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[ - ] Single mom newly back to dating...having drinks with somebody (blind date) tomorrow evening; what do I wear? Nice but casual...in Boston area. Summer clothes confound me. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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do you have a sun dress? If not, do you look good in jeans and high heeled sandals and a tank top? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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thanks; have some sundresses, but, while I'm relatively thin, I have pale, spidery-veined legs...jeans and a cute top, I guess, but flats, because I'm the same height as this guy. What defines "cute top" these days? I'm so out of it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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The hip ones are those long ones made of poly and 70's looking. I don't wear them. I look good in a plain tank (like a wife beater - but a little more to it and color not white). IF you do that you have to dress it up with really cool belt or earrings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Thanks; no, I don't do those long poly things either; simple it is, but thanks for the reminder, I always forget to accessorize! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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have fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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Go ahead and wear heels...he's short so he's used to it and short dudes love tall women - signed 6' mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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White pants with a fabulous airy top...Jackie O style! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Fellow Boston mom here: Please do NOT wear a tunic. You are thin - flaunt it, jeans, heels and a long skinny tank top in fuschia or turquoise. Believe me men don't care if you are fashionable - he wants to know you're hot! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] sling recommendation for very tiny mom? (5'2", 105 lbs) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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my tiny friend used the kangaroo korner pouch and loved it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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i loved the peanut shell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:55 PM Flag
[ - ] If Angeleina wanted an X name for a boy, whey didn't they go the french route and use Xavier????? Knox is so f'ed up 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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What did you name your children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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op- Ohhhh...good one!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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so? What did you name them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Op- Katharine and Frederick [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Was that a typo or a weird spelling of Katherine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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maybe she really likes soup in a pouch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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I think you mean gelatin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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they have soup too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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x at the end is what they might have been after [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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ya think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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I kind of like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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perhaps more importantly, why the hell is it our business ? Any why do you care ? And why do you think you know better how to name her children than she does ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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You need some sex my dear - unclench [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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clever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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I could not agree more. Who cares - and why do people care what strangers name their spawn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Maddox, Pax, Knox. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone read "Setting Limits wiht your Strong-Willed Child" by R. MacKenzie????? Thoughts?? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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There are a million books out there. None of them are gospel. If you take a little here, a little there, go with your gut - your child will turn out, average :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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No but Parenting Your Strong-Willed Child was recommended to me. I have it but haven't read it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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I have a strong willed child and I didn't like it. I also didn't like How to talk so... or 123 magic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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We seem to be managing w/ ours. He's 6 now. I did see someone at Parents Place who gave me some good advice that seems to help, but mostly you go trial & error and intuition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else's dh have major chafing issues in the summertime? If so has he found any solutions, like particular underwear? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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he uses monistat chafing gel on his "undercarriage" when he runs in the summer. I'm sure he'd love me posting that here... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone sending a toddler to Montessori in Princeton? I have 18 month old twins and I am thinking about it for this fall... would love some insight- esp. from moms of multiples! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.14.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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I don't have multiples, and live on the West coast, but I love the Montessori school style. As long as it's not too cold. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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Thanks! What do you mean "as long as it's not too cold"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I have an IVF question? has anyone ever had welts on your bottom after the PIO shots, I think Im getting a sort of a hive on my but from the pergesterone in oil.???? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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Yes, I had welts. Helps to put a hot water bottle on the area and massage it for [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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oh ok, thats interesting because I like to freeze my injection site before the shot because Im so afraid of the pain and Im thinking that its the freezing that is giving me welts so im definately going to do that tonight after the shot....thanx soooo much.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Ive been doing what you said along with less ice on the are(omg - ive been freezing my botton- not good at all) so anyway, its been working thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:27 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone seen Kung Fu Panda? Worth it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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I saw it w/ 6 y.o. DS and we both enjoyed it a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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it's cute but not amazing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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I thought it was stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the salary range for a live in nanny? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.14.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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I think my sis pays $450ish or $475 for 6 days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Getting divorced in NY. If I get full custody b/c of dh's mental illness, can I move to MA even if he doesnt want me to? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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It depends. If settlement says you can't move out of state, you can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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not sure but my SIL got full custody and moved to FLorida and BIL had no say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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and she got divorced in NY? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Its the terms of your divorce, not the state. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] We have three dcs. #1 and #2 scored 99x3. Dh and I also scored 99x3. Will dc#3 also score the same? Is intelligence genetic? WDYT 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.14.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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I don't know about 99x3 but probably high 90's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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Yes, I believe intelligence is genetics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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but I think social factors are just as important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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I think it's funny that you and your dh talked about what you got on your ERB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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If you grew up here you would also know, parents shared it with a lot of dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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I can't imagine sharing that info with my dc. Dc also got 99x3 but I'd not share that info with dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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When he is older he may ask, what is the harm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Most parents do if they even remember [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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Why? We remember which schools we applied to and we remembered the test. It is like anything else in childhood that you share. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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4yo?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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Sure, you don't remember anything from 4yo? Some people do and some don't I guess. I remember the woman and the room. I also remembered the way it smelled and how there were a lot of crying children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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Children are all different. Just think about it for a second. Don't we all know families with three children where one is black sheep. It happens quite often. Now, on to intelligence. Yes, it is closely related to the moms. But, things happen. Few things in life are guaranteed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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Sure why not. We inherit hair color and nose shape from parents why not brains. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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sounds like you are prime for gregression to the mean to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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This is the funniest made up UB thing ever! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Jealous much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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I think we would never be friends in real life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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I would hate to be friends with anyone who didn't like questions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Siblings are generally within 10 IQ points of one another. So the eight ball says most likely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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10 IQ points is a LOT. It's the difference between a 99 and a score in the 80s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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that's untrue -- eg, on the SB-V, an IQ of 135 will correlate to a 99.0% while an IQ 10 points lower -- a 125 -- will correlate to a 95.2% -- just 3ppts lower. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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hate to burst your bubble but I know lots of families in which one child is an academic laggard. BTW: that child often winds up being the happiest and most successful. I'm sure that whatever #3 gets, s/he will turn out fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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My brother has a very high IQ and is/was an academic laggard. Mine is much lower and I did much better in school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] What are the softest towels in the world - I want to get some. : ) tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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Matouk -- I just got a set and LOVE them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have advice, or recommendation for articles/books i can give to my mom, to help her adjust to having a 2nd grandchild? i'm an only child, and a few things she's said recently have made me realize that she could use some help. she is very very focused on my dd (reminds me of how she was w/ me, which drove me crazy growing up), and recently mentioned that she wants to give the new db a present so that dd (who is 5 btw) won't think that my mom doesn't like the new baby. (??) i know she'll need to learn how to divide her attention between the two grandchildren, but would like to offer some gentle suggestions on how to do this. any advice? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.14.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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You're over thinking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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ditto. don't make problems where there are none. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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no...i totally know my mom, and how totally complicated and (unintentionally) insensitive she can be. she is very unintuitive and i'd really like her to put some thought into how she interacts w/ dd, to avoid problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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OR: what I meant was, she is the grandmother, you are over thinking her role and her interest in your DD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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mmmm...maybe, but i feel she is really obsessive about my dd (makes dd uncomfortable, too) and i'd just like to help my mom relax a little into her role and help her to have a healthy relationship w/ my dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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sounds more like you want to control and dictate the relationship your mom has with your first child. And its weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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i don't want to control/dictate their relationship, i want to encourage it to be healthier and less obsessive. i would like to protect dd from feeling the way i did, growing up (and now), i guess... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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but you started this post with a smokescreen about a new baby. Its more about YOUR feelings for your mom. You just have to back out and let your mom and children have their relationship and if you think the relationship is harmful then step in, but no - there are no books that will address your issues with your mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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sorry, and tie it to the birth of a second baby/grandbaby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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your dd is not going to feel the same way you did because your mom is not her mom. It's no where close to being the same type of relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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ok, lets try this one, "don't start no sh*&, won't be none." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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she'll figure it out by the time db is old enough to care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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i'm not worried about db #2. worried about how she will treat dd now, as she has no clue how to pay attention to two kids at once. i've read suggestions in articles re: having guests who come to meet the new baby greet the older sibling first, and little things like that, can be good. my mom is very capable of traumatizing my dd by completely ignoring her and fawning over the new db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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let it go lady. Why not wait and see what happens. Then deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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that sucks, but I doubt there are any books on the subject. Honestly, I think it will be fine, I know she hurt you, but dd already has a great mother and a grandmother really doesn't have the same ability to hurt a kid (I should know, one of my grandmother's was a complete witch). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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so don't ever leave her alone with both. When the baby is born, have her come by when the baby is sleeping to take older child out for fun activities. have her see the baby when older one is at camp/school or occupied with your dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:08 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the name of the timeshare site where you can look up vacation homes for rent anywhere in the world? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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vrbo.com? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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yes!!! Thank you - I have been looking for it for a month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:55 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone on who has lost their mother? how long did it take you to "move on", if ever? I feel like I just can not get over it. so empty. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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you don't "move on". You are forever changed. In time however, I promise that when you think of your mom, one time, completely unexpectedly a smile will cross your face instead of a tear falling down your cheek and in that moment, you will know you made it out of the tunnel. I'm so sorry for your loss and wish you Godspeed in your healing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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I was as close to my mother as anyone can be. I dreaded her death for 45 years and when she passed I simply could not believe it. It took a full year to get over the initial grief - crying on the way home every day because that was the only time I was alone... then there were paroxysms of grief, suddden and intense. Now 7 years later I still grieve but time has passed. I miss the grief in a way becasue it held me closer to her. Now I have memories of her a little younger, when she was in her prime. I talk to her a lot - this isn't working gotta go.I'll psend a prayer your way. Treasure your memories - you'll see her someday! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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26 yrs ago, when i was 4. every now and then it hits me, but otherwise okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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me. Lost my mother in 96 when I was 22yo. I was a basketcase for a long time, not going to lie. we were (still are to me) extremely close and I have no other women in my family at all. It takes time, and when people would tell me this it infuriated me bc it isn't very much consolation when you are looking for comfort. The empty feeling changes into something more bearable as the years pass. But I will never be the same person. Also, having my ds without her last year was harder for me than her passing in many ways. after feeling pretty strong for a long time I now burst into tears out of nowhere when he does something that I know she would love to see or be part of. It is so so hard and I wish you nothing but strength and peace. The one thing that helps me is to think how happy she is for me now that I have my own family and managed to create a wonderful life despite the challenge of losing her so young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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I lost my mother wheh I was 17. I am 40 now. I remember hearing that at whatever age a woman loses her mother, she is suddenly a child, and I think that is true. As for moving on, I think the sadness just changes from being almost present at every moment to present at certain times to being mostly a happy thing... the memory, I mean. I now can think of my mother in happiness mostly and only as a sad thing when I am in a sad mood. I also was very upset when I realized that I had lived more years without a mother than with a mother. It just mutates... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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