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[ - ] My 7yo dd is going to be bummed that David A. didn't win. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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so are all the 13yo girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, heres one. How many of you pee in the pool? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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me! [ Reply | More
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almost everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Never. i'm too afraid people will see the yellow cloud. [ Reply | More
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not since I was 5 or 6 yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Really? You do? NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I did when I was a kid, but not anymore - grosses me out now - don't want to swim in my own piss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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That doesnt gross you out thinking of swimming in everyones pee? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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in my own only....but often in the ocean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] wow---40th birthday---15th anniversary--3 dcs. How did this happen so fast??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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you are OLD !!! kidding. congrats [ Reply | More
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:12 PM Flag
[ - ] How much should a Disney trip cost for 5-6 days at Polynesian....not including airfare. I think we can use miles. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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At top level 7K [ Reply | More
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10k [ Reply | More
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OP: really? Not including airfare? so that's hotel, food, tickets, souvenirs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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oh sorry...tired. WITH airfare [ Reply | More
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seems a tad hig. And we always stay concierge [ Reply | More
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OP: what does concierge get you? Is it worth it??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Depends. Its its own floor, better rooms. There is a snack room that I find KEY for us. Bagels, coffee etc. in morn and snacks/cocktails at night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
[ - ] You know that Archie's dad is gonna beat him tonight. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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and he deserves it. he is a loser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] What is an embarassing thing about your DH's sexual behavior? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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he's awkward and asexual [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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do tell [ Reply | More
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how long have you been together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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when he's about to come he says "oh" repeatedly, like thousands of times. it is actually extremely annoying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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does he make the "OH" face? [ Reply | More
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i don't know. i don't look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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my neighbor is cousins with that guy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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OH! OH! OH! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I'm glad someone is having sex with my DH! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] yeah david cook@!!!!!!!!!!!!11 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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best AI ending [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] is it dear sir/madam if i email my resume to a seach firm email address? how do i know who is going to get it? how do i address the email? thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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send certified/RR. you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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i always say "dear madam/sir", some women take issue, but men never would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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better to gave name, but go w/ to whom it may concern. I am a recruiter & in this day sir/madam is just archaic. "Madam" just makes me cringe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 12:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know a decent place to stay in the area of Lake George/Loon Lake other then the Sagamore? Doesn't have to be a big resort just fairly nice thx. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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There are some nice places in Bolton Landing and also a little north of Lake George (although I'm blanking on names). I used to work at a sleepaway camp in the area! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Never have, never will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] GD dvr just switched channels!!! what happened after he announced his name? And what di Ryan mean when he said delivered by his brother? How did the young one react? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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with grace and class as you would expect [ Reply | More
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DC's brother is dying [ Reply | More
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[ - ] David Cook it is! Can't believe it 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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YES. American got it right!!!! Good-bye to David A's father!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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finally -and by 12 million votes - I am so thrilled. I can cry [ Reply | More
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what was the deal with him anyway? I actually liked both davids quite a bit. Didn't matter much which one [ Reply | More
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OMG, you can't post inside anymore? This sux. [ Reply | More
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sorry hon. You should know not to come here after a moment like that. I had to swear off for a week when a show I wasn't keeping up with ended and I didn't want to know what happened [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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my dvr switched channels right after they said his name..can you recap how the other david reacted? Also, I heard RS say "delivered by his brother"...what happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Archy just smiled and left the stage. No big reaction. I didn't hear that brother comment so dont know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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ty [ Reply | More
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brother with brain tumor was in audience, i think [ Reply | More
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YOU SUCK. SOme of us are on the W. Coast. GRRRRRRR [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] how did you compromise when choosing a life partner? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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he is shorter than what I thought I'd like to marry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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are you attracted to him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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yes, very. I just thought I;d marry someone really tall. We just had our 15th anniversary, still in love [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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hmm. doesnt sound like you compromised. just sounds like you matured [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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I had to give up the idea of a tall guy [ Reply | More
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is he taller than you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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by one inch! 5'8 [ Reply | More
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well thats not much of a compromise IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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same. so much better in every other respect... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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me too, but I'm totally okay with it. so glad I didn't marry some tall dipshit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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I know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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dh is not into holidays/gifts. It used to really drive me nuts. Not so much anymore [ Reply | More
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did he meet your needs when you were dating? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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eh. Now I see that I kinda put too much importance into gifts, when life is about other things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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np: he got to you! I posted below with same issue. I'm used to it now, too, although I do sometimes wish for a nice surprise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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He's hairy and a Mets fan and has gross feet! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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^^^ Oh, and he just made me watch "American Idol" with him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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saint theresa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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ugg, im sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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It was brutal! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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I had to give up half the space in the bathroom. Sheesh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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I really didn't. I mean - no one is perfect but he is really a great person in all the ways that matter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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He's white. I'm not, which makes life a lot more difficult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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np: how so? I'm in a mixed race marriage, too, and don't feel much of a compromise because of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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compromised on money, although I didn't think of it that way at the time. Also, compromised on celebrations. DH hates holidays. [ Reply | More
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ditto [ Reply | More
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He isn't perfect and can drive me crazy, but I can honestly say I married "the one". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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i don't feel i did....at one point i came to the realization that when choosing a partner my list shouldn't be of things i want in him, but rather of the things i absolutely will not tolerate...then i met dh, and i could tolerate him :) 8yrs, 2kids, i adore him and he has always been great....GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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I have learned that his lower middle class upbringing and my upper class upbringing has caused a fair amount of fighting. I never thought it was an issue before we had kids. It is defnitely an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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interesting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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ditto, but we're lower class (poor in dh's words) vs. UMC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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i totally matured. no compromising at all. when you realize that who the person is is the most important thing, everything else doesn't matter - meaning, he will work both physically, emotionally and mentally with his all for you - holds nothing back. anything else, has nothing to do with you. that's why dating/marrying by checklist (ie tall, rich, smart, ethnically correct) doesn't work. if he's not about you, you will feel it. THAT is compromising. my dh is a different race, too short and has alot of allergies - and he is absolutely wonderful. every day i thank my ability to see that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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he's not nearly as intellectual as me, although he's actually smarter in many ways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I miss Brian Dunkleman. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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omg - I am peeing. you are funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone raising their niece or nephew? My brother who has tons of problems knocked up a girl who has more problems than he does. Right now, my parents are raising my precious nephew, but I don't think it is fair for them to spend their retirement raising him. If my brother doesn't get it together, I am going to take him. My parents have custody right now. TIA!!! 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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i think that he'll be lucky to have you as his "mom" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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Thank you...he is so blessed to have so many people that love him. My brother loves him, but his mother doesn't care about him...I just don't understand it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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that will be very hard for the little boy...he has a sense of abandonment, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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He has been with my parents since he was 2 weeks old. My mom is the only mother he has ever known... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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not really - his real mom carried him while pg. He definitely knows that heartbeat and voice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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"real" mom? Weird thing to say. Anyone can get pg and give birth. The people who care for him are his real parents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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np-it's not actually as big a deal, as those books would have you believe.....this child, provided the family situation doesn't change, will not recall that heartbeat and voice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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I totally agree...the real mother barely even held him after he was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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don't wait around for your brother...the sooner the better for the baby, i would think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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Like I said, my parents are still young enough to care for him. He stays with me (i have a 4 month old and he is 7 months) a lot. My mom won't let me have him...she says it isn't fair to my husband and me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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personally i feel that growing up in your home would be a healthier environment than to do so with grandparents...i know it's done all the time, but it's far from ideal for so many reasons...so if you and dh have enough love to give to this little guys, and especially because he is so young that he wouldn't have to adjust yet......it would probably be best....maybe talk to a child psychologist, take your mom along [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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That is what my moms lawyer told her, too. Because of our age, stable home life, etc we would be the best fit. The db is very loved by my bro and we still have hope for him. The db changed my bro a lot so we hope he will continue to make improvements, but you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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sounds like your mom is unable to accept the fact that her own ? baby boy (meaning your brother) is unfit...even if he improves, it won't be soon enough that he is ready to parent....how does he feel about letting you adopt the baby (or be legal guardians)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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We haven't really talked about it because he had a horrible time accepting the fact that my parents were getting custody. I think my mom feels like a failure with my brother (even though 2 of her kids are successful) and wants to make sure db doesn't end up like brother. She is kinda of suffering from empty nest syndrome or controlling someone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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one of the top reasons why the grandparent shouldn't raise their screwed up kids' kids....i know there isn't always a choice, but in this case there is...your mom needs to start thinking of the baby and not herself...and soon!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Not the same situation, but my friend married a widower with 2 DC and she is now fully their "mom" (legally and also emotionally and just in terms of day-to-day stuff). [ Reply | More
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wow...how old are dcs [ Reply | More
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Now in 4th grade and 6th grade (I think!). They were very young when their mom died (breast cancer) -- the younger DC was a baby. She began dating their dad 3+ years later (and they dated for a while before getting engaged). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Why do I feel so sad for their deceased mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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ITA...one of my gfs died a couple of years ago leaving behind dh and 2 dds. I often wonder what it will be like for them when/if he remarries. She's a tough act to follow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I would hate to think I was replaceable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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yeah but you would want a positive female role model for your dcs, right? I think it's important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Well of course. But sorry, still find it very sad somehow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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np well you would not be really but wouldn't you want DH to move on and be happy and to find someone to love and care for your children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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No, it's not like that. I respect my friend for the lengths that she goes to "honor" their mom's memory. They don't call her (my friend) mom -- they call her by her first name. They see their mom's family often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Thats different. By your post I thought that they called her mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Sorry for that -- I just meant that they're not "her" DC, but that she cares for them as though they are her own. The DC love her, too -- but she (and her DH) also take care to keep up their connection with their mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I think whomever can provide the most stable environment is best suited. Your parents might actually have the most to give him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Absolutely...they have more time and money! I have a 4 month old that I want to love and spend all my time with. I would do it for my parents though...they have worked hard and don't deserve to raise another child! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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np maybe they see it as a blessing and not a burden. Sounds like a lucky kid to haev so many willing to take him in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I raised my niece from 9yo to 18. The day after she turned 18 she moved out to live with her ex-drug addict, project living mother. She's no 26, has to dc born out of wedlock to 2 different men and still living with her mother. I love her too death but I really resent having wasted my 20's on her to have her end up the way she has. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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a lot of that is probably genetic, unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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you are a good person, and did what felt right....if not for you she'd probably be dead by now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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while that is sad, try not to think of it as wasted time. She was probably damaged before you got her. Maybe she will straighten up at some point. Maybe she is just a single mom and not dead from drugs because of you. You never know what you have meant to someone else. Bless you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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yeah, you could've been in school then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Wow! Do we have the same brother??? This sounds exactly like my family except that my niece is 3 months old. They're being investigated by DSS because of his girlfriend's past (she terminated rights to 7 other children!) My brother met her in AA. Anyway, we're looking into an interstate transfer to get her to come live with us. My brother is like yours and LOVES the baby so....if you (or I) take custody of our brother's kid what then becomes the relationship??? Are you the mom? Do you just wait around to see if he gets his act together? My mom is in total denial. [ Reply | More
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