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[ - ] Look, ladies, if you want UB to pick up again, it will help if you occasionally respond when someone posts something thoughtful in response to your OP. It is disheartening to respond thoughtfully and your efforts just go into the ether. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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ITA - but I also understand that if no one gets a reply after a while they probably stop looking for one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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OP here. Yes, I see your point about that, but I have been one of about 4 people on here actually replying to posts in a timely way - and, as we used to say, **** crickets **** It's just making me want to log off and forget about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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think conversations used to be better, snappier because you couldn't post as much without jumping inside. that kept things moving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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You know where you need to go for replies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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I can't log in there. Something is wrong with my computer or something. It's very frustrating. So I am stuck here. Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Hmmm... email the administrator? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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sigh. btdt. Purple Goddess has not yet been able to help me... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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AOL user? I can't get there either. Weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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nope. Mac and Firefox. but it happens with some other sites that require sign-ons too, so I think it is my computer (some bug or setting unbeknownst to me) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Traveling to central america, and i want to get a few thank you gifts for our tour guides, drivers, and the kids of families we're visiting. any suggestions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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well, i will tip, but i don't think it's appropriate to just start handing out dollar bills to kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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np get nyc tourist stuff. or anything quintessentially american. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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just some various sized t-shirts and hats? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:02 AM Flag
[ - ] This is my stepmom this week, while we were visiting the grandparents: "I had to put away the badminton rackets. DS (my 5yo ds) scrunched the strings and broke one. I don't understand why he did this. I spoke to him firmly the first time I saw him doing that, but he still did it again. I don't understand. I don't think you are disciplining him right." 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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its generational. My mom says a good spanking solves a lot of problems. Whatever. I do think we (this generation of moms) go easier on our kids and I do see a lot of kids running over their moms, but I don't think we need to return to "spare the rod, spoil the child." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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He gets plenty of discipline. But telling most 5yos something once (at least my experience with ds and his friends) is not often effective! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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she sounds like someone who has no experience with kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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She doesn't. And she doesn't remember what it was like when my older nieces and nephews were little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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older generation does not remember what it is like to have a 5 yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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true. I just thought it was funny that she was so surprised that he actually did something he was told not to do. From my experience with 5yos (mine, my nieces and nephews and my ds's friends), this is not unheard of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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It does seem a bit disrespectful to her and her property, he's not a baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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How old is your dc? He might seem like a big kid compared with a 3yo, but 5yos are still very impulsive beings. He didn't pull the strings out on purpose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Formula at nite before bed? A lot of friends/family are suggesting a bottle of formula for 11 wk old ds before bedtime to get him sleeping thru the nite. We are down to one feeding at nite but it would be great if we could completely eliminate. Any thoughts? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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didn't work for us. also, with only one feeding per night, you are doing great and very lucky at 11 weeks pp. i wouldn't mess with success. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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My baby started sleeping through the night at 7.5 weeks. Yes I consider myself very lucky but before she started doing so, i noticed she would be half asleep when feeding at night. So when she would cry at night I would pick her up and rock her back to sleep. I only did it for a few nights before she began to sleep through the night on her own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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dh often gets up and does the middle of the nite feed and he will take almost 4 oz. wen i do the feed it is a dreamy feed and he's back down in 20 or so. just can't tell if he's really hungry but from amount he takes from bttl i would think so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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this is what I did with both of my dds (who were both FF and BF) and the formula kept them full longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:48 AM Flag
[ - ] need to buy adorable barettes and fake jewelry for 2 year-oldbirthday. i have a son no idea where to buy - thanks! also - would like princess dress up stuff - ideas? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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These are nice for dress-up. Not so branded, easy on & off. DD is 2 & likes them: http://www.littledressupshop.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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ughhh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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clair's, libby lu's, target, walmart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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sometimes on the shopping outlet page of disney.com they have great stuff on sale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:41 AM Flag
[ - ] in NYC - want to go to beach tomorrow with 21 mo and 10 day old dd - too hot? obvioulsy will make sure she is completely covered and its usually much cooler at the beach than in the concrete jungle?! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.18.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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too hot. sorry. it really won't be worth the trip for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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ita - babies can't regulate their temp that well at 10do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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sounds like a good plan. just bring lots of water [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Sorry! I just reread your post. I thought 10 yr old!! No way would I take a 10day old outside in this heat, let alone to the beach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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np. I'm so glad you didn't really think this was a good idea - poor boiled baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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I hope OP is still on to see that I made a mistake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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It's going to be 94 tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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stay indors...not fair to such a young baby to get sandy either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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I'm pretty easy about this, but I wouldn't take a 10-day-old to the beach in this weather. Can dh take 21mo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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too hot for a newborn. It will be oppressive and jut not worth it IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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you must be joking! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Run a consulting firm. Team screwed up on something and client got wind of it and we got kind of reamed (stupid mistake, mispelling a name and getting the name of a company slightly incorrect on a letter). Please tell me this will blow over. We've been doing great work. They've been a client for over a year. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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yikes...have to fix and kiss a__ a bit and really go abovce and beyond. dont let it just blow iover...show how sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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ughhh. hate that. memories are so short. but it will blow over. you'll just have to mea culpa a lot and make sure things get proofed better in the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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Those are sloppy mistakes. If this is your first problem in a year they might give you a second chance but it would be totally understandable if they didn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Seeing as you posted this a while ago too I'm guessing you haven't rushed to put things right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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Wow, pretty snippy today, eh? I posted two nights ago and got one response. Figured I would post again to get more perspective. Last I heard, that's still allowed. Client has been on vacation this week, so there's not much to "do" other than fix the problem and apologize profusely. Thanks for your "help." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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No problem - any time you need help with running your co. just post and I'll see what advice I can give. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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best way to approach it is to apologize and move on. if you treat it like a big deal, it opens the door for them to do as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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Thank you. I agree. I dealt with it, told them I am taking it extremely seriously, we'll learn from it, and it will never happen again. Honestly what can you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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that's it. but if you keep apologizing or discussing/dissecting it it will appear as if you have a lack of confidence in your ability to get it right in the future. we all make mistakes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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Did you own the mistake or try and hide it? I'm always more likely to forgive if you bring it to me than if I find it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:56 AM Flag
[ - ] have to go to the dr for three day blood work. been ttc for a few while now and just really want to be pregnant. supposed to get period today which will make me have to go on sunday and they are closed. i spoke to them this morning and they said i would have to wait til next month. really upset. i dont want to wait another month. anyone btdt? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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you do the 3-day bloodwork on the 3rd day of RED blood - so it's still possible it can happen Monday. don't despair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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^^ and how old are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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I think that is outrageous. Most RE offices are open 365 days a year. Is your dr a RE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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ITA. Mine had sunday hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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I went into my RE office on New Years Day! You need a new RE, OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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what is RE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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reproductive endochronologist (or fertility doctor) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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see if they can give you the prescription for the test and have the blood drawn at a quest diagnostic center that is open on sunday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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they say there arent any open on sunday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] 2.5 yo threw a huge tantrum this morning saying she wanted to watch TV. We are trying to teach her to ask for things nicely and told her that if she asked nicely (saying please) that she could watch. She refused so we just let her throw her fit for about a half hour until she finally asked nicely. Were we over the top letting her throw a tantrum over such a dumb thing or smart to stick to our guns trying to teach her that you can't always get what you want especially if you are not nice??? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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Stick to your guns otherwise she will quickly work out that throwing a tantrum will get her what she wants. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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np ITA and it's hard enough to break the tantrum habit even if you are pretty consistent! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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thanks. I felt like we were doing the right thing and at the same time was thinging how ridiculous it was that she was screaming and laying on the floor just because we would not let her watch TV. But, I can tell that it is a control thing for her so need to nip that now or we'll be in hell! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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yep. GL! And even when you are consistent with it, they still tantrum. Going through that right now with 3.5yo DD. Really really hard esp in public or around family etc. Makes me feel like a bad mother but apparently, it's pretty normal for a while. Hopefully we are on the down side now! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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you did fine. we say, "i didn't hear any polite words with that..?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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UM, what do you think?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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they are young to be reasoned with...sometimes they dont understand. pick your battles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:03 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone go to a b-day party at ballet academy east on UES? if so - how was it and were there boys there? thanks! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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It's not really a good party for boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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how is the party overall? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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It's fine. The girls who go there for ballet have a better time than those who don't. I would recommend instead the Craft Studio, which is on the same block. They have good parties for both sexes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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that is my other option! did i just speak to you?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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No. Go for the Craft Studio. It's expensive, but they do a really nice job there and the kids have fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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thanks! Craft was my orignal plan but DD loves BAE to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:01 AM Flag
[ - ] my ds - 2yrs 7 months old is vehement about not using his potty. he is suppose to start a montessorri program in september and they do not change diapers there. it is like 3-5 mts from my house (by car - i am not in city now), but i will have to be there every day as he has a BM almost every day around 11Am...urghh - what do i do? i can switch him back to his old montessori program at his old school - they have a toddler program, but that is 25 mts away...not sure what to do - please advise. also when should he potty train and any tips? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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M&M's worked for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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sounds like potty training should start today asap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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give me some tips - am lost. older dc trained in 2 days - we asked her, she said sure - and that was it. she was also 2.5 but very mature. my ds is a little toughy guy and he is so stubborn. what should i do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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Have you switched to underwear? You have to go cold turkey. He will realize it's uncomfortable to be wet/dirty and will learn to keep dry more easily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Alcott? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:05 AM Flag
[ - ] please advise. i found a little pebble like thing in my armpit - it feels like it might be a welling. feels close to my skin - and it's been sore since yesterday. i am about to ovulate (like 9 days since period). i used my husbands antipersperant (sp?) which i never use...anyway - not sure what it is...who do i see? i am thing of just going to ER and having them do an MRI right away. your thoughts...please don't freak me out. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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don't freak out but call your doc or gyn and get their recomendation. Probably nothing, but better to get it checked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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op-i am worried they will send me to some specialist - and i'll have to wait etc. isnt it better just to go to ER and get all the test done right away ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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if you're really worried, sure, go to the ED, but this is prob. something a general med doc or gyn can handle, and you will probably not need alot of tests (least of all an MRI) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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ITA. Don't go clogging up ER because you have an ingrown hair! Just make an appt with your doc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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its probably just a small cyst, lymph node, or blocked gland. Call your PMD. Or if you cannot get an appointment and it continues to swell, gets more painful, or yet get sick in any other way (feves, etc)go to to ER or an urgent care center. FWIW, getting an MRI is probablly totally irrelevant to your case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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thanks everyone...why would MRI be irrelevent - how else would they look under the skin??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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there are plenty of things that can be diagnosed by just a physical exam, the feel and appearance of the area, and the history. MRIs are ordered in specific scenarios and this is prob. not one of them. Signed, MD mom who orders MRIs all the time but only when they're necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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i used to get these in response to wearing Secret Clinical Strength antiperspirant. swollen lymph nodes in my case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:53 AM Flag
[ - ] what is the best place to raise children in manhattan? need access to green/parks, good public school district, not too crowded/noisy (or does this not exist?) 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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the hudson heights neighorhood in washington heights is great-very quiet with an almost surburban feel, tons of families with young kids, a good public school, and lots of nice parks and playgrounds. Also large apartments for less than other areas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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UWS - riverside drive, west end avenue, or between columbus and CPW or columbus and amsterdam - this way you have access to both Central & Riverside Park - one where you stroll by the river, another miles of green. Central park has playgrounds, a puppet theater, you can even walk across park easily to the Met or even the zoo..its wonderful. stay between 73rd + 93rd if you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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Totally agree. Just moved here and LOVE it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Is the public school there good? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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ps187 - a solid, traditional school. For preschool Medical Center Nursery School is the popular favorite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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UES [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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Well, it's not a bargain basement solution, but I love Carnegie Hill, which is mostly slotted for PS198 (bad) but party for PS6. The 90s near Central Park are pretty, QUIET, and not too noisy. You are at Central Park and near tons of kids activities. 86th street is really busy/hectic though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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tribeca/battery park city are great but schools are getting crowded...but it is SO family friendly; tons of green, parks, true neighborhood feel. but i can't imagine living anywhere else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Lower Harlem (west side, south of 120th St.) -- you'll get awesome space, nice upper middle class neighbors and school district 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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Brooklyn. ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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UWS b/w 66 & 72nd - close to Riverside and Central Parks plus you are zoned for PS 199 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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Peter Cooper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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we may move there - np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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Much to my surprise, the far east UES turns out to be a great area. Full of families, lots of parks, several good public schools, quiet and very reasonable (relatively) to boot. The downside of course is subway access, but i've learned to love the bus :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:38 AM Flag
[ - ] 8 mo ds went from eating everything he tried to nothing but oatmeal. Anyone BDTD? just a phase? did I try too many things? he wont even let me sneak in a little applesauce - he just screams unless its plain old oatmeal. TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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It's a phase. Don't worry. But insist that he try (even one spoonful) something else at every meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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My 9mo will not allow me to feed him anything from a spoon. Does your ds only want to self feed? How does he do with table foods? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] help, DS was fully potty trained for day around 3y4mo, but still not for night, we use an overnight diaper and still always pretty full, now i'm wondering if it is bc he has the diaper on he knows he doesn't need to go to potty and I'm afraid the habit will set in, he just turned 4 and the other night i tried no diaper and he had an accident, advice pls 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.18.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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What is your schedule? Try potty right before his bedtime, a dream walk to the potty right before you go to bed, and potty first thing in the morning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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with DD, we started napping w/o diapers. A few weeks later she wanted to sleep all night w/o one. I made a deal with her that if she woke up dry for 2 weeks (sticker charts helped here) she could go overnight with big girl undies. Took about a month and 1/2 but she's been fully trained ever since [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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