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05.29.08, 21:08 PM General Topics
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WWYD? Found condoms in DH drawer - not being used by us. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.29.08, 09:08 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:11 PM Flag
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We have condoms, DH just bought them. Let me go check the exp. date. Be right back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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I don't know how this post ended up all the way up here, but expiration is 4/11. Who knows how long they have been sitting in the store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Some guys JO in condoms to prevent mess. Are you guys going through a dry spell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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no: seriously? I have never heard of that. Most guys complain htat they're uncomfortable. Are you a dh or a dw? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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that doesn't sound good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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not good... leave them on the kitchen counter and see if he says anything... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I like that idea. Thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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maybe they are old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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would it make a difference? I think some are old - cause they are expired. The others I can't tell - won't expire until 2012. We used condoms years ago - I bought them and they are in a different drawer. Question is why does he have them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Only one reason to have condoms, and you know what it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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yep. but don't be passive and just leave them for him to find. ask about them. be direct and calm. ask and then listen. there could be a perfectly valid reason. if the explanation does not soothe you, stay calm and be vigilant in future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Maybe they are the ones you bought? Are they? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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This seems passive agressive to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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sometimes passive aggressive works... sometimes passive is too passive and aggressive sets things out with you being the one on the defensive when you are the innocent party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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check the expiration date. I have condoms in my sock drawer. They probably expired ten years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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OP - we have two kids and I don't really want to be a single mom. I have never cheated on my DH so obviously I'm upset. How long are the expiration dates on condoms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Do you want to confront him and find out he's been cheating or do you want to pretend that they are there for some other reason? It seems like you'd prefer to stick your head in the sand. If that's the case, go for it. It's your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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I don't want to stick my head in the sand - just not sure what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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I didn't mean to be harsh. I guess my question is, what would you do if you found out he was cheating? Could you stay with him? If so, ask away, if not, then pretend you didn't find them and move on. Only ask the question if you are prepared for the answer. Also, fwiw, if I found condoms in my husbands drawer I would call immediatly to find out what they were for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I bet they're old. Otherwise wouldn't he be hiding them? You could call a pharmacy and ask about expiration. I wouldn't assume they're for current use. It could start a really negative vibe with dh unnecessarily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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think I'm going to go into the drug store and see how far in advance the exp is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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what does this have to do with anything? Condoms are used for one thing only - do you not care if he had the affair three years ago? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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If it were 10 years ago - I'd still be mad - but not as mad as if it is recent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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Have you not been in that drawer in 10 years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I have. But don't know exactly when last I went in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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Once a cheater always a cheater [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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Pretty common google response for you: "Remember to always store your condoms away from sunlight, in a cool, dry place. Also, check the expiration date on your condom package and never use a condom that has expired. If you cannot find an expiration date (usually marked as "Exp"), then check for the date of manufacture (usually marked as "MFG"). Do not use any condoms five years after the date of manufacture. If your condoms contain spermicide, then throw them out two years after the date of manufacture." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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agreed. do not accuse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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at least 10-12 years ahead. (i think.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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beeeep! Sorry, wrong answer. For a parting prize, this contestant gets a lovely new STD. Remember herpes... the gift that keeps giving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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how long are they good then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Five years from manufacture unless they have spermicide. Then two years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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just stay calm and ask. do not accuse. just ask directly. "i noticed these condoms in your drawer. when did you buy them?" followed by a "why?". and go from there. maybe he is looking to spice things up with you, maybe they are old, maybe.... you won't know until you ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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I usually where my feelings on my sleeve - at least when I start talking. Don't know if I can ask without going bolistic. I've been out of town on business since I found them so I haven't had to see him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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keep breathing, take lots of slow long quiet deep breaths to calm your feelings now (and when you ask him.) when you ask him have a glass of water in your hand. take regular small sips as you discuss (this reverses the cry mechanism in your throat.) works for me to stay calm in times like these. keep breathing long and slow. cool air in, warm air out. and be direct w/o being accusatory. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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because it may be nothing and you'll laugh about it! but if its something you'll start from a calm place which is a powerful place. it really may be nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Wait - did you take them from the drawer? If he's cheating he'll notice they are gone and make up some good excuses before you get back. I hope you left them where they were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Is it a drawer you are normally in? Why haven't you noticed them before now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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No I normally don't go in that drawer. And, don't know when the last time is that I had...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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this is a sucky situation. I'd definately confront him, and if you get mad or upset, who cares. You have every right to unless he can ease your mind in the first 15 seconds. You'll probably be able to tell by his face, anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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this is what you do - you put them back in a different drawer of his - more of a top drawer that he knows you would see it in. then if tomorrow, they are not there anymore, that means he is using them to cheat because he hid them when he realized you might find them. if hes not using them, he will say to you - how did these old condoms get in this drawer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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wow - why not just ask? seems like a lot less drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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He's cheating. BTDT. Found condoms in dh's draw last year. Same scenario. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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What did you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP posted last night at midnight if the stamp is correct. What has happened since then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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op - just back in town tonight. Going to ask DH about it after dcs go to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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