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07.23.08, 17:17 PM General Topics
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ok ladies - need advice. just moved to burbs and dd (3.6) wants a present every time we go to a big store (supermarket, target, etc). I swear she's not a brat, but when we lived in the city, such trips were rare (every few months or so). so i always got her a small present. so i kind of conditioned her for it. now we live here and go a few times a week. now what? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
 

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yup, its the Target phenomenon - just don't buy anything and she will get the point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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The word "no". Learn it. Use it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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don't take kid to stores w/ you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Right. Because she's too spineless to say "no", so much better to avoid the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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oh stop. i do say no, it's just she has a learned behavior and now i have to have her unlearn it. i have 2 dc, and it's hard to manage a tantrum in the middle of a store. if i were "spineless" i'd just buy her one each time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Just start toning it down. My kids think they've won the jackpot if they get chocolate milk at the grocery store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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say you are going to "visit" the toys or "visit" the clothes... not to take them home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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just say youa re going to "visit" the toys or "visit" the clothes... not take them home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I do this with ds and suprisingly it works really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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i don't get hw you were in a city and didn't go out w dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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of course i did, just rarely to big stores. dag's doesn't have toys on every endcap like the ones here do. and target was a rare trip. she's fine with NO to most things, it's just that she recognizes it as a toy store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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oh, sorry- i just tell dd to say 'hi' and visit, then put down and say 'bye'. went through enough variations so far as this is dc # 3. it seems to work so far. how old is dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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3.6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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I live less than a mile from target and I am there all the time. I put up with the whining, but I stand pretty firm. Unless I discuss getting a toy in advance of going, we do not get anything. There is a lot of whining somedays, but I am firm. Its not fun, but it is what it is. I felt like I was buying crap from the "one spot" twice a week. I do not want to raise my kids like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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^^also, when they were younger, I would bring snack to keep them occupied. But th real key is to set up expectations in advance of walking into the door of a target (or what have you) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Agree with above post. I tell my ds that we are here to get cereal or a present for a friend's birthday or whatever, not anything for him . . .and then stand firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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np: same here. This has never been a problem w/ either kid. Sometimes we get something--but more often we don't. I remember being in a toy store once w/ a mom & grandma & a 3 y.o. boy. They were buying him not just one Broder truck but 3 of them (for his birthday, presumably) but first took all of them out of the package for him to try. Then he had a freak out at the counter because he also wanted a huge bag of jelly beans. Oy--a little Veruka Salt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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