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[ - ] I feel like the worst person ever. After 3 months of trying to find them a new home, I put my cats down today. They were 14 1/2 years old and they peed and pooped everywhere (out of spite--they were checked out and were healthy.) The straw that broke the back was that my 3rd kid was born 5 months ago and has a severe allergy to them (she throws up almost every day, due to the mucus.) But I still feel like crap. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. That's hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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the worst was the vet walking into the room and announcing that he'd never had an office visit like this in 30 years! well, what should I have done? left them in a park? drowned them? for christsake. he was kind once I explained the situation through my tears, but I really feel like that was just mean of him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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He didn't have to do it if he thought it wasn't right. Your choice was much better than letting them outside or letting them go in a park somewhere, like people do all the time with dogs and cats. Now that's cruel. I'm sorry though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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thanks. a kind voice means a great deal to me now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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Couldn't you have given them to a shelter to find a new home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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every shelter I called (6 of them) would not take them. Even the shelter I got them from (14 1/2 years ago) refused them, even though the contract I signed back then said that if I ever gave them up, it would have to be to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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The ASPCA wouldn't take them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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uh oh, here we go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Hey I don't even have pets. But WTF? The ASPCA wouldn't take them? I find that hard to believe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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I don't either, but I think op did right thing. If cats were already peeing and pooping with new baby in the house, doesn't sound like they'd handle a big change well, especially at their advanced age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Op: every no-kill shelter I called would not take them. They can't find homes for the kittens, much less the peeing-everywhere 14 yo cats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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Listen, stay away from posting online if you don't want to get abused. That's half of what these sites are about: kicking posters around. You tried, your cats would've been miserable moving, they had a long life for cats. RIP kitties and sleep well, op. That was hard but you did right thing for those animals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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op: I thank you. I've gotten burned online before, but tonight? you and the other posters made me feel human, and I thank you. Now I'm off to bed with the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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You did the right thing and the necessary thing for your family. Don't be sad. I have two cats and one poops/pees everywhere. I hate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Need new food suggestions for my 2yo, thanks!! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.24.08, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the longest you've ever been unsatisfied/depressed? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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four years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:10 PM Flag
[ - ] near tears and so fkn annoyed. my bf makes it very difficult to do anything nice for him, he doesn't like surprises, honestly, at this point he just seems like he sucks the joy out of everything. he has been working like a dog lately on a big project, and he always surprises me with nice things so i had arranged for a bakery to deliver a ton of great cookies etc to him late night. i needed to know what time he would be there until. he told me he "didn't like surprises and he wasn't in the mood for games". we then spoke and got in an argument because he said he was too tired for surprises. ITS FRIGGIN COOKIES AND BROWNIES. i cancelled the whole thing and now i am just pissed. sorry, had to vent 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.24.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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Get out of beauty school and go back to high school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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like you never have a vent? get over yourself. not OP but leave OP alone. shes annoyed. let her be. what do you care. i hate responses like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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he just sent me an email that he is so sorry and apprechiates the thought, he just needs to "hibernate". grrrr. i wasn't coming there. cookies were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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sorry!!! my dh is like that sometimes. men can be so cranky!!! and they thought we were the ones with pms ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Men are idiots for the most part, he is obviously very stressed, cut him some slack, mine can be like that too. I learned, he does not like suprises and a bunch of questions when he's involved in something, even if it is so nice of you to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I'd send the cookies to myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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i don't like surprises either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What is TT? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Technically it means "top tier" and in practice it means "the most obnoxious" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone take ambien while pregnant? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] A not very close neighbor's 3 year old daughter, out of the blue and for no apparent reason, did some sort of hypersexualized dance toward my husband, 3 year old son and me while we were visiting them. The mother thought it was cute. It looked like she was doing a preschool pole dance. Ugh. I can't go back there ever. My DH is horrified. My son asked what she was doing. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Maybe you should take a step back and see it for what it was: a 3yo being a 3yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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I've been around plenty of 3 yos who have been exposed to pole dancing. Maybe your's is. That's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Oh, really? Plenty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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I think it's odd that you would see a 3 yo's dance as hypersexualized. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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It was. I'm sure she picked it up from her older sister's britney videos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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aha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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That's freaky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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Thank you. One reasonable response. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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You sound like a nut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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You sound like a nut yourself. I guess you'd facilitate that sort of play. Maybe your kid will do a similar dance during their OLSAT - good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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pole dance huh? so your neighbors have a pole in the house? for the occasional hired birthday clown? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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This could also be a sign of abuse. Social worker here and i've seen stuff like this a lot in abuse cases or like op said could be the britney videos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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Another reasonable response [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:47 PM Flag
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hmm depending on what it was, I could go with you (something is wrong, and very sad with them) or with responders who said you read too much into it. How sexualized was it ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:55 PM Flag
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3 year old are *not* supposed to know how to assume the sultry eyes of a 30 year old dancer and outdance Britney and Madonna. Very very sad. Not reading anything into it that wasn't right on the wall. We have both lived in Manhattan our whole lives and cannot believe we saw something this unbelievable. A 3 year old doing a cute kiddie dance is fine, this was not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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why do you think it was out of the blue and for no apparent reason? maybe she was coming on to your DH or your 3 yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:25 PM Flag
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dances like this bother me. I know the 3 yr old doesn't know what they are doing BUT they are seeing this somewhere (TV, videos, older sibs) and that is what bothers me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:56 AM Flag
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without seeing it, I think you are probably overreacting and have a stick up your butt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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how old is your oldest child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:57 AM Flag
[ - ] What is "TT" when discussing private schools? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.24.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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TOP TIER [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I'd like to get someone a 'different' gift- I was thinking of a flying lesson, or a helicopter tour, or something similar... I want to spend about $150. Any other suggestions? Any recommendations for good places to find things like this? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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race car driving lesson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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I like my gifts on the ground, but maybe that's just me. Is this for a guy or a girl? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody know a kid with Asperger's who didn't pass G & T? Did they appeal based on dc's condition? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.24.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I don't get what the appeal would be based on? If the kid cannot take the test and perform well on it, he does not belong in G&T. If his inability to test well is related to a condition, then he still doesn't belong there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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The idea is that many kids with Asperger's are off the charts gifted, but don't test well. And when they are 4 y.o. they are particularly adverse to tests like this. Being gifted is about being "gifted," not about testing well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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np - I don't think any of the gifted schools & programs would be able to educate a dc with Asperger's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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then you don't know anything about aspergers. Until recently, it wasn't even generally diagnosed. Chances are you went to school with someone with it and just didn't know it -- think back to the really smart socially awkward kid. There is no reason any G&T couldn't educate an asperger's kid (except that the kid would likely be smarter than most of the other kids in class) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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nowadays everything is some kind of condition. There is the "standard" child and every deviation is a condition that needs special treatment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Of course it can, but the kid has to test in. DF's dc did test in with AS (just posted elsewhere in the thread). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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I agree that the child has to test in. I was responding to the poster who said she didn't think a G%T class would be able to educate a dc with aspergers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I know someone with dc with Asperger's and dc scored 99 on OLSAT and is going to citywide program. Not all Aspergers dcs test badly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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If I can recall the wording in the Dept. of Ed. literature, the tests are about assessing the candidate's abilities for learning. Somebody with Asperger's probably needs special services, not a gt format - it's not about what is best for you but for the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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finally, a voice of reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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what does that mean - "best for you"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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what's up with that? If child is academically brilinat, but socially laggin you shun theM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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NP: Asperger's is more than "socially lagging", you know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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Totally depends on the child, no two kids are the same, even with that diagnosis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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i don't think that's what the above poster was saying. they weren't taking issue with the fact that the kid was gifted, just that the G&T program, as it is currently offered in our school system, may not be appropriate. they may need a different kind of (equally academically advanced) setting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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asperger's kids do not need special academic services. They could often use some play therapy so that they can make friends, but the vast, vast majority of asperger's kids are in regular classes (some of the asperger's kids I know are at TT schools, in fact) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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There are several in our G&T program, but they have to test in just like everyone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I agree that the child needs to test in. I was responding to the comment that "someone with aspergers probably needs special services" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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Agree, some kids do others do not. A good friend's ds gets some services to help him with boosting social skills, but he is doing fabulously as far as academics go. In regular gen ed school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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why couldn't GT accommodate Asperger's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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my DH has Asperger's & says fact he was in GT was his saving grace; gave him access to kids he could relate to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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It is true what they say about G & T parents. Preserve your elite status at all costs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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no. But I know one with asperger's who is in g&t and doing great. School knew about it when they took him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 02:28 AM Flag
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but he likely was able to test into the program, no? i think if the dc has asperger's, but can perform on tests, then why not. If he can't he probably will have too many problems in a G&T program and is better served in SNs program [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:09 AM Flag
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Please. AS kids can do well in normal gen ed programs too, it is not G&T or SN school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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yes. he tests well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Many very intelligent kids didn't pass the G&T, for many reasons. Get over it and move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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I thought Asperger's had specific diagnostic criteria to meet - not just "socially lagging". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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it does have specific criteria, but those criteria have nothing to do with ability to function in a classroom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Let 5mo sleep through nite (7p - 7a) after stomach bug this am, or wake up and try to give some pedialyte? Just concerned about dehydration. Was realllly sick today. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.24.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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are you bfing? do a dreamfeed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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If baby has been urinating normally, I would let sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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he definitely did not keep a lot "in" today. just worried about him going that long without any hydration. maybe i'll wait and if he wakes up, i'll def feed him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:53 PM Flag
[ - ] It's sweet that dh is so happy and proud that ds made it into g&t, but I really wish he would stop telling every person who so much as asks how the kids are doing! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.24.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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we didn't even ask and you're telling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Excellent point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:37 PM Flag
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I'm sure all those people wish it too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:07 AM Flag
[ - ] We are renting a beach house for a week for the first time. Tell me what I need to bring. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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sunscreen, sunscreen and more sunscreen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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I was thinking more of linens, towels, stuff to clean (? need that security deposit back...) afraid I'm missing something obvious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Sheets. Outlet plugs if you have toddlers. A can opener just in case. The bedrail, pack and play. A good book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Repeat C vs. VBAC? Opinions? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.24.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Baby is breech at 17 weeks. Chances are low he will stay breech, right? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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correct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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really, that early they don't rotate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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baby will be doing full sommersaults for weeks yet. has plenty of room. not even sure how you would know it was breech. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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ultrasound [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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OMG are you serious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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why? serious about which part, not poster, but wondering which you are responding to, the fact that her baby will stay breech or the fact that it still has time to move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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The baby will move all over the place for the next 23 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Ok, that's what I thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] please recommend a high chair. preferably something VERY easy to keep clean. i can't stand crusted food, etc. thanks! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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I LOVE my svan, you can take the plastic cover off the tray and hose it down or put it in the dishwasher, the cushion comes off and can be washed, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Ikea Antilop. $20. Best design. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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that looks awesome actually! is it sturdy and does it seem safe? did you get the blow up cushion too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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It's very sturdy, easy to clean, compact, portable enough to throw in the car to take to Gma's. We got the inflatable cushion, but never used it. He was snug enough in there and didn't need the extra support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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awesome, thanks--i think i'm going to try and get it. the others all seem like such a pain and/or are ridiculously priced. did you get anything else good there that you want to recommend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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We got some toys there as well: abacus, stacking cups, stacking rings, basic train set. All inexpensive and good to grow into. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] did you have party for your db's first birthday ? if so, how many ppl ? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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yes, family only - about 25 people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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^^oops! I mean 15 people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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ditto, with a couple close family friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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grand parents and a few neighbors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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we are having grandparents and my sister. That's it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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just my parents. they're too young to care. why go to the effort. it's more for you than the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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For us it was an excuse to show off how big/cute/happy he is to our friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Family (which is about 15/20 alone) and friends (8) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Yes, about 25 people, but our friends, dd enjoyed it, but it was really for us! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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yes and for me - together. around 20 people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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bunch at home. both sets of grandparents, 2 aunts, 2 uncles, 2 cousins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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