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05.23.08, 17:49 PM General Topics
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Help! Just had friends over and my 3.5 yo punched my dh in the face right in front of them. His behavior is getting so out of control we are so worried. Is this normal for his age (he has a 3.5 mos old new sister and his g-pa just died) but how long can I make excuses?! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 05:49 PM Flag
 

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I would have removed child immediately from the room where the visiting was going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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and then what? We did that but got a little aggressive after that. Not proud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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don't make excuses, just correct behavior -- 3 yos have poor impulse control and some act out by hitting. Now if he's still doing this in a year, start to worry ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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how would you suggest I correct the behavior?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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have same consistent reponse every time, no matter where you are -- eg two minute time out every time he hits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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He would never sit still for a time out. What else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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put in room by himself (safe space) -- use a bedroom or bathroom and tell him that the two minutes will start when he stops yelling. Hold door shut if necessary. Or use a reward/demerit system. Every time he hits he gets x which leads to y. It doesnt matter so much which methiod you choose, but that you follow it consistently & that it matter to your child. The goal is to get him to think and make a good choice before he hits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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my 3 yr old is a total pia. no impulse control at all - and he doesn;t seem to fear misbehavior like my 6 yr old did at that age. if this ins;t a phase i don't know what i'll do, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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i don't think it would hurt for you to seek some help--like a child psychologist, even if this is totally normal for a 3yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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over-reaction, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I want to take some steps before I do that. I don't believe that needs to be the first step. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Spend some one-on-one time with him where you (or dh) follow his lead; try to catch the "negative" behaviors before they escalate by being playful about it (eg, turn into a game of "I'm gonna get you", start a silly dance, etc.); change your self-talk about him so that you are seeing the positives about him and not focussing on the negatives; make sure his immediate needs have been met before adding another stressor such as visitors (eg, hunger, tiredness); talk / listen about grandpa and about new db; etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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