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07.18.08, 20:12 PM Toddler
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anyone know a family who had a DC with down syndrome? heard that 90% of down pregnancies are terminated. i've never seen a downs child in NYC, so am thinking that its 100% here. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.18.08, 08:12 PM Flag
 

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I find that really sad. Yes, I know a few people with DS children. Not in NYC though. I think it's sad that someone would terminate their own child because he/she was not perfect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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you can't judge others by your standards -- raising a disabled dc is a lifetime (and beyond) commitment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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why not? I can have an opinion. Besides, I said it made me sad, not that I thought they were horrible people. There is a differenc you know. And it does make me sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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raising any child is a commitment...if you google down syndrome blogs you will note that many families report that raising a child with down syndrome has many rewards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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If you are up to the challenge that's great but why do you fault others that feel differently? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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again, every child is a challenge...there is no faulting others, every parent makes a decision for their family. Why do you find fault with people who decide to raise their children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I used to feel that way until I knew someone who had a Downs kid. You can't tell how affected the child is until they are born. This one was profoundly disabled, had multiple, life-threatening surgeries to correct heart defects, and was still in a diaper at age 7. I know his parents loved and treasured him, but it's not like he was a little less than perfect. He was his mother's full-time job. Not everyone is willing or able to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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I think it would be especially hard to find affordable care for DS child in NYC, so that's probably a major facotr in not seeing DS in NYC. I never heard of 90% termination rate, a lot of women don't even have the CVS or amnio to begin with. I think in NYC the abortion rate is high, for the first 12 weeks of my pregnancy the Russian nurse would say to me "So you want to keep the baby right? I switched doctors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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i know someone who has a ds child - but didnt know until they delivered. the mom wanted an amnio - but dad was against it...then she delivered the child - it was heartbreaking for her.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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I don't personally know anybody w/a downs child, but I see groups of them being taken on field trips to to & from school fairly regularly here in the city - all high school age or adults now that I think about it. Wonder where the little ones are? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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someone decided they shouldn't be born.....very sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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are you anti choice in general? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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not in general, only in the termination of children with disabilities. eugenics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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I work in a perinatal center-and I have certainly seen a number of families where they received a diagnosis of Down syndrome and continued the pregnancy. But overall the termination rate is pretty high. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:51 PM Flag
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i knew of a downs family when i lived in san francisco (i worked with the dh). my coworker said that his wife and he were deeply religious, and they opted out of the amnio even though she was 42 when they had their dd. that being said, i personally didn't have an amnio when i concieved my identical twins. when later sonograms indicated a potential soft marker for downs, i did some research and found out that most downs babies are born to women under 35. because most mothers over 35 are tested and terminate. a sad statistic, but my kids are not special needs so i can't judge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.08, 09:59 PM Flag
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LOL never seen one in NYC? Did you visit for 5min? I have seen many throughout my lifetime. I live in the LES and there are families that I pass all the time with DS kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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A person with Downs has an elevated risk of serious physical/medical problems. And despite the great programs that enable many Downs people to live independently, many others are not able to do so. This is a different kind of burden for an entire family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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The only family I personally know with a Downs child lives in Manhattan. Famous family, DH is ibanker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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I personally know 3 Downs families just within two blocks of me and several in other parts of town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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My neighbors have a toddler with DS. They're orthodox Jews, for what it's worth. This is in Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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A male co-worker has two ds. The youngest has Down's. They love that little boy with all their heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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