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[ - ] Do I need to have party favors for a birthday party. Kids will be anywhere from 1 - 5 that are coming. Would love some suggestions too. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.09.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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yes - get board books and some trinkets [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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yes you need favors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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bubbles are good to give in the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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if you have activities at the party, i don't think you need favors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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how many kids? does the party have a theme? what is your lead time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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imo the favors are for the moms at this age so its all about the packaging! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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stickers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Great at any age! ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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yes--crayons, play-doh, stickers, board books, coloring books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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of course. Cake and party favors are pretty much the only two reasons why kids at that age go to birthday parties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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I just had a party for my 4 year old and gave out Baskin Robbins gift certificates as favors and it was a big hit.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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now that is a cool idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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a lot of kids would want immediate gratification, i.e. toys/candy in hand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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yes, the kids expect it and will be upset if you don't have anything for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Park Slopers on? Looking for name of really good wine store in the area. If you have more than one name, please post. Thanks. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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Sorry- Park Sloper but I go to Scotto on Court Street for 90% of my alcohol needs. The other 10% Heights Château in BH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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I like "Red, White, and Bubbly" in North Slope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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I love Red White & Bubbly and the wine shop on Smith - Smith & Vine is also good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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I like Big Nose Full Body...just a small shop [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Slope Cellars, hands down--7th ave bet. 14th and 15th. They're wonderful and don't try to sell you overpriced stuff. You can go in and say "I'm making X" and they'll recommend something. We've lived here for ages and this is our favorite one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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That is what I like about Scotto. (#1 replier.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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curious--why do you go to other neighborhoods to buy wine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 12:38 PM Flag
[ - ] What decongestants can I take while pregnant? Last time it was Sudafed but they changed the formula. Can I take the new stuff? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Ask your OB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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thanks. I was just asking here. Used to be UB was helpful for these kinds of questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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My OB okays Sudafed. The original formula (not Sudafed PE) is still available for sale, it's just ebhind the counter and youhave to show ID. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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Thanks. I took Sudafed the first time around - good to know I can still get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Why is everyone on this board so concerned about early reading? What's the big deal? The other day a friend was over and my 4yo DS asked her to read a story to him and she started drilling him on phonics. I wanted to tell her to just leave him alone. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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type A competitive parenting, that's why. they think it's some indicator of intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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It is a way for public school parents to feel their children are getting a superior education to those in private school, where there is not strong emphasis on reading before first grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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OP: actually we are sending DS to public K in the fall; the other parent has two DCs in private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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From my experience as a private school parent I have had a number of comments over the years about how public school children all learn to read in K, as if that is the main indication of quality education. People think reading is also a sign of intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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K parent here. They don't "read" so much as they memorize sight words. It is not phonics based so very limited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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maybe true for some, but not for most. reading instruction in most public schools is mostly phonics based. every child i know in public school left K being able to decode -- some better than others, of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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That's not necessarily true. My son read fluently at age 4. It's an indicator of intelligence, yes, but certainly not a predictor of overall future success. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I am a public school parent who has commented that public school kids learn to read in K, but NOT as an indication of quality education, but because it is a fact. I don't happen to agree with that, and I'd prefer if the schools didn't stress it. My experience is that many private school parents feel so smug about the "superior" education their kids get. Private school kids do have a different education, but it's not necessarily better. I prefer my kid be exposed to families with normal incomes, not just rich kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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My dc's private school has a more economically diverse population that the families of P.S.6. No question about that. And it is far more ethnically diverse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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OR below: Well, we are in Brooklyn and that's just not the case. I don't know anything about PS 6, but I doubt your private school is really that economically diverse. Families making $150,000/yr may qualify for financial aid, but that doesn't make them economically diverse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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You don't know what you are talking about. You are absolutely wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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What private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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^^^and not a bitter public school mom, either. DH and I wrestle with whether we should switch dc from a public school to private. I suspect the academics might be more to our liking, but just can't stomach the idea of the families there. I love our very middle-class public school and dc loves friends there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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You do sound bitter, though. How do you know the families at a school your dc is not even going to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I'm sure they are perfectly nice in general, but there's way too much money overall. And the admissions criteria for most of them is that parents are "like us", educated, intellectuals, from a certain background. Which we do match up to, but I don't want that to be everyone at the school. I want some kids whose parents are plumbers or didn't go to the right college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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And again, you don't know what you are talking about. You are stereotyping and generalizing just as much as if I said everyone at your dc's public school in Brooklyn are working class and uneducated. You are simply wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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You are correct, but the only private school parents I know are all from the same background. how many parents at Saint Ann's went to so-so colleges and have so-so jobs instead of interesting careers? Are you saying admission isn't much more about the parents than the 4-yr olds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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^^^we never went the private school route, but the people I know who applied and got turned down are parents who come off as more blue collar than intellectual. They didn't go to the right colleges and I think it hurt them in the application process, despite the niceness of the kids. All the kids who did get in have parents who went to the same colleges as dh and I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Why do you assume the posters talking about early reading dc are public school parents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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Exactly, the post today on early reading was directed at "TT" privates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I missed it. What was the jist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Look at "most popular topics" its the second one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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I don't. This is just my observation from personal experience. The parents who stress reading are usually doing so in the context of comparing public school to private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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my dc's go to private and there is zero emphasis on reading. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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Everyone? Maybe you should sharpen up your reading skills. For every one mother that is concerned about her child not being able to read at 4 or 5 years of age there are at least 10 who will let her know to relax and stop pressuring her child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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i'm not concnerned about it, but it is a nice thing when it happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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OP here, it's funny how this became a debate about private vs public. I was actually commenting more about the emphasis to read before K, like the post regarding who is coming into tt K reading or my friend trying to teach my 4 yo to read. I guess I wasn't clear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I started that mini-debate because I was reacting to the person who assumed, based on her "experience as a private school parent" that many public school parents think their kids are getting a quality education because their public school teaches reading in K. It was a condescending remark. I happen to dislike the DOE curriculum that stresses reading in K, as do many other parents in our school. But I dislike even more that kind of condescending attitude of many (not all) parents in private schools. It's a "we are superior" attitude that I just don't want my kid exposed to for a while. And I think it is far more prevalent among NYC private school families because the spots are so difficult to get. Hey, kids at Harvard have exactly the same attitude, I know, but at least they all (or most) got in because they proved themselves academically excellent. In private schools, at age 4, it's much more about the family overall and how they "fit" with the school, as long as the child is reasonably intelligent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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my kid went to harvard. she learned to read in 1st grade. other kids had learned to read at 3. we never pushed nos. or letters and didn't have a t.v. we read to her a lot. there is no one way. there is a lot of life both before and after college- harvard isn't the answer to life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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np: going on the record as not being concerned about it at all. And I'm a public school mom (not in NYC though). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
[ - ] need some ideas for birthday party presents for a 1 yo. was thinking of ordering some books from amazon, but in case tehy already have them, it is a pain to return. tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.09.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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in the $30 range. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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then buy them from B&N [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Get them at Barnes and Noble instead and get gift receipts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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a toy shopping cart or other walking toy is a great gift for a 1yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
[ - ] need some ideas for birthday presents for a 1 yo and a 2 yo. in the $30 range. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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doll stroller, sit and spin, tunnel, little people stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Playmobil 123 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone buy Phentermine online recently? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.09.08, 10:20 AM Flag
[ - ] help please with playdate etiquette? New to the scene since I just switched to SAH and db was in daycare before. Is it weird to call moms in the building up for playdates I don't know very well? Also, if other dcs have a nanny during the day, do I make arrangements with the mom or the nanny? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I have made a few good Mom friends by starting up conversations with them in my building foyer. I think most wouldn't mind a call and some might be looking for playdates too! I do not know any Moms who have playdates with nannys so I would suggest approaching the parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:44 AM Flag
[ - ] OB post made me think of something kind of sick...I often fantasize about my ob touching me and getting me off!! not so much him, but the idea of a dr. doing it...crazy? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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no, i would think that's a pretty common fantasy hence the constant doctor/patient scenes in porn films. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] what would a 13 yo girl like? looking for bday gift ideas for a frien'd dd. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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stationary with her name on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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this is in 3 days :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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silver bracelet from Tiffany [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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I would get a silver necklace with her letter or a peace sign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Maybe a set of Jane Austen? She may not appreciate it quite yet, but it may serve her well in life. Or a dvd of Clueless and a copy of Emma? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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Coach wristlet. GC to Abercrombie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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iTunes gift card [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone ever feel like their OB touched them inappropriately - had odd experience during internal exam where OB touched my clit (by accident??) several times, with pressure?? anyone else? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Jesus. That is horrible. You were abused, and I would act on it. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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honestly, I am not entirely sure it was on purpose? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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And you're not going to be sure. i would at least change OBs. (Even better, change to a midwife--you can be damn sure you wouldn't be touched like that, if only because you don't get nearly as many unnecessary vaginal exams!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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many people can't use midwives for various reasons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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np: And the vast majority of doctors do not sexually abuse their patients. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I agree, however, no one but the op's dr can know if this is what's going on. I've had my FEMALE (heterosexual) gyn touch me there during exams when she's had to put her hands in a certain position, and there was nothing sexual about it at all, it just happened because that was where her hand had to be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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IF OP felt uncomfortable she should switch doctors. Bottom Line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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or - i agree, I'm not saying she shouldn't - but I am also saying that touching happens down there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Really? NEVER in my experience has a Dr. touched me directly there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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I had three OBs in three pregnancies and all of them avoided vaginal exams as much as possible for obvious reasons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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wow. no that has never happened to me. How did he touch it? During the internal pelvic exam? Did he brush it accidentally or put pressure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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now I am not sure...at the time it seemed like pressure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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If you feel like something inappropriate happened it probably did, but I don't know how you can prove this. Just don't go back to same OB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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your gut feeling is probably right. i'm sorry this happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Was there a nurse in the room (not that she would have seen this)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I've never had that happen and I have had a few OB's. I do feel that my GP is always making me undress even when I come it for a sore throat. And I feel like he touches my breasts too much during routine examinations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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This happened to me once. It was years ago that a doctor did a breast exam on me when I was there for an entirely different reason. I never went back and never told anyone, but I still feel he assaulted me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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you can always say no, you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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and you go back to him?!?! I cannot believe this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:53 AM Flag
[ - ] ideas for girls getaway weekend to celebrate a bunch of 40th birthdays - late sept. - US only...warm weather preferred where we can relax, food, drinks. tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.09.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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Bermuda or USVI [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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nah, prime hurricane weather [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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how about Charleston? or help the New Orleans economy get back on its feet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Go to a spa in Arizona or to Las Vegas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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Vegas!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
[ - ] my 4 month-old seems thin -- weighs 11 pounds. ped thinks she's ok. your thoughts? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.09.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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my 5 year old weighs 31 pounds - BOY too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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my 3.5 yo boy weighs 29 lbs. Skinny minny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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OR: and my 2 yo weighs 29 lbs!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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My 15 mo weighs 27 lbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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is she a good eater? I'd be more thinking about that than her actual weight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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well, i don't know. she started off well but has been having the same amount for 2 months now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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totally normal. listen to your ped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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i'd trust the ped. is she happy and hitting milestones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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yes, happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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what much (ballpark) do kids weigh at that age typically? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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sorry, "how" much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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google CDC growth charts. but it doesn't sound unreasonable to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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listen to your ped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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Don't worry about percentiles. If db is happy and healthy she's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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agree with this. our dd was off the bottom of the weight charts for more than a year, but she was happy and getting taller so we didn't worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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how is her growth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] I need a small, light diaper bag to hang from my umbrella stroller. Ideas? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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I did the SkipHop when ds was a baby and i needed lots of stuff an then traded down to the maclaren mesh one when he got older and i just needed a couple of emergency things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:01 AM Flag
[ - ] I have 3 kids, but I am stumped on a baby gift for my college roommate. I am thinking a 12 month dress/romper. What is a great brand/website? I buy my kids stuff at Target & H & M, but I want this to be special. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.09.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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Not sure how much $$ you mean by "special," but on the web Tea Collection has great stuff, or if you're in the city Jacadi, Bon Point or Petite Bateau if you really want to go crazy. There's also a new place on Madison in the high 80's called Baby Cottons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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I love the Tea Collection too or Zutano. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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check out the Petit Luxe website, fantastic selection of dresses in that size range...Dagmar Daley, Lucy Sykes, Kule, Eliza Gran, Black Rabbit... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Checkout the website www.SewHappyBaby.com they have adorable personalized gifts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 AM Flag
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