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07.02.08, 10:45 AM General Topics
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I'm 40 yrs and pg. When I'm 60 my dc will be 20. What's the difference besides the obvious when a mom is 46 and has a dc? I don't see much of a diff. Loving parents come in all ages [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 10:45 AM Flag
 

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I'm with you. I had DD at 42. Whatever. There are advantages and disadvantages to having kids young, middle or older. Who cares? I don't get the harsh reaction of some people to how I choose to live my life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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op; eactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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My aunt was the youngest of 4 and they had her at 47, she's always been sad that her parents weren't nearly as active with her then they were with her siblings. They just didn't have the energy to really play and interact with her the way they did when they were younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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op: my mom was 23yr old when she had me (I'm the oldest) and she was always an old lady in a young persons body. We were home all the time, didn't do much, no parks, ect. I had friends whose parents were much older and did lots of things like bike riding, parks, long walks, museums,ect. I don't thing age is an issue. It's the individual [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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do you understand that people are different and have different energy levels? I'm 45. I run and can keep up with my 3yo just fine. My mom is in her 60's and still has tons of energy. I don't see why you want to stereotype people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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at least she had older siblings around for her. this woman is just beginning to start the process at 46. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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op: and we don't know if this woman has more energy than all of us. She may be a wonderful mom who will give a dc things many of us could have hoped for as kids..we just don't know. I think if she wants to try and is able to conceive, more power to her. A loving family is so much better than a family with 2 parents who hate each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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she really didn't have older sibs around because they were so much older that they were almost out of the house when she was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I'm the one who had my last dc at 47; I am a much better mom in my 40s than I ever would have been in my 20s or even my 30s. Obviously it's different for different people -- some women are ready to have kids in their 20s and are better moms for it; some women will never be good moms, no matter when they have their kids. Some of the people who are most critical of so-called "older moms" haven't even reached that age yet -- how do they know now what they'd be capable of when they are older? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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amen! sing it sister! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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oP: exactly..itta. I was way to selfish in my 20's to have been a mom. I waited until my 30's for my first dc and happy I did. I was so ready then and mature enough to handle this new phase in my life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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it sounds like the 46yo op is too selfish at 46 to be a mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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np and you can assess that from a 15 word post? Wow. Your powers of discernment are astounding. You know everything about her from a couple of sentences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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she posted about 50 times... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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probably trying to find some help and info and get away from you judgy bitches [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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op: where in her original post did this 46yr old say anything selfish? She was immediately judged because of her age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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I'm more concerned with the 57yo dad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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and again - this is your business because......? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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op: why? so many men have kids well into their 70's + [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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just because they do it doesn't mean its a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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op: I think it all depends on the individual. Not all 50 yr olds are the same..just as not all 20 yr olds are the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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sure, but very few 70 year olds are vigorous, and they are unlikely to live long enough to see their kid's HS graduation. which is a hard thing for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Not so many at all, few of them. They never see the kids grow up, and while some of them are rich so kids are taken care of financially, the fact that they have nephews/nieces far older than them is not so great IMO. Hardly an optimal scenario. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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oP; well this mom is 46yr old. Not like both parents will be 57yr old when they have a dc. I think 46 isn't too old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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My dad was 44 when I was born and is a fantastic, energetic father, has not missed a thing. Age is not the same for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I'm with you too. I had DD at 39 and DS at 41. I can't imagine having had them earlier. DH and I were way too selfish. We're much better and more patient now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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I read somewhere that moms who give birth older tend to live longer. Don't know what comes first though - does having children keep you young? Or does the fact that you were able to have a child when you were older mean that you are aging well? Either way I don't care - both my sister and I got preg w/o any medical intervention in our 40s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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