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[ - ] when dd was in nursery school all the mom's were sahm i was the only wohm. no one wanted playdates with my dd and her nanny. go figure. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I'm SAHM and the Mom's my kids have playdates with are my friends. The playdates are as much for me as my dc. I have no interest in spending my social time with people who I am not friendly with. There is a big difference between a SAHM and a nanny who is 'working' during a playdate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] dh here; looking for fun tonight! anyone else? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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nope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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You found it, big guy! What are you up for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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OP wife only has sex w/ 3 times a week...ladies tell me you do it more that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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okay, yes we all do it more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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With DH it's only once a week. With BF it's anywhere from 4-6 times a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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looking for fun on urban baby. wife have parental controls on internet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you think of the name Scarlett? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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is your other dd suri? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.11.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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is the mom really a loser just b/c of the name? wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.27.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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Isabella is a lovely hispanic name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.14.08, 09:42 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of ERB score is good enough to apply TTs? No connection, not super rich, ordinary family. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.23.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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why would you want to try for a TT if you're non of the above? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Why would you answer this question if you have no idea about who attends schools? (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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cuz only the very snobby, connected, old money kids go to TT and if you're none of the above how do you think you will "fit" in not to mention how your child will cope with all the spoiled kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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You're out of touch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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LOL. My SMART kid is very happy at tt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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what is tt?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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seriously....no idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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ok, ok. Top tier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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You are very, very wrong about this. Lots of families on FA also at TT (probably more than non-TTs). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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true. tts love to hire a few underachievers to entertain and educate the kids with $$$ and connections. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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wow, you are a sad person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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nope. very happy actually. also very insightful. the wealthy like to pay for others who will make their experience more varied and interesting. FA is not just altruism [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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np: ITA! Maybe not altruism at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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What does that have to do with calling teachers underachievers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I wasn't calling teachers underachievers. i was saying that FA often amounts to hiring MC familes who are well educated, often in good privates themselves, but who are now underachievers, but still want expensive private schools for their dcs, for the wealthy kids to have a diverse experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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np: hiring kids via FA, get it? kids with underachieving MC parents, no less! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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np; I don't know every single FA family, but I can tell you that the ones I know didn't go to private schools (though many did go to good colleges) and are not underachievers. WEll, not on purpose anyway. Just bec you graduated from a good college doesn't mean you can be a hedgefund manager or investment banker. Most grads end up having regular jobs and they're not considered underachievers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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trust me, most are underachievers because they prefer not to work hard, value qol above all else, and still want the private school thing. there is a typical FA type, and I am describing it here for you. know many. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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underachievers?! That makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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95+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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OP: Our DC is very smart. Going to G&T K in September but we want to give a try for TT. DC has fall birthday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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99 will get a serious look. 95+ will be looked at. low 90 and under - very hard, though not impossible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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OP: Is 97 give a serious enough? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Serious enough, though not as serious as 99. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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If she gets a 95, you are nice people, she has a good play date, and you can pay she has a very good chance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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LOTS of 95 out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] What fundraisers do your kids' preschools have? (Besides a big fancy auction) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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now that dd is out of preschool i have come to realize that the fundraisers were totally over the top and a bunch of bull. your kid is only there for two years anyway so why bother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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our elemetary preK-8th did carnival, auction, candy sales, gift wrap sales- 4 fundraisers/year. Fwiw I was the last year's treasurer and we had nearly $100k in our accts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I don't understand why they have to do fundraisers. Why not just put the fees up? I'm not a local so I find this all a bit strange. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Giving money in fundraisers is voluntary. There are some that can give a lot, some a little, and others nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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its just part of the whole private school system. the work you do for the preschool is just the warm up game for the big leagues at ongoing. the whole thing is a big scam. first you pay through the nose, then you are told the school can't even educate your dc for $30K per year, so fundraising is necessary. then they use a ton of money to pay for people who have decided to SAH to raise their dcs and cannot afford the $30K. its a racket! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Surprisingly almost none. They tried to sell some bags with the school's name on it. It was a very slow year last year. The year before was a little more aggressive (fancy dinner and cruise) and some kind of year book where you could pay for a dedication for your child, take out ads, but they never got around to actually print that thing (but took our money). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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An Autumn Bake Sale and a Spring Fair/Carnival, Games, Rummage,etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Pot. Ahhh. Relief. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.23.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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yu should hang w/ my DH...so sick of pot, thought he would out grow it but not yet :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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if you can't beat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Once a pothead, always a pothead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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so true, damn it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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i would be careful about wishing your husband should hang with some pot head mom. sounds like a recipe for trouble. [ Reply | More
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nah pot makes you so un horny!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:38 PM Flag
[ - ] how much do you spend on new school clothes per child? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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last year she was at a school that had uniforms i spent about $250 for the fall and another $125 spring/summer not including shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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thanks, friend thought I went overboard because I spent about $200 from miniboden I thought I did great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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sounds like your friend should mind her own beezwax to me. fwiw this year my dd is in a new school no uniform and i am dreading the shopping! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I LOVE to shop for the kids but hate shopping for me, seriously check out miniboden I love it! (great quality) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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spend about $1K a year on clothes for DD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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i've been there believe me and when she outgrew all those cute outfits with no sister to hand down to it was a drag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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LOL - I was two DDs exactly three years apart, so that is how I rationalize the big purchases. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] If you or dh is unemployed (or ever were) did you consider it to be private? I hate myself but I'm embarassed. I know - very old school attitude. Berate me or console me! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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yes, private. having a bunch of people feeling sorry for us wouldn't have helped anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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that sucks but I understand that you want to keep it private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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It just hurts less if we can focus on our situation w/o managing other sympathetic (or schadenfreude motivated) people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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i would say private except for family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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yes, private unless you can network discreetly as in, oh? my dh is in that field but he has been taking some time w the dcs... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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Console only, our situation is way too public because the company had a very public blow up, people ask and I hate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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I have been several times in the 20+ years I have been working. I have always been open about it with friends and family. I never felt ashamed of it. I always collected unemployment and relaxed while looking for a new job (the last two times I got to stay home with my small children for a bit longer then planned which was wonderful). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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If you or dh is looking for a job, you need to craft a sentence or 2 explaining the situation and positioning it for a networking oppty. If it was a public blowup like Bear Stearns, no one will hold it against you for being out of work. Eg, My group at company x just downsized, and I'm interested in networking into companies like y, z, and w. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate the PTA 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Always hunting for money, money, money. So far I haven't seen a single expenditure. Whats the war chest for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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I'm the Treasurer for our PTA and we have almost 40 different committees that focus on activities for the children and community. We have a reserve, as suggested by the National PTA organization of half a year's budget. What's the big deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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No PTA needs a $25,000 bank account for a school of 300 families that produce maybe - maybe - 3 events a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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np: Are you talking about preschool? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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nope, my local public [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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$25K is nothing for K-5 school, drop in the bucket [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Our account can run as high as $200k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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Well we have about 350 families for K through 5. We run lots of day long author visits, dance exhibitions, health fairs, theme related fairs, book fairs, bingo nights etc. Ask to see the books - you're entitled and maybe you'll understand or maybe you'll get them to operate more efficiently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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np: Ours pays for teacher's assistants in the classrooms, chess program, art supplies, class trips, lunch and recess supervisory staff etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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ours also runs an extensive after school program - really great stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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np: Do you not get to see the budget? You should be able to get your hands on that and see exactly what goes in and out. Our tresurer provides budget updates (and hands out the budget) at every PTA meeting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yes I see the budget - the entire emphasis is on fundraising its gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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None of the money gets spent? We spend almost everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Are you on the PTA Board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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hardly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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This is my first year in Public School and the PTA runs most of the activities. It's actually a good thing. There are lots of volunteers, it's a way of life in Westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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I think OP is talking about preschool, otherwise she is not making much sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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There is no PTA in preschool as they are privately run and have private fundraising/activity committees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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maybe they call it PA only but we definitely have one, with monthly meetings and all that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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She's not talking about pre school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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then I don't understand her claim nothing gets spent. The rules are it has to be spent, the money you can hold over is quite limited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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itta - I'm the PTA treasurer from above and the $$$ should be spent on the dcs. A reserve of 6 months for expenses is the rule of thumb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Does your dc's school have a book fair? How does it work, new books or used? Who are they sold to and is the point to donate them somewhere or raise money for the school? TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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yes, it works through some publisher, sold to parents, point to raise money for school. parents can buy and donate books in their kids' names to library or classes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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Oh, you can't just donate books to then be sold? (is that weird ... buying second hand books?) Looking for simple fundraising ideas for ds's school. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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they do have a fair wher eyou can donate stuff. the only hitch about donations is that they can be iffy. like, let my dh donate his 1987 book about baseball prospects. it can work, but you need to be specific about what you can and will accept and what you will refuse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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scholastic does ours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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our school has a used book fair, it's awesome. tons of books for sale. who cares if they are used? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a sahm without a nanny and I am finding that some moms won't put together playdates with us, because we don't have a nanny. So I am looking for a nanny a few days a week. Where should I look? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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whaaaaaaaat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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are you looking for a nanny for only this reason? weird... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Have you ever been in that situation? You probably have help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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You're looking to hire a nanny not because you need one (no SAHM really "needs" one anyway) but because you're trying to win the friendship of other moms who aren't worth your time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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OP: I don't care about the parents just my dc having time with a friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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So force the issue with these stick-in-the-a$$ moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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I tried. I truly did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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So host the playdates and make it clear that you don't care if they nannies come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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I think the nannies don't like it. They feel I am going to report back to the moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Who the hell cares what the nannies think? They're EMPLOYEES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Lovely. I know I want to work for someone who doesn't care what I think. Where do I sign up for that job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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then host the playdate yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I've gone thru this myself. Your child's best friends are with nannys all day. You need a nanny just so your DC can have playdates with his friends that have nannys. Been there. I tried to make other freinds for DC - it can take time but eventually your DC will have friends without nannys. Or just get a babysitter for 10 hrs a week and book the playdates then. That's what I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Where did you get the babysitter? Someone suggested sitter city, but I thought that was college students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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oh...also - get to know your DC's friends nannies. Call them directly. Invite them over. Make friends with them and say you want playdates. Most WOHM don't want the hassle of the scheduling, they leave it to the nannies. Or just say to the mom - ' do you mind if i call your nanny for a playdate '. Have done this myself many times - if you want the playdate with the child they're watching it's what you have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Totally untrue that no SAHM really needs a nanny. Many absolutely do. If you have a special needs child, a very sick child, are caring for elderly parents, etc. you need help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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sitter city, but I'd find other moms to hang with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I know. I need a nanny for other things, like looking for a job, but I really feel badly for my daughter who wants to hang out with particular children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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how old is yourdd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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three [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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I think it's not the nanny thing but no offense I think it might be you and the other mommies are saying nanny, I find this whole thing very odd. I am a sahm mom and I have never had this experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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ita, I think the moms don't want to hang with OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Really? I think the nanny doesn't want to do the playdates. The mom works crazy hours and we get together for dinner and sometimes playdates, but not very often since she isn't home that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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great plan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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I know it seems strange, but most of the other moms have nannies do the playdates. It's insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Ummm yeah - that seems strange and I live in a very elite part of the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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What does that even mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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In my very monied community no one needs a nanny to have a play date - but it makes a good excuse if I don't want to hang out with a particular mom I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I don't think you understand the NYC culture of the OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP you are truly insane [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Wow and you are truly insensitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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start looking for normal people to have playdates with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I think you are probably right. : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I think you should just find other SAHM or have playdates with the nannies. I haven't been in your situation, but I am WOHM and my dd doesn't get to go on playdates with kids who have SAHM. Only a few of the moms will do playdates with my nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I am a SAHM without a nanny and my kids have playdates with other SAHMs kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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please don't get a nanny for this reason. your dc may be disappointed for a little while, but are these really the people you want to be friendly with? and the kids you want your daughter to be friends with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 02:36 AM Flag
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Why don't you just make arrangements to drop your kid off with the nanny for a playdate. As long as you don't seem like you are taking advantage of the nanny, this seems like reasonable compromise. You don't have to hang out with the nanny so your kid can have someone to play with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 08:40 AM Flag
[ - ] ok ladies - need advice. just moved to burbs and dd (3.6) wants a present every time we go to a big store (supermarket, target, etc). I swear she's not a brat, but when we lived in the city, such trips were rare (every few months or so). so i always got her a small present. so i kind of conditioned her for it. now we live here and go a few times a week. now what? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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yup, its the Target phenomenon - just don't buy anything and she will get the point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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The word "no". Learn it. Use it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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don't take kid to stores w/ you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Right. Because she's too spineless to say "no", so much better to avoid the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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oh stop. i do say no, it's just she has a learned behavior and now i have to have her unlearn it. i have 2 dc, and it's hard to manage a tantrum in the middle of a store. if i were "spineless" i'd just buy her one each time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Just start toning it down. My kids think they've won the jackpot if they get chocolate milk at the grocery store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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say you are going to "visit" the toys or "visit" the clothes... not to take them home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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just say youa re going to "visit" the toys or "visit" the clothes... not take them home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I do this with ds and suprisingly it works really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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i don't get hw you were in a city and didn't go out w dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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of course i did, just rarely to big stores. dag's doesn't have toys on every endcap like the ones here do. and target was a rare trip. she's fine with NO to most things, it's just that she recognizes it as a toy store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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oh, sorry- i just tell dd to say 'hi' and visit, then put down and say 'bye'. went through enough variations so far as this is dc # 3. it seems to work so far. how old is dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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3.6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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I live less than a mile from target and I am there all the time. I put up with the whining, but I stand pretty firm. Unless I discuss getting a toy in advance of going, we do not get anything. There is a lot of whining somedays, but I am firm. Its not fun, but it is what it is. I felt like I was buying crap from the "one spot" twice a week. I do not want to raise my kids like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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^^also, when they were younger, I would bring snack to keep them occupied. But th real key is to set up expectations in advance of walking into the door of a target (or what have you) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Agree with above post. I tell my ds that we are here to get cereal or a present for a friend's birthday or whatever, not anything for him . . .and then stand firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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np: same here. This has never been a problem w/ either kid. Sometimes we get something--but more often we don't. I remember being in a toy store once w/ a mom & grandma & a 3 y.o. boy. They were buying him not just one Broder truck but 3 of them (for his birthday, presumably) but first took all of them out of the package for him to try. Then he had a freak out at the counter because he also wanted a huge bag of jelly beans. Oy--a little Veruka Salt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Restaurant week coming! Boston moms where should DH and I go? Very out of it here in the 'burbs. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Boston 07.23.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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If Oleana in Cambridge is on the list, try that--my absolute favorite in Boston. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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If L'Espalier is participating, that's FANTASTIC. Mistral has great food AND the very urban, cool vibe you can't get in the burbs. And Hamersley's Bistro is always a good bet for amazing food. No. 9 park is good as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone taking an August vacation? Where are you going? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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Nantucket - 'Sconset and can't wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Camp counselor gift/tip? DS has 2 counselors at his day camp, both about 18. What is the protocol here? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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In our town it's between $20 & $30 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Starbucks coffee cards are always a big hit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] If only having two kids. What would you prefer? both ofthe same sex or different? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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If you had asked me years ago, I would have said different, but I loooove having two boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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me too, I have no interest in girls at all - find them whiney! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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same here. Love my boys. But if #3 was dd I would be even more happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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only? I hear that one or two are generally the max [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I had a boy and a girl and then years later my third was a boy. I wouldn't trade my dd for anything but little boys are fun and relatively uncomplicated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Do we really get a choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm going to europe coach class. I'm six month pregnant. Hope a flight attendant offers me first class for free once I'm there... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.23.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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LOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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ime you'll be lucky to find someone to help you get your bag into the overhead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Then you better hope its a male flight attendant because no woman will do that - sadly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Why would a gay guy care about a pregnant woman? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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nice assumption dude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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Assumption? I work for the airlines. Straight male flight attendants are about as common as braces on chickens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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good luck with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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see if you can ask if you can be placed next to an empty seat - you may be lucky and no one will end up sitting next to you. an other thing to do is get to the airport early and go to the airline's lounge (you don't have to be a silver/gold member) most airlines allow you to pay a fee for the day (delta's is $25) and then you get to sit in the lounge - have some snacks, etc before you board. also i was thinking that in the lounge there are ticket agents - you may have more luck with them getting you to be placed next to an empty seat or even possibly bumped up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone rent a house instead of owning (even though they could afford to buy)? Pros/cons of it? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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We rent and love the fact that when stuff goes wrong it's not our problem to fix it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Personal Luxury item you covet 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.23.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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bigger apartment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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tummy tuck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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my own washer/dryer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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ditto - I never thought I would crave my own washer/dryer! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were an au pair, would you prefer an small 8 x 12 room with a small en suite bathroom on the 1st floor (but in an area set off from rest of the floor) OR a 14x17 bedroom on the 2nd floor with the rest of the family bedrooms and have to use a hall bath with the kids?? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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#1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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totally #1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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#1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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#1. private bath is key. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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#1. More private for entertaining guests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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whoaa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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Whoaa what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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np: whoaa like im not sure I need to worry about my au pairs "guests" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Well, it would be nice if you did. She's a person, not a household appliance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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np: My au pair will not be having "overnights" - sorry thats not part of the deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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Not saying "overnights", just saying guests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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ouch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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OP: thanks! The room just seems so small compared to the upstairs room DH says he would feel weird having her up there (and I'm sure she would too) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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I was a nanny in grad school and had private quarters. the more private the better for everyone. small doesn't matter as much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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#1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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