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[ - ] what do you think of this as a baby gift for dh's boss (in finance fwiw): http://www.vivre.com/control/product/~category_id=Kids/~product_id=39490 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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deja vu [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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i wouldn't want that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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fake post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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why fake? I assume some people - just some - must buy stuff there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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who would use that? Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone live in a house they bought with parents (parents don't live there but you do)? we are contemplating this, but i have lots of reservations re: privacy and control issues. worried they will want to come visit whenever the heck they feel like it, regardless of what WE want. i am talking with parents about this, but worried that they will do what they want when the time comes, even if they promise not to. 65 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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do NOT do this. cut the strings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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what exactly are the benefits? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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benefits to us are that we'd live in a much nicer house than we do now, closer to my job, better schools (though my son won't be in public schools for a couple years), and our "rent" would go twd owning something (we'd split the cost 50/50). benefits to them are that they have an investment and a place to keep some of their money where they can't spend it. i'd like to leave it at that, but i'm afraid that one benefit they might want is a place to vacation whenever they want to see their grandson, get away, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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what happens when they want their investment back? do you move? buy them out? sounds like it could be a bad deal for you someday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Yes, we did it bc of the school district and the fact that houses start at 1mil and we were too young at the time to afford (age 26). Some things have been great, but overall they hold the strings. It is not a good feeling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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is this the ONLY town you can live in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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we actually tried to move away, and did for a time, but bc of dh job it wasn't possible, and another town with cheaper homes would mean private school - which we could not afford.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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come on now...where are you that these are the only options? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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the above was not OP, by the way. I am OP. No, for us, this is not the only town we can live in, but the towns that are near my job and have good schools are way too expensive for us. It may ultimately mean that we have to rent and that's that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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no other school districts will do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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i'm not really saying/thinking they won't do -- i just know that i've now met with principals, talked to parents in the difft school systems, and feel that there are two districts near work that are good. the others just are not. again, we don't have to move right now, and it's not a crisis. i was just asking -- and it looks like this board is pretty unanimous about the response! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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you met with principals? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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yes, in the school district where ds wld go to elementary school. i also work in 4 other local districts and have access to teachers and parents and learn a lot about the schools that way. i've done my research -- that's just how i am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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ayyiyi [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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why are you saying that? if you were about to invest more than 200K and move to a place for the next 5-10 years, where your kid would go to school, you wouldn't check out the schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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how bad is this--I never even knew what my dcs principal looked like until the holiday concert!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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it's not bad that you didn't do it, it's just that i am an educator and a researcher by trade -- it's what i do in life. add that to parenting and you get me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I am a teacher! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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then i don't really know WHAT to say! :) maybe you're just less neurotic than i am! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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what did these principals say??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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well, i asked them questions about the ways they use the initial screenings that all ps have; how much common planning time teachers have; number of students per grade, per class; philosophy of the school; recent improvements to curriculum and buildings; plans in the works, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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you sound like you have champagne tastes on a beer budget.,you need to get over this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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there are no "cheap" areas here- it is ghettos or this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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where is this???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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I find this hard to believe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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you just want a phat house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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^^^and i get that - me too! - but this is a bad way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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BINGO!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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it is hardly "phat" it is a small ranch house that needs a lot of work, for the bargain price of 1mil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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what town? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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you can't see past the fact that MAYBE the schools in other towns might be OK [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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no- I really can't - not near here- and it would be hard to uproot again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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where are you????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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Guess ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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stuckupsville [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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you sound pretty childish, are you still living at home with mommy and daddy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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it sounds like it. I am sure there are neighboring towns that are just fine...but Op needs to be in the more $$$ town..even if mom and dad have to buy the house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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just so you know, that is NOT OP you're talking to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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long island? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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OP here -- I'm upstate NY near Rhinebeck, Red Hook, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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i think we'd talk all of this through with a real estate lawyer. my folks have plenty of money -- just sold their house for 1.4M and are not buying anything new for themselves. want to invest some b/c they aren't great about saving so this wld protect it (but only about 200K of it -- we'd get a mortgage for the other half). we don't need to move now, but i just feel like we may never own if we don't take adv of this oppty. all of this is to say that i don't think they are going to want their investment back until we're ready to sell the house (and they'd get back their money plus profit) or we [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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^^we're in a position to buy them out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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i think you're kidding yourself, shit happens and people need money - not just when you're ready to sell. and since you'll need to give them 1/2 of profit you won't really be able to upgrade again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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the whole thing sounds like a disaster [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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this is really crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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sounds like you are selling your soul [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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They'll also feel they have a "say" in everything you do to the house. "You want to put wallpaper up in there? I don't think that's a good idea and can hurt resale value." I think it creates way too many issues, bad idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Yes. Do Not Do It. Sounded great at first, but creates HUGE control issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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have you done it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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no no no no no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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do it yourself...settle for what you can afford [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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what if we can't afford to own anything around here? just rent forever? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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find a town that you can afford? buy small? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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save or ask you parents for a loan w/ term - owning together seems tough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Save your money for a down payment, get a higher paying job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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pretend the option with parents does not even exist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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ITA with this, the best advice on this thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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why, thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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you're welcome! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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we were much happier in our affordable house, it was a mistake to "move up" with their help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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My friend did this with her in-laws. Her mother in law passed away and her fil started coming over whenever he wanted (let himself in). Once they came back from vacation and she thought someone had broken into their house, but it was just that her FIL had replaced the kitchen window and left junk all over. He did a terrible job on the window. They finally took out their own mortgage and paid off FIL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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thats a bummmer. everybody loses...feelings hurt, I bet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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I'd go for it and I'd make it work. Your parents love you and want to help, so make up your mind that you will get a second mtg and pay them off if push comes to shove. Have a lawyer draw up a contract that binds you both to certain financial responsibility [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 09:04 PM Flag
[ - ] need some new food ideas for my 1 yo. dh and i eat a lot spicy korean foods and don't really give it to dd. so i'm looking for other ideas. breakfast, lunch, and dinner. thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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The petitte apettite cook book did wonders for us for meals. try it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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The Morningstar Farms chik'n nuggets stuffed with spinach and artichoke. My 18 mo loves them and he gets some veggies to boot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Also, the Dr. Praeger's Pancakes (spinach, potato, broccoli and sweet potato) are good too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have the blackout drapery liner from one step ahead? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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They sell blackout liners at BB&B too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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do they work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Don't know -- keep meaning to buy them but haven't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a hiatal hernia? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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that was my friends excuse when she got tummy tuck!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] moms of older kids, got a sand box for our friends kids that come over a lot, dd is 9mo, what types of sand toys should I buy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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just go to target and get a bunch...anything. doesn't matter--by Labor day they will all be broken or missing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I second Target -- just bought a cute little plastic wagon (my dcs love pulling things around) that came filled with sand and water toys, for $10. Target is such a deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] So Hillary has gone completely over the edge, hasn't she? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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wouldn't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] dd (9yo) has the most annoying friend over. Argues all the time with dh and I--sort of a know-it-all. Wears me out. Feel bad for thinking this 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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So, tell the kids to go play and leave you two alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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oh..they are..but during dinner..she is just rude towards adults. Every chance she gets she argues just for the sake of arguing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 5'5" 152 pounds, and ds is 18 mo. I no longer nurse and every time I go on a diet dh sabotages it. He brongs cupcakes, chocolates, etc... and I try really hard but I give in and his excuse is "they make you happy" I hate it! WTF?! Why am I paying 150 a week for a nutrition expert if he justs "wants me happy." We have no sex life bec. I hate my body, I am miserable with the way I look and he still thinks I am happy fat. And if I ask what is he tinking, he says "I just love you the way you are and you deprive yourself of thing s you like on a diet." I DON'T GET IT? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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oh my god, your dh sounds wonderful. but still this is not good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I know, that is why I feel so bad at telling him to stop, but he hast to. When we mwt I was bulemic and I purged all the time. He thinks I stoped a long time ago, but I trully stoped when I got pg with ds. Now I can't seem to get the weight off by mysefl w/o relying on the old tricks so to have suopport is even more important for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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My dh hates how grumpy I get when I am dieting - that's why he sabotages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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op: I get it, but in the long run it makes things harder for him too, bec I chat, and I happy for like 5 miutes and then I turn into thes bitch, that just wants to kill him. It trully is counterproductive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you clean your marble bathroom vanity with? Won't most products etch the marble? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Windex. Any product with some acid in it will damage marble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! Just had friends over and my 3.5 yo punched my dh in the face right in front of them. His behavior is getting so out of control we are so worried. Is this normal for his age (he has a 3.5 mos old new sister and his g-pa just died) but how long can I make excuses?! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I would have removed child immediately from the room where the visiting was going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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and then what? We did that but got a little aggressive after that. Not proud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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don't make excuses, just correct behavior -- 3 yos have poor impulse control and some act out by hitting. Now if he's still doing this in a year, start to worry ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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how would you suggest I correct the behavior?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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have same consistent reponse every time, no matter where you are -- eg two minute time out every time he hits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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He would never sit still for a time out. What else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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put in room by himself (safe space) -- use a bedroom or bathroom and tell him that the two minutes will start when he stops yelling. Hold door shut if necessary. Or use a reward/demerit system. Every time he hits he gets x which leads to y. It doesnt matter so much which methiod you choose, but that you follow it consistently & that it matter to your child. The goal is to get him to think and make a good choice before he hits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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my 3 yr old is a total pia. no impulse control at all - and he doesn;t seem to fear misbehavior like my 6 yr old did at that age. if this ins;t a phase i don't know what i'll do, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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i don't think it would hurt for you to seek some help--like a child psychologist, even if this is totally normal for a 3yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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over-reaction, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I want to take some steps before I do that. I don't believe that needs to be the first step. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Spend some one-on-one time with him where you (or dh) follow his lead; try to catch the "negative" behaviors before they escalate by being playful about it (eg, turn into a game of "I'm gonna get you", start a silly dance, etc.); change your self-talk about him so that you are seeing the positives about him and not focussing on the negatives; make sure his immediate needs have been met before adding another stressor such as visitors (eg, hunger, tiredness); talk / listen about grandpa and about new db; etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Mamaroneck did not score higher on Newsweek (or US News World Report or NY Board of Ed), where did the person that posted earlier today get that info from, just curious?. All these reports are publically available online and school ranlings are also available on www.greatschools.net to anyone who wants to view them. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I meant did not score higher than Rye Neck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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can't you just tell us what the top 5 in Westchester are? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Scarsdale, Bronxville, Edgemont, Chappaqua, Ardsley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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how do these schools compare with a good selective public in manhattan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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they are public, must take everyone who lives there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Mamaroneck is much bigger than Rye Neck, that is the primary difference. overall score may look lower, but they have more high scorers than rye neck, more options in high school, but if you want a little school, go with rye neck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Obviously they should have a higher 'number' of high scorers than Rye Neck, since it is a bigger school district, but I don't believe they have a higher 'proportion' of high scorers than Rye Neck. However, I do agree with you that Mamaroneck has more non-mainstream academic services than Rye Neck such as services for special needs children. For instance they have a preschool program for Special Ed children and children from economically disadvantaged homes at Mam'k Ave elem school and provide scholarships to summer camp etc to children from economically disadvantaged homes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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small school vs bigger vs extra large school its all a matter of choice. Small schools in Westchester include Irvington, Hastings, Ardsley, Poncantico Hills, Dobbs Ferry, Rye Neck and Valhalla which are all good schools. Scarsdale, Chappaqua, Mamaroneck, Rye and Edgemont are bigger school districts. Then you have the large school districts like New Rochelle, Yonkers, Mt Vernon, White Plains, Greenbugh ....it all depends on what you want. Small schools tend to have more of a private school feel and more individual attention for the children. As the school gets bigger it has more of a public school feel but academics don't necessrily suffer as specially where the schools are well funded as in affluent areas. However, the largest school districts just have too many kids at the high school level and then I think is where size becomes a really huge liability and you better do a good job of staying on top of things or your child will fall through the cracks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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^^^ meant to say 'especially' not 'as specially', I was typing too fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Mamaroneck does NOT have a well respected school district [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] how much for a bat mitzvah gift in suburban nj? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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from adults 180? From a friend 50. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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friend's daughter. also bought a small gift to go with the check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:52 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think Nick wants to cut Carmindy's too long over bleached hair? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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he needs to do something bout his own hair first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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nick is the worst hairdresser -- he just chops up hair and makes it look crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Totally agree--did you see that one episode where he gave that poor girl a bowl haircut and under the layers in the front shaved her hair close to the head and dyed it BLUE?!? I'm convinced he's going through a life crisis and taking it out on the women in his barber's chair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] 9 foot ceilings in a house--average or too low? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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sounds good to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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so long as they're at least 8 feet, they are fine, unless you and dh are giants [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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perfect -- we have 9 feet downstairs and 8 upstairs... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] sick of my bob. how should I wear my hair? dark and curly but blows out really well 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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i thought you had a husband named Bob. i do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I thought you meant your battery operated boyfriend, cuz I call mine Bob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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