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[ - ] My SIL has a 2 month old baby. MIL seems to strongly hint that SIL is the only one who can get pregnant again this year and that I shouldn't even bother ttcing at all. . 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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Good job it's nothing to do with her then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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My MIL is turd. SIL can't support the baby she has now without getting lots of handouts. But I think she will go ahead and have baby #2 right away. They are waay to interested in the fact that we are ttcing, it is such a pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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If she is even considering ttc and her dc is only 2mo she must be mad! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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by handouts, I mean hand-me down outfits and MIL just got her a subscription to Parent's Magazine. SIL EBF right now, and she got a pile of diapers at her shower. Once the initial gifts are used up, I am sure they will soon realize how expensive it is to be a parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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You should just tell them all that you've stopped ttc. That isn't something you an audience for! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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is she a weird pregnancy psychic ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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crazy... why on earth would sil want to get pg this year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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If it makes you feel better, two hours after being diagnosed with an ectopic pg. my MIL decided to give me a 30 min lecture on why we shouldn't even try again and just go straight to ivf.... MILs suck and say the dumbest thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:41 AM Flag
[ - ] It's embarassing, so please do not chide me, but I was watching the show with Tori Spelling and her DH is making a movie with some 25 year old woman and she is worried that he will cheat on her while on the set with this new woman. She asked, "How do I know he won't do to me what he did before ? he was married when we got together !" Exactly ! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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why oh why do women marry these guys?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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He might! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I know. Like the other post says, "karma is a bitch". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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And she always conveniently forgets that she was also married at the time... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I remember reading about this monster wedding and millions of dollars and all of that. Now she's got her "soul mate" and she's worried. I think some souls must be very different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:46 AM Flag
[ - ] I got my period 2 1/2 weeks ago, but it was short one, barely 4 days at best and not super heavy. This month, I am peeing like crazy even in middle of night, I want to sleep in a lot and am kind of moody. Do you think I could be pregnant and still have gotten somewhat of a period? I know I have heard of this but it seems kind of rare. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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Stranger things have happened. Do a test and let us know! GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I knew a young woman who had her period for 5 mths before the dr. surprised her and told her that she was expecting in 4 mths!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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it is rare, but better be safe than sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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My girlfreidn actually has two uteruses (uteri ?!) like on the TV show with doctors that everyone watches but me ! She had her period while pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Wow, I have a tipped back uterus but had two c-sections, so I think my Dr. would have told me of something like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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I need to take a test and see, because I haven't been taking enough prenatals. It would be kind of weird after not being able to get pregnant for more then a year. I have two daughters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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yes, it could have been implantation spotting. I had that. Take a test, pronto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] what is an HCG trigger shot? what does it help you do? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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never heard of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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release the egg from the follicle? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] going through 2nd miscarriage. i have a 2 year old. got pregnant with her in 2 months, before that, the first time i tried I got pregnant but miscarried. Trying for #2 and got pregnant first try but am going through a miscarriage again. Luckily, I have gotten pregnant easily although I have had miscarriages. do you think luck is on my side that I will get pregnant quickly again? I am so anxious about it - especially since I am now dealing with another D&C. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I'm sorry you are having to go through all that. GL for your next pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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I'm sorry you have to go through that again... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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That's really tough, I've heard that it is easier to get pg after miscarriage, but I have no idea if this is urban legend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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np I have heard this too, something to do with the increased hormones GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Babies R Us in Union Square SUCKS SO BAD. Discuss. (They have literally 2 different pack n' plays in stock and that's it). 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.03.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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yes they don't have that much when it comes to big items. I just came from Buy Buy Baby and they didn't have that much either (was looking for big items). I will have to go to the one on Central Ave in Yonkers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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can't you just order it online? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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wow, I have always had good exp there. though I have low expectations. but I bought cheap pack and play and cheap mac there. i found their customer service better than bbb too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] what is an HCG trigger shot? what does it help you do? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.03.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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a trigger shot makes you ovulate within a certain persiod of time. it is used for ivf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I had an affair with a married man and he treated me badly. So I looked at his email account and found that he had been sending the same fantasies to me as he had been sending to his DW. If you were his DW would you want to know? 115 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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yes, but not from you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I can't think of a way to do it anonymously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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I would want to know he cheated on me. I hate when people say that the wife wouldn't want to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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Just like they shouldn't, you should not speak for all wives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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He treated you badly she didn't just remember that. Don't tell her just to punish her husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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He says she told him to have an affair. If she was in on the way he treated me, why shouldn't she know that she has been conned too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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np: and you believe him that his wife gave him permission to screw someone else? I have a bridge to sell you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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She had lovers of her own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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Then she won't care. Just put it down to experience and move on. You might make a fool of yourself and there is no way of you coming out well of this unless you just walk away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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If there is a possibility that she knows already, leave it alone. She doesn't care at all how you were treated. Even if you told about the affair, you should not go into those details. You're making this about you, not her. You should have known that someone who would cheat isn't going to be a nice person to date. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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He is a cheater he cannot be trusted. Of course he would tell you that. If she told him to have an affair she probably wouldn't be interested in your revelations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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you get what you deserve. Do you really think a man who treats his wife like he does (ex..having a mistress) doens't have issues? he does..so do you for thinking so little of yourself and not thinking you deserve more in life than someone elses dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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I know how stupid this sounds, but I really fell for him. I thought he was my ideal man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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But he was his wifes ideal man first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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then you're naive and now you know better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Are you married too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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If the only way I was going to find out that dh was cheating on me was from his lover, I would want to know. This can't be about revenge though, and you absolutely cannot give details like going into his email. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I would not want to know like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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don't do that. what you did was wrong and now your hurt. leave his wife alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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He was my supervisor at work. He said he told his wife about us and she questioned his common sense about being involved with someone junior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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what does this have to do with anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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and your point is??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Because the implication is that they are just these fine folks and I am some piece of trash [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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she's his wife. get over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Fine or not, you did something shitty, I'm sure you know it, and now you want to lash out. Try to be better than that. Be the person you should be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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None of us think that they are fine, they obviously have serious issues, but it is just as obvious that you do too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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How about: you and her DH are obviously trash, she might be (depending on whether he is telling the truth). Feel better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I don't think that you really care about the wife at all, you are hurt and want to make him hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Hang on. It takes two to tango. He was there too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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It was like they were both playing a game with me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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you need therapy. She was not a part of this relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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They were and now it's over - walk away and try to hang on to what is left of your dignity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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Duh it takes two to tango, but this post is about her and her hurt, no one else. When most of us have sh*tty bf, we have no one to complain to, she wants to go complain to his wife about how he treated her! That's messed up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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I didn't expalin this very well. I think she was in on it from the start, behind the scenes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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so she deserves to suffer too? you are one mesed up chick. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Some of the things he said to me, sounded like only a woman could have thought of them It's like she told him to say them to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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please get therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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Why on earth do you need to confront her than? At the start you were asking if she should know, and now you're saying she already does and you blame her for her DH being a jerk. I think that you're either being paranoid or foolish, because either way, it shouldn't matter to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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No that she should know about the affair, because I think she did. But that she should know he was sending the same fantasies to both of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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Why do you think she's going to care? The fantasies are not the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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and that suprises you? that he has a fantasy and that he is sharing it with the women in his life? #1 how old are you, and #2 you need therapy because you sound obsessed, and #3 this is what you got yourself into - when you want to play with the big boys, then you have to be a big boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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Oh My God. Are you 19 years old ? The most disturbing thing to you is the idea of the fantasies ?! Your focus is truly NOT where it should be... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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Yes and he is the one who is married and has responsibilty to his wife. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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walk away from it. start over. lose the anger. you will only hurt yourself and others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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ITA. She had an affair with a married man and made a big-girl decision. She needs to be a big-girl about the end of the affair too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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especially since she worked or still works with the guy, this can only hurt her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I'm still a bit confused as to whether or not her anger is about the fact that he sent his fantasies to his wife and they should have been special fantasies only for her, or is the anger about something else ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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You are right. I know you think I should suck it up. But he was real nasty. He told me he thought I would be better in bed than I was. It was pretty humblating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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he's a scum bag - he was looking for fun and that was it. get past it. acknowledge that you made a bad choice to get involved with him, regardless of whether he treated you badly or if his wife was in on it. It was your bad choice. And, then, go on with your life. I'm sure you're young and attractive. Forget about him. He was toxic and you should be happy that you are not married to this man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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I'm sure you;re great in bed and you made a choice to get involved with an ass. We've all done something we regret. Now be better than him - be who your mom wants you to be - and walk past him looking fab with an air of "Fuck you loser". His poor wife has enough to deal with already I would guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Get over it and go get therapy. If he was nasty you should have walked out. He does sound like a creap, but you should have known better, and if you didn't then you need help from a professional on setting boundaries and working on your self esteem. Us UBers are completely happy to rip the nasty guys a new one, but you sound a bit unbalanced, or very very young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I was the one who ended it after he said that. But I still really mad, and I still think about it a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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maybe you should try talking to someone about it. therapy - I think it would be helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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But what do you think that you will gain from telling the wife about the fantasies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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I don't know. I think I just want them to know that it was not right to walk all over me like that. I have seen them walk over other people too. His wife got fired for fiddling her expenses. They think they can get away with anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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And they are going to get away with this. Honestly, if you're right, they are going to laugh in your face. How do you propose to "punish" them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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I could tell her new boss she got fired for fiddlig her expenses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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But I don't want to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Does her DH still work with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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He's leaving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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you have nothing to gain if you do anything. Telling her new boss is crazy. You are just setting yourself up for more humiliation, and I don't understand why you would want to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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Because it was so awful. He told me that he wanted to be my friend. He told me that he thought that I was beautiful. And then he just turned on me like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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but you will gain nothing! I'm sorry, but you have a problem if you can't let this go, which means you need to see a therapist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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Maybe. I just thought it might make me feel better. I also thought of calling his daughter and telling her because she is my age. But I won't. I know it's no good, but I just think about ways to get back at them all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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call a therapist now. This isn't normal, and you don't have to be this consumed by it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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oh my! i think it is a little late for you to be on the wife's side... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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I'm not. I just don't understand why they did this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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He didn't have to deceive me like that and pretend to my freind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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np: SHE did nothing to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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op is a bit nutty... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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Yeah, just a teensy bit crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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That's not fair. I'm just very upset, and trying to figure a way out to help myself out of a bad situation by telling my anger a little in a place where nobody knows me, rather than talking to my family or co-workers or people who would know the couple that I am speaking of, and having the whole thing get out of control. I though that's what these online places were for. I don't think I am any more 'nutty' than all the ladies that spend all their time talking about how people who are going to send their kids to this school, or that school, are any better or worse than anybody else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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yes, but it is obvious that you have serious issues that you keep trying to make about them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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You seem to think there is some plot against you. The truth is painful but simple: you were used for sex by a man who isn't a nice guy, and it's your own fault because you should know better than getting involved with a married man. It's over now, you've learned from it, spend your energy finding a great guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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ahhhh but she hasn't learned from it and is obsessed with making them know that they messed her up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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I'm assuming she was vulnerable or messed up already. Men like this search out women like her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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So, maybe I can try to see the funny side. He told me all that stuff so he could have sex with me and then he thougt the sex was bad. I know you are right. I need to get over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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You showed him! :) Seriously, he says this to victimize you, to further degrade you. He's a liar - about his wife, about himself, and about you too. You aren't who he says you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Any guy who tells you after having sex with you that the "sex was bad" is a creep. No matter what the sex was like - good, bad, or indifferent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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do you think perhaps your guilt is manifesting itself as anger and resentment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I don't think what you're saying is nutty OP. I think you went through something that you feel very hurt about. We all make mistakes. I think you will find someone better and can hopefully learn from this bad experience. I don't think you should contact his wife. I would just try to forget about the two of them. Best Wishes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I hope these people keep the bunny indoors 'cause she's a nut case ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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the more she writes and explains, the more psycho she becomes ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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I think you are being very judgemental about my situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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you slept with a married man!!!! there is no other way to be other than judgemental! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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He told me he was allowed to have an affair. Like I said in the other topic, maybe I was a bit stupid to belive it. But I did not think that I was doing anything against his vows because he said his wife said it was OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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instead of reading and rereading what we think about the sad situation that you find yourself in, go out and meet a healthy single guy. Your behavior was wrong, but everyone makes mistakes. Your rationale for wanting to call his wife is immature, and slightly crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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what would he say? i mean rationally, you have to know this is wrong? my husband cheated on me and i confronted the woman-i think she got off on knowing he was "spoken for", maybe you need to be honest with yourself in order to get over this... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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I am sorry that happened to you. I thought that it was OK. I actually felt lucky because I had a chance to spend some time with what I thought was my ideal man. I knw I have been dumb about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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you sound like a good person, present situation withstanding, just try and forget about him and move on. if the wife is agreeable, like you say, then they are made for each other. if he is a scheming, manipulative bastard, he will get his... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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for the future, anyone who says that their wife don't mind them sleeping around is bad news. No one in a happy healthy relationship would do that, so he's either lying or he's so intolerable that the dw doesn't want to sleep with him anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I never thought about it like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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yes. because it is pathetic and sad to read about a woman devaluing herself to such a level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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Well, I will take away some value from the fact that I called it off after he was so nasty. And I agree that being mad at his wife is being mad at the wrong person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Great. Now all you can do is make changes within so as not to fall victim to this type of thing in the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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I'm glad that you're figuring this all out. I hope that you're able to move on soon and find a nice single guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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OP - some of these people are obviously very threatened by your post, maybe because they are worried about what their own husbands do. I don't think you did anything wrong, other than getting involved with the wrong man, and many women have done that. You did not take any marital vows, and for all anyone knows, you could be a woman who does not believe it marriage, so I don't see where what you did was wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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OP - I have a suggestion. If you go to the website www.ivillage.com, and click on the section called "Love" -- under this heading there is another heading called, "Relationship Problems" and then under "Relationship Problems" there is something called "My Affair Support". This section is for people who have had affairs, and who want to talk to others who have also had affairs without being judged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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He is calling me this morning. He has called me twice -- when I saw the number I knew who it was and did not answer. What could he want with me now? I hate this. I hate that I am being tested in this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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tested ? It's not so hard to pass this one. Get some self-esteem and behave accordingly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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You are lucky that you are so strong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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You could have benefitted from an eductaion at a women's college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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I never went to college. My dad does not believe in it. A women's college sounds like it would be great. Are there really no men there? not even teachers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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now I know you're joking. Have a good day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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No, I am not joking. I was just asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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Why is he calling if he said "the sex was bad"? I wouldn't want to have anything to do with a man who said that to me, everything else aside. It wouldn't even be a "test" for me to not answer his calls. Seriously, this one thing, in one itself, should be enough for you to get away from this loser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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I think he is just playing with me a little. Maybe he know he has power over me and he likes that. I don't know. And it tests me because there is a part of me that wishes it had turned out ina different way. And I keep thinking that maybe if I start back up with him the next time will be different. I know it won't (and there are planty of people on here who will tell me so :)) but it's just hard sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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op; i also once hada dream that he had a party in his house. the driveway was just like a grand driveway in a hotel. There was a weird cloakroom with a window looking on the driveway, and I hid in the cloakroom and watched the cars come and go for the whole time. I looked it up on dreammoods.com and it said if you dream of a prty you need to go out more. They got that right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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Find someone who deserves you-- and who is also SINGLE. If this married man thinks you are beautiful, I'm sure there are many other men who feel the same way. You have not said anything about this man that makes him seem at all appealing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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op: I hate these people. I just found out they filed a lawsuit against a big company sayig the wife slipped and hurt her leg on the premises and she hasn't been able to walk right since. But i know that she goes horse riding all the time. They are asking for damage of more than $200,000. They are so dishnest. How can they gat away with this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:55 PM Flag
[ - ] If you live in an apt building in NYC, would you leave a 6 month old sleeping alone in a crib, leave the apartment, to go downstairs to get laundry out of the laundry room? 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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Yes...and I did. When you don't have help, you have to do what you have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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np: that thing you have to do can wait until dc is up from the nap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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you can wait until dc wakes up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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not always you can't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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yes you can. You don't have to do the laundry around dc nap time. It can be avoided [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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ITA - it is hard to manage around naps but it is possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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hell NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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NO! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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is this trick question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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yes, if you'll be gone less than 5 mins. Some people on this board have major issue with this though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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NO. I watch too much Law & Order, Law & Order SVU, Law & Order Criminal Intent, etc tec [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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I agree but I grew up in Manhattan, daugter of a cop, no way in hell would I leave my 6mo old, my 3yr old or any small dc alone in my apt while I go downstairs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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you are an inexcusable idiot if you actually base parenting decisions on those shows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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go kick your dog [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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I don't have a dog, because once I watched "Old Yeller," and now I'm terrified of having a dog in case he dies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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It's a shame you never saw a movie about a constipated and nasty woman who goes on a website to spread her venom and is then turned into a toad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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No, let me know if that documentary about you ever finds a distributor, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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absolutely not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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what can happen in five minutes? really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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the problem is there is no guarantee taht it is five minutes. elevator breakdown, blackout, god forbid a fire, adn you are screwed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Make sure you have your keys & your cell phone & don't get distracted. It will be fine. I've done this many times & the fact that I knew an earthquake might happen while I was out of the house made me do whatever had to be done & get right back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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but what do you do if somehow you can't get back? i don't think its going to work out too well fro you if you tell 911 to come get you out of the elevaotr and oh, your baby is alone in your apt. i know, very unlikely but its enough to stop me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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NP: By that reasoning, why do you ever leave your apartment with DCs? A car could jump the curb and run you over on the sidewalk; you could trip and push your stroller into the street; etc. In the scheme of things, this is not a major risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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on some level, sure. but 1. laundry can wait and 2. for me the issue is not so much mere danger as the baby being alone. sure, my stove coudl blow up while i'm at home too, but i'd rather it nto happen when nobody is with the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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Fire? Lock breaks with db inside? Elevator failure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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sure would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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absolutely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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hello....madeline mccann ring a bell? def not, schedule it around nap. i know it's a PITA, but how horrible would you feel if something happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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what about locking the door behind you when you leave? that would keep somebody else out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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there's a BIG difference between leaving your kid in an unlocked hotel in Portugal while you eat dinner for long periods of time in another place and leaving your child in a locked apartment for 5 minutes while you're still in the building [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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look, i know ppl do this all the time. however, not hard for someone to break into a locked door. the act of locking the door doesn't mean ppl are going to stay out if there's something in there they really want. it's your call, but since you asked our opinions, mine is: don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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funny, this was one of my first posts on ub about 6years ago and I got flamed big time!!! I did and continued to do so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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This is such a devisive topic. I'm usually in the better safe than sorry category. But, in this case, so many factors would have to converge - someone would have to want to break in to my apt at the exact time that I leave for 5 min. Unless I was being stalked, the odds seem so slim. I'd get the laundry - quickly and do nothing else. I couldn't live assuming that someone is outside my door ready to pounce the second I leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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funny that people are worried more about someone breaking in than something that would happen (fire, attack, police, anything) that would make it impossible for you to go back upstairs from the laundry room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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ITA. i dont worry about kidnapping, i worry about getting stuck in the elevator [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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this is my big concern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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I would until I mentioned it in passing and my dw's head nearly exploded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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First kid? Maybe now she [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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(whoops) maybe now she is a little more seasoned she may be more flexible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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That was with #1. It is no such a big sacrifice (to not do laundry) that I pushed with #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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God, yes. Otherwise we'd have no clean clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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no, and I am extremely laid back about nearly everything. And I only live on the fifth floor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Maybe I would if I could get there on the stairs. But I'd have to use the elevator, and it breaks down occasionally, so no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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i have friends here in the burbs that leave their sleeping kids to drive to the train station a mile away to pick up dh late at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Hmm. I've taken down garbage or quickly run to basement and back...one or two minutes, but still, scary. Just don't forget your keys... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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i did while he was sleeping, came back and he was still sleeping. i usually prefer not to but i do it once in a while. i have no help, what else can i do? im ok with it and i am a wonderful mom! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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No. The furthest I go is to the trash chute (two doors down). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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I suppose the final test is what would happen to you legally if something terrible happened to your baby in the 5 short minutes you were gone. This didn't happen in my house but easily could have...my husband and 4 yo in early spring had a small pocket flashlight spontaneously combust after entering our car inside our garage and my husband had used it momentarily. It had 2 double AA batteries. The end melted off and spewed a huge black smoke cloud. This flashlight could have been inside our house. Near something flammable. Like the junk battery powered toys everyone gives your child scattered around his or her room. I never would have believed this could happen until it happened to us. You take your child with you. The laundry or pint of ice cream is not as important as your child's life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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Yup. And in an emergency, I've taken the dog out to the curb and back as well. I do live on a low floor and could walk back up if necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.08, 12:03 AM Flag
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That is if you can get back inside the building DB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] need to buy bedroom furniture. where is a good place to look online? looking for something nice (finally replacing our ikea stuff!) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Try blacksfurnture.com. They'll direct you to the manufacturer's sites in most cases, but if you pick out what you want and call them their prices can't be beat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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^^sorry that should be blacksfurniture.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:17 AM Flag
[ - ] When should my dc take erb's? He has a late fall bday (will be turning 5). 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.03.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Probably should have taken them this past spring. I would have him take them asap; if they are given at your preschool, wait until early fall, or have him take them at the center this summer. He should definitely take them before 5; there is a scoring disadvantage the older the child gets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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ITA; he should take them before he turns 5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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tritto. my fall dc took this spring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know what those plastic scrunchy tubes are called? They have kind of accordion pleats and kids can bend them to make hats or animals out of them? DD loves playing with them at daycare and I can't find them anywhere. Sound familiar to anyone? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.03.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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don't know what they are called but I think they have them at State News in the party favors section and at that stationery/toy store on 72nd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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http://www.superduperinc.com/O_Pages/om112.htm - Rapper Snappers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Almost 38 y/o have 1 year old db how long can I put off trying for #2? Really content at the moment but not that much time to play with.... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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No one can answer this for you. If you don't want another dc yet then you can wait but you don't know if it will work. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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I wouldn't wait too much longer. How long did it take to get pg w/ #1? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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It took 4 months with #1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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np. If you know you want #2 then I'd go for it. If you fall pg straight away you still have 9m to get used to the idea. If you aren't sure you want #2 then wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I suppose that I would look at the statistics and figure out how long you're willing to wait/how much you really want to have #2. This is different for everyone, and if you have money for ivf and potential donor eggs, it may be less crucial. If you're going to beat yourself up really bad if you miss the window for #2, then I would start trying soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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It is the only negative thing about having waited to have kids-the pressure to have another so soon. Life is moving so nicely but if we want #2 I guess you just jump in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Having 2 close together is great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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I am just a little freaked out at thinking about the hard parts of juggling two small kids in NYC. I have to get over it if I want #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I am SAHM and dreaded having to cope with 2dcs but really it's been fine 21m age difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Girlfriend is gettin her uterus cauterized today. I have never heard of this. She has three DC, is obviously not planning on getting pregnant again, and is doing this to never get a period again. Does anyone know about this ? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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anyone ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I've never heard of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Never heard of this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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sounds painful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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She says it's 5 minutes, they give her drugs (not general though) and she'll be at the pool parties tomorrow in her bathing suit ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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GL for that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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I know. she says she has awful periods like "not leaving the house" kind of periods and this is an easy fix ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] do you smoke? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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not cigarettes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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No, I do not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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i quit when i was pregnant, but if i live to be 75, i'm starting again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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i like you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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I always used to say that if my doctor ever sits me down and says, "You have 6 months to live." I'm stopping on the way home for a pack of Parliaments. But now I look at my 6 yo and my 3.5 yo and I don't think I'd do that. I don't miss the smoking that much and I'd hate for their memories of me to be with a smoke in my mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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that's a good point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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never [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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no, but i am smokin' [ Reply | More
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