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[ - ] have you ever given $$ to a political candidate? Who? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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News 07.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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MYOB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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LOL! no! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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yes, obama [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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local seats only. School board, city council. Too expensive to buy favors from the other guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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wow. You are cynical! I wasn't talking about buying favors, just wondering how many people give to candidates for non personal gain reasons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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I don't give $$ for personal gain either, you're not the only one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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maybe I missed something but why are you talking about buying favors if you don't give for personal gain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I wasn't or, just saying that not everyone is as cynical at or is... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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oh. Sorry. Misunderstood! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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McCain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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yes, to Obama this year. First time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Obama and my city councilman, Steven Fulop of Jersey City [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Chicken again - anyone have a favorite recipe? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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buttermilk baked chicken - on martha's website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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thx, looks great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms with 2 kids who share a room - can you share your schedule ? about to put 2 yr old in toddler bed and need to get 4 month old in crib in same room. Wondering how to handle simultaneous naps and bedtime. Thanks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I would keep your 2yo in a crib til they are three. My two year old and 8 month old are both in cribs in their room. Baby takes a nap in the morning, and they both take their nap together after lunch. Baby usually wakes up first after 1.5hrs or so. 2yo generally naps for over 2hrs. As long as we live here and they share a room (up to another 18 months) I won't be taking either of them out of their cribs if I can help it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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I guess thats my question - if they take naps at the same time, do you just put them both down together ? or one first and sneak the other in ? Just not sure of the logistics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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My kids are older and share a room. But I used to have the baby nap in a pack and play in my bedroom. I can't remember bedtime...sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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My 2 year old was asking for a toddler bed so we got him one. Actually, it's been good. Now that he's ok sleeping in beds, he can nap in our room while newborn naps in the room they share. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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we put younger dc to bed first, then older dc to bed later (kids are 4 yrs apart, now 5 and 1). dc rarely wakes up older dc, and was a good sleeper from day 1, so no cio, which made it easier. if younger dc is still awake when older dc goes to bed, they cuddle and play in db's crib. older dc will also do same in am. it wasn't so bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a friend who prefaces EVERY daily phone call to me with "I just finished my workout..." I'm fat. Is she trying to tell me something or just obsessed with herself? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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probably the latter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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frenemy. she likes you because you make her feel self satisfied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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hmmmm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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just obsessed with herself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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I'd guess a combo of the two. You probably make her feel all proud of herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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yes, its good to know how useful I can be to my friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Obsessed might be a strong word to use here. Maybe proud is the better choice. Does she think you care? Stop acting like you do and maybe she will stop telling you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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np: wow, hostile much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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No. I am just saying. If this woman calls everyday and says "I just worked out!" with the unspoken desire to be praised, and if the OP doesn't want to praise then she needs to get that point across. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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OP: I could care less, she is surprisingly chunky for someone with a slew of personal trainers. I just find this conversational tic quite annoying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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Give us an example of what you say when she tells you she worked out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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"Oh" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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^^than I change the subject because I am afraid she will start telling me how many squats she did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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"Oh. Hm. Exercising in a gym bores me to tears." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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np if she is still chucky, maybe she is afraid people will think she doesn't work out and wants to make sure everyone knows [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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she thinks she looks fabulous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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She probably feels fabulous from all the working out which is a good thing for her... it would be annoying though... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:23 PM Flag
[ - ] what's your prognosis for someone who has lung cancer and it has now spread to his brain? how much longer would someone live with this? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I'm sorry to say but spread to the brain is usually pretty quick [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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not much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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9 months tops. my mother however has lung cancer. it did not spread to her brain but to her bones. That was a year ago and she is still alive. Now living with lung cancer for 2 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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my fil has had lung cancer for 4 years but it's just spread to his brain. not sure how this will play out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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small cell or non small cell? the thing is radiation is a bitch. much worse than chemo for lung cancer imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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ugh... i can't remember. it was very mild cancer at first but he refused to get treatment and now it's much worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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how horrible. Why did he refuse treatment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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oi - how to answer that question... do you have hours? he refused to do anything to save himself and was waiting for his family to do it for him. just like how he tried to starve himself to death last year. he's got narcissistic personality disorder (or so i believe) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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well, he's not going to be around much longer, so now is time to make your peace with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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we're trying. althought it's more the fact that dh and his brother need to make peace with the man that beat them and abandoned one of them at the age of 17. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Fathers who beat and abandon deserve such a horrible and lonely death. signed. daughter who was beaten by her father. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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wow so he is not treating the lung cancer or the brain tumor. I have no idea how quickly he will go, but expect some odd behavior from the brain tumor. He won't be himself ever again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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maybe that's better. sounds like he was an ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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1-2 months. I am sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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i'm so sorry. i lost my father to a terrible type of cancer. Although miracles happen, odds are he does not have a lot of time. Enjoy the quality moments now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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weeks, not months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Repost - any ideas for a present for friend who is due #4 any day now? She needs no more blankets, onesies etc. Max $50. Thanks in advance. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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mani/pedi/trashy magazine. Or a LL Bean bag with some cute new board books in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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^^ the other 3 kids probably trashed all the books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Best present we got was from a friend of mine for our DD #2 - an animal cartoon personalised for her with me, DH and DD#1 all featuring as elephants - hefty elephants, which pretty much summed me up at the time, but still... It is on her bedroom wall, and I have bought them for other friends since. www.carladaly.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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fresh direct delivery and a babysitter for dcs 1-3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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something personalized. we got some nice lands end beach towels when our 2nd dc was born-they were personalized and have come in handy for camp now that dc is older [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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Homemade dinner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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ooh, yes. a bunch of them frozen and easily reheatable. and in dishes that you don't want returned to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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the best baby gift i ever got, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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diapers & wipes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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gift certificate to diapers.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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Personalized blanket is nice for #4. Everything else will be hand me downs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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babyshowersbymail.com gift baskets including diapers and Burt's Bees products [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] My friend is due her fourth baby. Any ideas for a present? She has more blankets, onesies, dresses, toys, yada yada at this stage than she knows what to do with. Max $50. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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bottle of tequila [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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Dinner delivered from her favorite local restaurant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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good idea! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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mani/pedi and a good trashy magazine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I have my eye on the Wash Pod which didn't exist when my other kids where born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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what's a wash pod? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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never mind. I just googled. That thing is weird [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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LOL! I love it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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gc to a portrait place. Upholstered toddler chair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Describe the underwear your DH is wearing right now? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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white briefs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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i believe blue boxers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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black ck boxer briefs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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my dh alternates between black and gray [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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mine too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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why is that? which does he look better in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I like both... not sure why - I think its a matter of what he found at various times when he bought them. He also has white but he usually only wears them to the gym [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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very cool. has he worn boxer briefs as long as you've known him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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very cool.....i prefer black on my DH....i just like the look against his skin of that color. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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or: DH has some boxer briefs, prefers boxers most days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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no idea. I just hope it is clean and doesn't have any holes in it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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what does he usually wear? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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boxer briefs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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my blue lacy boyshorts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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that's hot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I have no idea, he's on a btrip. Hopefully they are clean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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what does he usually wear? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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He usually wears boxers unless he is running, biking or doing some sort of sporting activity and then he wears those lycra sport ones. His boxers are typically blue and have a pattern on them. Whatever is onsale in Banana he usually gets! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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gray CK boxer-briefs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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For his birthday, get him the cyclist CK boxer briefs... Trust me on this. -a dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Are you all THAT bored? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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yeah - pretty much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
[ - ] I just found the neighbor child's overdue library book in my house. That child is out of control. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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kids these days! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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YOU are out of control! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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I hope you intend to barr that child from your home. Your kids don't need a bad influence like that around [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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administer a severe beating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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yeah, the kid goes to the library, imagine that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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burn it on their lawn. that'll learn 'em [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] how do people feel about montessori style schools 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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montessori "style" or actual montessori? which one specifically? they're not all the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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my kids both went to montessori preschool. we liked it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I know there is a preschool coop downtown, maybe Nolita? Anyone know the name? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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west village nursery school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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downing st, thompson st playgroup (latter of which still had spts for this fall as of may) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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Thanks so much for both responses! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] What is usually the first sign of a learning disablity 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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delay reaching milestones, especially speaking. I am not a liscenced professional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] what are your opinions on waldorf-style schools? tia 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.02.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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depends on the child and the teacher [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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ita. Can be great, but ironically, better for self-motivated strong learners. Some parents think they're a good alternative for kids who are themselves a little "alternative" but they are actually quite rigorous and demand a lot of self-direction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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they are very much like the salad - full of fruits and nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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not so good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Wish i could do it - cant give up the t.v. tho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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they expect the parents to give up TV? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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well, you're going to watch TV while telling the kids that they can't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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why not? I drink beer and tell them they can't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I know someone who thought it was ideal until their dc started at one and got a less-than-ideal teacher. Now they want to leave--at Steiner in NYC, dc has the same teacher from K - 8, so if you're not happy, you're stuck. Not sure if this is the same in the rest of the country. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
[ - ] At what month did you get most of your nursery ready. I have 5 months to go, so I still have tons of time... right? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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I thikn it was when DD was 4 months olf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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#1 by 8 months I think I was done; #2 I finished when she was 8 months old :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Where is there a movie theater in NYC that you can bring a baby to during the day? I think there is a specific one on a specific day? Does anyone know? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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They used to do crybaby movies on the UES - the theater was on 86th btw 2-3 or 3-lex. I am totally blanking on the name. But, this was a few years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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Some Loews theaters have a "Reel Moms" movie. They used to do it on 34th street, don't know if they still do. Check their website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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they do it at sunshine on houston and at the thetre in battery park city - google it - you'll find it or call both of those theatres - chelsea used to do it too - not sure if they do anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
[ - ] where are you going? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] We have had the most adorable twin deer babies with their mother in our yard all spring. They nap right outside, play in the grass - it's like that scene out of Bambi every day. They are about 3 months old, I guess. For the last few days, mom is MIA. It's just the two foals, and they don't seem like themselves, have been sleeping even at night there. Does anyone know if deer send off their babies this young to live on their own, or (my fear) was her mother killed by a car? If mom is gone, is there anyone I can call to help the babies? I have no idea if they are old enough to survive on their own, am worried about them. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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they are going to eat your flowers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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Yeah, we don't bother with flowers. That and the deer tick checks are the downside of all the gorgeous new animal life we have at our new house. There are rabbits and chipmunks and herons and swans - kind of awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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I'm pretty sure anyone you call is going to put them down, if they do anything at all. I could be wrong, but don't call animal control, call humane society for advice first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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ITA. Call humane society, maybe your local zoo? And do it quickly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Okay, thanks. Will look up the number. Couldn't bear if they starve (or are put down). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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your zoo is not going to care about two deer babies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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np true but they can probably refer her to some organization that takes in injured wild animals. Call Peta if the zoo can't help you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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exactly. The zoo might have good resources, including people who foster deer to allow them to rehab back into the wild [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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So, not much chance this is just the age baby deer are sent to live on their own? Christ, I've watched the momma deer nurse the babies! I'm in tears about this. (Just found humane #, will call) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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no idea when they wean or how they do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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humane society won't come out an kill them, which is a plus. I don't know if anyone rehabilitates deer. In most areas, the cities are paying to cull them not save them. I hope it works out for these cute little babies though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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Left a message, hope they call back. It's clear the area is overpopulated - the nearby highway is littered with roadkill, it's awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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animal control? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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they [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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^^ will put them down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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its VERY normal for mother deer to leave their babies for fairly long stretches of time. Don't move them, or the mother won't be able to find them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Okay, thank you. I think it's been three days - does that seem normal? They used to always leave around dusk, slept somewhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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she could be looking for better forage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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CALL A VETERINARIAN! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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STOP YELLING! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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didnt know the capslock was on, geez [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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leave apples in your yard. they love apples. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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TY, will do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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we have apple trees..and lots of deer who visit/eat/poop/leave. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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they are old enough to be on their own now. mom is probably just bedded down somewhere close by. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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ok, this is crazy, but do you live in Chappaqua? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Rent question: We have rented our apt. for 10 years. We never had a lease after the first year and rent increases would only occur around our original lease date. This past year our landlord raised a lot mid-year stating the rent is too low (someone told her she could be getting a lot more than she does). DH and I were thinking to ask her for a new lease to avoid future random increases like this but I worry she will just say 'no' and keep raising the rent until we can't afford it anymore. (We really just want to buy an apt. so the idea of having a lease is actually not so great a solution for us either.) WWYD? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.02.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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get a lease. are you going to want to buy within the next 12 months? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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We have wanted to buy for many years but it's just always out of reach for us (and we are too picky for our own good)! How easy is it to get out of a lease? We would give 60 or 90 days notice and have that as a lease term? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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i am not sure you can do one that short under NY law. you mgith want to cal Legal Aid adn ask to talk to a tenant's lawyer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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were you paying well under market value? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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yes. having been here for so long we are paying less than what newcomers to the area pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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In my area, I'm pretty sure once you go month-to-month, they can only increase rent once a year. I would put that in writing with her, instead of signing a lease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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When you say put it in writing do you mean in the form of a letter to her stating our expectations or do you mean ask her to sign off on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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I'm not sure. call legal aid first, if they can't help you at all. I would at least talk to landlord and say that in future rent increases should only be once a year. It's in her best interest to keep long term tenets as happy as possible. But this isn't going to keep her from raising the rent, that's her right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. I am just afraid talking to her will tip her off that we do have a breaking point and she will keep on with the increases as I assume that too is her right since we don't have a lease. Would love to have a heart to heart, without showing her our limitations, but that seems hard to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I don't think that it is unreasonable on your part to request that all rent increases be valid for a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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Even a lease wont protect you from rent increases [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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it will protect her from mid-year ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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OP: yes, it's the random, mid-year increases I want to protect myself from. Are you saying a lease won't protect me from that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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it will protect you from that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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did she give you a lease for the new rent. how does she enforce it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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in the past she would just tell us. Then we started to ask for it in writing (letter form). She hasn't had to enforce it....we just honor it since up until now we seemed to all agree to the same (lease-less) rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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you are basically month-to-month in your rental. The rent did not occur "mid-year." If you want to be protected from periodic, unexpected increases, you need to be willing to sign a year or two-year lease. Your landlord has the right to say no to your request for a lease, though. But I would think she would want one for her own protection. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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^^^ sorry, the rent increase did not occur "mid-year" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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and how do you break a lease? Say we find a place to buy in 6 months, is there a way to break a lease in a civil way?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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it's usually spelled out in the lease terms. For me, I have to keep paying until someone else moves in, which they can take advantage of and decide that this is the perfect time to do a bunch of work on it while they're still getting paid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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Right. I see what you are saying. Damn. I just want to own! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] we are looking to possibly move to massapequa LI. i am preg. does anyone know the closest best hospital near there? i delivered quickly with #1 and i am nervous i won't make it to north shore manhasset. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.02.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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isnt there a branch of LIJ in plainview? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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i am unfamiliar with LI. i know great neck/manhasset. is plainview close to massapequa? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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Closer than great neck : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] why do people compete over when their child gets potty trained? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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I was not aware that they did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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b/c their entire identity is wrapped up in having an uber child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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