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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] sometime i think i am just not strong enough to be a mommy :( 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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me too. I can't handle it very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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what do you mean? how old is db? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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he is only 14mo..but he has a lot of allergies that make me so nervous al lthe time and a very very strong personality and sometimes i just want to run away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. that sounds really hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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it is but then i say to myself he is healthy and the allergies are not so bad in the bigger picture but his strong personality is harder to deal with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I'm seeing lots of posts about 13/14 month olds being difficult. My 13mo dd is throwing mini tantrums and pushing and "punching" me. I'm sure it will pass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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what happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] how do you handle a 3 year old that is so defiant? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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stand your ground, don't give in, punish, time outs, toss out favorite toy, ect. Don't change your tune [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Unless of course it's just a parent who doesn't know how to have fun and enjoy their child while setting limits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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no I know how to have fun. My almost 3 y/o seems to fight me on everything - out of the blue. We could be having a great time and then "NO!" Time outs don't seem to work all the time - she'll come out of time out, say she's ready to cooperate and then refuse to cooperate, ending up back in time out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I just moved to Brentwood in Southern California- I cannot believe how many stars live here (I am new to the country) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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do you know how popular that place was 10 yrs ago. That's where OJ killed his wife and her friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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^^well more than 10 yrs ago but you get the idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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like who? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I am so mad at Dh right now...he is out with friends and when he left me, db was HYSTERICAL crying and i was at my wits end! Is it really too much to ask for him to just call and check in that everything is okay? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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He is out buying you flowers as we speak [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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OP: more like sitting down with a nice big drink and a yummy meal while i sit on UB with a glass of wine feeling sorry for myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Buck up camper. Your DH surely deserves a night out with friends, as do you! Go watch a funny movie and instead of picking a fight with him when he gets home have sex. Make sure you get some time out doing something you enjoy this weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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yes but he gets a lot of breaks and i do not...i deserve a night out way more then he does..TRUST ME....i keep asking him for a night out the 2 of us and then he complains about how much a sitter costs and that we have too many expenses right now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Can we post on special needs or is it not working anymore? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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A few of the boards appear to be not working right now--same with schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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you can post, but can't see the older posts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] for the night crowd,,,,,,,,,,,,My good friend has a dh that has been going through depression since 6mo after they were married 5yrs ago. It is so hard for her, they have tried so many things....I am more worried for her than him at this point, any advice, ideas? should she even stay with him 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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He should see a pychiatrist and a therapists. Hopefully things will get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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no such luck, apparently the parents have a "tough it up" kind of attitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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well, nothing's going to change as long as he sticks with that philosophy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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if he's not willing to do anything about it she could consider leaving or seeing if he'll agree to marital counseling so she can explain to him how his refusal to take care of himself means he's abandoned her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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what parents? his parents? why do they get to decide? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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he listens to everything they tell him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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He needs to start listening to his wife. She needs to insist - if he chooses his parents over her, she needs to make some ultimatums. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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is he on meds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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seriously doubt it....I wish though! I guess he moved away from his other town (other state) to get a fresh start and go down a better path...wonderful for us! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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sorry that was for another post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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He is on meds, but very low doses bc he is sensitive. I feel so bad for my friend it is exhausting on her after so many years- she has a super stressful job too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] HOLY SHIT. My sil (dh bro's wife) just called hysterically crying saying "Please tell Frank (my dh) to not hate me!". I thought to myself did she kill my bil? WHat it was is that she filed for divorce after 25 yrs. She found out he's been having an affair for 2yrs. He moved her upstate to Syracuse while he was living with their teenage son in Middletown (so he could finish HS there). Mind you this man is the GEEKS of all DWEEBS. He is the LAST PERSON on earth you would think that would have an affair. I feel so bad for her. She OD'd on pills and was in ICU and her dh didn't come to visit. Told the ICU Dr that they are over, ect. What a bastard. He denied the affair until he came to meet the mistress and the wife was there too. UGH some men are SCUMBAGS 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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I hope your brother is being supportive toward her and has let his brother know how disappointed he is in his behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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op: yes I just called my dh and told him what an ass his brother has been. He was in TOTAL SHOCK. He also said he is going to call SIL to let her know that she did nothing wrong and his brother is to blame for his actions. Ugh poor lady. She literally is the kind of woman who did all for her family. No education, no job, no friends..everything was his wants and desires which she was very happy with. Now she finds herself very lonely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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Wow - she's out of the hospital now I assume? Do they have kids? What an ass! So tough though because ultimately your DH will need to stick by his brother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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she is out of the hospital. They have a teen son which is in his senior yr of HS. My DH will NOT stick by his brother in this case. He will call a spade a spade and if his brother did wrong, he will let him know he isn't going to be against the SIL just because they share blood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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that happens w/geeks sometimes. they're so flattered by the interest/attention, they can't keep it in perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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op; lol true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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np: very true. poor woman ihope she's able to put together a new better life for herself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I blame middletown, that place sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I got married at 25. Dh and I both vowed to not have children. (I am the oldest of six and felt like I raised them). All of my siblings married, had a zillion children. None for me, thanks. Then, I turned 38. And DH and I were like, Hey, let's have a baby! I got pregnant (literally) the next day. Here's the thing. Every single choice I've made with DD, (now 15 months), my siblings bring up the fact that I "never wanted kids." I stop BF at 8 months. My sister says, "that's because you never wanted kids." I put DD in daycare part time. Another sister says, "well you never wanted kids so that's easier for you to do.." I think this is so fucked up and offensive. And when I say so, they say I am being sensitive. UB, am I being sensitive? Or is that a really inappropriate thing to say to someone?! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Its ok for siblings to say inappropriate things to each other - just like its okay for you to smile and say that you gave this decision to have a child a lot more thought then they did and given your preparation you are very comfortable with your choices and f off if they don't like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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only in very rude, inappropriate families is that okay. It is not okay in my family, for instance, for siblings to say that sort of hurtful thing. If I were OP, I would be angry. plus, the stuff they are criticizing you for is really, just nothing. I would be offended if someone criticized me on how long I bfed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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no you aren't being sensitive they are being assholes and very offensive to you. They are judging you. You shoudl tell them if I didn't want a child I would have had an abortion dickwad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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OP: Can I copy and paste what you just wrote and send it to my sister? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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sure! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I would really be pissed if I kept hearing that! What she is saying is that you don't want your own dd. I would not want my dd to hear talk like that. I would confront her and tell her to stop. It is fucked up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: thank you. that's exactly what I feel like she's saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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That would really bother me. I guess your siblings are getting you back for moaning all your life about what pains they were to you. But you can't live with that forever. Call a general family meeting and tell them all to stop immediately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I'd tell them all flat out that it's rude and that you don't want to hear it any more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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only option. do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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It's hard to see, but they no doubt felt that you were passing judgement on them all those years by refusing to have kids, and now they're getting you back. They may also envy all your years of freedom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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yes you're being sensitive - b/c you should be! what insensitive jerks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a Hastens mattress and/or Hastens bed linen? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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I was going to buy one of their mattresses, but they're really soft. Found an organic/handmade one at Long's bedding that was better, imo. And it was made in Pennsylvania, I think, so much more eco! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] DC moms...what's a good breakfast place in Georgetown? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Addie's in Rockville (part of the Black Restaurant Group). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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There's also Black Market in Garrett Park - may be a cuter venue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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