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[ - ] What are the schools like in Greenwich, CT? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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I'll go with rich and white [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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i guess i'm asking if the schools are good, classes are really big? also if the kids are really spoiled and bratty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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Not as rich and white as you may think, many still go private in Greenwich, particularly as they get older go onto boarding etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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why do people still go private? is the school system not up to snuff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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Because they all have so much $ they do not know what to do with it, it is good but not as good as some of the other areas in Westchester etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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how does it compare to schools in NJ? i thought that Greenwich would be excellent because the town is so rich? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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the quality of public edcuation is tied to the property taxes and Ct has much lower taxes than Westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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oh i see! thx for your help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Thanks to UB I just found out about BOB books. I've never seen them in B&N. What isle would they be in? I am trying to assess my kid's reading skills. How do I know at what grade level she is at? Right now she is devouring those Rainbow Magic books and other girly books like Ivy and Bean and others. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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If she is reading Rainbow Magic on her own BOB books are not for you. They are for very beginning readers (think lower level than hop on pop) If your DD us reading Rainbow Magic on her own that is like a 1st or 2nd grade level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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^ Go to this site http://www.lexile.com/DesktopDefault.aspx?view=ed&tabindex=5&tabid=67&tabpageid=313 and put the book in. It gives you Lexile level and you can get grade level reading from that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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interesting site -- but really difficult to equate to a grade level, because the lexile ranges are so broad and overlap (rightly so, but still...). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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rainbow magic is technically 3rd grade level, though very easy third grade -- ramona books, also technically third grade, are much more challenging (vocab and structure-wise). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Yea-- I'm OR and my DD is almost reading Rainbow Magic by herself but not quite and in 1st grade. Was totally guesstimating ; [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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np- what does almost reading it mean? She reads it with you? I'm wondering how to approach harder books with dd thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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She reads a lot of it out loud to me but loses steam along the way. It requires a lot of mental stamina for her to get through each chapter...she's not 'flying' through the book, kwim? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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Yes, so it's not about not knowing words. That's the same with my dd who doesn't have stamina yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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the bob books are in boxes and teach basic phonics. Your dd is beyond them. IMO, they are pretty boring for kids. "Reading Level" varies depending on the system used to classify and isn't just about the books a kid reads for pleasure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:41 AM Flag
[ - ] yesterday i had a cute little dress on and dh said it was too short he asked me to change it. i went in the room and changed..i told my sister about this and she went on and on about how much i have changed b/c i listened to him...what would you do? would you change if dh asked you to? the dress was an about 2 inches above my knee but i have long legs....i didn't think it looked bad.. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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Well, was the vibe "change that thing b/c you're my property and I don't want anyone else getting a peek" or "that dress looks stupid"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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he doesn't want anyone else getting a peek....looked too good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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That is a problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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I trust my DH. He gives me a man's perspective on stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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ditto but I might not have changed the dress anyway if I liked it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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ITA with this and it does happen, we do change after we are married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np: yeah, and mine rarely criticizes what I wear so when he does I figure there's something really wrong with it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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I tell my dh to keep his opinions to himself where these sorts of thins are concerned [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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asked you to change b/c it was too short and you looked like crap? or b/c he doesn't want you showing off your legs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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Ew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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why did he ask you to change it? was it that he thought it was inappropriate for the ocassion or that he was ashamed of your body? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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i wouldn't have changed the dress. do you tell him when things don't look good on him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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My DH would be thrilled if I wore something sexy. He's always giving me super-tight shirts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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those are two sides of the same coin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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i think it depends on his overall attitude - if he's a controlling ass, then it was inappropriate. if he's a good guy giving you an honest opinion - the fine. we don't know your dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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dh loves minis on me and im in my 40s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
[ - ] need to loose ~20 lbs (11 baby weight, 8 that i shouldve lost before). bfing. whats the best way to do this? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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exercise! I wouldn't diet while bfing but working out is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone ever had chicken feet for dim sum? dd and I went to a dim sum place in chinatown. we were practically the only nonasians in there, and every table was chowing down on these things that we later identified as chicken feet by using the picture menu. they must be good, but we just couldn't bring ourselves to try them 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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DH tried them. he eats anything. He said they were actually pretty good and really crunchy. I cou;dn't do it htough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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that sounds so disgusting. i'm very provincial, i know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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i am chinese and i won't eat them. my parents love them. we chinese never waste anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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do you live in NYC? I specifically wanted to go to a regular restaurant, but at lunchtime, it seemed to all be dim sum at the one we went to. it was very crowded with a long line outside. But it was hard to communicate. it was a very different dining experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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i live in hoboken. it depends on which restaurants you go to on the weekend. some restaurants that aren't cantonese (shanghai style ones) don't have dimsum on the weekends. dim sum is more of a cantonese thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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good to know. do you have a favorite in the city? our favorite just closed and we're searching. tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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it really depends for me on what i am craving! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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not noodles or dumplings, I tend to like spicy. can you recommend a couple? like if you're craving this, you go here, and if you're craving that, you go there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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hmmm i am not sure because i tend to eat chinese comfort food. when i want stir fried rice cakes, i go to shanghai cafe on mott. i also like hot pot, so i'll go to this place on grand. when i want congee, i go to congee village (this is probably your best bet, they have good food there) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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It's not just Asians-- latinos love chicken feet also. I've had chicken feet soup often both at home and at restaurants(I'm hispanic) but I don't actually eat and dig in to the actual feet ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:54 AM Flag
[ - ] ugh, anyone ever go on and off Lamictal? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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sorry, i've heard it can be hard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:46 AM Flag
[ - ] I am ALWAYS getting food on my clothes when i eat. everything i own has stains... i was never like this until i had dcs..is there any hope? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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You sound exactly like my mother. She started tucking a kitchen towel into her shirt when eating spaghetti. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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GREAT...so it is something i will just have to deal with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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yes. Get more sleep and stop shoving food in your mouth :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I was scheduled to get Mirena IUD once period came...got period over the weekend when the doctor's office was closed. I called today to see when I can have it inserted and the nurse told me that I shouldn't have had sex while on my period. I didn't know! Does this mean I have to wait another month to have it put in? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I'm sorry, I still can't believe you did it while on the rag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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who cares, dh doesn't mind...what is the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Maybe because you could be pg and they do not want to put it in if you are, why would you do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] 16mo has been transitioning to 1 nap. often he only sleeps for 50-60min and starts crying. i tried cio, he just gets hysterical. today started crying after 40min, i walked in and see that his eyes are actually closed as he's crying, I thought he might go back to sleep, but he was just getting himself more and more worked up and then I had to get him. i guess nothing i can do to get him to sleep more? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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around this age my DS starting moving to just one afternoon nap, around 1:30 to 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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that's what db is doing but nap is still short [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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It may lengthen over time. We went from two 45 min. naps to one long afternoon one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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it will lengthen over time. don't worry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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thx. i hope so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it really 29hrs to Australia?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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No. I flew NYC to LA and then LA to Sydney. The LA to Sydney leg was 12 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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np: it is 24 hours door to door.6 hours to LA, 14 hours to Sydney and a 4 hour layover in LA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Pg with ds #2. We have chosen a name but aren't telling anyone until ds is born. My mom kept making name suggestions which was driving us crazy until finally I told her that the db has a name and she'll hear what it is the min he's born (everyone else who asks we tell we're thinking of names or working on it and they accept that). So now she keeps telling me that her grandfather's middle name was Benjamin. She works this into most converstations. Lst night she told me that my aunt refers to the baby as Benjamin. I told her "Mom, the baby has a name and it's not Benjamin. It's not any name in our family." What else am I supposed to do? She's driving me nuts. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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^^fwiw, have no issue with the name Benjamin but it's just not the name we've chosen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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Tell her the name. What's the big freaking deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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The big deal is that my dh feels strongly that he doesn't want to tell the name before the child is born. He's from a more religious Jewish fam than we are and he's superstitious. Also, my mom has a big mouth and will tell everyone else she knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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^^And at this point it's just annoying. She had her kids and named them what she wanted to. Why can't she let us have her turn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Is this really a new issue with your mother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Strangely enough, yes. She is generally very normal and sweet and naturally respects boundaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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np - we told for #1 and WILL NOT be doing that again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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This is exactly why you dont tell the name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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we did this. sorry, but you'll just have to keep dealing till you announce when db is born. people have too many suggestions or they keep prodding you to tell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
[ - ] prozac while pregnant? please share. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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np: lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] My 19 mo has started telling us when he is going to the bathroom in his diaper. Would it be crazy to start introducing potty training this early? I used to babysit for an 18 mo boy who was potty trained... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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My ds made some similar motions at that age and we got him a potty. It hasn't really gone anywhere but it's worth a try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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not crazy at all. do it! in most countries start potty training after 1yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
[ - ] do i dare try to transfer sleeoping db (on my lap) so i can do something crazy-- like eat? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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is anyone with you that could feed you? just kidding. go for it. and if db cries for 15 minutes while you grab a bite, db will survive (and thrive)). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
[ - ] dating a guy who is very repressed. during sex he comes out of his shell a bit, but the second he finishes, he literally throws his underwear right on and is on to the next. the other day when he got HIS cum all over him, he actually said yuck and was uncomfortable with his own semen. what is this about? never experienced anything like it before 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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how committed are you to this guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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we have been dating a couple months. any idea what this is about?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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np. it is about him being repressed and there is no way that a) this will not affect your confidence or b) that this doesn't carry over to other parts of his life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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yes! its totally starting to affect my confidence and it does carry over into other areas of his life, intimacy, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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you need to not date him. maybe he'll be a good friend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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you know, this is the kind of post when I really wish they'd bring back the tmi option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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i would move on. i like sex way too much for that. how did you ever even start making out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Doesn't matter what it's about, but if he's older than early 20s, it's a sign to dump the guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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if he is over 11 years old, imo, get out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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maybe he was embarassed. Give him a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I have to say you women are being really really rude. You have no idea what this guy has been through. Maybe he was sexually abused. Maybe he was raped. Who knows. In any event, OP can gently tell him she likes being next to him and wants to relish the experience, could they cuddle afterwards, etc...or say something to make him feel sexy...there is no reason to cast this guy out yet because of his own insecurities around sex. I was more or less the same with DH because of inexperience. I am glad he kept me around and we worked it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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no one above seems rude. by op's account he is approaching this is a pretty forthright way and doesn't seem aware that this is a problem (saying "yuck", etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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YUCK to me is, OMG I am embarassed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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no, to me they are different. maybe if he apologized for having gotten it on her and seemed ashamed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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np: There are lots of reasons to decide not to date someone, this is one of them. Just because you decided to stick it out and it worked out for you doesn't mean that other people should risk their sexuality and their self-esteem by staying with someone who has intimacy issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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My ex husband was exactly like this. Never got better. It turned out to be OCD related [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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eh it wouldn't bother me, but i'm sort of like that. i hate semen and i get grossed out after sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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so, do you prefer to also be with someone like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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If you were not posting on the NY board, I woudl guess you were posting about my very shy brother in law. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Sadly, I doubt this guy is going to change. Unless you were deeply committed to him, then you should move on. An emotionally unresponsive man is very unlikely to change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Can I vent about my MIL? I got a thank you note in the mail from her today--addressed to her grandchildren, thanking them for her mother's day present. I don't think my two and five year olds know how to purchase a Talbot's gift card. Would it kill her to say thank you to me, the person who actually bought it? Ugh. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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What did the card to her say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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You sound like a PITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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np -- nd you sound like a jerk -- or a mil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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You need to relax. Wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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why do you need credit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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I'm still shocked your MIL sent a thank you card. Not sure what else to say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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Ignore all the naysayers - I'm with you and know EXACTLY about the kind of passive-aggressive nonsense you are dealing with. So sorry and, no she'll never be able to just thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Thank you. I needed to hear that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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np: Getting someone to agree doesn't make you two right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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Oh, drop it. You don't have to deal with my MIL for life, I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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np: I imagine there is a history/context here that we're not hearing that makes me sympathize w/ OP - ignore the mean posters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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OP: There is. She excludes me from most communications--voice mails, cards, etc... I just always get the impression from her that if I was to drop off the face of the earth tomorrow (leaving just her dear son and grandchildren), well, that would not be a bad thing. Even better would be if her son could procreate entirely by himself, so that it could be just her and her family. Maybe I do have issues, but it has been seventeen long years of this treatment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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Was the card w/the Talbots gc from the kids or from all of you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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It was from all of us, but she knows I bought it. I sent it to her--the kids did not even know I sent her anything (and why would they care?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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umm you have issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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she's being passive-aggressive. let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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