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05.23.08, 16:51 PM General Topics
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I got married at 25. Dh and I both vowed to not have children. (I am the oldest of six and felt like I raised them). All of my siblings married, had a zillion children. None for me, thanks. Then, I turned 38. And DH and I were like, Hey, let's have a baby! I got pregnant (literally) the next day. Here's the thing. Every single choice I've made with DD, (now 15 months), my siblings bring up the fact that I "never wanted kids." I stop BF at 8 months. My sister says, "that's because you never wanted kids." I put DD in daycare part time. Another sister says, "well you never wanted kids so that's easier for you to do.." I think this is so fucked up and offensive. And when I say so, they say I am being sensitive. UB, am I being sensitive? Or is that a really inappropriate thing to say to someone?! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
 

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Its ok for siblings to say inappropriate things to each other - just like its okay for you to smile and say that you gave this decision to have a child a lot more thought then they did and given your preparation you are very comfortable with your choices and f off if they don't like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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only in very rude, inappropriate families is that okay. It is not okay in my family, for instance, for siblings to say that sort of hurtful thing. If I were OP, I would be angry. plus, the stuff they are criticizing you for is really, just nothing. I would be offended if someone criticized me on how long I bfed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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no you aren't being sensitive they are being assholes and very offensive to you. They are judging you. You shoudl tell them if I didn't want a child I would have had an abortion dickwad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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OP: Can I copy and paste what you just wrote and send it to my sister? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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sure! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I would really be pissed if I kept hearing that! What she is saying is that you don't want your own dd. I would not want my dd to hear talk like that. I would confront her and tell her to stop. It is fucked up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: thank you. that's exactly what I feel like she's saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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That would really bother me. I guess your siblings are getting you back for moaning all your life about what pains they were to you. But you can't live with that forever. Call a general family meeting and tell them all to stop immediately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I'd tell them all flat out that it's rude and that you don't want to hear it any more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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only option. do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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It's hard to see, but they no doubt felt that you were passing judgement on them all those years by refusing to have kids, and now they're getting you back. They may also envy all your years of freedom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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yes you're being sensitive - b/c you should be! what insensitive jerks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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