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07.15.08, 08:27 AM General Topics
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Our nanny of one year, who we like a lot, just told us she has to take a course in the fall (she's getting her Bachelor's Degree) which will make her unavailable for the first 3 hours of the morning. She said she found someone who could cover the time for her, understanding that we will have to interview her. DH is totally calm about it, but I'm feeling a little put out and anxious. DD #1 will be starting kindergarten in the fall and it seems like a lot of change at once. Also, I'm suspicious of a person who must not be working and knows she will be available for some random hours in the fall. I don't know what our alternative is but this is really bothering me. Please tell me I'm overreacting. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.15.08, 08:27 AM Flag
 

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yes, you are overreacting.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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interview the person and see how you feel. You nanny is trying to accomadate you so see how it goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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I know, but if we don't like her, we are in a really difficult spot. How do you find someone to take a weird shift like that temporarily? And just the whole process of getting my kids used to a new person and of me being comfortable leaving my kids with a stranger. Ugh. I hate this sh*t so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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then you would be suspicious of lots of ppl? Many ppl are out of jobs or students (taking late classes), ect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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np: right - i mean, maybe it's a friend of hers who only has afternoon classes in the fall. or a sahm with older kids who has some time and could use some money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Okay, I'll keep my fingers crossed. I feel like our nanny likes our kids and wouldn't put them in bad hands, but she also wants to get coverage for herself, so maybe she would settle for someone less than terrific because it's only a few hours a day, but I don't care if it's 20 minutes a day, if they're with my kids alone, I have to really trust and like them. Thanks for the perspective check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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also, keep in mind that trustworthy and "the ideal FT caregiver" are not the same thing. For example, I love that our nanny is energetic and social and can keep up with DS all day long and loves to take him on adventures. I ALSO love that she speaks and reads English well and is totally on board with educational activities. That being said, if she were watching him for only a few hours/day, I wouldn't care as much about these things, as long as she was responsible, followed my directions, etc. because I would assume that the person caring for him for the rest of the day would be the one doing those important (to me) things. Does that make sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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It does make sense. But 3 hours out of a ten hour day is a decent chunk. And if it's just for a semester, I agree with your thought process, but I think this maybe a permanent thing. I think my problem is that the nanny thing has always been difficult for me. I feel guilty have to leave my kids and as a result, I want it to be as positive an experience as it possibly can be for them. Juggling caretakers just doesn't feel good to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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If you think this is for more than a semester, I would look for an AM nanny in addition to whomever she refers you to. Plenty of nannies have available AM hours because the kids they've been caring for are in school and the families they work for want to cut their hours. In addition, you may want to consider whether it's a good time to look for a new nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Your alternative is to tell your nanny that the arrangement doesn't work for you and to find yourselves a new FT nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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did you know this could happen when you first hired nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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No. She takes one night class a semester. I got the sense that we would end our relationship with her (because the kids are in school) before she would shift into another career. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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i think you'll need to wait and see. do you know anything about her background and why she's available? my nanny is not a go-getter, her mom pushed her into taking the job with me and i was really worried about it and she turned out to be great. the same things that make her not a go getter made her a great nanny. she's laid back, has a ton of patience with the kids, doesn't mind if they meander or take time to get dressed, etc. is your kindergartener going to be in school in the morning? b/c this might actually be a good time to make the transition, rather than a b ad time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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what kind of class is 15 hours a week? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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np: i'm sure the problem is WHEN the class is scheduled plus the time it takes to commute from class to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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lots of nannies are available in the am b/c the youngest child in the family is starting pre-k or k. So I wouldn't be suspicious of the replacement. However, I would wonder why this class has to be taken at this time and can't be taken at night. that makes no sense. If you nanny is enrolled in a night program, all requirements of the program should be available at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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