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07.23.08, 17:17 PM Toddler
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I'm a sahm without a nanny and I am finding that some moms won't put together playdates with us, because we don't have a nanny. So I am looking for a nanny a few days a week. Where should I look? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
 

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whaaaaaaaat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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are you looking for a nanny for only this reason? weird... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Have you ever been in that situation? You probably have help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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You're looking to hire a nanny not because you need one (no SAHM really "needs" one anyway) but because you're trying to win the friendship of other moms who aren't worth your time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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OP: I don't care about the parents just my dc having time with a friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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So force the issue with these stick-in-the-a$$ moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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I tried. I truly did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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So host the playdates and make it clear that you don't care if they nannies come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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I think the nannies don't like it. They feel I am going to report back to the moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Who the hell cares what the nannies think? They're EMPLOYEES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Lovely. I know I want to work for someone who doesn't care what I think. Where do I sign up for that job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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then host the playdate yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I've gone thru this myself. Your child's best friends are with nannys all day. You need a nanny just so your DC can have playdates with his friends that have nannys. Been there. I tried to make other freinds for DC - it can take time but eventually your DC will have friends without nannys. Or just get a babysitter for 10 hrs a week and book the playdates then. That's what I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Where did you get the babysitter? Someone suggested sitter city, but I thought that was college students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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oh...also - get to know your DC's friends nannies. Call them directly. Invite them over. Make friends with them and say you want playdates. Most WOHM don't want the hassle of the scheduling, they leave it to the nannies. Or just say to the mom - ' do you mind if i call your nanny for a playdate '. Have done this myself many times - if you want the playdate with the child they're watching it's what you have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Totally untrue that no SAHM really needs a nanny. Many absolutely do. If you have a special needs child, a very sick child, are caring for elderly parents, etc. you need help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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sitter city, but I'd find other moms to hang with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I know. I need a nanny for other things, like looking for a job, but I really feel badly for my daughter who wants to hang out with particular children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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how old is yourdd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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three [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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I think it's not the nanny thing but no offense I think it might be you and the other mommies are saying nanny, I find this whole thing very odd. I am a sahm mom and I have never had this experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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ita, I think the moms don't want to hang with OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Really? I think the nanny doesn't want to do the playdates. The mom works crazy hours and we get together for dinner and sometimes playdates, but not very often since she isn't home that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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great plan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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I know it seems strange, but most of the other moms have nannies do the playdates. It's insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Ummm yeah - that seems strange and I live in a very elite part of the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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What does that even mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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In my very monied community no one needs a nanny to have a play date - but it makes a good excuse if I don't want to hang out with a particular mom I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I don't think you understand the NYC culture of the OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP you are truly insane [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Wow and you are truly insensitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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start looking for normal people to have playdates with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I think you are probably right. : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I think you should just find other SAHM or have playdates with the nannies. I haven't been in your situation, but I am WOHM and my dd doesn't get to go on playdates with kids who have SAHM. Only a few of the moms will do playdates with my nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I am a SAHM without a nanny and my kids have playdates with other SAHMs kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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please don't get a nanny for this reason. your dc may be disappointed for a little while, but are these really the people you want to be friendly with? and the kids you want your daughter to be friends with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 02:36 AM Flag
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Why don't you just make arrangements to drop your kid off with the nanny for a playdate. As long as you don't seem like you are taking advantage of the nanny, this seems like reasonable compromise. You don't have to hang out with the nanny so your kid can have someone to play with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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