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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] i can't stand that when i click on "reply" i get sent to the bottom of the page to the box to post a new message rather than to a reply box under the message i want to reply to. UGH! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:52 PM Flag
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that doesn't happen to me. But I still think the new format sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:02 PM Flag
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me too! I signed up on yoube mom - but there are not many people there - it is the old format though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] 36 weeks pg and getting sharp pains in my lower abdomen on one side...it hurts to lay down. Ligament pain or something else? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:49 PM Flag
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hello, anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:53 PM Flag
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i don't know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:08 PM Flag
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early labor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:35 PM Flag
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ugh, i'm 36 wks PG too (third db) and this last trimester has been so full of pains i can't tell what's serious and what's not anymore. absent blood/plug i wouldn't be concerned, but can't hurt to call your OB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:50 PM Flag
[ - ] i stopped coming to UB since the new format - couldn't deal with it. but now i'm back. does everyone still hate it? i have missed you all but i must say, i get a lot more done at night. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:48 PM Flag
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A lot of people have left for the other site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:50 PM Flag
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what other site? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:50 PM Flag
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youbemom.com. It's like old UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:51 PM Flag
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thank you thank you thank you. i never have to come back here again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:01 PM Flag
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np: there is nobody on youbemom now - I'm so disappointed, but I think it will get more and more traffic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:20 PM Flag
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There are a lot of people on during the day. It's late and people are still finding their way there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 PM Flag
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you promise? buh bye! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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i like it--they keep improving it, unlike the old format [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:35 PM Flag
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I agree to some degree. It doesn't seem that they've done much in the last 2 weeks. that to me is aggravating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] can any of your db read? age 4? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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Yes. My dd started reading at 3. But my nephew didn't start reading until 6 and graduated as valedictorian from his elementary last year. Some kids start later than others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:37 PM Flag
[ - ] so the watched posts will just never collapse??! how can they not realize how dumb and clunky that is?! did they not even get advice from ppl who actually used this site when they designed it????!!!!????!!!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:13 PM Flag
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select collapse posts in your default and save as default & update filters. They'll collapse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:18 PM Flag
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ok, so i just did that, and now ALL the posts are collapsed. in fact, this one doesn't even have a plus sign on it to open it up. is this what you mean?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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Yes. And it took a long time for this one to have a + sign - but now it does [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? Found condoms in DH drawer - not being used by us. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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ask him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:11 PM Flag
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We have condoms, DH just bought them. Let me go check the exp. date. Be right back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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I don't know how this post ended up all the way up here, but expiration is 4/11. Who knows how long they have been sitting in the store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Some guys JO in condoms to prevent mess. Are you guys going through a dry spell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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no: seriously? I have never heard of that. Most guys complain htat they're uncomfortable. Are you a dh or a dw? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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that doesn't sound good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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not good... leave them on the kitchen counter and see if he says anything... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I like that idea. Thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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maybe they are old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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would it make a difference? I think some are old - cause they are expired. The others I can't tell - won't expire until 2012. We used condoms years ago - I bought them and they are in a different drawer. Question is why does he have them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Only one reason to have condoms, and you know what it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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yep. but don't be passive and just leave them for him to find. ask about them. be direct and calm. ask and then listen. there could be a perfectly valid reason. if the explanation does not soothe you, stay calm and be vigilant in future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Maybe they are the ones you bought? Are they? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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This seems passive agressive to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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sometimes passive aggressive works... sometimes passive is too passive and aggressive sets things out with you being the one on the defensive when you are the innocent party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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check the expiration date. I have condoms in my sock drawer. They probably expired ten years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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OP - we have two kids and I don't really want to be a single mom. I have never cheated on my DH so obviously I'm upset. How long are the expiration dates on condoms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Do you want to confront him and find out he's been cheating or do you want to pretend that they are there for some other reason? It seems like you'd prefer to stick your head in the sand. If that's the case, go for it. It's your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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I don't want to stick my head in the sand - just not sure what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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I didn't mean to be harsh. I guess my question is, what would you do if you found out he was cheating? Could you stay with him? If so, ask away, if not, then pretend you didn't find them and move on. Only ask the question if you are prepared for the answer. Also, fwiw, if I found condoms in my husbands drawer I would call immediatly to find out what they were for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I bet they're old. Otherwise wouldn't he be hiding them? You could call a pharmacy and ask about expiration. I wouldn't assume they're for current use. It could start a really negative vibe with dh unnecessarily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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think I'm going to go into the drug store and see how far in advance the exp is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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what does this have to do with anything? Condoms are used for one thing only - do you not care if he had the affair three years ago? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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If it were 10 years ago - I'd still be mad - but not as mad as if it is recent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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Have you not been in that drawer in 10 years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I have. But don't know exactly when last I went in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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Once a cheater always a cheater [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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Pretty common google response for you: "Remember to always store your condoms away from sunlight, in a cool, dry place. Also, check the expiration date on your condom package and never use a condom that has expired. If you cannot find an expiration date (usually marked as "Exp"), then check for the date of manufacture (usually marked as "MFG"). Do not use any condoms five years after the date of manufacture. If your condoms contain spermicide, then throw them out two years after the date of manufacture." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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agreed. do not accuse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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at least 10-12 years ahead. (i think.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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beeeep! Sorry, wrong answer. For a parting prize, this contestant gets a lovely new STD. Remember herpes... the gift that keeps giving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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how long are they good then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Five years from manufacture unless they have spermicide. Then two years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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just stay calm and ask. do not accuse. just ask directly. "i noticed these condoms in your drawer. when did you buy them?" followed by a "why?". and go from there. maybe he is looking to spice things up with you, maybe they are old, maybe.... you won't know until you ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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I usually where my feelings on my sleeve - at least when I start talking. Don't know if I can ask without going bolistic. I've been out of town on business since I found them so I haven't had to see him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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keep breathing, take lots of slow long quiet deep breaths to calm your feelings now (and when you ask him.) when you ask him have a glass of water in your hand. take regular small sips as you discuss (this reverses the cry mechanism in your throat.) works for me to stay calm in times like these. keep breathing long and slow. cool air in, warm air out. and be direct w/o being accusatory. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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because it may be nothing and you'll laugh about it! but if its something you'll start from a calm place which is a powerful place. it really may be nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Wait - did you take them from the drawer? If he's cheating he'll notice they are gone and make up some good excuses before you get back. I hope you left them where they were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Is it a drawer you are normally in? Why haven't you noticed them before now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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No I normally don't go in that drawer. And, don't know when the last time is that I had...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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this is a sucky situation. I'd definately confront him, and if you get mad or upset, who cares. You have every right to unless he can ease your mind in the first 15 seconds. You'll probably be able to tell by his face, anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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this is what you do - you put them back in a different drawer of his - more of a top drawer that he knows you would see it in. then if tomorrow, they are not there anymore, that means he is using them to cheat because he hid them when he realized you might find them. if hes not using them, he will say to you - how did these old condoms get in this drawer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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wow - why not just ask? seems like a lot less drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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He's cheating. BTDT. Found condoms in dh's draw last year. Same scenario. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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What did you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP posted last night at midnight if the stamp is correct. What has happened since then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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op - just back in town tonight. Going to ask DH about it after dcs go to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] what are your 4-5 year olds doing at school as far as 'academic work'? do any of your dc read? what's considered advanced for a 4-5 year old?, would any of you consider a tutor if the kindergarten you want your dc to go to has a very intense screening? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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My DD can read chapter books about 1st/2nd grade level, basic addition and subtraction, good at critical thinking type stuff. I think she's bright but not the profoundly gifted that so many on UB claim their kids are. At this age DD is too young for a tutor. Sounds too intense. Playing games and learning while it seems like fun is enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:12 PM Flag
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your 4-5 year old is reading chapter books? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:50 PM Flag
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Basic -- Junie B Jones, Little Tree House.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 PM Flag
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Screening or curriculum? Two different things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:13 PM Flag
[ - ] If I wanted to make $40K/year w/o any specific skills, is this possible? I have a BA in English and teaching is not an option. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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of course, secretaries make that much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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Don't you have to know all sorts of computer programs to do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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do you know microsoft word & email? i'd guess that's what most ppl need. excel would help but it's not that hard to learn. there are lots of diff kinds of secretaries needed in the world [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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Yes but not excel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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you could be a nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] so, on atkins i eat lots of cheese? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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Yes. And ice cream. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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and...this makes me lose weight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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It might make you lose weight (I mean how much cheese and steak and ice cream can you eat?) but it certainly cannot be healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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is that a dare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:17 PM Flag
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no! that can't be, isn't sugar not allowed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Which is better - PS 29 or The Children's School? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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Depends what you want. PS 29 has a great reputation as a gen ed school (don't know much about it but has an affluent student body, very good test scores). Children's school is all CTT classes -- 40% of kids have an IEP, which means they are special needs, but not special ed. In other words, a kid could be very smart but need speech or OT, although some kids may need more help. There are 2 teachers/class, often with an aide, so it works well at the school, even for non-special needs kids (who are 60% of each class). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone even on here? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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i don't know, 1st time on in a wk, hasn't been worth logging on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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youbemom.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:50 PM Flag
[ - ] any recs for a speech therapist on the UWS? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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I'd try youbemom, most of the SN community is there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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and everyone else as well, right? either ppl are giving up all together or they're there - b/c they're not here anymore!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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I can't remember that name ever to log on. Only when I see it here can I remember it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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uh, think UB (you be) mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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See above - that's the actual URL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:57 PM Flag
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It's really not that difficult [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My very picky 7 y.o. dd finally tried steak tonight for the first time ever and liked it!!!!!!! Yay!!!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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my picky 7 yo likes it too! always like to add something to the mix [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:09 PM Flag
[ - ] If I start doing 100 crunches every day, do you think that will help to rid some of my tummy flab? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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no, losing fat will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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I can exercise but I won't diet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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run, run from the flab [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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How much? At this point, I think I could run a mile a day but I couldn't do it w/o stopping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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do couch to 5k. download the podcast [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] 3 weeks pp, vag delivery. how soon can i go to the gym or a yoga class? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.29.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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you should wait until your 6-week appt--walk a bit if you're feeling good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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