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[ - ] I secretly would love to be a dominatrix 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:37 PM Flag
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seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there anyone online?? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone watching Cold Mountain? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 11:33 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your suggestion for a bedtime and nap schedule for a 7 month-old? Also interested if you would do a feeding schedule at this age. TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:11 PM Flag
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Someone reply just so I know that I'm posting correctly with this new format. Please? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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2 naps a day - one at 9 or 10 am and one at 1 or 2 pm. bedtime at 7:00 - wake-up between 6:30-7:00. This would be optimal IMO. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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i would suggest the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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ITTA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Any current info on Columbus Gym (the gym classes at the preschool)? My older dc went there 6 yrs ago and it was great then. Have much younger dc and thinking of signing him up. Do the kids still have a great time in the gym classes, and do they still do the routine on the trampoline at the end (where the teacher throws them up in the air)? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.18.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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20 month old ds did the gym class with dh on saturdays. they had a great time. good teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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yes, they still do the trampoline activity at the end where the coach bounces the child into the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.31.08, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Be completely honest, what will you feel when your little boy tells you he wants to be a stay-at-home dad when he grows up. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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As a work-at-home-dad, I'd be thrilled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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if you are a sahm..then he thinks your job is damn cool and important. He just wants to be like you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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about the same as when he tells me he wants to be an astronaut or a race car driver - he's having fun thinking about different roles, he probably won't be those either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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I'd think he was being just like dad (who is a stay at home dad and a great one!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Update on Dr. Edersheim: she is leaving the practice but will not be doing OB, instead of gyn. She will be doing research and some other things. Don't know why she is leaving..I know that is the next question someone will ask. I just know that despite the long waits to see her, I will miss her terribly...some people flame her here but the bottom line is even if you don't love her personally (which I actually do), she is the strongest advocate for the patient I have ever ever met and a wonderful doctor. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.18.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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op again. I say don't ask me why bc I don't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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ok we won't ask, we don't care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:19 PM Flag
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I think she's nuts--several friends who've used her, and all were put on bedrest quite early in their pgs for what didn't seem like pressing reasons. I understand being cautious, but this is extreme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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That caution is why her patients have such high success rates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Her father is very sick and needs some time with him - fwiw - I LOVED her. Yes she is a little eccentric but who cares - she is wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.08.08, 11:10 AM Flag
[ - ] i am looking to invest in a piece of great lingerie to surprise dh for our anniversary - can't decide which to go for and i want it to be right since it is big bucks - http://www.laperlausa.com/USA/servlet/com.dsdata.taxi.tecx.SetIDWebObject?ID=8762&IDType=prd&ColorValueID=0203 - http://www.laperlausa.com/USA/servlet/com.dsdata.taxi.tecx.SetIDWebObject?ID=8868&IDType=prd&ColorValueID=0270 - http://www.laperlausa.com/USA/servlet/SetIDWebObject?ID=9012&IDType=prd 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.18.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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all very hot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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My DH would love the first one. The other two aren't very imaginative [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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The first one is hot! The second one is sort of tame (at least in comparison). The third one is "classic." I'm sure that DH will appreciate any one of them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:13 AM Flag
[ - ] DD has started to notice that a good friend is different - a year older, but developmentally delayed. DD told me that she is "crazy." How can I explain this to a 6yo? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 07.18.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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Everyone has a different brain and they work differently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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^^^at least that's how I started the conversation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I need help. Been married 6 years, one ds (7 mo). I knew I made a mistake after i married, but I stayed. DH is bipolar, takes meds, but this always worried me and has caused me great anxiety (has had 4 jobs in 7 years), but no "episodes." So now, I have a baby, he went off meds and had a crazy episode so bad I had to go to my parents house b/c he wouldnt get help. I filed for divorce, he is now getting help and I am freaking out. I want to do what is best for my son, but I dont know. Just talk me through this ladies 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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I left the same situation. I was scared for my life, one day he just decided he was better and didn't need meds. The only really scary thing is if he gets joint custody and you have to leave your kids with him every other weekend and you don't know what he's going to do. It's tough. Good Luck. My advice, leave, it probably won't get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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How are you now? Do you have joint custody? What was your experience? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone see Yaz this week at Terminal 5 - show was great.. thinking of going again at beacon tomorrow... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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OMG! I loved them. Upstairs at Eric's is the soundtrack to my college years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] How much money would it take for you to leave your child for a job that would take 60hrs a week??? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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not enough money in the world to work that many hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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meaning -- hire a nanny??? or abandon?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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depends on the career/home situation -- is this the job of a lifetime and can I get good childcare? Then if you can take home $50,000+ after paying nanny, it's worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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12 hrs a day for 5 days or 10 hrs a day for 6 days? Not enough money in the world. I would never be happy only seeing my child one hour a day assuming I don't have a commute. Rather eat beans & rice & have a real relationship with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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would have to know more here- is my dh home with dc? in that case, I would consider it, for a lot of money. It would be really hard though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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if i had to do it (i was a single mom, etc), i'd do whatever i had to do. but if it wasnt a necessity - not enough money in the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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I do it for $120,000. I love my job and have done it for over 10 years. Sometimes I can slip out early, but some days it's longer. Most of the time weekends are off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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$400K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:22 PM Flag
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I am struggling with this too. Have been offered a new job, and am in a total rut at my current one. The money at the new job isn't much different, but the job is so much more interesting and the potential for advancement is huge. The commute however, is 40 minutes longer than my current commute, and I am not sure that i am ready to put my career back first. Ugh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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something i really really want to spend that much time doing. something that matters to me. money not an issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone who has filed for divorce...was there ever a question of whether you should stick it out? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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I would think most people would have doubts. It's a life changing situation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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Full of doubts...three months after it was done I knew I had done the right thing. I went back and forth for two years. If you think about being divorced constantly, you should go see a lawyer. Most of the time you should be out of the marriage if you know it's not working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Very simply - cant stand my dh anymore. EVERYTHING he says and does drives me nuts. Sex like 2-3x in last 6 mths...its pretty much over isnt it? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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so who, or what, changed? I assume you loved him when you married him right? What's going on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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op-i think he is really lame - just not enough for me mentally, physically or financially - feels like i am settling on so many levels.he seemed like a catch when i married him - but frankly is just not "enough" for me on too many levels. he drives me crazy - just not sure how to leave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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have you ever thought about trying to adjust your attitude? If you were looking for "a catch", you weren't really seeing him as a person. Now that you decided he isn't such a bargain, you hate him. I think you should look at yourself here. A DH can't make you happy. You have to do that. If you leave, you will find another "catch". Maybe it will last and maybe not. Probably not. Sorry but that's my suggestion. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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op-there is a lot more there...for one he has cheated in the past, he is also just a really rigid person and he just lost another job (not his fault granted) and now we might lose our home etc...on top of him just not being a good match - life with him is a mess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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well that sounds very different from what you originally said. Have you tried therapy? I mean for just yourself to help you sort out the issues here. Sounds complicated. Sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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Dont have a baby, as I did. Read my long post. Leave now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:29 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know a family who had a DC with down syndrome? heard that 90% of down pregnancies are terminated. i've never seen a downs child in NYC, so am thinking that its 100% here. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.18.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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I find that really sad. Yes, I know a few people with DS children. Not in NYC though. I think it's sad that someone would terminate their own child because he/she was not perfect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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you can't judge others by your standards -- raising a disabled dc is a lifetime (and beyond) commitment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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why not? I can have an opinion. Besides, I said it made me sad, not that I thought they were horrible people. There is a differenc you know. And it does make me sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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raising any child is a commitment...if you google down syndrome blogs you will note that many families report that raising a child with down syndrome has many rewards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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If you are up to the challenge that's great but why do you fault others that feel differently? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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again, every child is a challenge...there is no faulting others, every parent makes a decision for their family. Why do you find fault with people who decide to raise their children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I used to feel that way until I knew someone who had a Downs kid. You can't tell how affected the child is until they are born. This one was profoundly disabled, had multiple, life-threatening surgeries to correct heart defects, and was still in a diaper at age 7. I know his parents loved and treasured him, but it's not like he was a little less than perfect. He was his mother's full-time job. Not everyone is willing or able to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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I think it would be especially hard to find affordable care for DS child in NYC, so that's probably a major facotr in not seeing DS in NYC. I never heard of 90% termination rate, a lot of women don't even have the CVS or amnio to begin with. I think in NYC the abortion rate is high, for the first 12 weeks of my pregnancy the Russian nurse would say to me "So you want to keep the baby right? I switched doctors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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i know someone who has a ds child - but didnt know until they delivered. the mom wanted an amnio - but dad was against it...then she delivered the child - it was heartbreaking for her.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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I don't personally know anybody w/a downs child, but I see groups of them being taken on field trips to to & from school fairly regularly here in the city - all high school age or adults now that I think about it. Wonder where the little ones are? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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someone decided they shouldn't be born.....very sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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are you anti choice in general? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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not in general, only in the termination of children with disabilities. eugenics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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I work in a perinatal center-and I have certainly seen a number of families where they received a diagnosis of Down syndrome and continued the pregnancy. But overall the termination rate is pretty high. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:51 PM Flag
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i knew of a downs family when i lived in san francisco (i worked with the dh). my coworker said that his wife and he were deeply religious, and they opted out of the amnio even though she was 42 when they had their dd. that being said, i personally didn't have an amnio when i concieved my identical twins. when later sonograms indicated a potential soft marker for downs, i did some research and found out that most downs babies are born to women under 35. because most mothers over 35 are tested and terminate. a sad statistic, but my kids are not special needs so i can't judge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:59 PM Flag
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LOL never seen one in NYC? Did you visit for 5min? I have seen many throughout my lifetime. I live in the LES and there are families that I pass all the time with DS kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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A person with Downs has an elevated risk of serious physical/medical problems. And despite the great programs that enable many Downs people to live independently, many others are not able to do so. This is a different kind of burden for an entire family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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The only family I personally know with a Downs child lives in Manhattan. Famous family, DH is ibanker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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I personally know 3 Downs families just within two blocks of me and several in other parts of town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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My neighbors have a toddler with DS. They're orthodox Jews, for what it's worth. This is in Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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A male co-worker has two ds. The youngest has Down's. They love that little boy with all their heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Any reccomendations for a wagon I can bring to the beach, to carry dd and her stuff? Dont want to spend too much, but want it to hold up on the beach. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.18.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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i find all the step2 gear to be great quality (meaning i would trust the wagon to hold my ds's weight :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Is book mom here. Need paperbacks I can take to beach. Really great writing is key. Any genre. My favorite authors these days are John O'Hara and Dorothy West. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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not book mom, but I just finished water for elephants. Pretty good. Def an easy read, beach friendly book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Valley of the Dolls, Jacqueline Susann [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Haha, that's a good idea. I'm old enough to have read it when it came out. Fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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How about The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck? If you like absurdist lit and want a good laugh, how about A Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole - loved it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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np Good earth is one of my very fave books of all time. Good reco! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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One of my favorites too! I'm a pretty avid reader (when I have the time) and have a list of novels I'd like to read but I don't have anything by O'Hara or West on my list. Can you suggest a novel or two by each of them or any other author you like? Oh, another really great novel (but two long for the beach) is The Way the Crow Flies by Ann-Marie MacDonald. It made me want to jump in the book and help the characters out at times and also made me so thankful that I wasn't in their situations at other times - great book but quite disturbing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Appointment in Samarra is John O'Hara's greatest book. I just finished 10 North Frederick, and liked that too. For Dorothy West, start with The Wedding, her masterpiece, edited and brought to the market by Jackie Onassis. She also has books of short stories which are really really good. They tell about life from the viewpoint of an upscale African American woman. Fascinating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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Thanks! Happy beach reading! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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mERGER'S AND aCQUISTIONS - GREAT NOVEL. FUNNY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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