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[ - ] I told the 18 year old baby-sitter that is with us for the summer to be home at 1am and she didn't come home until 2:30am. This was the first time that she went out- what should i do? I dont want to be someone's mother all summer. I have slept 3 hours. Our house is too small for her to go in and out 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 02:55 AM Flag
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tell her that you both had an agreement and you expect her to respect that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 02:59 AM Flag
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i also know that she is not being truthful because at 1:45am I texted her and she said they were watching a movie and she didn't know how far away they lived. We are on an island- the farthest away anything is 30 minutes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:01 AM Flag
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yeah kids think just because we are adults we because stupid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:12 AM Flag
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^^sorry..made HUGE booboo..trying to post to you and get the kids ready. I meant they think because were are adults we're stupid. See what happens when you don't have your cafe lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:29 AM Flag
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OP- am i being unreasonable asking her to be home at 1am at 18 and to respect that? I know I didn't at that age but I was living with my parents not my employers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:07 AM Flag
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your home, your rules [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:11 AM Flag
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OP-I am furious too because I feel like she took advantage of me-I cant do this all summer and yet i get that she is 18 and wants a life but this is a job and now I have to function on 3 hours of sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:15 AM Flag
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I would be pissed too. This is a job and she needs to respect the rules of her job. Tell her you aren't a fool and know how it is to have freedom BUT you aren't going to let her walk all over you in order for her to have this freedom. She either follows your rules or she can go home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:17 AM Flag
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A) Why did you hire a teen? B) What are the options for firing her? Can you get/do you need a replacement? Can you just fire her & can she get home easily enough? Can you call her parents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:42 AM Flag
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I don't understand. If she is an adult (and she is), why can't she stay out all night if she wants to and why can't you sleep? Are you afraid she won't be capable of taking care of your child the next day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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i agree, she should have her own key! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Twelve hours until I leave on vacation with Dh and without DC and I cannot sleep, am anxious, am generally a mess... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 10:45 PM Flag
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I know what you mean. We are leaving on Wed. and I HATE to fly..so scared and I'm having nightmares already [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:00 AM Flag
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it will take you an hour into to it to say to yourself 'what kids?' trust me. How psyched are you to get on the plane with just a book or a magazine? no dvd player, sippy cup, diaper, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone here ? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 10:44 PM Flag
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nope. hi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 11:49 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: Went out with colleagues and my boss after work. My boss got very drunk, and mentioned that he was driving home. I offered to call him a car or find him a hotel room for the night. He waved me off. I tried again, with no avail. What else could I do? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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you should have told the owner of the restaurant (in secret) that he was smashed. They could have insisted on his keys. They are the ones serving him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:01 AM Flag
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No restaurant does that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 04:15 AM Flag
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there was not much else you could have dont honestly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:04 AM Flag
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tough because its your boss. Don't put yourself in the position next time, leave early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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If she left early, and everyone else has been drinking, there may have been no one to even try to get him into a town car or hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] My son is 9.5 months old, he is a shoe size 2-3. i found a pair of very cute boots and want to buy them for winter 2009-2010. What is the average shoe size for a 18-24 month old? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.17.08, 09:17 PM Flag
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my son was wearing a 5 around that age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 09:19 PM Flag
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DO NOT buy footwear so far in advance for a child! Shoes or boots should be fitted to a child's growing foot by a professional in order to insure proper foot development. Don't buy something because it's cute, and then save it -- you may be harming your child's feet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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yeah, total bummer, found these incredible winter boots was thinking of buying but he does not walk yet so was thinking buying a 6-7 for next winter since he wont be walking much this winter... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What Personalities Fit What Schools? I always see people asking, before giving advice on which school should a poster send their child to, what is their dc personality like. I would love to send dd to a montessori nursery and pre-k, mostly because i feel it will enable her to to be more free and enjoy herself more before entering a stricter classroom. However, I would love for my daughter to attend Convent of Sacred Heart. I kept wondering if that will work against my daughter. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.17.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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why do you think a strict place will be best for your dd? You just can't know how. Let her go to nursery school, see what kind of learner she is (your teacher and PSD will help with that) and then worry about schools when applying and touring. Same thing with preschools..tour them, ask questions and see where you can invision your dc. My dds went to developemental preschool and it was great. They went on to progressive ele. schools since traditional wasn't for them. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:08 AM Flag
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Well... If you visit Trinity, it's super quiet. Not even the kids talked and all the teachers whispered. I couldn't envision my dc going there - dc is a chatter. Chapin girls seemed very polite. Spence made a big deal out of picking nose. Brearley girls seemed kinda spacey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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np If your kid is picking her nose at 4 or 5 yo, I'd hope SOMEONE would tell her to stop! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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4yo - you seem like a scary person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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Huh? If your kid was at playdate and picking her nose (rude AND unhygienic for others), wtf is the problem with her being asked to stop? How am I scary exactly? They use the K classrooms (and manipulatives) for those playdates--thinking they don't want boogers all over the stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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Made a big deal out of who picking her nose? You mean your DD did that and they commented on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Maybe that is why my dd didn't get in?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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Probably [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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You can tell from watching your child how they like to learn. With my son, I know he would thrive well in a progressive environment with limited structure as he is very self motivated to learn and is constantly question and trying to figure things out. Other kids I know thrive under a very structured environment. Every kid is different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Same. Dd is self motivated and if she starts asking on a topic, more questions pop up and I thought progressive education model would suit her to go in depth on a topic of interest. But I can see how some kids would not thrive and need structure/drills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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And my DD finds great comfort and thrives in a structured envirtonment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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I personally think that while the schools do have different philosophies, most people don't get to pick and choose from ongoings anyway, Also, I am touring public schools so I can't even point fingers but our generation is a little over the top. My parents just sent me to the local elementary school, didn't tour, same as their parents and we all ended up happy in HS and at good colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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np Excellent point. If you're set on sending dc to a NYC private, you apply broadly and hope a school sees a fit and that you're not shut-out. You don't get to pick and choose, so why worry about this stuff before you get multiple acceptances (which likely won't happen)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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you may be misinformed about montessori. at my daughter's montessori school, the kids work independently for some of the day (and can choose what they want to work on), but they are expected to be well behaved and respectful and take part in the routine-- not exactly a carefree time though they do have fun outdoors everyday. anyway, try to tour the schools and see what the kids are actually doing on a daily basis and decide whether it's a match for your daughter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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Yes, you might be right. Im just going from what I've read off their site. I like how they have the kids help around the classroom (my daughter loves to help and do things on her own) and how it isnt so structured and theyre able to make theyre own decision. I thought it would be great since once they enter school its going to be mostly teacher driven until she finishes. if im wrong, i apologize, however, I will be attending open houses come fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had problems with recurrent clogged milk ducts? Mine started when DD was 1 month old and she is now 4.5 months old. I sometimes get several a week (on both sides) and have to make sure that I don't go too long between feedings. DD does not need a night feeding anymore but I still need to wake up to pump otherwise I will be in trouble the next morning. I must have ultra-sensitive breasts because I even need to sleep in a contorted side-back position to ward off clogging. It seems like stress, overtiredness and engorgement are my enemies. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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Talk to a lactation consultant. Lecithin supplements are sometimes used for this - kellymom might have info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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I've had two clogged ducts and both times it was because I wore a regular bra instead of my nursing bra. Your problem is obviously much worse. Do you sleep in a bra? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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No, I don't sleep in a bra because I've been afraid that the edges of the bra would constrict the ducts near my armpits while I'm sleeping. Do you think it would help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:09 AM Flag
[ - ] we have 2 great little girls (2 and 4). i'm a sahm and my dh really wants to push for #3. i'm not so sure. i'm almost 37 and feel if i don't do it soon, i might not go for it. any thoughts? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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I would love a third, but it's not going to happen. Do you think you want a third? It seems like a good age set up for the kids and with your age I'd go ahead and go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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I have 2 dds (8yr and 4yr) and thought I was over with dc. I got the craving last yr (I was 39yr) but ignored it. Now I'm 40yr and 25 wks pg with our 3rd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:10 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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Is most of the reason for pushing is that DH wants a son? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Oooh, good question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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this is always a good question. signed, first of three girls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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good question. Because if that's why, I wouldn't. If you both want a third child, go for it. Having a third girl know that she was dad's last chance for a son would be sad...although I know it happens... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.20.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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We are identical in every way - 2 girls (2 and 4), almost 37 and think we're going to try for number 3. I'm excited and terrified at the same time. Life is good now and somewhat easy. The thought of starting over makes me nervous but I feel like I would always miss not having a third. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.20.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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FWIW, I am a SAHM of two girls, and we stopped at two because I wanted to have at least some semblance of my own life back at some point. I felt that with three I would have to full-time parent for another 5-10 years. My girls are now 5 and 7. Both will be in elementary school this year, and I am actively looking for something part-time and engaging. I'm thrilled to be getting to this point in my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.20.08, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for the name or singer of a song...it goes like this...'hey, come out and play...you're under 18 won't be doin' any time, hey, you've got to keep em separated'. Help please! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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The Offspring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Poster Below: I don't think that's their name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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^^^no it's not, it's Sound Garden, but good choice, thanks for playing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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"Keep them Separated" is the name of the song and they also sing "Spoon Man" and "Black Hole Sun"...I have pregnancy brain and can't remember their name!! this will drive me ape shit, now I got to go to I tunes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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ok got it, the band is SOUND GARDEN! Yes that is it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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The band is The Offspring. Soundgarden did not do this song. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] was i out of place? i found out earlier this year that my sister's dh had had a three year affair. he didn't tell her, she found out. since then they've been back and forth if they are going to stay together or not (they have a 6yo together). currently he is moved out and they are semi-separated. i've had to see him a couple of times at family functions when they were on an upswing and it is extremely uncomfortable for me because i think what he did was wnexcusable and she should leave him. tonight she calls me to say he's stuck at jfk and can he sleep on our couch. i said no. she protested that he is her son's father and i said if he had enough for hotels to have an affair he can pay for one now. she said that my comment was very hurtful. should i let him stay here? or hold my guns? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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I think the comment was hurtful. Perhaps you should have said that you would have a hard time being civil to him because of how much he hurt your sister and nephew. You were not at a place to welcome him into your home. But the hotel and money comment was probably very cutting to your sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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so what the hell do i do now?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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NP: he can figure it out. Let him deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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np: you call and apologize for the way it came out..that you could have done a better job but you are suffering from diarrhea mouth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:15 AM Flag
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If your sister can hande it, why can't you? People don't always split fter an affair, she should have never told you, I'm sure she's sorry she did now, because she is judged and probably feels funny about you thinking bad of her for her decision to stay. I feel bad for her and yes, you should let her husband sleep on the couch if she is asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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as if! that loser is your sister issue. no reason to make it yours. i would've done the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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your comment was hurtful..the truth hurts doesn't it. If she knows you have issues with him she had balls calling and asking you to put him up for the night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:14 AM Flag
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i would have said the same thing by the way. She has to understand that his actions effect everyone in the family and it is her choice to take him back but you dont have to like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 03:18 AM Flag
[ - ] overall in life, are you happy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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Hard to say. Some days I amaze myself with my efficiency at multitasking and I can get a lot of work done and have quality time with my DD, for myself and with DH or friends. It kind of gives me a rush at the end of the day and I feel happy. Unfortunately, that's usually followed by a crappy day in which DD is cranky, all I can get done is one load of laundry, and DH comes home late. Then I become extremely frustrated and unhappy because I accomplished so much the day before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Yes, I think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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