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05.27.08, 11:19 AM New York City
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dating a guy who is very repressed. during sex he comes out of his shell a bit, but the second he finishes, he literally throws his underwear right on and is on to the next. the other day when he got HIS cum all over him, he actually said yuck and was uncomfortable with his own semen. what is this about? never experienced anything like it before [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
 

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how committed are you to this guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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we have been dating a couple months. any idea what this is about?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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np. it is about him being repressed and there is no way that a) this will not affect your confidence or b) that this doesn't carry over to other parts of his life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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yes! its totally starting to affect my confidence and it does carry over into other areas of his life, intimacy, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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you need to not date him. maybe he'll be a good friend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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you know, this is the kind of post when I really wish they'd bring back the tmi option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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i would move on. i like sex way too much for that. how did you ever even start making out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Doesn't matter what it's about, but if he's older than early 20s, it's a sign to dump the guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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if he is over 11 years old, imo, get out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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maybe he was embarassed. Give him a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I have to say you women are being really really rude. You have no idea what this guy has been through. Maybe he was sexually abused. Maybe he was raped. Who knows. In any event, OP can gently tell him she likes being next to him and wants to relish the experience, could they cuddle afterwards, etc...or say something to make him feel sexy...there is no reason to cast this guy out yet because of his own insecurities around sex. I was more or less the same with DH because of inexperience. I am glad he kept me around and we worked it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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no one above seems rude. by op's account he is approaching this is a pretty forthright way and doesn't seem aware that this is a problem (saying "yuck", etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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YUCK to me is, OMG I am embarassed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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no, to me they are different. maybe if he apologized for having gotten it on her and seemed ashamed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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np: There are lots of reasons to decide not to date someone, this is one of them. Just because you decided to stick it out and it worked out for you doesn't mean that other people should risk their sexuality and their self-esteem by staying with someone who has intimacy issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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My ex husband was exactly like this. Never got better. It turned out to be OCD related [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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eh it wouldn't bother me, but i'm sort of like that. i hate semen and i get grossed out after sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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so, do you prefer to also be with someone like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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If you were not posting on the NY board, I woudl guess you were posting about my very shy brother in law. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Sadly, I doubt this guy is going to change. Unless you were deeply committed to him, then you should move on. An emotionally unresponsive man is very unlikely to change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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