective immediately. Crap. Now I have to figure out what I am going to do until I find another nanny, and decide if I want to replace my nanny or hire a second nanny for the hours she is suddenly unavailable. Crap, crap, crap. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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why is she suddenly available? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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Her childcare provider's availability has changed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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can she bring her kids with her until that's resolved? not ideal, but you don't have to scramble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is about to go away for a 4-day business trip. 2 year old is very attached to him. We were going to make a calendar to explain that he'd be gone for 4 days and mark them off. Is this a good idea? What do people do when they're away on trips to reassure the kids? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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that is a great idea - have him calll while she is awake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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Regular calls, map/globe to show where I am, web cam for chatting, and a token gift from the destination. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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2 y/o isn't going to understand a calendar. Have DH call once a day, every day. DC is going to be clingy, but will be OK. Don't make a big deal of the trip, esp. if DH is often gone before DC wakes up in the morning or doesn't come home until after bedtime anyway. DC will feel your stress and that will make matters worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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Hmm, he's actually 2.5 (I'm never sure how to list a kid's age...) and I think he would get it. Also, DH is usually there when DC wakes up and at bedtime -- he does half the care for him, which is part of why I think it'll be unsettling for DS. But point well taken about not putting stress on him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] repost: i broke up with my seperated EX almost three months ago after being together a year and havent heard anything? i really miss him and i truly believe he feels the same... he told me he will come find me when he gets a divorce. i think about him every day... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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you are hanging on to some guy who is married? Get a real life! Stop wasting time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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he was seperated when we met... and every day that goes by i miss him more and more... i am trying to move on but it isnt easy. the chemistry on a physical and intelligent capacity were so strong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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np: You sound pathetic. So attached to a man who doesn't want you? Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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ur being harsh... but prob what i need to hear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. Get over him. Besides, if his marriage failed, he probably has a lot of self-exploration to do before he is ready to marry again. He doesn't want to make the same mistake again, does he? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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ita, i know i did the right thing by leaving him at this time in his life. my point is i thought it would get easier but it is getting harder for me... i havent contacted him and i will not. just really sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:47 PM Flag
[ - ] my sister is always screaming and has a filthy mouth and she constantly is cursing and screaming around my young children. when i hear her say something or hear her screaming, i calmly ask her to stop. she then gets worse. i am so sick of it. tonite, i came home instead of having dinner with her and my parents to get my children away from her. what am i supposed to do? talking to her about this will do NOTHING since this is all about who she is. do you think avoiding her when she is around and keeping kids away from her will help prove a point? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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have you tried talking to her about it when she is calm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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she is never calm and extremely defensive and will find a way to turn it around on me or whoever else "made" her scream to begin with. she "slips" with the word fu-kin weekly and i cant take it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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then I think you need to somehow explain that she can't be around your children if she continues that behavior. You may have to be willing to leave family functions etc but if it's best for your kids, it may be what you have to do. Is she mentally unbalanced? Sounds like she needs some help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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yeah, she has some issues. she does get help but i think she is very unwilling to let someone help her, so nothing gets accomplished. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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I'm very sorry. That would be a tough situation. Just do what you can to protect your kids. When they get older, you can explain that some people use words that arent' nice but we can still like the person. DH grew up with a cursing grandmother - although she wasn't a screamer - and he turned out just fine. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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"to protect your kids"??? Oh come on! Most kids in NYC will hear all manner of words simply walking down the street. Who cares? If sister was a junkie that shot up in front of kids, that's another story -- but because she drops the f-bomb? Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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really, what's the big deal if your sister screams and curses around your kids? Children can discern between different adults in their life -- everyone needs a crazy aunt. I think you're being too uptight about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] best newborn sling out there? i have the moby but live in a tropical climate and it's way too HOT! thanks 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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kangaroo ?? (cant think of the name) slings make a mesh one....it's more of a pouch so you don't have to wrap and tie it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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I loved my native carrier; it keeps working well as your child grows through toddlerhood. I think it's nativecarrier.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anybody turn down PS. 11 G&T spot? I turned down and now I feel like I should have accepted. Do you think district G&Ts are as good as citywide? As far as this year. scores are higher. Will it be better program with smart peers? Any current of incomong PS 11 parents are on? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.22.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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not as 'advanced' as citywide, but more than gen ed. It's a great school, nice diversity but that will probably all change now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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why not? LL is even better than Nest. that's the reason many people choose LL over NEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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I don't think LL is better than NEST...people think it's better but I think it has to do with it's UES location and the hype created by UESers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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Look at the test score, you will know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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Oh, LL definitely has better reputation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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LL is really NOT better than NEST. Not in what's offered or how they use their space or the population. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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ITA. We toured LL and was not impressed at all. LL has high score that is because it is popular for its location. School itself is not all that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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are you impressed by Nest? by what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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Better facility! Has their own building. LL is tooo congested. Wait, let's talk about PS.11 here. That is OPs concern. I heard it is up and coming nice school. Peer gorup should be as same as LL. Because of the location(chelsea), who choose 11 are downtown people vs LL, uptown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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to be honest. I am so surprised by the community of Nest and decided to put it lower choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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LL is no better than downtown non G&T schools: 41/234/89 -- all have the same program as LL and same quality kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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LOL!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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what did you turn it down for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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we feel ps9 is better than nest, and ranked it 2nd after anderson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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I also Learned lots of negative things from people I know. do not understand why here people like NEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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np: It all depends on what are you looking for. NEST is very good for certain type of child, LL is kind of opposite in that it's one of the most progressive public schools and definitely G&Ts out there. There are kids that will do well either way but many do better with one or the other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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You are talking about D#. PS 11 is in D2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Sorry meant to say D3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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where is dc going instead of PS 11 G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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Why turned it down? I listed it as 5th choice. anyway, it is a fine school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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OP: Did you get PS 11 G&T then? We are sending DC to local public and applying TT next fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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we got 2nd choice. my point is even we get the 5th choice. we still accept it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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we decided we preferred gen ed to ps11 as well. everyone has different opinions and diff options [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I agree with you. also because I do not have decent gen ed. G/L to you for applying to TT next fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Is there current PS 11 G&T moms on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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which general ed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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OP: We took PS 234 gen ed. and turned 11 G&T down. But I feel G&T has better peers for DC. Well, too late. We will see how it goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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you made a great choice. you have no idea what the peers in G&T are like based on the results of one test. Your kid will be in a class with plenty of other kids who either scored as well or could have scored as well -- and they'll be neighborhood friends and you won't have to schlep up to chelsea every day. bravo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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NP: I did way too much research during this process, and actually looked at the breakdown of 3s and 4s at a bunch of schools, including 234. 234 is really impressive, comparable to G&Ts in terms of how well all it's students do, which says something about the quality of teaching (as well as something about the student body). I think you did the right thing, as it's probably closer to your house as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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big reason the scores at 234 are so high is because most parents are highly educated, have $$ and hire tutors. that does not mean it's not a great school with great peer group though. just keep that in mind -- there's a lot of compensation made for TERC. Ditto at 89. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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I think you are right. Based on the ranking for only Manhanttan schools: P.S. 234 Independence School ranking No13, while P.S. 11 William T. Harris School ranking No35. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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Hijack: are these published rankings? I just crunched DOE numbers (hi, I'm a dork). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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YES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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But 11 really turned around in the past 2 years or so. The strong G&T classes haven't even gotten to the age for state testing yet. Plus you can't single out G&T scores from gen ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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you are right. The score is the mixture of G&T and Gen ed for ps 11. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Yes but what I was looking at was specific. The number of children scoring 4s in a given school. 234 has a very high number--better I think than 11--that's your peer group right there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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^^OR btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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we accepted but are having second thoughts. i'm not sure it's any better than a good gen ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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Those published score is for gen ed plus G&T. PS11 as #35 is not valid information to evaluate their G&T score. PS 11 is up and coming school with wonderful writing and music program. Strong peer group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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and small class size, excellent staff with a remarkable principal, great facility and the most important thing for us -- a real environment with a truly diverse population that reflects the city my dcs live in. We are very happy to be there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Our 7th anniversary is coming up. Everytime it gets close I am forced to think about how unhappy I am in the relationship, and how paralyzed I am financially from leaving it. Nothing bad (no abuse, etc.) but just a bad, bad match. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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what drew you to him originally? Did something change or were you just mistaken ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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I thought I didn't need someone who was smart, intellectual or financially successful. my dh is sweet, reliable, lovely. but total inept in those areas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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ok so he isn't a bad guy or anything. Maybe you should try to concentrate on his good qualities instead of worrying about all the things is is not. There is no perfect person out there. Start from there and see if you can get back to what attracted you initially. There have to be some good things that will make you happier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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Of course he's great. But if I met him today and was single I would know that he doesn't meet my needs. That's the frustrating part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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ok but maybe you are expecting him to meet needs you can or should be able to have met in some other way. My point is that no one is a perfect match. He does not exist. Maybe someone else would be a better match or maybe not. You are in this marriage, I assume with dcs, and should do everything you can to make it work. So - try emphasizing the good and minimizing the bad. Try other things to meet whatever needs you have that aren;t being met with friends, work, hobbies etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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Finances are a poor reason to stay in a marriage. What are you worried about? Paying alimony? Not getting alimony? Dividing your assets? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Cannot stand self-congratulatory sis and bil. Constantly sending out e-mails about their successes. I am also successful but do not send smug notifications about each feather in professional cap. P.S. They live in Brooklyn and think they are saving the world. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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send them my thanks for saving the world willya? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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You got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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give us an example. I hate people like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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They're too visible to give a specific example. They just think they're god's gift to Brooklyn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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no one is visible in brooklyn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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is your sis marreid to Marty Markowitz? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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I used to get those all the time. Then a friends responded with REAL successes. Her ds had a stroke at birth. She sent out e-mails with every improvement he made in PT/OT/etc. Made my sister look soooooo petty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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Lol. Love that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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I know someone whose dh stopped working for several months because they had enough saved & they had a huge party to celelbrate with all their friends....I thought it was a little boastful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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That is the stupidest reason for a celebration I have ever heard. "Come celebrate my bank account and the options it's giving me!". What kind of a gift do you bring to a party like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH is so socially ignorant, it is cliche. We were invited t a wedding this morning. The invite mentioned a cake and champagne reception. I ate before going to the church, expecting the reception of offer (duh) cake and champagne (and perhaps coffee, tea, and soft drinks). DH expects a full meal, doesn't eat, and spends the whole time whining that he is hungry. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.22.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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mine would have done the same thing...and if I tried to tell him beforehand he wouldn't have believed me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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np sounds like you need to travel with luna bars in your bag just like you do for dbs! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you do with an idiot who just looks for things to be pissed off about, has no sense of logic and is dating your mother? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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try to ignore him as much as possible and pray that he doesn't marry her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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yeah - probably very good advice. We are hoping that if we don't say too much and push her to defend him, she will figure it out on her own. Sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] BFP this morning, had a miscarriage two months ago, so nervous to get excited. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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btdt... Good luck! For me the second time was the charm! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Period is 5 days late but Early pregnancy test says I am not pregnant. Any chance that I am?!?!?! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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probably not, unless your periods tend to fluctuate wildly. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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it took me a full week to get bfp, try again in a couple of days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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are you recording your waking temperatures, if it stays hi you're [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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