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[ - ] sahm and im so unorganized, messy small apt, overwhelmed, havent done laundry for over 2 weeks, so much to do, no time in a day, anyone else feel like this? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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I dont want to be the person to say this, but how do you think WOHM's feel? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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i am the responder below. i always tell my friends that work i don't know how they get it all done. i am thankful i have weekday time. but i wonder if i worked and the kids were at daycare i wouldn't have as much mess because noone would be here. that isn't the truth, is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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or: yes and no. you still need time around the house to do housework type things and you want to spend time with db. it really is difficult. but I think both ways are difficult, just different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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np: it is not quite the same as being home with kids all day. You are on their schedule, not yours. Not saying one is better or worse, just that it is different. I think it is more stressful to wohm, but more difficult to be organized when you sahm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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i am the queen of purging so i stay organized. i throw everything away. we have no collections of things. the toys are in the toy room and that is it. everything has a place and the kids know to clean after themselves. unfortunately they are turning out anal like me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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no. you need to get organized. everyday when you pick up the mail, you need to immediately put the junk aside. you need to take daily trips of recycling and garbage out. as for laundry i feel better doing smaller loads more frequently to get it all done. you must do it and fold and put away immediately or else it will continue to pile up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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yes. you are not alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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It helps if you purge in a small apartment. Can you afford to send your laundry out this once? I occasionally do this. My dd is two and we do laundry together (she puts the coins in, loads the machine, poors in the detergent - stands on a chair). I WOHM (which - not to go off topic - I think makes it easier in many respects) and I straighten every single morning before I leave and then before I go to bed. I make diner while DH does bathtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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I'm recently reformed! Take small steps to get organized (otherwise you'll get overwhelmed and give up and be back to square one). I started by tidying up before bed every PM and planning my outfits ahead of time. I've started cleaning regularly -- daily maintenance (I do it at night -- b/c I'm a WOHM and need every possible minute in the AM) and a big clean 1 day/week. I pick and choose from flylady.com (the site is a bit much, but there are some usueful suggestions). I don't mind laundry -- usually do it all on Sundays (takes a long time, but I'm compulsive about it). I send out linens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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how many kids do you have? Because I have one, and I WOHM and I find the time. If you stay on top of it, and never let it get out of control (i.e. take hour or to clean up) than you will be fine. After DS goes to bed, DH and I spend about 20 minutes straightening. Then I do dishes, he does garbage and cleans up the bathroom, post bathtime and witin 20 minutes all cleaned up and then we relaxed. Howver, I do have a cleaning lady once a week for actual cleaing and laundry. She is worth her wieght in gold. If I had to do that stuff it would be a disaster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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So do I, often (am SAHM). I try to do one household task each day, in addition to keeping kitchen tidy daily: laundry, putting away laundry, filing, dusting. That's about as much as I can do and it keeps chaos mostly at bay . Good luck! And for what it's worth, when I WOHMd part-time, it was almost easier to keep on top of things. Not sure why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you told your family and friends you were pregnant for the second time. Fun ideas. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.30.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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1 yo told them, I'm going to be a big sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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you r 1 yo said "I am going to be a big sister"? That's pretty impressive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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Blurted it out to my parents and grandmother right before my grandmother had emergency surgery (I thought that she should know, just in case!) -- not the most elegant, but it turned a stressful situation happy for a moment. (She's okay.) Told everyone else casually -- led with: "I'm not fat..." (b/c I didn't look PG, but it was clear that I'd gained weight). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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my dd wore a tshirt that said in the front I'm GOING TO BE..and in the back said A BIG SISTER [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Four weeks left- i am convinced it's a boy- and we have NO name. What would you choose (first and middle) from the following selection: Alexander, Avery, Asher, Isaac, Samuel, Sloan, Spencer? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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Samuel Asher [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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This is nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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I like Alexander and Avery. Sloan and Spencer I really hate! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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^^^I meant Asher. I really like Asher. Not Avery. I know a girl named Avery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Alexander or Samuel. at least the kid gets a shot at a normal nn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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boy, are you gonna be bummed when it's a girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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no, she won't. Avery Sloan is a pretty girl's name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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true, but a HORRIBLE boy's name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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we have a girl's name- so much easier! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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Alexandra, Alexix, Avery (works for girl, too), Samantha, Sloane... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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^^Alexis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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I like Alexander. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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what nickname do you use for it? alex, alec, xander? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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isaac ..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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just make sure that you use and S.A. combination if your last nambe begins with S [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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not last name is not S, but how funny would that be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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Alexander Samuel. Don't care much for the others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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I feel like there are a lot of syllables there, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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Asher's great, boy or girl. Hot name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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i am afraid NYers will pronounce it with a thick accent thought. I prefer the short a like "at" rather than "air" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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none of those really, maybe sam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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alexander or samuel, the rest are awful, truly awful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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right and both of you have kids names jake and ethan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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uhm, those are really boring names [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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well we can't all have little flipperskins and skoonernuts running around. besides the boring names help you feel good about how creative and wonderful and clever you are, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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example of a not boring name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Moon Unit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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seems that I am the only one but I like sloan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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op: thank you for some support! this is really hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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I love sloan. for a boy OR a girl. my son has a name that is for a boy or girl....but i'm not telling. it's v. unusual but awesome, if i do say so myself. ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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even my name is for a boy or a girl, and i have never gotten any grief for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I love Alexander and the best middle name for it in this bunch is Sloan. Alexander Sloan. BTW, dd is an Alexandra and Sloan sounds a bit like her middle name, so I am biased. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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that was a top contender for us. thanks for your vote! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Avery's Mom here. We love the name Avery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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boy or girl avery? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Avery is usually used for a girl. Love Alexander, Sloan, and Spencer...not Isaac or Samuel. Asher is sort of tough--could be boy or girl and might be hard for a boy to live with...like the way Leigh or Leslie is for a boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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NO. People who name girls Avery are WRONG. It is a boy's name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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Whether or not it IS a boy's name, it is currently being used most for girls. I knew 2 girls named Avery growing up as well...and no boys named Avery. Ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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Asher is becoming very common. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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i used to know a very hot guy named avery. love it for a boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone know anything abt clearing blocked milk ducts? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.30.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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i had a pretty bad clog that was causing a fever. luckily no mastitis occurred. the nurse at ob's office said to make sure empty that breast at the feeding and if still engorged, pump pump pump. also warm compresses and massaging the area are helpful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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thanks, i have done the massage and pumped but it is still there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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it will feel tender for a few days and may take some time to work out. not sure how old db is, but is it possible to take a few hot showers a day (during naps)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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i will try that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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nurse or pump a lot. hot shower and manual expression in the shower. try to massage the duct so the clot moves out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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^^ I had 3 really bad ones with fever and thankfully didnt develop mastitis either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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Make sure baby's chin is sorta pointed the way of the blocked duct. Somehow that helps that particular duct more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:56 AM Flag
[ - ] 34 weeks pg...feeling twinges lower down. feels different than the stretching of ligaments, maybe kicking. headed to the doc later today...but curious, normal? sign of early labor? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.30.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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nah, baby's probably just dropping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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Op: oh good. i'm not ready yet for this little one to arrive. not a fun feeling though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:14 AM Flag
[ - ] what are your plans for today? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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Girls' Night Out: mani/pedi, Theory sample sale (maybe!), SATC, and dinner out! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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we are meeting some friends at chuck e disease [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:10 AM Flag
[ - ] sahm what are your plans for today? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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art class at 9:30, come home eat lunch/nap, play outside afternoon, then movies with a friend tonight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:07 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone live near the crane accident on 91st and first? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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Sort of -- 95/Second-Third. (I can see 94/First and the backside of the construction site and damaged building -- but none of the collapse.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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what is the news saying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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Crane fell 20-25 floors at 8:15. Was an usual type of crane. News thought that damamge was just near the top of an exisiting building (330 E 91, over a Duane Reade), now see that there is damamge on lower levels as well (terraces and building chunks knocked off). Neighbors are saying they called 311 to complain. At least 2 workers killed and 4 people injured; some people have been rescued (no news on their condition). Con Ed and sanitation workers may have been working underground (nearby). Some buildings have been evacuated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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look on curbed.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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I can't find coverage online but live on 90th and 3rd. have driven under that massive things (fast) many times and DH and I always thought it looked a bit sketchy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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- I live on 90th and Lex/3rd -- is it where they are building the middle school? I've been under that too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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news is saying 1 dead, the crane operator. I think further tragedy may have been averted, because the way it fell, pedestrians had time to run to safety. don't know about the people in the apartment, but it looks like only one apartment was seriously demolished. Then it just sort of slid down the building shearing off balconies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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i saw that there were 2 dead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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depends on who you listen to...but it probably is at least 2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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i also live 90th and 3rd - i heard some found in rubble - but again - depends on which channel you are watching. so sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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That construction site is the location of the new East Side Middle School. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:02 AM Flag
[ - ] any recs for a speech therapist on UWS? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.30.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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Publicly funded or private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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