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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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Thanks so much,

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[ - ] where do you shop for good, not too expensive furniture? we just bought a house and need to fill it... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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not sure what you think is not too expensive.... did you try Raymour and Flanigan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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NP: Bought a few peices there this year, and really happy with them. Not high end but not put together yourself crap. Good middle of the road pieces with nice design features. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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Mitchell Gold and Bob Williams, Grange, Crate and Barrel (some of their stuff is quite nice IMO!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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Decent furniture is expensive. Most people just live without for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me your most disgusting habit; the one you do when you are sure you are alone... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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pick my dead skin off the heels of my feet...so gross but I can't stop! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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i let loose amazing farts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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i masturbate on the subway and no one knows i'm doing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] At a really low point in my life. 36, mom of 2 (5 and 2 yrs.) FT WOHM with a job I love but that is so stressful it threatens to drag me down...lots of travel and long hours. DH is SAHD/freelancer and we have a PT babysitter, but things feel hard lately. We need my income and I am struggling with health problems (recent bout of kidnet stones that led to a hospitalization, and now having problems with alcohol.) I was sober for over a year, in AA, then dropped out but didn't have problems with my drinking until last weekend, when after a long work trip i felt out of control and drank two bottles of vodka in 3 1/2 days. I managed to detox myself and get back on track but after a horrible day at work I relapsed with wine last night. I feel so sad and tired...like a terrible mom and wife. I know I need to go back to AA, or some kind of treatment and just get myself together but I can't seem to find the strength right now. I just wish I could be a good mom like the ones I see all around me in the playgrounds, or at my son's school...instead of living with all these awful secrets. Sorry for venting here, I just needed to let this out. Any moms on who can relate, or with any advice? Thanks for listening. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Good luck to you. You know what to do. You can do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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HALT - you are angry,lonely and tired. How can you fix this environment to get the drinking back on track? You've got to scale down the work. Can DH step it up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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first of all, so many people have secrets and put on brave faces. second, motherhood really pushes us to confront our own demons. can you get back to AA? is your dh supportive of you? is he judgmental with the drinking? does he know about the recent relapses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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My liver hurts reading this. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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Wow, you are a bitch. Good luck to YOU. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Lighten up. 2 vodka bottles in 3 days does hurt my liver. I'm sure OP knows it too. I truly wish her the best as current behavior isn't good for her body. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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Lighten up? OP is in obvious distress and your judgement is ugly. Also, I doubt she needs you to inform her of the damage she is doing. I hate people like you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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you are probably the same mom whose 5 yr old is checking on his drunk father. OP, good luck to you, I think you know what you need you to do. Best wishes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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My eyes hurt reading such callous cruelty from you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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The new UB seems supersensitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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go back to aa NOW. seriously, after reading this sentence, find the nearest meeting and GO! good luck. you will get better and be happy again soon. now go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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ITA! get out the door mama, we all go through the thick of winter to get to the best of summer. you owe it to yourself and your family to get to a meeting asap. there are so many people struggling just like you, even though it may not seem like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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yes--go now. gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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Thanks everyone. I am going to dig up my NY intergroup list and find a meeting asap. My dh is supportive but he has his own problems, especially since he lost his FT job last fall. This is my first time back on UB since last year, it' snice to know there are still some understanding moms on here. And poster above is right, 2 bottles of vodka in 3 days was an awful thing. I'm determined not to go back there...I'm a little nervous that I may need to seek some medical treatment though, have been reading about seizures, etc. from stopping drinking "cold turkey" although I did it before...does anyone know if I could be in real danger? I won't be able to see my dr. tomorrow and definitely need to be back at work on monday. I'm sober now but still feel pretty shaky. Thanks again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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I don't think you are in danger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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ita - my dh has been sober 10 yrs and still needs meetings. he's always better after a meeting. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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get back in the program. where's your sponsor? if you don't have one get one. read the big book and talk to bill if you need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] at what age did your db go to 1 nap instead of 2? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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11mos or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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so early? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Yep. I actually liked it. It was easier to plan. She has been on essentially the same schedule for over 2 years now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] the new WF in tribeca is frickin' awesome. DH was concerned that it would be too pricey, but really, there's tons of stuff on sale. Since Gristedes' was our only other grocery down in BPC, I am just happy to have reasonably cheery staff and organic produce. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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I love WF believe me but the sale prices will end and you will be back to the usual highway robbery (but great food). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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yeah but I still use maxdelivery for normal stuff and use WF for seafood, meats and some produce. Maxdelivery is free delivery in the hood and 1 hour delivery [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] backtalk from an almost 6 year old...normal? How to deal? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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123 Magic helped me. Read it when my ds was 2 and it didn't seem to fit with me then, but it's perfect now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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does it work for young 4's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] ughh in the city and have no clue what to order for dinner..just not in the mood for anything..ideas? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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upper east side nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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how about thai...chicken in red curry coconut sauce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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or chinese but just get apps...like soup, dumplings, salad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] my 15mo is all over the place with his napping..he seems to still need the morning nap but wont fall asleep in the pm for the afternoon one on most days and then is a wreck from being so tired....what should i do? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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try moving morning nap a bit later and let it be one nap a day. My 15 mo sleeps from 10-12 everyday and that's it. I wish it was later but she turns into a psycho past 10, however it gets her throught the rest of the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] how quickly did you conceive the first two? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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about three minutes, but DH will tell you it was at least 20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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[rimshot] she's here all week, folks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the chances I could be pregnant? I am 8.5 weeks post partum (2nd ds) and we've had unprotected sex 2x this week. I am breastfeeding. Please say slim to none, we are freaking out. (and really stupid, I know.) TIA!!! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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you are not pregnant, but i am shocked you've had sex 2x already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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OP: we didnt have sex for 4 months after ds #1, and then barely ever until we tried to conceive #2, and then barely ever (like 3x) throughout that entire oregnancy. now that i am not pregnant (hopefully!) and because the delivery and healing was a million times easier the second time, i am actually enjoying sex again. phew. there is hope! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] What is Anderson, where is it located and is it sort of like a less good Hunter? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.12.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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Anderson is a gifted (G&T) K-8 public school on the UWS (Columbus & 84th). It's probably on par with Hunter for those grades but many (including us) preferred Hunter because it goes through 12th grade and is not under the DOE. Anderson is under the DOE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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^^^Both schools are around the same size - 2 classes per grade, 24 kids per class for Hunter for K-6, 25-28 kids per class for Anderson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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^^^Also, Anderson shares its building with PS 9 and Hunter, both the elementary and the HS, is in its own building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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this was why we didn't even try for Anderson - I didn't want my kid to be subject to "us and them" especially since color would seem to be a very obvious part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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does anderson increase in class size later, or does in stay 28 per class through 8th grade? does that get stifling socially? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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The DOE took over Anderson, which completely changed the selection process, so time will only tell if it remains comparable to Hunter or will become like other local G&T schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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Anderson has always been a DOE school of course, though it had had autonomy over its admissions process until this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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I thought it only got official school status in 2005 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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I just meant it was never a non-DOE school or program. Even before becoming its own school, it was a part of ps9 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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I think the new selection process will have little or no effect on the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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ditto. hunter and previously, anderson balanced for gender, diversity, personality, birthdays, etc. hardly made the kids smarter. the loss of the onsite may result in les balancing in the various ways, but the kids will always be smart...as smart as hunter or other kids at other good schools. plus, the curriculum is great and the school has lots of support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Here is its website: http://echalk.ps334anderson.org/home.aspx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Also, Wikipedia actually has an interesting page on Anderson. It describes the school's history very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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Hunter K-6 is progressive and more creative. Anderson's principal is a DOE manager. Hunter, after many tries and misses, has a great new principal. Anderson has test prep and curriculum oriented towards the state wide tests. Hunter has no test prep and curriculum is not affected by the state wide tests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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ha! the lack of curriculum is what hurts the school IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone read Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting? What do you think of it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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Sounds interesting, can you summarize? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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he's against punishment and rewards. Sounds impossible, but it's actually very eye-opening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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so he wants a philosophical discussion about right and wrong with a 3 year old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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hi Alfie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] 200K annually rent is 1K and we have 1dc do you think we can afford private school? TIA 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.12.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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where do you live with that rent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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UWS, own apt that is our maintenance payment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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how do you own the apartment? as in, outright? No mortgage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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yes saved up bought in cash to keep monthly low [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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wait wait wait. how do you save enough to buy an apartment on a 200K annual income in NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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"saving to buy in cash" is code for "daddy bought them the apartment." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Its code for we used to make over 600K a year then changes jobs idiot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Could you not get a mortgage? Or did you not want one? Because at any prime rat in the last ten years , after factoring in tax savings for someone in the top tax bracket, you would be much better off with a mortgage and investing the balance. Yes, even with the stock market where it is now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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they're going to take into account your past income, your savings, your apartment that you own outright and any other assets you have. so you really don't have a shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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Or code for bought a while back. I bought my apartment in the early 90's for a song. I couldn't get financing (yes, the market was that bad) and had to pay cash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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can't daddy pay for private school? you can also take out a home equity line to pay for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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What is wrong with you all, never heard of savings OR of job changes. Both of us lawyers, now I am at non profit and DH starting his own business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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...and earning $200k.? Sorry, this doesn't add up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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How do you earn $200K at a start-up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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not on the 200K on our previous salaries [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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But you will have to make sacrifices. No big vacations, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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omg. I think the above responders are just jealous that you have no mortgage! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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I don't have a mortgage, so I'm not jealous. I just don't understand how they make $200K with one working at a not-for-profit and the other just starting a new business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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I think you could but it would be tight? But I would apply and see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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What do you mean "annually rent is 1k"? Do you mean that you maintenance is 1K a month? At any rate, those are cheap housing expenses - you could probably swing it if you don't have student loans. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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i think so. our rent is also 1K, similar situation, but our HHI is $140K. we don't pay for private school but we certainly could w/ an extra $60K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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i thought i responded to this but my reply didn't show up so i'll do it again. i definitely think you could do it. our HHI is $140 and we also have a $900 monthly payment, no mortgage. we're not paying for private school right now but we definitely could with an extra $60K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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It sounds like you're able to produce the tuition; The bigger questions relate to your long term educational and other quality of life goals for your child and family. At a 30k mean average (increasing nearly annually), privates are a big chunk of cash. Will you be able to save for college, have a life enriched by travel and other broadening experiences, be able to maintain a cushion in case of need? It's a lot to think about for a family and the fray of admissions-both private AND public- has become enough to send many scrambling to accept any private spot-at any immediate cost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Not if you plan on paying for college too. After taxes, retirement savings, college savings, savings for emergencies, and everything else, you will be very squeezed for private school. Maybe tap the equity in your home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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why would you ask this? you are capable of making 600k, but aren't smart enough to balance your checkbook? what did you do to make the money? sell drugs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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She's just bragging. Ignore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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of course you can. your after tax income is around $135k, after housing costs you still have $123K. Tuition will set you back to $90K, which is $7500/month to spend. Given that you decided to forgo a large income to work at a not-for-profit, I will assume you don't live an extravagant life style, so I'm sure you can manage with one child on even a lot less than $7500/month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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You forgot about taxes!!! It really about 2 to 3k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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no I didn't. If her income is $200k, her AFTER TAX income is $135K, which is what I said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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$90k? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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yes, $90k is her income after taxes, housing and tuition. So the question is, can a family of 3 live in NYC on $7500 a month (after taxes, housing and tuition). I think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 09:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Salary question: partner at small uheard of law firm in NYC how much? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.12.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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120-ish? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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interesting thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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GF dh partner at 3rd level firm probably 300K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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what about an underling lawyer (forget what they're called, but pre-partner) at the same law firm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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associate. don't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] To the woman on a rampage about TT privates because her dc was rejected everywhere, please let it go. No one wants to be around such bitterness and fury. This is going to alter your relationship with friends, your dc, and your husband and then you will really have something to complain about. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.12.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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it was a fake post to get you all going. have a good evening! : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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At least you finally became humiliated by your bitterness and now have decided to lie. As I said, find someone to talk to and good luck a your public school! I am sure they can't be as bad as I have heard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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you know, i can tell by reading your posts that you are a failure in your own right. Probably supported by your dh. Never made much of yourself, other than mothering a kid who may have gotten into a good private school. its the way you cling so desperately to the identification with your dc's school, and feel so muc a part of the 'we" of the TT. it is sort of sad. As for my dc, he is at huter, starting 1st grade soon and doing great. i did not like the country club mentality of the privates, particularly the [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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gross distortion of it as expressed by the failed women you seem to represent. Yes, my story is somewhat true, but I exaggerated the bitterness. I think what is more interesting is your anger and desperation to be part of the club. people like you will suffer when your dc ends up placing poorly in college, because so much about you is tied up in this. Perhaps if you have a dd, she will end up like you. clinging to her leg status, not working or creating, and raising average dds but feeling they are superior by virtue of their tiny private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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naw...she will cling to her dc's k-12 long after the dc is grown up and far away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:16 PM Flag
[ - ] We need to cut back on our monthly expenses. Health insurance: $700 (dh is self employed), Preschool $600, rent: $3400, Groceries: $850, babysitter once a week: $60....we're thinking of pulling our 3 year old from preschool as I homeschool my eldest and am home. Any other suggestions? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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Where do you rent? Can you move? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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Move out of NYC. Why live there if your dh is self-employed and you're a SAHM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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he needs to be in nyc for his work: he has clients here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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yes, we could move. We live in manhattan and may need to move. But right now, we're looking for less drastic changes while DH goes through a rough patch at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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you should probably leave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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have you taken 2 months and written down and/or kept track of every single purchase? That can be illuminating. We always realize we need to cut back on eating out and $60 ATM withdrawals (the money just disappears). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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yes, we don't use the atm at all (i withdraw 200 a month for cash expenses, the rest we put on one card which we pay every month in full.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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groceries seem high for 4 of you (unless you have more kids). we spend about 500-600 for 4 of us (and I buy organic, etc). where does the 200 for cash expenses go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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for books, starbucks (occasionally-i just quit coffee so this will go down), pizza when we're out with the boys without snacks or lunch, subway rides. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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honestly, I'd look at those expenses. library instead of buying books-we use our local library more than buying books. between 4 of us, we go through like 40-50 books a wk (I do have a toddler, and some of these are board books, but if you think of that financially...) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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and yes, we're working on reducing groceries! thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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thank you! i will definitely be more careful with that. We're thinking of pulling my youngest from preschool to save money. I am a sahm so I could do that, but we love the school and it's only 3 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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Should be okay if you are able to structure in regular play dates, read to 3yo, do activities, etc. It's a hard job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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I know LOL. Especially as I homeschool my older one. We do do lots of activities where younger kids are around, so I do think playdates won't be impossible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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I have an opposite spin. I would put both kids in school, transfer every other babysitting week money towards childcare costs, and do something where you can get health insurance fo rthe family. I actually think your rent for NYC-metro area is reasonable, you don't seem to mention a car, and your groceries aren't so, so bad considering you would have to probably buy worse quality, more fattening/less healthy food for your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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one kid is homeschooled (our older one) and the other is in preschool which technically isn't neccesary (we love the school and have strong ties to it). So maybe keep them both home? I don't have a job, well of course, i homeschool but I don't make money from that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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OP. What I am actually saying may not fit with your educational philosophy, so you have to weigh things up, but economically speaking if you are not saving, you can't afford to home school. Put #1 in school, keep #2 in school, get a sitter a few more hours for #2, get a job that pays insurance and your golden. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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This is good thinking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Don't dry your clothes, just hang them up on the shower rod. No cable. Check the phone - you could probably save money there. Videos and books from library only. No newspaper or mag subscriptions. NO Starbucks. Walk everywhere you can. Or share a monthly metro card. Cook at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Put them both in school and get a job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] for those of you with 3 kids, which was hardest? 0 to 1? 1 to 2? or 2 to 3? am pg with #3 and a little nervous! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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sorry to tell you, but 2 to 3. 1 to 2 was the easiest by far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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how old are # 1 and 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you put on a face rash for a 6 month old baby? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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try Egyptian magic, it really is a wonder cream! I got it at Whole foods. I think the main ingredient is olive oil..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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or Aquaphor (sp?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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I have Aquaphor. I'll use that for now. I'll get the magic cream tomorrow. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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Thanks. That sounds interesting! Maybe it's the Divine love that makes it work! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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