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[ - ] Speaking of tardiness, how does private schools handle this? Late pickup? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.09.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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they won't tolerate it. Most charge you extra money for late pickups. If you have a problem with tardiness / late pickup in preschool, it will go on the preschool report, which hurts your chances of getting into an ongoing school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:47 AM Flag
[ - ] When did you tell your older kids that you were pregnant? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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after CVS results came back. she suspected before that and I told her maybe she was right and i'd have to ask my doctor to check the next time I saw her. i started showing early and DD unusually perceptive... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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how old is your dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:43 AM Flag
[ - ] OP: I am not a SAHM. I work fulltime and commute to city from burbs. Therapist doesnt seem to have an opinion and refuses to take sides. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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are you the one going thru the separation? not that a therapist should take sides, but perhaps you should look into another one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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it sounds like you need to take a stand. are you willing to try and work it out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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ita - your dh has no motivation to change as he has a great se up with the lifestyle he is having and that you are allowing. Also the therapist is only there to facilitate communication between you and your dh. They will not and should not take sides or give advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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To the op - to reply to posts click 'reply' just after the post and a text box will open up. You are making new posts each time you try to reply [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone provide info/reviews of ballet schools in NYC for preschoolers? I'm looking at the Joffrey school in the village but have heard good things about Ballet Academy East. My 3yo lives for ballet, but are these programs really worth the cost for that age group? Are these classes different from other pre-ballet classes that are more like $15 per class? Thank you!!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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I love BAE, but at this age any progrma that dd enjoys is fine. I know a kid who did all local classes until age 7 and at age 8 was accepted to SAB....if that is your goal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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thanks for your reply. i guess i'm looking for a place that is a bit magical for my dd -- beautiful space, glimpses of the older girls on toeshoes and, most importantly, nurturing teachers who are also fun. the places i've seen in my general area are on the ghetto side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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I sincerely apologize for offending anyone by using the word "ghetto." Not to justify it, but I was using it as a slang word (inappropriately, I now see). I just meant that the ballet studios around me are small and a bit run down. I am actually a person of color myself and would love my daughter to take dance classes at a place that is as diverse as possible, both racially and economically. We have a very small budget for paying for classes, so I want to get the most for my money. My daughter loves ballet and magical things (i.e. fairies, dragons, mermaids, etc) so I wanted a ballet studio that is at least clean and airy feeling, with sweet and nurturing teachers. Thanks to the person who said that BAE is overcrowded. I will definitely stay in my own hood (in Bklyn) rather than trek over the river to Manhattan. Thank you. Again, apologies for being offensive in any way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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When she is older take her to Harlem School of the Arts, very good & reasonable prices, for Manhattan that is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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BAE isn't magical. It is overcrowded with nannies and kids. You can see older people tap dancing though.I am afraid what you are looking for doesn't exist for a 3 year old in Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Joffrey has a magical faculty of well trained, loving caring teachers working with the young children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.23.11, 08:46 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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It's "epitome", Ms. Educator. Ug. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.01.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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Oh do shut up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.02.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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thank you to whoever told this person to shut up. i was thinking it but did not want to contribute to the nastiness that has become ub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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thank you so much! i will definitely check out sweet soul movement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.08, 07:43 AM Flag
[ - ] other than janie & jack, where online can i find a dress for dd's 1st b-day? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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we got a cute one from gymboree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Garnet Hill, Mini Boden, Tea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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achildscloset.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm just 8 wks preg. and my belly is already protruding a lot! I don't remember this the 1st time. Is it just bloating and constipation? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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you pop faster the 2nd time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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NO don't say that!! I was so constipated the first time...oh no say it isn't so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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Sad to say -- OR is right. You definitely do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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np: you can say that again! I was barely showing and not in maternity clothes until I was 5 months pg with #1. now with #2 i've been in maternity clothes since 3 1/2 months pg and at 5 months I look pg enough that strangers talk to me about it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I'm 7 weeks and definitely no longer have a waist but no belly yet. I am stressing that i will show early too. Don't want to tell work until at least after I get nuchal results. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:52 AM Flag
[ - ] what does erb stand for? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Do personal checks ever expire? As in, I have a check out that hasn't been cashed yet that I wrote in April (not to the taxman, btw). 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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yes, but I can't remember....not yet, btw, for your situtation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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They do expire but I can't remember when. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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they definitely expire after time, call your bank to find out exact timing. at least it's one you wrote out rather the reverse. we found 2 checks almost a year after we got married -- $500 down the drain. we felt too stupid to ask for new ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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it actually depends on the bank. One year, I lost a x-mas check from my grandmother (packed it in the ornament box by accident), I told her, and she said to go ahead and cash it. The bank didn't give me any hassles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
[ - ] My baby is 3! How did that happen so fast?? WAAAAHHH! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.09.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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wait till s/he's 13... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Its interesting reading the posts about 99 erb kids who got SO to privates. There were a few in our Preschool. I was surprised but when you looked closer at the kids themselves, you could see that most wouldn't do well at the play visit because they would be wild and would not take directions and focus on work they were given during the visit. With so many great candidates, its easy to see that schools might pass on these kids because they have so many to choose from. The other 99 that was SO applied to only a few of the top schools and not broadly because of the ERB score. The parents though an acceptance from a TT school was going to be automatic. These schools had fewer spots this year so even with a 99, the odds were really against them. I also think applying for FA will also hurt your chances. The competition for FA is rough. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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There were 2 kids with 99 erb from prek? Since there are some 50-60 kids with that score, I would not believe you if there were more than 1 or 2 from same prek. Have you actually seen their reports? Or that score is something the parents told? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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In my dd's prek, I know there was at least one 99x3 (my dd), one 99 and two 98s. And these are the scores I SAW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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How could you see other kid's scores? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Vast majority of 99 kids get placed at TTs or other schools. Only few are SO, if any. Pita or issues, I assume. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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the kidsand parents might not have issues, but I htink OP is saying they might not "show" as well as other children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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I still think most 99 kids do fine. Very few get outright rejected and not even WL'ed unless some major red flag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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I think they have some of the same problems as non-99 kids, i.e., if the dc comes across as "young," the high ERB is not going to help them. The only thing harder to deal with than an immature dc (immature compared to peers) is an immature dc who is also supersmart--they are difficult to manage in a group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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I agree that immature 99ers are weeded out and told too young (esp'ly summer birthday). Friend's dd with 99x3 didn't get into TT bec of summer birthday but did get into 2 privates (though not TT) still. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I find it hard to believe that a dc who is so "wild" and unwilling to focus and take direction on a school playdate would behave so differently in the ERB testing situation that they would be able to score a 99. Do you think the parens might be lying about dc's scores, or do the testers just sit on these dc and pull the answers from them like pulling teeth? If so, the the narrative reports must be loaded with negative comments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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I posted above about "young" dc with high ERBs. Typically, they do very well one on one with an adult. But they have a hard time in a group of peers because 1) they can't always be the center of attenting, and 2) can't relate to their peers. Of course, this doesn't mean all high ERB kids are like this--just those who have not yet matured. I've known 2 dc like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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my ds hasn't taken the ERB yet, but he is very smart and does well in one-on-one situations (i.e. in a room with a tester), but doesn't do so well in a group setting. So I think it is conceivable that he would do well on the ERB and not do well in a playdate. Also, his school report may be questionable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I think school visit in a big group just observes how kids play with each other (behavior). They may separate kids into small groups (2 or 3) for school's internal eval. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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Apply to a wide range of schools, and be open to everything. If you have a connected PSD, see if she will give you early feedback (good and bad) so you have a sense of how the playdates are going. If he has a good playdate somewhere, push hard at that school. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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thank you. Or director is pretty useless, but we're not to crazed about getting ds into private since we're zoned for a good public. If he gets in, great. If not, we're ok too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Great attitude. One more thing, your ds may mature a lot in the next few months, so you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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I hope so, but I'm not counting on it. Thanks again, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:37 AM Flag
[ - ] I received something in the mail from IRS via certified mail. I am really freaking out. It's at the PO and I can't pick it up until Sat. Any idea what it could be? I owe taxes and am paying them off via payment plan. Could I be getting audited? WTF? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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Have you been timely in your payment plan? Have you missed any payments? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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why not call? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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why can't you get to the post office before saturday? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:24 AM Flag
[ - ] We have a new 2 wk old and will be interviewing a nanny tomorrow. This is the first person we will interview. We need suggestions as to what specifically to ask, things to review, etc. Please help, as we are clueless. Is there an online resource to help organize a list of questions? Thanks so much. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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You absolutely must check references. You need to know if they have taken a cpr course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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np: references are useless, you hardly ever get bad reference.You can google a list of questions but IME just talking about kids and child reaering philosophies you will likely get a vibe whether you like her or not. And I strongly believe in going with your gut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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That's true, but we found that checking the nanny's past employment (and whether she was able to provide a solid list) was very helpful. If you are interviewing Mexican nannies, for example, it's a red flag that all the references are also Mexican because there is no way to confirm that they are not her relatives. Our nanny had a varied list of families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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Both of my nannies (had first one for 5 years, second 1.5 years and counting) were/are young so work history was limited. They are awesome nannies however. All depends what you are looking for. Obviously, fake references would be a red flag. But same language not necessarily is. We are friends with two families from Latin America, and they both have Spanish-speaking nannies on purpose to reinforce the language. Many international families do this actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] I am 2 weeks postpartum and keep finding myself stuck in the house all day because I can't seem to time anything right. Just when I want to make a move outside, baby starts crying and then I have to feed her. Then temps hit near 90 and I don't want to have her out in full heat. Blah, blah, blah. I am aiming for 10:30am today, she's stirring now. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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It will get easier and you will fall into a routine that helps you to predict when the good times to go out etc are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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when does this happen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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lower w'chester. I just want to go out for a walk. It would probably be a little easier in my old nabe in the city b/c there are actual destinations as opposed to just walking along the sidewalks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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OK, I am dressed. Pumped a little so that my boobs don't drag on the sidewalk. Dd needs to wake up soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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