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[ - ] Public school mom here: Its not about bitter public school moms. The ones who are intolerable are the "we the people" entitled ones. The ones who want to take the DOE to task for everything, threatening lawsuits, rabble rousing. Cannot stand them. The rest are generally lovely. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.23.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, there are so many of those entitled parents out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Yep, the ones that expect private school treatment for free, and generally aren't willing to lift a finger to make it happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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I think it's perfectly fine to be critical of the DOE. It is important to understand who the system is benefiting, and where the incentives lie. There is much that the DOE does well, but there are huge areas of dysfunctionality also, and there is nothing wrong with holding a public agency funded with our tax dollars accountable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone else noticed that when pregnant, they get offered a seat on the bus but not the subway? When I take the bus, at least 1 person offers me a seat every time. When I take the subway, nothing. I haven't taken anyone up on the offer yet (only 6 months and not too many stops) but I find it interesting. 88 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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I have the exact opposite experience. Offered a seat 90% of the time on the subway; more like 40-50% on the bus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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i noticed that when i was pregnant that it was mostly women who would give up their seats. and if it was a man it was usually a latino man, sometimes a black man, but hardly ever a white man. i traveled to london when i was pregnant and thought i would notice a difference there (would more men offer a seat?) as it turned out the same held true in london on the tube - it still was women who would give up their seats more often than a man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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It's not our fault you're pregnant, hon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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i wasn't saying that people had to give up their seats, i never expected it, it was nice when people did offer, and it was interesting to see who was more likely to offer a seat - a man or a woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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Go away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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i noticed it too. women and non-white men gave up their seats. you will find how rude people are when you have the stroller and they don't open the door for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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I was shocked to find that the bigger I got the less offers I got on the subway. I think it has to do more with the NYC attitude of having tunnel vision and not caring or noticing as you run over people. I will teach my children to always offer a seat if they see someone who needs it more than they do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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Who the hell are YOU to decide who "needs" a seat more than anyone else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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woah! you're saying an able bodied man shouldn't offer a seat to a prego woman? Granted I know some disabilities aren't visible and people who seem able bodied may not be, but that's obviously not everyone who stays seated while seeing a prego woman standing.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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Unless you take a poll of the people who are seated, you have no right to make assumptions. If you really NEED a seat, take a cab. Or stay home and put your feet up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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np: you are obnoxious. WHen I am pregnant (currently 36 weeks with #3), I ask a person who looks able-bodied (young guy typically) for a seat. I've never been refused. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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Ha. You haven't met me. This happened to me a couple of times. I ignore them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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Idea -- why don't you go to xtube.com? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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I was close to doing that. I asked for someone else (pg lady) once. I'm amazed at the rudeness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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not everyone can "take a taxi" or "stay home". Do you realize there are lots of women very pregnant out there working until birth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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clap clap clap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Their choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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what?? Their choice? Have you never heard of needing to work for a living? Some people don't have choices...single moms, working poor, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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They could have CHOSEN birth control until they were better able to afford a child ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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A fan of Eugenics, are you? dude, you're sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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No. Just a fan of personal responsibility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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oh go to hell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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what about people that WANT to work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Again ... their CHOICE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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what's your overall point here? Some of us are arguing for decency and kind gestures of offering seats, while you seem very angry at pregnant woman who take public transportation. what's your POINT? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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My POINT is that these women shouldn't EXPECT kind gestures. If I want to make a kind gesture, I'll make it. But don't get pissed off when I don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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You're a ray of sunshine in many people's day, huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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I feel sorry for you. You sound sad and angry. People who haven't experienced kindness and love generally don't offer it widely...sorry that's been your experience. good luck to you... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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It's not a "kind gesture". rather: "it takes a village". Troll. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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So what if it's your first baby and you're working until you have the baby - would you give a seat to that person??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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That is such a load of baloney. Everyone except the elderly and kids should offer their seats to the pregnant ladies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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The disabled should? Are you high? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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i agree with you. i remember once when i was on a train when i was pregnant with a man and his young son (he had to be about 12) and the man told his son to offer his to me - and he used it as a teaching moment and told his son, how he may be tired but it is always nice to offer a seat to someone who appears obviously appears to need one (whether pregnant or otherwise). it was nice to see this man teaching his son this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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That's sweet. I'm a guy and I rarely offer my seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Because I need it more than they do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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why, are you disabled? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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No. Just tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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question for the guy - why is more likely that my 92 year old grandfather will give up a seat on the subway than 30-40 year old guy? I bet he's more tire than you - but he still will offer a seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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He was pu$$ywhipped in a much earlier era. We men of today grew up in more enlightened times ... "I Am Woman" and all that jazz. You're welcome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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you sound like a gem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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ITTA. You can't have it both ways, ladies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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i was thinking that maybe he just had manners [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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he does (a chivalrous older man). this poster...not so much... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Manners? How often do you, a woman, offer your seat to a man? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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If they are obviously having a problem or look like they need a seat I would ask, but most men's "problems" aren [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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^^aren't outwardly visable like being pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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You were pregnant with a man and his son? Must've been uncomfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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LOL - that was my post - see i didn't read what i wrote before I sent - funny now that i re-read [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I think its actually a law that you can claim a disable seat when you are pregnant. They used to have subway posters up about it. It makes sense, by the way, cranky, lazy selfish people. God, I've seen people not give up seats for people with canes! Unbelievable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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you are a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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I've noticed this too--I wonder if it is because bigger = less attractive and ppl are more likely to give seats up for attractive women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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I totally agree. I'd be mortified if my children don't offer their seats on public trans to the elderly, disabled or pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Not to start a war, but in my personal experience, Hispanic men were always willing to give me a seat (train and bus) when pregnant over anyone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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They're used to being more subservient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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subservient...racist....say more polite. i am a latin woman and latin men are more polite to women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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i'm not latin, but I agree with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Only because they want some. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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my experience too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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it is part of their culture to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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never noticed any consistency with the seat offers. it's always nice when one is offered so profuse gratitude is in order cuz you are neither elderly nor handicapped. personally, i preferred to stand on public transit during pregnancies, it was actually more comfortable especially towards the end. it was too difficult to get out of a seated position too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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I'd give up my seat for you in both cases, but I'd probably be more aware of you on a bus. Also bus has a higher % of handicapped seats, so riders are supposed to be more aware of riders who needs seats and bus is more dangerous for you to be standing up in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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one time at about 39 weeks in the heat of the summer, no one offered me a seat on the bus. I finally got one and then was the only person to offer it to an elderly couple who got on (one of them anyway). they refused and insisted I sit. some people are just rude. I've noticed it here and in boston. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Absence of chivalry does not denote rudeness. YOU are rude for calling people out on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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it's rude and bad manners. I've never called anyone rude. it's obvious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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Again, it's not RUDE to be *not* chivalrous. It IS rude, however, to EXPECT chivalry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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angry poster: why do you care so much about this? I'd really like to know... as I already said, I feel sorry for you. You sound sad and angry. People who haven't experienced kindness and love generally don't offer it widely...sorry that's been your experience. good luck to you... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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it's rude to expect manners? that would be sad if it were true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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There's a difference between "manners" and "chivalry". Please familiarize yourself with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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have a nice evening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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you are a serious a-hole, hope to never meet you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Especially if I'm pregnant... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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...and how much class did that couple have in insisting I sit instead of they? we talked the whole way (they sat down next to me soon after) and they were lovely (had grandchildren, etc.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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That's nice. Point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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just sharing a nice public transportation story. it wasn't recent but I still remember them. it's nice when that happens in nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I pretty much was always offered a seat. At the time, I rarely took the bus, so we're talking mostly subway. And I was definitely offered seats by a wide variety of people from all ethnic groups (I noticed, because I'd been told of people not offering). There's the sheer weight and unweildy-ness, the fact that if a pregnant woman falls there are more dangers for both her and her baby, and all the reasons having to do with blood supply and all the constant changes of pregnancy that a pregnant woman is more likely than average to feel sick or lightheaded. I've wondered why my experience was different than so many I've heard of, who were not offered seats much. I really don't know. All I know is that my attitude (which may have shown) was always (usually), yes, I need a seat, and no, I don't expect one to be offered. I was always gracious in accepting, and it was always a lovely shared moment. I'm reasonably attractive but not especially, white, was 39 yo at the time, tallish & thinnish. Today I travel w/ dd in an ergo, and am likewise almost always offered a seat, but not as quickly. Will anyone else fess up about how kind strangers were to you pregnant, or are we only complainers here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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i never expected a seat, it was nice if someone offered. and i too was gracious when someone did, because they didn't have to. a lot of times when someone offered the seat, it was a few minutes after leaving the station, and they would apologize for not offering their seat right away because they didn't notice (we're reading, or zoning out). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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i am 35 weeks prego and almost always get offered a seat on the subway (dont really take the bus) i find that it is almost always men - and mostly latino and black men who offer me their seats (rarely white men). i also find that women are nasty. they see me and my huge belly and sort of snarl at me. if they do offer their seat, they are are not kind about it - sort of look at me and say something like 'uhg - do you want to sit here?' i also find that teenagers NEVER get up or offer their seats. when my kids are old enough, thats one of the first things i am going to teach them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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I gotta say, with the new style of womens tops in fashion lately it is getting harder and harder to tell if women are pregnant. Granted there is a point where it is not a question but you have to also remember, the rest of us don't know if you are preg or just heavy. I say, if you need a seat, just ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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it's just america and dare i way white western societies. white people have offered to give up their seat, but i do think it's more common from non-white people. and yes, usually more likely women than men. to be fair, sometimes i don't think it's intentional...i think people sometimes just don't notice. i think it's a sad commentary on the selfish individualistic nature of society. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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I cannot believe how tolerant people are towards racism towards whites.How dare someone say "I only see latino men give up seats".That is so racist & if someone said "I only see white men give up seats".There would be such an outrage.Racism or bigotry of any kind should not be tolerated!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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It's not racist to make an anthroplogical observation. It would be interesting to investigate - why do hispanic and african american men give up their seats more often to pregnant women rather than white american men? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Huh? How did racism come into this? It's about giving up a set or not. Who cares what race is the most accommodating in this situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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I often got offered seats but it was always, always, always by black or hispanic men or women or white women. White guys almost always ignored me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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And I hate to say it but the Jewish men would run me over to get a seat before I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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You are such a bigot!I've had plenty of men,jewish white,asian,give up seats for me.I'm just curious,the people who keep saying hispanic & african american men are more likely to give up their seats,are you hispanic or african american? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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And I've had a guy who beat me to a seat. Squeezed in to a recently opened seat right in front of me. Must've been the poster rattling on about "our choice." Hey, how about this: if you twist your ankle playing tennis, do you expect no one to offer you a seat because it was your "choice" to play tennis? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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once i hit 7 months seats started appearing everywhere. you may not look as preg. as you think! as for subway/bus difference, cannot say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] What private schools in Manhattan have swimming pools on-site and are they nice? I thought Columbia Grammar's was so-so for frame of my reference. TIA 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 07.23.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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claremont prep has a nice pool. (i did aquamoms there, so i know it only from this) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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Not that many [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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Trinity has one, but haven't seen it myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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I've seen it, it is your typical indoor pool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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not really different from CGPS pool, so if OP wants something fancier Trinity is not it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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Doesn't Dalton have a pool? But I don't think it is part of the curriculum like it is at CGPS. Chapin and Brearley use the pool at Asphalt Green. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Is swim taught at Chapin and Brearley or is it after school activity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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At Brearley I am told that it is taught starting in 1st grade a few times a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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not in manhattan, but Fieldston has an amazing, brand new pool. It's an afterschool offering from K on up and swimming is part of the 4th grade phys ed curriculum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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I think just having a swimming pool is awesome. My dd's school doesn't have one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Want to buy a Maclaren light-weight stroller. Any recommendations on what model to buy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.23.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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volo for dc over 18 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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op: ds just turned 2. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] dh finally went to the bank to secure his savings account, and instead of actually getting that done, the bank guy spent the whole time trying to convince him to buy variable annuities. he's going back tomorrow, but we're very skeptical about this investment because they were pushing it so hard. anyone know anything about these things. we're totally clueless 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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If you are clueless and the bank was pushing them then I wouldn't go for it without finding out more about it. The bank guy will probably get commission so he will be keen to sell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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5% commission...all we want to do right now is make sure all our $$$ is covered. dh has all his money in a savings account and it's more than the insured amount. he's a dope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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you can open multiple accounts (one in DH's name, one in yours, one jointly) and each will be insured up to the FDIC max [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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JUST SAY NO!!!! Whenever a bank custome goes in and grumbles about low interest rates, they send you over to their "investment" person who basically can't sell anything else except annuities. Annuities have their place as an investment product, but it's a very specific place, not for everyone and should be considered within the framework of an overall investment strategy - not all by itself. And it's certainly NOT an alternative to savings/CDs at the bank. If you are going to get an annuity, it should be from someone who also has the flexibility to offer you other investments and who is advising hte annuity based on your situation and NOT because he can't offer you anything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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thanks. that's a very succinct explanation of the issue. We're not stupid, just money stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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you're welcome. annuities tend to tie up your money for a while and i see too many people get stuck in them because they were sold improperly. if you need to keep >$100K in the bank, then it can be in joint name (so FDIC insurance of $200K) or you need to put some of it in a different bank. Ea bank has FDIC insurance for up to $100K per depositor. If it's inconvenient to keep deposits at several different banks, consider an account at a financial services firm that will allow you to get CDs from several banks and hold them in one account. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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What do you mean by "secure" his savings account? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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If you don't understand it, don't do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I called my ob gym at Cornell Weill after having a m/c at 5 1/2 weeks. The nurse called me back and said that there is really nothing they could do since it was so early in the pregnancy and not to bother coming in. I thought this was highly irregular and I told the nurse that this is my second m/c and that I thought I should see the doctor- she said that the I should schedule a pre-conception appt with the doctor. Should I change ob gyns? Are m/c's so prevalent that this is the way of things now? I felt they were very dismissive of my first m/c as well. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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I'm sorry for your losses. I read 1 in 3 pg fail (mostly before you even know you are pg) so yes it is common however if you have had a m/c before I would want to discuss with a Dr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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If you normally like your OB, I wouldn't change over this. Call back at another time and just make an appointment w your OB and then explain the situation to her. Gatekeepers can be a little OTT sometimes IMO (and my MD friends agree). I couldn't get an appointment to confirm pg w my GYN bc she doesn't do OB - but technically, it's not an OB appointment until you know you're pg. OTOH, I do think they don't really do anything for such an early miscarriage - many people don;t evne know they're pg at that point and would just think it's a late period. You should schedule an appointment to get checked out though and see if there are concerns as to cause of 2 mc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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Thank u. Is it worth going to an RE at this point? Or just see my ob gyn for now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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I would see your OB first. As upsetting as it is, I don;t think that 2 early miscarriages means you need an RE, but OB will know far better than me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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How old are you? I would definitely suggest going to an RE. The old common wisdom was you had 3 before there was a problem - but why wait? This is 2008 and there's no reason to suffer needlessly if there is something off with your hormones (eg progesterone). Also, You can have a doctor test the remains to determine if there is a chromosomal abnormality. Since this is your second, I would do that. That way they can assure you of an abnormality or if things seemed ok, then you know there may be a structural or hormonal issue with you that needs tending to with an RE. I am so sorry for your loss. I had a MC last Sept. and was devastated. Went to an RE straight away which was great, very reassuring, especially if time isn't on your side and you want to have more than 2 children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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side or you want more than 2 children...good luck! I have a great RE if you want his name... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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miscarriages are very common but if the way you were treated bothers you, you could look for a doctor with a better bedside matter. My ob is very matter of fact and she basically told me 'don't bother coming in' when I m/c'd twice around 6-7....she said 'just make appt for late next week for a sono and we'll make sure everything has been expelled'. I already had 2 dc's at the time (was trying for a 3rd, which I eventually got). Didn't bother me but I could see why it could seem very dismissive to someone else, especially if you were trying for #1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Thank you all for your responses! I'm 33 and had 1st m/c at 11 weeks. Not sure if I can take another m/c... I don't know if I should wait to go to a RE but I'm also OCD and I feel like my body is betraying me. An referrels would be much appreciated! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Go to an RE! It was the best decision I made. It can't hurt to make one appt. Try Dr. Nabil Husami. He's very old school and will customize his approach and pace...not like some clinics that (cornell, columbia pres) take same approach with everyone...(ie, clomid, then IUI, then IVF, whether it's all indicated or not) and you end up with multiples. He's into diagnostics, which I really appreciated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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I had a m/c in Jan and my OB didn't send me to an RE - took almost 3 months of misdiagnoses before my RE Alan Copperman (RMA) figured out what was wrong in 5 mins. Wish I had gone earlier. I don't believe in the "wait for 3 m/c's before the total work up." I've had 2 m/c's and its more than enough for anyone - good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.08, 09:05 AM Flag
[ - ] any suggestions for a place to take my 16 yr old for a not too pricey Mani/pedi in manhattan with a decent lunch nearby? Will also have my 13 & 11 yr old neice's too 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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there's a great place queen's nails on w72nd between columbus & amsterdam (I saw connie chung in there once) and i think they do $25 mani and pedi's and then very close by is alice's tea cup (not sure where but in the 70s)- it could be a very girly afternoon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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There is a place on 2nd Avenue between 71st and 72nd. Le Pain Quotidien is on 77th between 2nd and 3rd. Or JG Melon's on 3rd in the 70s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Mani/pedis are inappropriate for kids so young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I need to lose 10 lbs. Need a good diet plan. I exercise a ton, that is not the issue, I need a diet. HELP! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I'm doing WW and starving and lost NOTHING week one. In the past it has worked for me. I do not have time to get enough exercise, but do what I can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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I need something more radical [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm ready to go out with my 9 wk old daughter for the first time to do errands! At grocery store, do I put her in the car seat in the grocery cart? Is it easy? Am afraid of an outburst and will have to leave store. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.23.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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I have a snap and go stroller for my DD and planned on my first shopping trip as a short trip to the store where I would just put the food in the stroller basket or hold one of the store baskets in one hand. That way I wasn't encumbered by a large shopping cart. I wasn't too keen about putting the car seat on the top of the cart, just seems too top heavy and I have tried putting the car seat in the shopping cart basket but there's hardly any room for food, plus it can be a bumpy ride for baby. I was also afraid of an outburst, but if you do a quick shop (have a list ready) then it isn't so bad. DB will probably sleep the whole time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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^^ Also, the first errand I did with my DD was to the baby store where there are tons of moms with babies and restrooms with nursing stations. It gave me confidence that my DD stayed asleep the whole time while I heard other babies/kids fussing. But if she had woken up, it wouldn't have been such a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] i love the luca glider with the ottoman but it has a huge price tag. dh said just go for it and we'll get cheaper other things (like the crib...kidding). does anyone have the luca and think it's really worth the money, or suggestions for other mod gliders. thanks so much 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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I had a very cheap glider that I only used for the first 2 months. As DB got bigger, she started kicking the arm rests with her feet during BF and it drove me nuts. I would make sure the glider has wide arms or try sitting in it with a Boppy to see how the Boppy fits and whether DB will either kick the armrests or be able to lie their legs on top of the arm rests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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we have the luca, and are very happy with it- its a great investment...splurge on a glider, save on the crib. the crib is gone in 3 years, but a good glider will be used all the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone tried terconazole for a yeast infection? Did it work? Side effects? All answers appreciated... had a terrible reaction to monistat last night and hoping this is much safer... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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if i were you i'd call my dr. and get a perscription for diflucan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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doesn't work for me. Did you have a problem w/terconazole? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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oh no - but i had chronic yeast infections for a while and diflucan was the best remedy for me. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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Thanks. Yeah, diflucan worked for me once, and then never again... heard that's pretty common. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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there is a suppression therapy fo ryeast infections - I went on it when I had chronic ones from hours of running. Here is the one I was one - terconazole (I think that is what it was called) for 2 weeks. Then a diflucan a week for 4 weeks, then a diflucan a month for 2 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.21.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Have you tried suppression therapy - its basically 2 weeks of terconazole, then 4 weeks of a diflucan per week, then 1 diflucan / month for 2 months. It worked for me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.21.08, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone with a child in a school where teachers are called by their first names? I cannot get comfortable with this. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.23.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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serioulsy?? my kids are. i went to a school like that. the oposite seems absurd and dated to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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I sort of agree with you. What felt worse than the kids calling the teachers Mrs. So and so was that the parents all did it too. One teacher would send emails signed with first name only, but I had become accustomed to calling her Mrs X. Could not make the transition. was sort of infantilizing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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They are teachers and should be respected, do you call your doctor Lisa? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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i'm with you. it's about teaching your children to respect their teachers and elders. their teachers are their teachers, not their peers. personally, i would not send my children to such a schoo, but that may not be an option for you. if it's importatnt to you, make sure you teach your children some other way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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your boss is your boss and not your peer, but most people use first names in work environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Exactly. All the way up to the CEO. Has nothing to do with respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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i'm not 7 years old either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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I am a teacher who works in a school where the kids call me by my first time. While I agree it is dated to say Ms. Smith, I find it a little too causal when the kids are like 'hey Jane' - maybe at the younger age it is ok, but sometimes I walk the hallways of the older classrooms and to have a 12 yo saying to his teacher 'hey Mike, what's up' is just too causal to me. Granted I went to Catholic schools my whole life and to this day refer to most of my parents friends as Ms. Smith..... oh, and one other thing - parents who aren't comfortable with it at my school have their child call me Ms. Jane...... a bit odd, but I sort of like it.... and actually a few other kids started doing it as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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can you tell I had a long camp day? :) i meant my first name... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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at Friends they even call the headmaster by his first name. (so I hear) I wouldn't even be comfortable with that as a parent! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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that is due to your uptight upbringing. luckily your dcs will have a more normal and casual experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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I don't think I am uptight. I think it's important to teach kids to respect elders, esp teachers and headmasters/headmistresses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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np: ita with you. there is nothing wrong with calling attention to the fact that teachers are adults and authority figures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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I don't happen to think calling someone by their last name is a measure of respect. My dcs often respect most adults they are on a first name basis with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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If they're calling adults by their first names, they're not respecting them. Grow up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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not in my world. it is a new world, OK>? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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No. Respect is timeless. Calling someone by their first name is a familiarity ... always was, always will be. And that familiarity must be either earned or granted, never assumed. Honestly ... were you raised in a barn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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as a matter of fact...lol! you need to pry that stick out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Nice. Is that the kind of talk you're teaching your kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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only if they call me by my first name, of course! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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That is ridiculous. There are entire schools who are on a first name basis. For you to say that every child who calls a teacher by his or her first name is disrespectful is absurd. Not everyone has to see things your way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Entire schools can be wrong, you know. Hell, entire NATIONS can be wrong. I'm thinking Germany in the 1930s ... Saudi Arabia today ... etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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Oh I see. Entire school, wrong. You, right. You really do sound like a freak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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^^ oh, and notice I ignored the inflammatory comparisons. No need to comment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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ITA! this lady is a nut. imagine there are people out there like this raising dcs! scary! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Majority rule doesn't always translate into wrong or right. Again, I point to my two examples. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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buh-bye [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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In Germany they still show respect by calling teachers Mr. or Mrs. last name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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in our preschool, all teachers are Miss First Name until the preK years when they go by last names. All elem. schools where I live (not NYC) call teachers by their last names. This includes public and private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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dd's primary school was that way, but middle school is now Ms. and Mr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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DS goes to a summer camp @ a school like that--but his regular school is last names. I very much dislike the first name to address adults things. I don't like it if children call me by my first name and my kids are taught to call adults by their last name--or Sir or Ma'am. But I'm probably in the minority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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you sound like a freak! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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yeah, I just roll like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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I did not apply to any schools like that. It think it is silly & find it disrespectful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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I went to a high school where we called our teachers by their first names. It took a while for me to adjust to it, but it's not like you think of the teachers any differently. They were very clearly the authority figures. It was a great school and was more challenging than college for me and I hope to send our son there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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So true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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I think the formal address is actually a good thing to get kids used to. My parents never taught me that and as a result I didn't know what to call older folks I'd meet - so I'd clam up. Imagine a scenario where your dc's brought a new girl/boyfriend to meet you and that person calls you and your husband by your first names because they weren't taught anything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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lol, that scenario would not bother me one bit, if it does not happen I will suggest it immediately. Nobody calls me Mrs. X. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Huh? Of course her boyfriend can call me by my first name the first time I meet him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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i teach at a school that uses only first names. when i was hired the dean gave me this reason-"the respect comes from the person, not from the title". this makes a lot of sense to me. i have worked at other traditional schools also and i do not think that titles=more respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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ITDA, having worked at both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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I agree, especially if your last name is say "Sippy" just for an example. Our school they use first names - it's not a deal at all. In fact it seems to make the teachers more loved by the students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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My dc's pre-school teachers are Miss "First Name". Miss Miriam, Miss Elaine, etc. I think it is a nice balance of respectful and casual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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my kid is, but they call them Ms. First Name, not just First Name. Doesn't bother me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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I went to a school like that until highschool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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yup. its no big deal. everybody goes by first names, even the principal, adn you get used to it real fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Attorney Moms: My friend recommended an attorney who I went to talk to about a legal issue. I did a lookup on the NY attorney website to get more information and I discovered that the attorney has not registered since 10/07. Is this a bad sign ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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NYS registration is required every 2 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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it says "Due to reregister within 30 days of birthday" and next registration is 10/07 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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