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[ - ] wwyd? my nanny has taken a lot of sick/personal days, i dont count but so far this summer she hasnt worked a full week b/c of her boyfriend's appendectomy......now he's in hospital for infection and she wants to take 2 days off.....can i pay her normal salary this week and ask her to make up an extra day of work next week at no extra cost? or should i just suck it up? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 12:37 AM Flag
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Let it slide this time, but if her boyfriend has another problem arise, let her know what her priority should be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:56 AM Flag
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Do you have an agreement about paid personal/sick/vacation days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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no.......and she's not a slime ball at all.......but i know she's had at least 10 personal/sick days so far i would think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:32 AM Flag
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is this affecting your job? how do you cover when she doesn't come in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:34 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of the name Scarlett for my baby? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.08.08, 11:53 PM Flag
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I don't like it, but use it if you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] I am going on 3 week long business trip in Europe. I have a 10 month old child. I am not married but on ok terms with the father. I am the legal guardian of the child. If anything happens to me while I am gone (i.e. plain crash) does the father automatically get legal custody of the child? Or can I leave something written in which I chose whoever gets custody? TIA, really appreciated 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.08.08, 10:57 PM Flag
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If you're a parent, you need to have a written will that is notarized. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 11:38 PM Flag
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especially as a single parent! ASAP! CHOP CHOP! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:41 AM Flag
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Is the father's name on the birth certificate? If so, I believe he has full legal rights as a parent unless a court has decided otherwise. You should speak with a lawyer or research the law in your state. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:51 AM Flag
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Who will your baby be with while you are away for THREE WEEKS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:41 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you convert a Word document to a pdf? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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do you have a mac? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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then I'm not sure, it's supper easy on the mac, but I think that you actually have to have adobe (not just the reader) on a pc. Sorry I couldn't be more help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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You need the "PDF Writer" installed among your printer options. (Not sure how you get there, though). It should be available if you have Adobe Acrobate or something like it. Then go "File" / "Print" and choose the "PDF Writer" as the printer option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:04 PM Flag
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Choose File, Print and the choose Adobe PDF as your printer. It will automatically open to a PDF document. Then save it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:57 AM Flag
[ - ] can anyone post a link to the nanny drowning story? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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Is it fake? The poster seems odd, and has a link to a wedding site completely unrelated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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There was a story on the news last night about a nanny who was 49 years old and she saved a three (?) year old that was in her charge. Her funeral was yesterday. They didn't explain, but said the child slipped out of his life vest, showed a picture of a pool - she must have jumped in to save and did, but then could not save herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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what? where was this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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np: Syosset, on Long Island. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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I live in nyc - and I was most likely watching the local abc news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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Such a sad story. You have to wonder about why parents with three dc, two with autism, and an inground pool would hire a nanny who doesn't swim and let her supervise the dc around the pool. What is the matter with these people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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maybe they didn't know she couldn't swim. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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You make it your business to find out. You don't assume that the person supervising your dc at the pool know how to swim. And she had been with them for years and she lived with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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Thank you miss hindsight is 20/20 judgemental perfect mommy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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Oh, please. Get off your high horse. It was fantastically stupid to let the nanny who doesn't swim supervise dc at the pool. You don't have to be a perfect parent to know that, and you don't need hindsight to see the potential for this situation go bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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np. ITA. It's like expecting the nanny to drive dc around but never asking if she has a license. How could parents with w/ a POOL not ask the caretaker if she can SWIM? It's nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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The criteria for being a perfect parent must be pretty low in your book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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Who has a pool and doesn't ask the nanny if she can swim? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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perhaps she lied. Why do so many of you want to jump in and blame someone for a tragic accident? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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Did you read the article? The mother knew that the nanny couldn't swim. And she was home when the accident happened, aware that the child was in the pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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do you have the link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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go to www.newsday.com. Plenty of articles/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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I just read the two articles that came up when I typed nanny drowning in the search box and neither of them went into any detail. The one worrisome thing I found, was mom was in the house with child on a couch while nanny was floating in the pool. What the heck was that about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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Because the news coverage made it pretty clear that the mother knew that the nanny couldn't swim. It is tragic that the mother and neighbors couldn't pull the nanny from the pool. But it was just stupid that there was no one who could swim sitting by the pool with the 3 yo. And trusting a receational life jacket as a replacement for proper supervision was stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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that explains the need for people to place blame? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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Checou out newsday.com. It happened on LI. Tragic, tragic story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:02 AM Flag
[ - ] wake tonight for Anna Maria Montana, the nanny who jumped into the pool on Long Island to save the 3 year old in her care. The boy survived, the nanny did not. And there was another pool 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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i am sorry the nanny died, but another reason someone else shouldn't be raising your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:15 PM Flag
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ok, what if your child jumped off a cruise ship...what would people say if you didn't survive jumping in to save your child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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OMG, what a nasty remark.....the nanny gave her life for this kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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you think child don't nearly drown in the care of their parents? you have no soul. this woman gave her life for this child (who, btw, was wearing a lifevest but managed to slip through the opening). this was a terrible accident that could have occurred under anyone's watchful eye. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Fallen Sister--La niñera se fue para morir por el patrón coldblood (RIP Anna Montana) La perra no ofreció pagar los funerales o hacer una contribución. Dedos cruzados que ella envió algunas flores. Por lo menos…. Y de nuevo a la mutilación de la incitación. Esto es un blog público. La información que tengo es de los periódicos públicos. Cualquier persona con un índice de inteligencia de 80 o sabe mejor cómo a google alguien. Cualquier persona está libre a google el asesino de la niñera. Cualquier persona está libre de enviar el email al asesino de la niñera en la dirección que ella enumeró público. I don' t piensa que cualquier persona debe enviar cualquier cosa malo o que amenaza o amenazador. Pero usted tiene cada derecha de expresar su descontento con su habilidad de la mama. Usted tiene siempre a la derecha pedir ella que se investigará por los servicios protectores del niño para la negligencia de niño y la peligrosidad del niño. Éstos sus correcto como miembros del público. Cómo puede cualquier persona que ha trabajado nunca como niñera o cualquier persona que ha dicho nunca sí e hizo algo ellos didn' ¿t quiere hacer o era el hacer incómodo apenas a evitar hacer ondas, cómo no puede cualquiera de usted apenas hacer nada? Esto era un sepulcro, injusticia grave. También habla volúmenes y volúmenes al sistema en América, la carencia de la clase de las derechas para los empleados domésticos y qué aparece ser una epidemia en el Long Island de guardar a niñeras como los esclavos y fabricación les del trabajo las horas impías en condiciones inimaginables… No deje esto ir. Esto es una vida humana. Llame a su fiscal de distrito. Escriba una letra. Envíe un email. Este mother' la negligencia de niño de s costó a ser humano su vida. Departamento de Policía del condado de Nassau - 2da porción del recinto: Bayville, Norwich del este, Hicksville, Jericho, Lattingtown, hueco del laurel, valle de la langosta, bahía de la ostra, Plainview, & de Syosset; Woodbury. 7700 Jericho Tpk., teléfono de Woodbury (OysBy) ....................................................................: 516-573-6200 La niñera se fue para morir por el patrón coldblooded http://www.manhattanbride.com/romancestories/RealWeddings/RWOheka10.html Abuse 1-800-342-3720 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.08.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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A woman risked her life and died to save someone else's child. Then the same mother climbed over the dead body of the nanny, and dove off of her BACK to save her own child! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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She didn't climn over the dead nanny's body. The nanny wasn't removed from the pool until the fire department arrived. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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can you find someone to translate this for us....I read Spanish, but not well enough for the nuances [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:13 AM Flag
[ - ] My 6 month old ds is going to bed at 10 pm or 11 pm. When am I supposed to start getting him used to earlier bedtimes? I know, eventually, it will have to be a 7 or 8 pm bedtime, no? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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It happened naturally with us. He just gave up that feeding and slept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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why ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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mine goes to sleep at 12:30 am every night. he is 9 months. colic screwed his schedule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever lived with/been married to a man with a very bad wandering eye? What did you do? Did it drive you crazy? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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it used to make me crazy, then i ignored it and he stopped. he did it bc he knew it upset me. i will say however, there are men who look and are rude...what is your situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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We have been married 2 years. DH gives every attractive woman under the age of 35 this intense "look" (I want to fuck you eye contact) right in front of me. It makes me jumpy and insecure and has been, at base, the cause of our problems. I feel like he is not totally committed. Most of the time, it doesn't bother me because I think that he just needs the ego boost of someone flirting back. But sometimes, it makes me crazy. I feel like he is shopping around for a replacement. I am 38, he is 48 and we have a 6 month old. I am about 30 lbs overweight but he started doing it before I got pregnant, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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if it makes you feel better, my dh is 20 years older and did this quite a bit when i was pg. i really think he's insecure and since he's a new dad, he may be testing the waters. whatever you do, don't let him know that it bothers you. instead, lose your extra weight, take care and focus on yourself and any woman that sees him doing this in front of you will think he's a jerk! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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jeez... you make it sound like her fault. Op, you shouldn't have to loose 30 Ibs of weight that you gained carrying his baby just to get him to stop staring at other women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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i was just responding to her comment. i believe that when people feel good about themselves, these things don't bother them so bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:12 PM Flag
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I think that I would be bugged by what op said regardless of my weight. He's acting like a complete jerk in front of her, so imagine what he's like when she's not around. It is hard to just not let something like that bother you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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midlife crisis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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that look sounds creepy, and he's being an ass. is this his frist child? I think some men get freaked out by the responsibility and need to act like they are 20 to prove they are still hot stuff. Please remember that his behavior isn't about you, it's his own need for attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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no but my husband has a wonky eye. sometimes it is lazy, other times it kind of jerks about so other women sometimes think he is checking them out but he is really loyal to me. who else would put up with the halitosis, stubby penis AND wonky eye? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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many women, especially if he has $$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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Does he know he's obvious? I had an exbf that did this, and I mentioned it afterwards b/c we remained friends. He was honestly shocked that I noticed so much. Now he's engaged to a very lovely woman, and I can tell that he has completely stopped. Some guys just think that they are more clever/slick than they really are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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My DH loves to check out well endowed women - it used to bother me when we were dating, but now I just laugh at him! If it really bothers you, I think you sould tell him how much it irritates you - or just start doing it to him. Check out ever man and compliment on his sexy bod! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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no, because I'm not stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:01 AM Flag
[ - ] If your dh never french kissed you, gave you oral sex and wanted you to wear thigh highs to bed everytime you had sex, wwyt? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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demand kissing and oral in exchange for the thigh highs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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he doesn't exactly sound like a winner, was he always like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:09 PM Flag
[ - ] dh and I lost our first mixed doubles match in 3 years. It was a fun match against friends (who we always beat in practice). I'm totally bummed. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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I'd think this would make it fun. It must be so boring to win every game for 3 years. Now you have worthy opponents; sounds more fun and exciting. And, just think-- your playing improved theirs! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] How often do most people get a raise? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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annual cost of living increase (pitiful really). Raise with promotion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:27 PM Flag
[ - ] has babby gone out of fashion? no one talked much about her after the spring tours. where oh where has our babby gone? oh where oh where can she be? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.08.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Hag's in the Hamptons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:39 PM Flag
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Who's Babby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 11:39 PM Flag
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newbie? DOA at Dalton. But I wonder why other DOAs are not so talked about. Babby's the rage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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what is a babby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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She is actually very nice. I know she sometimes gets sour grapes bitching here but she is a nice person who won't say bad things about your dc or act rude just bec. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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Legendary DOA who remembers everything about your dc and your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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Babby Babby You Are So Fine You Are So Fine You Blow My Mind Go Babby! Go Babby! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:11 AM Flag
[ - ] if 1 YO DB went to bed w/ a 102.5 fever and you gave him tylenol, would you periodically wake him to give him more tylenol or trust that he'd cry if he needed anything? TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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Never ever wake a sleeping baby unless instructed by your MD. DB will let you know when he's ready. Fevers serve a purpose and 102 isn't that high for a baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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i figured that was the case, but i just worry about him and it's also warm in his room and i wasn't sure how to dress him since he had a fever. a lot of time when i have a fever i'm FREEZING, so i still had him wear long sleeve pj's but it's rather warm in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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I heard dress them in cooler sleepwear rather than hot stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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I would not wake him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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I'd let him sleep as much as possible. If he feels like he's burning up, then wake him for more tylenol or motrin, but mine never really slept when her fever got over 103 anyway, so I wasn't waking her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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ok, maybe i'll just feel his forehead before i go to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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I would feel his head before I went to bed, and then maybe sleep near him so I could feel his head periodically during the night. I'm kind of a worrywart, and 1 yo is still kinda young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted about DH lying to me to punish my daughter, someone replied stating that maybe he is molesting her, does anyone know what signs I need to look for. By the way she is 14 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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you think she wouldn't tell you? that's scary. do you think it's possible? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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Didn't see the original post; what's going on? Unfortunately, I was molested as a kid so maybe I can help ... hope this isn't the case for your family, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Best friend molested around this age by her step-father. She didn't tell her mom until much later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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I posted above. I still haven't told her. Dealt w/ it in one-on-one therapy and group therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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i was molested by a good friend of my parents when i was 10--i told my parents, during a fight, when i was 13. they didn't believe me, and i don't think they ever really believed me until i was in my 20s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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I was molested (by neighbor) and didn't tell mom until I was 20 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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Signs are harder at that age, mainly drastic changes in personality, self-esteem loss. I would look it up on google, I'm sure that there are good sites about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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