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[ - ] what do we know about sea cliff, on the north shore? how do you find jobs out there? everyone commutes in? it's a long commute on the LIRR for the Oyster Bay line. Anyone? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Looked at houses in sea cliff. Adorable community. But I couldn't do the commute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] We live well below our means, as HHI is decent, and I have a trust fund that is sizable. Decided to send 2 dcs to public G&T. They will have access to a trust fund at age 25 that could allow them to live without working ever. We have decided not to tell them about it until then. We also decided to go public at least for the early years in order to help them stay grounded, and to avoid exposure to too much privilege. I want them to think about careers and achievement before they know they will be welll off. My sister thinks this is all wrong. Wondering if others care to weigh in. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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the bad thing is that your dcs may find out from others about their $ situation and might be distrustful of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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doesnt sound like a bad idea. care to share where the $ came from? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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my grandparents. set up trusts of this sort for all dcs, grand dcs and their dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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After 18 you won't be able to hide it from them. Legally they will be given notice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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and just who do you think we be giving notice? Will the govt come up and knock on their door and say, here is your trust fund statement for 20M? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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LOL. Don't know much about trusts do you? It is mailed to their legal address. Its the trustees duty. Sure, I guess parents could try and hide it; but that seems wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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op: we will not hide it once they are adults, but they will not have access until age 25. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Thats different. I thought that suddenly at 25 you would say "surprise"! I wouldn't tell them until they are 18 either FWIW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Sounds like a great plan to me. What is sister's objection? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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I think it's not a bad idea except for the public school thing. I think in most cases, private is a much better education. Unless you have a great school in your district - and I mean really great - I would find a school that would give them a great education. That is really important in my book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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you are brainwashed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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why do you say that? In my experience and going by test scores, most of the time private schools are better. And they are not all full of spoiled entitled kids either. Don't believe stereotypes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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lol. Plenty of smart successful people went to regular, not even "great," public schools. Success is from within [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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OR ITA with that but if she can afford it, why not give them every possible advantage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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If you can give a good public school experience, why not? Where I live, the public schools are excellent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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well that's great then but many many are not. I am not saying she should not send hers there - just that she should be really careful that they are actually good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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So they don't become spoiled bratty entitled obnoxious dolts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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do you seriously think that everyone who goes to private school turns out that way? Really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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they are in a very good selective public, and doing very well. May not stay public forever, but I like it and dcs are thriving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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in that case, keep it up. I would be very watchful though and make sure your schools really are doing the best possible job. I know they vary greatly but where I live (atlanta) public schools - even the better ones - are pretty bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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the point of public is to teach them to achieve by their own steam, and to grow up with people with more socioeconomic diversity than at private school. also, we like the vibe. if it stops meeting educational objectives we will look for another option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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and again - that's fine if it's working for you. There are plenty of private schools that have all sorts of diversity though and many in some areas of the country also give a better education. If you are happy with where they are though good for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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bad idea. this is similar to what happened to me. if i knew, I would've went to school for something I really enjoyed. I would have devoted my career with helping others and working non profit. instead I went to law school because it would provide me with a decent living. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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but you could always switch and the law school experience will serve you in the role [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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only problem is that I hate it and wont do it if I didnt need to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Rich kids in non-profit jobs are the most pathetic people I have encountered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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well, I didnt grow up "rich". I think im pretty grounded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Are you joking? They want to work somewhere altruistic and thats "the most pathetic" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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huh? I'll bet if they have good careers, you get all jealous and talk about evil rich people. Some people just can't be pleased [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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what is wrong with you? someone's gotta do non-profit. why not someone who can afford it and not quit because they need more money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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I could not agree more. would not want kids to grow up to do this if I had a say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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would've gonel devoted to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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We're in a similar position. DC stand to inherit quite a bit of money from dh's family(They're gifting 12k a yr per dc also). We do okay and want dc to learn to live at our means or improve them, before they get their money. We live in a non-trendy Brooklyn neighborhood, oldest dc goes to public school and we volunteer with children in a battered women's shelter so she has a chance to see people that really don't have many material things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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Think you are smart to do this. We met a private school K student at park today with his goofy polo sneakers, shorts that resembled knee pants and little argyle vest over a polo. He looked really vulnerable and had a really big mouth, poor little chap. The other boys wouldn't play with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I don't know what the best approach is. I know a family with billions and they were all raised very don to earth. None of the kids knew how much they were getting until sometime in their 20's. The older kids did fine but the youngest dd went nuts. The first words out of her mouth were "You mean I am richer than Paris Hilton?" and she was off....she is now in rehab for serious coke problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Drinking water can hurt infants under 6 mos. Take that MIL!! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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?? How can it "hurt" them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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see msnbc.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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They are speaking of water intox. Water in a bottle, not sips from a spoon (which is the only thing I know people do) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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my ped says it's fine for any age baby to have a little, just not a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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oh, please!!! for every article you find to prove this, she can find one that disproves....relax, water while entirely unnecessary under 6mos, will not hurt your db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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The Consumer Reports book says no water. I was surprised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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a lot of ass covering going on there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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OP: MIL started a huge argument with me in front of whole family w/ 2 wk old that i was hurting him by not giving water in July [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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"oh, please" poster here...that is a crazy statement on her part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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that is ridiculous of her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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why is it that all mils want to give db water? mine was keen on it, too. that and formula so she could tell how many oz db was getting. argh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Have tons of bags of that ghirardelli brownie mix from costco, but no instructions. Neat freak DH through the box away to save space. How the hell do you make them? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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probably on their website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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nope. any other takers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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here http://www.continentalmills.com/brands/ghirardelli/brownie_mixes/Double_Chocolate_Brownie_Mix/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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you rock. thank you thank you thank you!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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no prob bob. Google knows all! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I did that too...I guess we are more resourceful than some folks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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look for directions on www [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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Did that. I thought everybody made these things! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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just try regular brownie mix recipe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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thanks. I'll try that. If I can find instrucitons on the net. I mean its something like mix egg water oil and mix together and bake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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right. cant be much different than Duncan Hines or Betty Crocker or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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surely someone on here can go get their box and post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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I am trying to remember, it's like an egg, half cup oil and oh no, just be patient someone will get back to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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http://www.continentalmills.com/brands/ghirardelli/brownie_mixes/Double_Chocolate_Brownie_Mix/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Ever have a one night stand with someone you're now totally ashamed to have been with? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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oh god yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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i've had, like, a 20 night stands with people i'm ashamed of, but never just one night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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uh yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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Yeah, dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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hahaha, thank god i have enough dirt on all my girlfriends to keep their mouths shut! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Divorced women - would you go out with a guy who a friend of a friend set you up with? I know two single men and my sister has two divorced friends who I don't know well, but I would like to introduce them. How should I go about this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Does your sister know your two single men friends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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unfortunately, no. Maybe I could run my own eight minute dating session. I have a matchmaker lurking inside of me that needs some air! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Well I think your idea is noble, but sort of random. Why not just introduce your male friends to people on the sidewalk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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host an informal party and invite everyone involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I love David Cook!! Glad he won. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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I'm shocked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] does your 3yo ds pee sitting down or standing up? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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standing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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almost always still sits [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Mine sat until he was about 4.5 when he had a friend over for a playdate, and the friend commented on the sitting. He's stood up to pee ever since. Still not great at aiming, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] 6 mo gets SO tired and seems to want to go to bed at 7pm. Last night put him down then and he didn't wake up until 6:30am. I know this is great but is it ok? My 3 yo hasn't done this in his life! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Mine always sleeps 6:30-7a.m. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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6 mo? Thanks. #1 NEVER went to bed that early but this guy really seems to want to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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yup. and still doing it at 9mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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I consider it my repayment for 4 months of colic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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totally ok....and may i add, i'm jealous!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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oh don't be - my 3 yo has always been THE WORST sleeper in the world. I feel I paid my dues and am thanking my lucky stars this time! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] why is my belly so much bigger than the rest of my body if i'm not pregnant? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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junk food [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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oh, it likes to live in my belly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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salt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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skin stretched out and hasn't gone back due to large weight gain during pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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i would have to agree with this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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but i haven't ever been pregnant. ttc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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bloat in intestines/colon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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I got HUGE in front while pg (not huge anywhere else) and my muscles split. I am considering surgery to sew the muscles back together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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wow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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yeah, it sucks. i work out everyday and look good except for my stomach. i hate the way it looks but am not sure I want to risk surgery, i basically hide it with clothes but still look poochy in my middle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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op. my aunt had a tummy tuck and the recovery for stitching the muscles back together is the hardest part...but so so worth it. she has a flat stomach for the first time at 55. i might do it if they could do conscious sedation. general anesthesia scares me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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me too. i would hate to die that way, kwim? i can't imagine my kids having to grow up witout a mom b/c i wanted to have a flat stomach...but i would really like for it to be fixed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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yeah, not that uncommon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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More prone to diabetes with this body type....signed RN [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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i know...but it wasn't my body type until this year. weird [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Netflix movies to add to my queue. No series please. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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from justin to kelly [ Reply | More
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Who is in this? [ Reply | More
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I don't watch American Idol [ Reply | More
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Into the Wild [ Reply | More
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The Station Agent [ Reply | More
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I saw this on someone else's recommendation here. Excellent choice. [ Reply | More
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Becoming Jane [ Reply | More
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Kissing Jessica Stein [ Reply | More
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well ok [ Reply | More
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Cemetary Man [ Reply | More
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[ - ] What's the deal with Archuletta's dad? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Overbearing stage dad, I think. [ Reply | More
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How old is David A? [ Reply | More
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17 I think [ Reply | More
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Seems 12. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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