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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] what should i expect to pay for a full-time live out nanny? her hours would be 8a-6p m-f for one 3 month old. what about daycare, any good recommendations in manhattan? how would the price differ? tia! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.09.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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I'd budget about $15/hr for a nanny. I think daycare ends up being about 1/2 the price of a nanny? At least when I was looking... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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IME anywhere from $500-$650/week for a nanny (no matter what UB tells you) depending on how much experience and whether on/off books, etc. Daycare for a newborn can run about $500/week, but I think that gets less expensive as dc gets older, whereas a nanny will get more expensive (annual raises) assuming you keep the same one. I've heard good things about Buckle My Shoe and one on the UES and one on the UWS but I can't think of the names of either right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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The Little Red Schoolhouse I think is the one on the UES.... low 90's around Madison, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that Camp Pierce plays videos on the bus commute to/from camp?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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If they do it might be preferable to what my kids had, which was a driver who played the Z100 Morning Zoo. It was "very educational", as they say!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
[ - ] If I have a question about CT - where do I post? Just general?? can't get an answer in general... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I grew up there, what is the ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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looking for a hard wood floor guy to stain my floors... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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sorry, can't help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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what part of connecticut? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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westport [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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bill evans. he's in the phone book and lives in westport. he's great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone suggest a floor guy to stain my wood floors in Westport, CT? just moved here! TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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Do you mean to stain them or to finish them? Staining is adding color/darkening, finishing is replacing the shiny top coat. (This is done with any one of several products either oil, wax, varnish or most common now a days- poly urethane.) If you stain them you will have to then finish them. (I have no help for your part of CT. Sorry.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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What about asking your broker for a recommendation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Running moms - did you run for your whole pregnancy? If so, how did you change your normal routine? I know I am not supposed to get over heated or short of breath. I normally run 5 miles 3-4 days a week and had no idea if that was too much. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.09.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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I think it's pretty hard to keep running after the seventh month. At that point (with all three pregnancies) I switched to lower-impact exercise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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That is what I was thinking too. But, how did you change your routine up until that point? Less mileage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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I kept it pretty much the same until my tummy started to feel like it was moving on its own, separately from the rest of me. I went a bit slower, though -- but at a certain point it stopped feeling appropriate to do something so percussive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I figured that would happen. With #1 had got a pain in my stomach at about 15 weeks so decided I was done running since it was not worth any risk. Very early on now so just keeping it a bit slower and staying on the treadmill if it is very hot and humid outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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Sounds like you've got it figured out pretty well. Try to listen to your body -- I found that I could do more exercise than my doctors expected, and I was guided by what felt right to me. Worked out very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Have to buy new stationary and will use it for school thank you notes in fall. Do I get "John and Mary Smith", "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" or "Mary and John Smith". 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.09.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Brad and Angie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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just get your monogram and call it a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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I would do Mary and John Smith, but that's just me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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Thx - I just am not familiar with the etiquette here - the wife is first? Makes sense . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Technically, it should just say Mary Smith, Mrs. Mary Smith or Mrs. John Smith but people often put two names on it. I have 1/2 Mary Smith and 1/2 Mrs. John Smith and I used either depending on the situation. My DH never writes notes to school, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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You have a point, since I will be writing the notes. But won't they say "we loved your school" etc. as if they are from both of us? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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Technically, this is what you are supposed to do. "John and I loved your school for little junior and thought x, y and z" but it's tricky because most people don't know what formal etiquette is or care anymore and they sometimes get confused when I send notes. In any case, if you are going with two names I say scratch the Mr. and Mrs. or get a cream card with a swirly cream monogram and they won't be able to really tell whose letters are on there. I like Reaves Engraving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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OP: Thank you - that is really helpful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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Yes, but it does make more sense to get stationary for only you - on wedding ty notes, etc., one person writes and signs them but still says "We loved..." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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-- although he has stationary too, he has just never used it. Fold over cards are more formal, note cards (like postcards) are either less formal or for men I forget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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Do you think for the more formal, east side schools I should use fold over, Mrs. John Smith and more casual for the others? I know this sounds like minutiae but it is really helpful since I have to order the stuff pretty soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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No, I totally can see how you have to think about this! I am not even sure. I think you have to go with the type of person you are, but can do foldover for both types of schools. You don't sound like someone that would have "Mrs. John Doe" stationary so far, probably a little less over the top formal. Now I can't decide! Read the Reaves Engraving site information and read what Cranes.com says? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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I would probably pick between Mrs. Jane Doe, the cream on cream swirly initial ones so you seem vague, and John and Jane Doe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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just get all the same cards with just your name on them. write dh's name in the note, like "John and I felt that..." etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Mr and Mrs John Smith would turn me off big time, personally. Like the Mrs doesn't have her own name? But if applying to traditional schools, that would be just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Unless you are applying to ss girls schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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I did all my notes on the computer on standard size business stationery. We both signed the letters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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Cannot believe someone in 2008 is considering Mr. and Mrs John Smith. Sorry, but you do have a name. Our world is regressing daily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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ITTTTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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I totally disagree. I use "Dr. and Mrs. MarriedName" socially, and professionally, "Jane MaidenName X." And I don't feel the least bit backwards. I like the feeling of unity with my husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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but why can you be Dr. John and Mrs. Mary Smith? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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go back to the 50s. or better yet, if you want unity, why not dr. and mrs jane smith? why his name. it is freaky in this day and age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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ITTTTTTTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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ITTD. I think it's fine if you personally want to do whatever, but I think it's a sign that feminism is moving forward in a way that women don't feel like they NEED to make a statement via their name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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total bs rationalization. cannot believe you believe this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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I would just use generic thank you cards, not the personalized ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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That is really tacky. You mean you would use the ones that say "thank you" on the front? Plain, non-monogrammed note cards are fine, but not pre-printed thank you notes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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And you are ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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so much thoughts and energy wasted on something that is going straight in the garbage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Does anyone know if the right stationery is really important in this day and age? Perhaps for a few schools, but which ones? I guess I was naive, but I saw the letter-writing as a purely business type transaction. I was not thanking someone for the dinner party they gave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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if you're hanging your hat on the proper stationery to get in to a great private school, you're grasping at straws. Really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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Mine says "Mary J. Smith" and I signed them from me but referenced DH. E.g.: "Thank you so much for meeting with John and me yesterday. We both enjoyed the opportunity to learn more about the Fancy School . . . . " [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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I have monogrammed and Mrs. Sara Smith stationery and I used the latter for thank you notes. There are few places to use Mr. and Mrs. John Smith stationery these days. (And I am an ardent traditionalist!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Mary and John Smith [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] LONG ISLAND - I am trying to find a stroller travel system for a young girl who is expecting in August. Does anyone know of someone who may have a gently used one they are looking to sell or possibly donate? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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try craig's list [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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I have a new Evenflo stroller and carseat I would donate - call me 718 484 0032 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Hi, thanks for your response. I left you a message yesterday. You can reach me at 631-608-5017. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:06 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think about the name Scarlett for my baby? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.09.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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bad idea jeans [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Not a fan - people will think you are trying too hard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a laparoscopy? how was it? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Name Poll: Victoria Grace, nn Vita 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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nice (though i am tired of grace these days) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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op - I'm not a huge fan either but we have to use it as is family name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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it's fine, i'm just saying. if you really don't want to use it you could use another name that means grace (hannah, marianne, nina). vita is cool though. i like hannah victoria also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Thanks... I really love the nn Vita, and are naming for 2 grandmothers, so not a lot of flexbility (I'm really not the traditional sort but it just ended up this way - both recently passed away) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:56 AM Flag
[ - ] can anyone recommend a really good house cleaning service in nyc? thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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Manhattan Housekeeping Plus - 212-300-2083. Totally over the top amazing but also super $$$$. Last time I used them it was $30 per hour per person. But truly the best cleaners ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] did we discuss the Sunday NYT article on the noise children make in apartments and complaining neighbors? That article could have been based on my ds and our travails with our downstairs neighbors. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.09.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Saw the article. Feel so lucky. We are on the top floor, and the next 3 apartments below us in our line all have young children. I'm sure our downstairs neighbors hear us, but have never complained, probably because they know they make noise, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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yeah, our downstairs neighbors don't have kids but have been trying. I hope they have a baby soon so they will understand our situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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I don't think so, but we are in big trouble with this. We live in a bldg from the 1920s/30s and the ppl below us have complained. I feel bad, but the carpet doesn't help. We are up early on weekends, and sometimes play "rough." I am going to get more carpets and carpet pads, but it's tough b/c we have a toddler, we just do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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just because you have a toddler doesn't mean you have to let him/her play rough and make noise. Its the summer for god's sake TAKE THEM OUTSIDE signed your downstairs neighbors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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kids make noise. Signed a person with reasonable expectations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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and in the winter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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A certain amount of rough play goes with the territory. I don't insist you stop juggling anvils or whatever you do with yourself in the evenings. Signed, YOUR downstairs neighbors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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"we just do" is kin of like saying "f You" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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what do you want them to do, kill their toddler?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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Sorry, I actually do care but dd just is a toddler. For instance, she sometimes likes to play ring a round the rosey... and the all fall down part was apparently very loud. DD goes to daycare M-F and to the park until 7:15 and to sleep at 8:30 after daycare, so we actually aren't home all that often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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np: i would say don't "play rough" in the mornings. i have kids and i really try to keep them quiet in the early hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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OR. I think my play rough thing distracted everyone. The article was about the fact that even if you try, the noise from a toddler piddle paddling and dropping things sometimes - acting pretty calm. It's hard for everyone, because it's annoying to hear the noise, but people also have to be reasonable if they live in a building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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I agree with that, believe me. my neighbors bitch whenever we have a playdate because the kids run. if 4 pm isn't a time to reasonably expect kids playing (and when most adults are at work) i don't know when is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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oh Mrs. B hello again! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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oh good lord- get over yourself. why would you even say something like that? you are a freak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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UM--I'm responding, you dolt, to the person who said that saying "we have a child" is like saying "fuck you" to the neighbors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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so you think it's OK to use the expression "kill their toddler"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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you're a moron. How's that expression work for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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time to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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What is the article about and what is your situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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We have a kid upstairs who is probably 6 or 7, and he is a real thumper. We've only banged on the ceiling a couple of times in the last year when it seemed endless, but come on...after 10pm? Put that kid to bed! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:18 AM Flag
[ - ] How often do you buy new underwear? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Had nuchal come back w/ 1/89 odds of downs (am 36, so this is not much worse than age alone which was 1/110). Have not felt like anything was wrong this pg (I had a mc before this and "knew" something was off the whole time). Now waiting for CVS results and SO nervous. The fact that I'm nervous doesn't mean something is wrong..right? Ugh, this waiting sucks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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no, its'normal to stress. I was same and all was ok, GL> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Did you get a "bad" nuchal? And thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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No. You are nervous because of information. I think the initial gut instinct is more powerful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Thanks, this calms me down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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I have heard about several circumstances that the nuchal results were not accurate. You are very reasonable for being nervous - I would be too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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