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[ - ] Our nanny of one year, who we like a lot, just told us she has to take a course in the fall (she's getting her Bachelor's Degree) which will make her unavailable for the first 3 hours of the morning. She said she found someone who could cover the time for her, understanding that we will have to interview her. DH is totally calm about it, but I'm feeling a little put out and anxious. DD #1 will be starting kindergarten in the fall and it seems like a lot of change at once. Also, I'm suspicious of a person who must not be working and knows she will be available for some random hours in the fall. I don't know what our alternative is but this is really bothering me. Please tell me I'm overreacting. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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yes, you are overreacting.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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interview the person and see how you feel. You nanny is trying to accomadate you so see how it goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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I know, but if we don't like her, we are in a really difficult spot. How do you find someone to take a weird shift like that temporarily? And just the whole process of getting my kids used to a new person and of me being comfortable leaving my kids with a stranger. Ugh. I hate this sh*t so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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then you would be suspicious of lots of ppl? Many ppl are out of jobs or students (taking late classes), ect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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np: right - i mean, maybe it's a friend of hers who only has afternoon classes in the fall. or a sahm with older kids who has some time and could use some money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Okay, I'll keep my fingers crossed. I feel like our nanny likes our kids and wouldn't put them in bad hands, but she also wants to get coverage for herself, so maybe she would settle for someone less than terrific because it's only a few hours a day, but I don't care if it's 20 minutes a day, if they're with my kids alone, I have to really trust and like them. Thanks for the perspective check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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also, keep in mind that trustworthy and "the ideal FT caregiver" are not the same thing. For example, I love that our nanny is energetic and social and can keep up with DS all day long and loves to take him on adventures. I ALSO love that she speaks and reads English well and is totally on board with educational activities. That being said, if she were watching him for only a few hours/day, I wouldn't care as much about these things, as long as she was responsible, followed my directions, etc. because I would assume that the person caring for him for the rest of the day would be the one doing those important (to me) things. Does that make sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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It does make sense. But 3 hours out of a ten hour day is a decent chunk. And if it's just for a semester, I agree with your thought process, but I think this maybe a permanent thing. I think my problem is that the nanny thing has always been difficult for me. I feel guilty have to leave my kids and as a result, I want it to be as positive an experience as it possibly can be for them. Juggling caretakers just doesn't feel good to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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If you think this is for more than a semester, I would look for an AM nanny in addition to whomever she refers you to. Plenty of nannies have available AM hours because the kids they've been caring for are in school and the families they work for want to cut their hours. In addition, you may want to consider whether it's a good time to look for a new nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Your alternative is to tell your nanny that the arrangement doesn't work for you and to find yourselves a new FT nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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did you know this could happen when you first hired nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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No. She takes one night class a semester. I got the sense that we would end our relationship with her (because the kids are in school) before she would shift into another career. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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i think you'll need to wait and see. do you know anything about her background and why she's available? my nanny is not a go-getter, her mom pushed her into taking the job with me and i was really worried about it and she turned out to be great. the same things that make her not a go getter made her a great nanny. she's laid back, has a ton of patience with the kids, doesn't mind if they meander or take time to get dressed, etc. is your kindergartener going to be in school in the morning? b/c this might actually be a good time to make the transition, rather than a b ad time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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what kind of class is 15 hours a week? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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np: i'm sure the problem is WHEN the class is scheduled plus the time it takes to commute from class to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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lots of nannies are available in the am b/c the youngest child in the family is starting pre-k or k. So I wouldn't be suspicious of the replacement. However, I would wonder why this class has to be taken at this time and can't be taken at night. that makes no sense. If you nanny is enrolled in a night program, all requirements of the program should be available at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:18 AM Flag
[ - ] any recommendations for a fun restaurant on the UWS or UES for 6 women to meet for dinner? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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philippe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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UES--cafe d'alsace [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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when a large group of gfs get together, we like sambuca because we can chat for a while and its fine and the food is decent. not a "sexy hot new place tho if that is what you want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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I really liked Lenox Room on 73rd & 3rd bc it was a lounge & restaurant. I haven't been since it became TBar, but I hear it's essentially the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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Our bunch always has a good time at Zocalo (UES) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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us too! maybe we are in the same group! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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Gah! The name is escaping me, but there is a great argentinian place on the UWS on Columbus in the low 80s. Anyone remember the name of it? Oh, wait, I think it's Cafe Ronda. It's a great spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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that place stinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Seriously? I'm a real chowhound and had a terrific meal there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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np: itd. i love the food there - as long as you like italian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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cafe ronda is a tapas place, and i love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Nice Matin - on 79th and Amsterdam or Citrus on Columbus and 75th!! Both great!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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i like mexican for a large group -- zocolo or maya on the UES are both good. also really like uva (italian), though it's not a hopping place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:08 AM Flag
[ - ] has anyone ever been to a bday party at the marionette theater in central park? thoughts> 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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yes I have a few yrs back. The kids see the show (liked it) and they ate. That's all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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great. thanks so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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do you know how much a bday party would be there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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Yes, but the room where the food is served is small, so I would keep the party small. I think there were 30kids at the aprty I attended and not enough room for the kids to eat. Add the parents who stayed and the room was INSANELY crowded. the other issue is you can drive into the park, so you have schlep the stuff from either 5ht Ave or CPW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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thanks...i'm not thinking of using the party room. just having the kids go to the show and then do something in the park before/after. the party package seemed a bit extreme for 4 year olds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Morningside Hts/near Columbia U: Anyone know of a good bakery to order a birthday cake? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Make My Cake in Harlem - there is one on 116 & one on 139 http://www.makemycake2.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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np: I love them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:53 AM Flag
[ - ] we are planning on moving in 6 weeks. when should i let my nanny know? tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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i know i am being super selfish but will be really in trouble if she quits much before the move date.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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explain to her that you know she will need to look for another job but if should could stay until you leave, you will make it worth her while (if she gets an offer before you leave). It's selfish that in this economy you will not give her ample to to find another family. Try to help her out by rec. her to your friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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yeah, you are being selfish. since you haven't told her yet I hope you are planning on giving at least amonths severence. I undersatnd where you are comign form though - I told my nanny way in adavnce and got screwed - even though I offered her severnce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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We gave our nanny one month's notice, as stated in our employment contract. We are also giving her severance if she stays to the end and helping her find another job (all of her leads are coming through us). I don't think that there's anything wrong with this at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone happen to know of restaurant that used to be Butterfield Eighty-something, on UES?? It was very small with a tiny bar room attached to main dining room. TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.15.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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Butterfield 81 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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yes, that's it--dh and I used to love that place. pre-dd we'd go early and have dinner at the bar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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ditto - np here - we loved sitting at that bar; we live downtown now - has it closed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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gone, unfortunately [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I used to love that place. What is it now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Nanny bday gift ideas??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.15.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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gift card to her favorite store [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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gap gift certificate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Uhh, NOBODY IS ON HERE TODAY! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Anybody familiar with Turtle Bay Condos? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Are TT preschools really necessary. It seems like it is simply a status thing. Am I wrong? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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^^^meant yup that's a simple status thing. Not needed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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Not necessary in my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I blew the whole process off, thought it was silly and meaningless. Now i am stuck at a 3rd tier ongoing that we don't love in any way. If I could do it over again, i would play by all the rules and do everything possible to get into tt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Depends on how you define necessary. Are they necessary for your child to be successful in life? NO! Are they extraordinarily helpful in getting your child into a private ongoing school, yes. Necessary? Probably not. Status thing? Definitely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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TOTAL BS. Your odds of getting a truly bright kid into tt ongoing are MUCH higher if you're not competing with a bunch of connected families at tt preschool. My dc attended a 2nd/3rd tier preschool, aced the erb (99s) and got into two tts. Not connected. No diversity. If she'd gone to Episcopal as an unconnected kid, she'd likely have ended up in third tier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there a Whole Foods open in park slope yet? google is letting me down here...tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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No. Not a whole lot of big stores in that area yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:51 AM Flag
[ - ] can someone please kindlt post dr. sears alternative vaccine scedule? heading to dr in a little bit and I misplaced it. thx! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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2 months: DTaP, Rotavirus 3 months*: Pc, HIB 4 months: DTaP, Rotavirus 5 months*: Pc, HIB 6 months: DTaP, Rotavirus 7 months*: Pc, HIB 9 months: Polio 12 months: Mumps, Polio 15 months: Pc, HIB 18 months: DTaP, Chickenpox 2 years: Rubella, Polio 2 1/2 years*: Hep B, Hep A (start Hep B at birth if any close relatives or caregivers have Hep B) 3 years: Hep B, Measles 3 1/2 years*: Hep B, Hep A 4 years: DTaP, Polio 5 years: MMR 6 years: Chickenpox 12 years: Tdap, HPV 12 years, 2 months*: HPV 13 years: HPV, Meningococcal (once Meningococcal vaccine is approved for age 2, Dr. Sears will move it there and delay Hep B by 6 months) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Best restaurant in TriBeCa? Want to get someone a gift cert for dinner as a housewarming (cost no object). Thx. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.15.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Give a Boulud GC--to the market or the restaurants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:16 AM Flag
[ - ] thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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you're welcome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] any good baby stores in soho that arent outrageous $$ - besides old navy - need a hat for a newborn. thx 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.15.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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children's place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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in soho? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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oops, sorry. Missed that soho bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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The street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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on mulberry just off of spring there is a store. can't remember name though. cute stuff in windows. looks like newborn stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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on lafayette between spring and prince, store is next to bike shop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:32 AM Flag
[ - ] My just heart broke ... i spent all my energy in throwing db a 1st birthday party , where almost evrything went wrong for me, and now the people at my job i overheard thinks my family has no couth.. where is a rock so i can crawl under?? im never throwing a party again :( 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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why do you care what ppl from your job thinks? I would love to see their families [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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you invited people from your job to your dc's 1st bd party? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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i invited about 3 of them , ive been at the company for 10 years theyve known me since i was a teenager. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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sounds like they're not the friends you thought they were. I'm sorry...in the future, best to keep work and personal relationships/gatherings separate, IMHO and experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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I have family members who are ghetto, loud, uneducated BUT they are my family. They are good ppl..rough around the edges but good ppl. I don't care what others think of them. Don't bother inviting outsiders to a family event [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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op: i think i'll follow this for the next time. i was soo embarassed even at the party i wanted to leave, at least they are nice enough to be nice to my face but ive heard alot since monday...ughh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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or: then they aren't ppl worth your time if they can't see ppl who have diff. ways of doing things and must gossip about it at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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yeah i agree, i have to keep my poker face and act like its not killing me inside. not like it means anything but it was my husband and his family , i have no family but still none the less im guilty by association. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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The best you can do is find the humor in the situation and start laughing about it. See if you can salvage a great story from the wreckage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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you invited your coworkers to your db's 1st bday party? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Yeah, that's what I was thinking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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not all but like 3 close ones that saw my disasterous party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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what was so bad about the party? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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there was no music for the first 2 hours-my husband didnt care enough to come and fix it ahead of time so all my invites saw him thrown on the floor fixing a stereo :(, the sternos cooked everyone out in party for the first 2 hours, my friend offered her house so she didnt have enough toilet paper and didnt even mention that we needed, no spoons to serve, the face paint didnt even work and everyone looked bored out of their minds, while my husband hanged outside the house ,and everything was up to me to fix while my world was crumbling and countless other things i didnt see to so i was told [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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You had a birthday party that lasted longer than 2 hours? For a 1 yo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Sorry babe, throwing a 1st birthday party is always for the family-blood and chosen. Cake in the playground when they're 2-3 and small, w/pre-k friends and some family for the next few years. BTW, they aren't too nice if they're dissing behind your back...Try to remember that they nearly all have 'dubious' family members and have all had embarrassing days. Ever heard of nervous laughter? Whomever smelt it dealt it?? Try to laugh about this-they're acting like chimps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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my lesson is totally learned , ive felt like shit ever since the whole thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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you should have listened to us from the beginning. a 1st birthday is for family only. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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Who would look for couth at a 1 yo birthday party? And why did you invite people from your work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I'm sorry it was such a disaster, but it also sounds a little like maybe you were trying to show off to your friends and it backfired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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no actually i wanted to have a bday party that actually functioned thats all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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I can sympathize with you. It's difficult when your have high expectations for your DC I also got a little in over my head with the 1st b-day. Decided to make the cake myself and it totally flopped on the day of. My parents had to go buy one from the grocery store. MIL got a photographer that didn't show up until the last 5 min. of the party (she told him to take a hike). All in all, it was not a flop but def keeping it much more low key this year. Doubt I will have a big party for DD #2's first b-day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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^^^I meant, "when you have high expectations for your DC's big day." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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Actually the description of this party sounds pretty hilarious. Your husband on the floor with the stereo, no toilet paper, and I don't really know what "the sternos cooked everyone out in party." If it were me, if there were drinks for the adults, I think I would just relax and enjoy myself. I mean, it's the company that matters, right? I'd rather go to your party than one where everything seems oh-so-purrr-fect. I bet people had a better time than you think. You have strange co-workers if they told you you have "no couth". It's a funny old-fashioned words and I don't know anyone who uses it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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I agree, and I don't get the whole thing. Is this an east coast party? "Uncouth"? Who are these freaks? A 1-yr old's party is really for the adults and the silly pictures of the baby smashing up cake (baby will recall nothing). So your coworkers can't deal with ppl "below" their extremely awesome status and brilliant ivy educations? Makes me want to puke, what a bunch of snobby losers. I'd find a new job if my coworkers were such jerks. Were there drinks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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