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[ - ] My friend might be buying a condo, or thinking about it in Harlem, for 455000, is that a good deal? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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depends where in harlem and how big is the condo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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size , i'm not sure but it is 1 bedroom.....not sure where though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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how big is it, where is it, maintenance, taxes? the bare price tells you nothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:50 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 40 yrs and pg. When I'm 60 my dc will be 20. What's the difference besides the obvious when a mom is 46 and has a dc? I don't see much of a diff. Loving parents come in all ages 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I'm with you. I had DD at 42. Whatever. There are advantages and disadvantages to having kids young, middle or older. Who cares? I don't get the harsh reaction of some people to how I choose to live my life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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op; eactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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My aunt was the youngest of 4 and they had her at 47, she's always been sad that her parents weren't nearly as active with her then they were with her siblings. They just didn't have the energy to really play and interact with her the way they did when they were younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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op: my mom was 23yr old when she had me (I'm the oldest) and she was always an old lady in a young persons body. We were home all the time, didn't do much, no parks, ect. I had friends whose parents were much older and did lots of things like bike riding, parks, long walks, museums,ect. I don't thing age is an issue. It's the individual [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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do you understand that people are different and have different energy levels? I'm 45. I run and can keep up with my 3yo just fine. My mom is in her 60's and still has tons of energy. I don't see why you want to stereotype people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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at least she had older siblings around for her. this woman is just beginning to start the process at 46. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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op: and we don't know if this woman has more energy than all of us. She may be a wonderful mom who will give a dc things many of us could have hoped for as kids..we just don't know. I think if she wants to try and is able to conceive, more power to her. A loving family is so much better than a family with 2 parents who hate each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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she really didn't have older sibs around because they were so much older that they were almost out of the house when she was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I'm the one who had my last dc at 47; I am a much better mom in my 40s than I ever would have been in my 20s or even my 30s. Obviously it's different for different people -- some women are ready to have kids in their 20s and are better moms for it; some women will never be good moms, no matter when they have their kids. Some of the people who are most critical of so-called "older moms" haven't even reached that age yet -- how do they know now what they'd be capable of when they are older? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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amen! sing it sister! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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oP: exactly..itta. I was way to selfish in my 20's to have been a mom. I waited until my 30's for my first dc and happy I did. I was so ready then and mature enough to handle this new phase in my life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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it sounds like the 46yo op is too selfish at 46 to be a mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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np and you can assess that from a 15 word post? Wow. Your powers of discernment are astounding. You know everything about her from a couple of sentences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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she posted about 50 times... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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probably trying to find some help and info and get away from you judgy bitches [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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op: where in her original post did this 46yr old say anything selfish? She was immediately judged because of her age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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I'm more concerned with the 57yo dad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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and again - this is your business because......? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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op: why? so many men have kids well into their 70's + [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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just because they do it doesn't mean its a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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op: I think it all depends on the individual. Not all 50 yr olds are the same..just as not all 20 yr olds are the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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sure, but very few 70 year olds are vigorous, and they are unlikely to live long enough to see their kid's HS graduation. which is a hard thing for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Not so many at all, few of them. They never see the kids grow up, and while some of them are rich so kids are taken care of financially, the fact that they have nephews/nieces far older than them is not so great IMO. Hardly an optimal scenario. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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oP; well this mom is 46yr old. Not like both parents will be 57yr old when they have a dc. I think 46 isn't too old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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My dad was 44 when I was born and is a fantastic, energetic father, has not missed a thing. Age is not the same for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I'm with you too. I had DD at 39 and DS at 41. I can't imagine having had them earlier. DH and I were way too selfish. We're much better and more patient now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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I read somewhere that moms who give birth older tend to live longer. Don't know what comes first though - does having children keep you young? Or does the fact that you were able to have a child when you were older mean that you are aging well? Either way I don't care - both my sister and I got preg w/o any medical intervention in our 40s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] help! what kind of toys does your 20mo db like? what about a dollhouse? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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probably too young for a dollhouse. Try blocks, large snap together beads etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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No--doll houses are for older kids. Some Little People stuff is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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my 19mo plays with a dollhouse, but only b/c it was a handmedown to her big sister. She has the Little People dollhouse and really likes it; she also likes her little scooter and the tricycle (which she's still too small for); loves "babies" (dolls), and her water table, and her swingset. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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My 20 mo ds loves pushing his play lawn mower around the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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My DD loves puzzles, pushing the stroller, changing dolls, making "tea" and "coffee." I really like Melissa and Doug things. She's 24 months now and likes her art easel (people recommended IKEA or Melissa and Doug ones). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] I know this is a (very) long shot, but I am trying to make reservations for this weekend in Hudson Valley. Can anyone rec a child-friendly hotel/b&b with a pool? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Mohonk Mountain House [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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More of a resort, not a B&B. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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NP: OP asked for hotels and/or B&Bs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Right. Mohonk is a resort, not a B&B. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] To the 46yo considering conceiving, go for it. My dh's parents were about your age when they had him. His father died when he was 13, traumatic, but the thing is...you are giving another person life. This is the only life my dh knows, and if they had tried any earlier, the baby wouldn't be him, it would be someone else. Best of luck to you. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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I'm sure your dh wishes his parents had been younger. And I'm assuming his parents weren't as entitled and selfish as this woman sounds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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np; I was on earlier when she first posted and didn't get any sense of selfishness or entitlement from this 46yr old. It was the ppl who were responding that were calling her these names. I think she should go for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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nnp ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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ITTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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nnp: you can have parents who are young and boring or older and exciting. My parents were 23yr old when I was born and my mom was a home body. Never did anything with us. She was an old lady in a young body. THen I know ppl whose parents were older but did so much with them. So age means SQUAT in my book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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ITA. Life is life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
[ - ] 14mo went down for a nap at 12.15 without lunch but he drank milk, he wasn't hungry because he had a late breakfast, he woke up after 30minute nap and he's been crying since, should i go get him? He's been doing this for the past 5 days, and i go get him and he won't nap at all during the rest of the day 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I'd go get him and just try for an early bedtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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op, thaks, i just did, he looks so sleepy, tears buggers and all, oh well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Or go for a walk/drive? My DCs usually conk out in the car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Any brilliant mosquito suggestion? I just put a kiddie pool in our backyard but the mosquitoes are fierce. Does it do any good to spray the kids with repellent before they go in the water or does it just wash off? Any other ideas? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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spray the suit, not the baby. Or light citronilla (sp?) candles. Have a fan blowing on them, keeps bugs away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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I don't want lit candles around my rambunctious toddler, but I have some citronella spray...maybe I'll keep spraying that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I spray DD and I guess some or all of it washes away, but it does seem to help. I also spray the sides of the pool and the grass around it a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Thanks. I'll try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:42 AM Flag
[ - ] how long does it take for a female to be able to have a second orgasm? can it be done in same day? few hours? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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female what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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I think everyone is diff. It takes a very long while for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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ok no 13yo boys are allowed on UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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We are not all alike and that is supposed to be good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.10.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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It varies from mood to time of day, space of time between encounters, etc. Average day, h.onestly, it can be less than a minute depending on dh or lvr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.10.08, 09:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I need some help. The dishwasher exploded earlier and I've been trying to call DH and I can't get him on the phone and I've been trying for hours and he won't answer and his secretary won't put me through. The house is flooding fast and I need help from DH to handle this. I put life jackets on the kids already. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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Do you know how to turn off the water in your house? There should be at least a cutoff valve under your kitchen sink that should turn off that water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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turn off the water in the basement. call plumber [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I can't find the plumber's phone number and I don't do household maintanence things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Are you really this helpless? Find a phone book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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I think I have a phone book around here someplace. Luckily I have the life jackets on the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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well i don't want the kids to drown in hte living room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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If you're trying to be funny, you're not succeeding. If you're serious, you're a terrible example to your children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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The kids are sitting on the couch watching TV and wearing life jackets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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And knowing that their mother is utterly pathetic and helpless. Nice example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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Ok I just called a plumber and they are whisking someone over here, I told them that I'd pay extra for someone to be whisked over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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any plumber will do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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yellow pages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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crazy woman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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yep. same nutter who posts all this crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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LOL! It's OMG OMG mom! I love her! good one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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Your posts are so, so boring. Please take a creative writing course online with Gotham Writers. Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] if you have an orgasm, how long before you can have another?(female) same day, usually? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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30 seconds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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how? please explain! seems like i have to wait about 24 hrs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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women are just different from one another. multiple orgasms are what come naturally in my case - especially the clitorally stimulated ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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seriously? and how is the same way you had the first one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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30 seconds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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Maybe 2-3 hours for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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yes, within a few minutes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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does it then take longer to acheive the next time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] If I hire a moving company to do the packing, how does this work? Do they just wrap and pack or do I separate stuff for them, etc. Moved myself last time, but not sure I'll have time. Also, how long does this generally take (approx) for a 2Bedroom apt? 900 sqf? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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usually they'll pack for you too but beware that their estimates are usually bull [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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op; thanks, calling a few places for estimates now. hourly rates suck. i will probably pack a lot myself just because I'll have my inlaws to watch kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] My three year old ds is a real displine problem at school- hitting not listening ect... at home and at the park he is usually good and listens to me is it the school or my child- teacher thinks he has a learning disablility 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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i would check this out if I were you. It may not be a disability but you want to rule this out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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i have an appointment next week i just can't understand why it only happens at school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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maybe he has a hard time when its not one on one like it is with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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NP: Could be the teacher isn't great or DS just doesn't click with teacher for whatever reason. Do any other parents have similar issues? A friend of my DS's is the same--awful at school and (according to his parents) good at home (although I've never witnessed that). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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5 of the 6 boys in the class are problems and my son seems to defiant towards the teacher he doesn't accept any displine from her at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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Then it sounds like there's an issue with the teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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sounds like the teacher [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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get it checked out, but he's three... I wouldn't worry too much. Many 3yo are just not ready for school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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my son was having issues w/ behavior, but pushing w/ other kids, and it turns out to sensory issues. he is 4 - he gets overwhelmed and doesn't know how to act, so he acts out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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oops- didn't finish post. he now goes for occupational therapy, and is learning to express himself - say he needs quiet time, or needs his space. and things are much better. and it's not a learning disability. he is extremely smart. so i suggest reading some books - the spirited child is very good - which sort of pointed me in the direction of sensory issues. it was only a small mention in the book, but then i looked into it more, and sort of self diagnosed it, and then got him evaluated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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how did your son behave at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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yes - a large, active classroom can be overwhelming for children with sensory integration issues. The issues don't show up the same way at home because it is a completely different environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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so actually it was not fake "sensory issues" but you just needed a professional to show you how to discipline/redirect his normal 4 yo behavior [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:37 AM Flag
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he is sometimes sensative to loud noises [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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is that the only issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:18 AM Flag
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me too, I guess I have "sensory disorder" too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:40 AM Flag
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I think if you look enough you can find something wrong with every child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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he still should be checked [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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any other problems maybe aniexty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone use good ol' fashion playpen? DB in apartment and need something he can be confined in..preferably not just leave him on the floor on blanket 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.02.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I've tried. DD just screams and screams when I put her in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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tried it. blanket on the floor was fine until baby coudl crawl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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I used a play pen, it came in hand a couple of times. DC did not mind, but the game always ended up being, dc joyfully throws out all the toys and then cries and I put them back in, repeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Graco tot block is nice and big [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I think a pack and play is basically the same thing. My inlaws use one sometimes w/ds. He was a huge crawler adn climber. He was fine w/it when they used it but screamed w/me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I bought an old fashioned wooden playpen - better than pack and play becasue they can cruise around it. Very helpful. Google wooden playpen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:37 AM Flag
[ - ] my grandparents never had a dd, and have decided they'd give it another try for a baby girl. they cannot find any md to assist. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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oh shut up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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that's a rude thing to say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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OP is being rude. This is obviously a reply to an earlier post that got very heated and nasty. She should shut up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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