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[ - ] my dh never had hair on his ankles and now it is slowly becoming his entire calves - why is this? and why don't i have this?? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.19.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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Change in hormones. Men have different hormones to women. Count yourself lucky! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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Grammar point: different FROM. Not different THAN or different TO. Now you know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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I'm guessing we have trouble sticking to the main point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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OR. Thanks (and I mean that) to Grammar Mom I like to learn something new everyday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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You are welcome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Lack of testosterone. Is your sex life sucky too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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Pretty soon his dink will be bald too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:57 PM Flag
[ - ] the real problem is there are far too many ultra high ERB and SB scores in the 4 yo set. Some of these kids will still look brilliant at age 14 but many will look closer to avg. These tests are normed on groups of preschool children who do not have all the advantages of your typical NYC child of educated parents. Some of the kids are just advanced, and more simply advanced than genuinely highly intelligent. So there is an over-supply of high ERB and high SB kids in the city. The supply of very high testing kids is smaller after age 10. At that point all the kids who were only advanced (mainly for environmental reasons) are now testing closer to their actual ability level. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.19.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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This should be obvious to everyone but I'm not sure it is. I think many people like to believe their child is exceptional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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absolutely. I had this very discussion with a psychologist who gives the SB for hunter. NYC kids scores are artificially inflated at this age compared to national norms. They are more likely to have years of preschool, exposed to more learning opportunities, be more verbal earlier. Things even out down the road, although not completely. Some geographical areas in the US have higher IQ scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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so IQ is socially mediated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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np. socially and culturally, yes. there was a good article in the ny'er about this awhile back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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Ability level has only loose correlation with IQ though. Plenty of hard working kids with above average but not profoundly gifted IQ will become stellar students, while a good number of kids with higher IQ will be left out in the sand. There is a lot more to academic performance than IQ scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Exactly. I was going to post something similar, but it's not neccessary now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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Waht is the advantage of typical NYC child of educated parents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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parents have higher income level and higher education level so greater opportunity for enrichment for dc. plus parents have a hyper-neurotic need to compete at all costs. : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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Well, we have higher education and income level but didn't do any early childhood enrichment... Maybe we're in the minority. Though, I don't see how having those classes and enrichment will help you with ERB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Success in life is heavily correlated with IQ as measured at the age of five. Whatever you as a parent can do before the age of five to increase that number will pay a rich reward according to studies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.30.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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read the book "IQ" and you will see that your reasoning is false, and that IQ at 5 is almost meaningless. The poster who wrote about a high early IQ as a measurement of privilege offers a central point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.30.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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Just speaking to your children is advantageous for them. The statistics on the number of words heard by a child at age 4 with educated parents compared to a child from a lower economic status and uneducated parent(s) is astonishing. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.30.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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it's amazing to me that schools use these tests at all. isaagny has been told by experts at assessment that the ERB shouldn't be weighted very heavily. you're exactly right that so many kids will have high scores but won't be the stellar students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you allow your nanny to take dc to a park all afternoon? I'm not talking Central Park where there are activities and grass to roam in. I am talking about your typical city park. I fear that our nanny is putting our dc in the stroll when dc starts to act up. I feel the nanny is putting herself before our child 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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OP here. grammar correction. grass to roam on. i have a feeling that our nanny is keeping our dc out at the park when dc is bored and would do much better at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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how many hours are we talking about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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if you're really going to correct, it should be "grass on which to roam" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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How old is dc? My toddler would not get bored in the park even if there for hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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Sure, a park all afternoon is great. Why would you want her to keep DC at home? A stroller time-out for misbehavior is OK. More than 5 minutes in a stroller at a park unless it's lunch time or nap time is not OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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does she have dc home a reg times for nap and lunch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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If it is 95 degrees like today I do think all afternoon in the park is too much for many kids. I would do a couple hours in the playground and then home, library, bookstore or other place with AC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] give me patience!!!!!!!! NOW! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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Sorry none left here to give. Mom of 2.5yo and baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:16 AM Flag
[ - ] i swear i don't know why i haven't smacked my almost-ex in the face yet, i'm fuming. he got a puppy and i'm certain it is just to try and win over the kids so they accept his girlfriend and want to go over to his new house. i can't believe what a child he is being. it's like i married a stranger, i can't even believe this is the same guy. and then i have to hear dc talk about this puppy and how much fun they had on the beach with daddy and the dog and he let them name it. seriously, i am tempted to move far far away, but that will jsut make custody that much more difficult. sorry but i needed to vent while kids are over with their father for another "fun-filled day." 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.19.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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my ex bought a kitten for each dd when we separated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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slap him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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soooo.....sorry but I'm not sure I get it. you are upset because your ex is doing something to try and maintain a relationnship with the kids? I don't see a problem. I get it that you are angry and upset etc and understandably so. But whatever he does to keep the kids in his life is a good thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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i just worry that he is only doing this now to win them over, then it will die down - and i am afraid of dc becoming too close to his gf, i just question his motives. i'm being a baby, i know, but he has changed so much and so quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I see. Well, from where I stand, you deserve to feel whatever you feel. And I hope you are wrong about him fading from their lives. A father is so very important in a child's life though. Vent here and then go smile and nod happily about the puppy! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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thanks, i don't know, i wouldn't be surprised by anything he does or doesn't do these days. he has become an entirely different man than the one i married. he had an affair, left me and the kids for her, moved in with her, all this in a short span of time - and now buying our kids love, it's tough right now bc i am just so angry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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i really don't think this is so terrible. why is it so bad if the kids like and accept his girlfriend, and want to spend time with their father? I think he is doing the right thing by trying to integrate them into his life. You can have "fun filled days" with the kids when you have them, too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Maybe you should get a puppy too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Yeah, exactly. Start building your own new life. You may find that your almost-ex leaving is the best thing that ever happened to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 08:18 AM Flag
[ - ] DD is in middle school at a TT. Dd really really smart. Excellent grades, but not really a the most motivated student, so don't know if she'll keep it up. Great test taker and i expect her SAT scores will be great. Really good writer. But no legacy and no connections and can't donate big bucks to her TT. So .. will TT get her placed at an Ivy? Or would she do just as well if she went to Stuyvesant? I"ve read and heard that if there's a kid whose parents are prominent or legacies and a kid whose parents are nobodies, and both kids have good qualifications, the school will push the kid with the monied legacy parents, and the other kid they'll direct to a good but lesser school. If that's the case, is there any advantaqe in terms of exmissions in staying at the TT? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.19.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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if you are poor, you would have a better chance from tt. too many smart poor kids at stuy. if rich, but no leg, you are screwed. move to louisiana. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Does your dd WANT to go to an Ivy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Honestly, from any school in NYC, public or private, there's going to have to be something really special about her that will make her stand out from her other high-scoring peers. It could be something like her writing ability, it could be that she's just rocket scientist smart, it could be a real dedication and motivation to making the world a better place, it could be that her parents have major money, but I really believe that these schools are looking for that special "x factor" among a number of extremely qualified students, and that if your dd has it, it doesn't matter which of any of the good NY schools she goes to. And by the way, I also believe that the "x factor" is sometimes random chance - a great esssay or recommendation or something about that applicant that strikes the admissions officer in a particular way and makes them fall in love with that particular kid and what they could offer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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I don't think there is an answer to this question. Your dd most likely will have the better chance coming from the school where she is happier--she will be more motivated, self-assured, relaxed, etc., all of which will help in the college application process. Who knows what will happen in a few years with her. I would involve her in this decision. Does she love her TT? Is she itching for different social pool, different kind of challenges, etc. I would leave exmissions out of it. Even if it's important to you, it might no work out the way you thought anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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best answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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your dd is in to the school people don't and don't NEED to donate to get fair and equal college placement. People, please, there is no conspiracy here let it GO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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re: donations -- back in the late 80s, I remember specifically hearing that legacy of some of the primary donors to the school (i.e. buildings named after their family) did not get accepted. If the kid cannot handle the academics, etc. they will not be accepted. Making donations is very nice, but doesn't insure placement for donor's dc - at least at a large TT university (maybe at a smaller school). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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most mc decently educated average kids can handle the academics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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np: exactly. just get the kid in, and they will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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does she want to go to an ivy? i want my dc to attend a college that will make her happy. if that is ivy, great. if not, great. will support her. suggest that you allow dc to do the same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Why is it so important she go to an Ivy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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An Ivy may not be the place that can provide your dd with the best education. Is she happy at her school? Is she learning? If so, then let her stay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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OP - it's a big financial drain, we can't save at all. Had to go into savings this year for tuition. DD happy at school and we'd keep her there, but money is an issue. DH wants to send her to public for hs, presumably Stuy. He says, as one of the other posters did, that it'll be about whatever makes her special, anyway, in the end. Ivy is good for connections. I've seen this so many times in my professional life. It's not that you can't be successful w/o Ivy connections, but they seem to be really helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I had an easy labor and life with a newborn is currently really not so bad--when does it all go downhill?? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.19.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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I was you. Never sleep deprived with new baby - never worried about schedules, db put himself on - no teething pain - it was a joy and a breeze. It all went to hell when db turned 3 years old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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yeah, that's when it got hard for me. Now at 5 it's easier in some ways but still difficult in others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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LOOOOVE having a 3yo. So bummed out about the newborn. I am so much more into preschool age kids, even though they're a PIA in different ways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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maybe never. It doesn't always! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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loved labor, hate having a newborn. different for everyone! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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All ages have their challenges and all parents have differing capabilities. Sounds like you are in your element now. Big upcoming changes, usually unpleasant, are: teething and the accompanying sleep disruptions, and motion. A crawling or walking baby is a completely different parenting experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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How old is your db? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] What is science like in the early years at Anderson? Do they break into small groups in K? or is that later? What about other subjects? how is it enriched beyond regular G&T? TIA. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.19.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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It's not enriched beyond G&T, but it has a possibly higher scoring group of kids. There is no science in the early grades, after that they have what the school science in a box. They order kits ince they have no science lab. The class size is large, even in K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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How on earth can you say it has a higher scoring group of kids? My DD got a 99 same as every other kid on this board and she didn't get into Anderson. Every single kid at ps 9 G&T this year (except maybe the 4 sibs) got a 99. Half the kids at ps 166 got a 99. most kids at NEST got a 99. Anderson isn't special in the "high scoring kid" area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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OR is the fake anti-Anderson poster, stirring up sh** again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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K-3 has their own science teacher and has science at least 2x/week. My DC was in K this year--I'm not sure where the above poster got info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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My understanding was that there are 3 science teachers in the lower grades K-3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:11 AM Flag
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Actually, there are 3 science teachers. One for K-3, one for grades 4-6 and one for grades 7 & 8. The K-3 teacher comes into classrooms, the upper grades use science labs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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you have one at ps166 too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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Can you give examples of books read in 3rd grade, please? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:38 AM Flag
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Esperanza Rising is read in third grade at Anderson - usually read in fifth grade elsewhere. The Phantom Tollbooth is read in first grade - probably a third grade + book elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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esperanza [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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Esperanza Rising is on the entering 4th grade reading list at my dc's school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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np: There is a huge range of books recommended at each grade level due not only to each child's academic abilites but also his or her emotional maturity. It's not always about faster, but sometimes it's about sparking a flame, just like anywhere else, only the range will be far broader on the higher end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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EXCUSE ME.. But you don't know what you are talking about. Science is enriched in all grades. The school has three science teachers dedicated to teach only science: K-3, 4-6, and 7-8. They do break up into groups and do lots and lots of experiments and go on field trips. They do ALL of the same labs as any school with a lab and more that the science teachers develop and purchase above and beyond the core curriculum (and much of the core curriculum is compacted because it stinks.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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^^^ And btw, having one less transition of moving young children to a separate room for the benefit of being in a lab (that usual has the wrong sized furniture for them also, even in private schools) is a good thing; not a negative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I know the space thing is not their fault but really - PS87 has a separate lab room with furniture sized for children and it is a good thing! Generally, extra rooms for music, computers, etc. are considered a good thing. Do these students have trouble w/transitioning? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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go away anderson basher! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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do not bite! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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I apologize - above poster is correct - science labs are not good things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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ps87 obviously is superior to anderson then. why didn't we send dc there? could kick myself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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No one is saying PS87 is superior to Anderson - but not everything is best at Anderson as some posters would have you believe. And to put a positive spin on lack of space is silly to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 04:50 AM Flag
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just doesn't sound like an anderson person to me. who would say this, seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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funny that those things make a curriculum "enriched". Sad state of the public school system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I don't think that those are the things that make a curriculum enriched. Those are just facts about the science program that the poster brought up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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np: I think having a dedicated science teacher for different age groups, teaching in small groups and going beyond the usual curriculum in terms of field trips and experiments sounds highly enriched to me. nothing sounds sad in this post. I suppose you are just another bitter basher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Tour the school and they will answer all of your questions. They will also tell you that they are not a free private school and experience the same problems as other public schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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Public schools can't match private schools re: facliities; class size; ability to get rid of bad teachers. Anything beyond that which is a problem, there is no excuse for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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np: what do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:24 PM Flag
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OP asked about how Anderson is enriched beyond GT. Class size and facilities and getting rid of tenured bad teachers - to a large degree - are beyond the school's control because it is a DOE school. However, the question of how Andereson is enriched beyond GT is NOT beyond the school's control. The NYS curriculum demands are extremely vague and general - they can be found online, if you want to read them and see how vague they are. So it's entirely up to the principal of Anderson and the teachers what the kids are taught. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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nnp - I think the OP was asking for specifics about Anderson's enriched curriculum, not literally how it was implemented. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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I was responding to poster who said that Anderson would say that they are not a private school and can't be expected to provide what a private school offers. I was pointing out that private vs. public and DOE vs. nonDOE doesn't have anything to do with enrichment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I the only one who thinks it's weird that Angelina had twins? I mean, if she had them "spontaneously" w/o fertility drugs, that would be unusual (I know it happens, but it's not the norm) and if she did it with the help of fertility drugs (or IVF), WHY? She's adopted several kids and had one already, why would she seek fertility help? The whole thing seems so strange to me. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.19.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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ITA, next she'll have triplets. She's trying it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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Adopting all those kids seems strange to me, it's like what Mia Farrow was doing. However, I don't have their money or help, so maybe if my circumstances were different I'd have six kids, I doubt it, but who knows. My grandmother had twins at 42, obviously naturally. J-LO, Julia, I think they all probably had help, makes no difference to me, they wanted babies, they can afford them, so they can have them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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op: it's not that I mind or care if anyone does IVF or uses any other fertility help. Just throwing out there that the fact that Angelina might have used help is so weird, given that she already had a boat load of kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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I didn't think you were flaming her, just pointing out some Brangelina news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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No its not weird, she probably wanted to make Brad happy is all.. Would'nt you??????????????yesssssssssss you would. Having a set of twins is special- and yes she had help-she must have, nevertheless they are BRAD PITTS twins...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I always find it strange that NO ONE ever calls Marie Osmond strange. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Oh I do! She's very strange. That whole family is strange. I'm strange. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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what has she got to do with anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I don't think adopting all the kids is weird. If my circumstances were different I could see fostering or adopting more than my two. But adopting so many so quickly into a life that already seems pretty peripatetic and busy--I'm not sure that's the best thing for the kids. The twins--I have no way to know whether it was natural or IVF so it seems a waste to speculate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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You have just added a new word to my vocabulary. I had to look up "peripatetic." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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she's a little weird, but I don't think it's weird she had twins. Probably natural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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We'll never know... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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sure you will, the next time you talk to her - ask [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Women have been giving birth to twins since the beginning of time. Both identical and fraternal - that aside - why do you contemplate strangers fertility??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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it's UB for christ sake, it's about contemplating! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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np: If she was 40 and her time was running out I could totally see IVF to have twins, but she is 33, had a 1 year old when she conceived again. Why on earth would she do IVF, and/want twins? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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Lots of women ovulate more than 1 egg from time to time. It's not weird at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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interesting that nobody suspects that, naturally, it's IVF: Look at how underweight she was when she conceived. She probably had a "goal" in mind to have another child, became impatient when she didn't conceive right away and then sought help. That's my theory, anyway... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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ITA - i think its insane that a doctor would do IVF on her. she was way too thin when she conceived (I had to do IVF to get prego and the first thing that my RE told me to do was to gain 5 lbs to increase my chances of conceiving on my own) also most ethical REs wont even talk to you about IVF if you have been TTC for less than 6 - 12 mnths. i think her having twins is totally narcisistic. twin pregnancies are really risky - nobody ever thinks about that, just the 'glamour' of having twins. i dont mean to flame, but it annoys me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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As a MOT, I see what you mean by the glamour of twins, but they are pretty commonplace these days. If it is your first pregnancy it can be an all in one deal, but otherwise an unplanned twin birth can really throw you and DH for all kinds of loops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Come on, she probably had to do IVF b/c she was so skinny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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I don't understand. I had twins. Naturally. At age 26. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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we have 2 sets of twins (nonfertility drugs) in my family, and I'm just talking about one generation. there were more if you go back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] My SIL is going to be a K teacher in one of the best public schools and I'm very happy for her. I hope some of you will be lucky enough to have her as dc's teacher. She is great, enthusiastic, experienced (though young still), well educated and loves children to death! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.19.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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so, which school??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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D2 - Tribeca, don't want to out myself or her. She comes from a family of teachers. For every family get together, everyone talks about education and teaching. She's creative, fun, well travelled, and her kids will adore her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 03:27 PM Flag
[ - ] 36 weeks, I woke up feeling like I was kicked in my pussy...very sore. Sorry for the slang, I'm too aggravated to care. It hurts! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.19.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Normal, wait until you go into labor! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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LOL. 5 weeks pp and I still feel that way. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:04 PM Flag
[ - ] opinions on these houses, moving back to be closer to family - http://www.landwatch.com/default.aspx?ct=d&pid=282483 - http://www.century21.com/property/index.jsp?ref_code=Google-Redirect&id=%20%2034708070 - http://www.justsnooping.com/tours/2435082/?b=true 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.19.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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why on earth...too much solitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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...for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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what [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I like the second one best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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I don't like the first one. The second is alright. The area around the third is really pretty and I kind of like the retro-lodge vibe or it, but I think it's tire of all that wood quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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i like the "log playhouse" with the first one. second strikes me as nice but a little cookie-cutter. third has great property and right on the lake--so nice. i agree that the wood might get to be a bit much, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Where is a good place to go camping if we are coming from NYC? We have a car and gear, but we also have a 6mo and a 4yo. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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As a kid we always we to the New Jersey Shore or Faunstock (upstate) not far, Silven Lake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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Could you describe the places? We would like a good showers and a camp site blocked somewhat by vegetation for some privacy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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I would not remember the names of tje actual camp site, but I believe the towns were like Seaside Heights, Wildwood, they are camp grounds with lots, you are in the woods, but other campers are not so far. Also Deleware. Google Camp Grounds in NY, NJ and PA...they are camp grounds no star ratings so look for the things that are important to your family. The beach ones were great though, because you have the boardwalks and kiddie amusement parks, as kid it was my favorite thing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:14 AM Flag
[ - ] If we bought our co-op last year can we refinance or is it too soon? Are interest rates still dropping? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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probably too soon if u want to take cash out..but a lot depends on the mortgage you got. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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We got a pretty good rate (6.85%) and have taken out a home equity loan (9%). I would like to refinance to absorb the other loan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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you probably need to have 25-30% equity at a minimum (at today's value) so maybe not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] ah youbemom's server is hving problems 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.19.08, 08:52 AM Flag
[ - ] 5 wks postpartum and have 5 pounds left to lose. Will that last bit come off from sweating/bf-ing still or am I going to have to suck it up and go on a diet to get rid of it? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.19.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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5 weeks, and only 5 lbs to go...okay sister, tell me how! Inspire me, 40 lbs and 3 more weeks until birth! How much did you gain all togther! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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^^^and to answer your question that 5 lbs is a bitch before pregnancy, I have not given birth yet so I can't say about that. But the rule of thumb is up the cardio, and add weight bearing excercise, maybe a bootcamp class or train for a 5k 10k what ever your next leel would be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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gained about 35 total. I've lost 30 so far from sweating/bf-ing. I think that is pretty normal--15 pounds the first week and another 15 in the next month. It's what's left that I so don't want to deal with (also, I was about 5 pounds over normal weight when I got pg, so at the end of the day I'd like to lose 10-ish). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:02 AM