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[ - ] My dh is a bit over 50. His older brother was killed in Vietnam in 1966. DH found a posting on the virtual Vietnam Memorial from an attorney in the southwest who says that dh's brother saved his life and that he was a medic and was with dh's brother when he died. He found him and they have e mailed. Dh has been invited to call and hear the story of how his brother died. This is risky and very emotional. We named our last ds after this uncle and never thought we would learn the story of what actually happenned. Would you make the call? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I hate to say this - but be careful that this isn't some sort of scam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Op: That's what I'm afraid of. All the info he put in his email is public info. It's kind of sad I'm so suspicious but there are nut jobs out there. [ Reply | More
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thought the same thing... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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absolutely [ Reply | More
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of course. the risk is that DH is sad over it, but won't he gain so much more? [ Reply | More
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that's why he'll probably make the call [ Reply | More
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I don't think there would be any harm in making a call. A visit might be a little scarier. But I would also tape the call so your kids can listen to the call when they get older and your DS who is his namesake can know how special his uncle was... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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i would call but i would lie to the person about where i lived because i'd be afraid of a sccam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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ita.. block your number when you call and pull yourself off the sites that show your house address [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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unfortunately dh's e mail sign off includes our address, telephone number etc. But ita! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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dh's parents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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dh's parents died in 2001 and 2002. They were very old school and close mouthed about their son's death. They never spoke about it. [ Reply | More
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OP: Thanks all. I'll let you know what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] OK... MY DH is in the other room watching *intently* the National Spelling Bee... Isn't that sad and pathetic ? Should I go and have sex with him ? Should he really learn the intricacies of spelling instead ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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wait till the Bee is over and give him so fellatio -- but only if he can spell it correctly. [ Reply | More
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That's G-E-N-I-O-U-S ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] someone please help me. once again, i have no idea what to get dh for father's day. he's impossible to shop for. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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golf lesson at your club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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doesn't play golf, and we don't have a "club" [ Reply | More
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"ok"; what does he like to do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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he likes music. he likes video games. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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do you have the Wii? An IPOD? Any bands on sale now that you could take him to in the future that he likes? What about a membership to somewhere? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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^^ what about XM radio? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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lolol!!! you're a funny lady. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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concert tickets? baseball game? picnic? tie? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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no bands he likes are playing, not into baseball, other two he wouldn't care about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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cd? movies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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give him coupons for dirty sexual acts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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I listen to WFUV online. It's urban folk, if that does it for him. Not classic rock or classical. Buy him a membership and get their best new music of 2008 CD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] need to buy a bag for dc's to use for day camp. should i do backpacks or totes from landsend? i will end up carrying them bc they will be really heavy. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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get a backpack on wheels.... [ Reply | More
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great idea if they would wheel them, otherwise how funny would i look w that! [ Reply | More
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you might look funny but your back wouldn't hurt... [ Reply | More
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backpacks, i'd think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Most camps will give you their own backpack, so make sure yours doesn't before you buy it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Offshoot of the Clooney post: Anyone here think that if they met a certain celebrity (in a vacuum, of course, without all the pressures and distractions), they'd probably hit it off and hook up? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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andy garcia -- but he's been married to 500 yrs to his wife... [ Reply | More
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i felt this way about someone but i fully forget who it was [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Vince Vaughn I could have some fun with but it would never last. [ Reply | More
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His mother is a lunatic... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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matt damon [ Reply | More
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Me, too! I am certain he and I would hook up if we met at a party (this is before his marriage, of course). [ Reply | More
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the gambling problem turns me off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Matt Damon has a gambling problem? Sez who? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Yes, Clooney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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After me. [ Reply | More
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or: lol I could live with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Campbell Scott. Odd choice, I know, but have us meet cute in a bookstore or cafe, and I think he'd ask me out. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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he is great, you have good taste [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Thanks. Saw him once and he was handsome, for real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Hugh Grant [ Reply | More
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That would be a fun one-monther. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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yes, John Krasinski, but it;s a pure fantasy because that kind of guy never likes me. The only guys that do are assholes, geeks, or gay guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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hmm...on second thought..also eccentric, druggie types, so maybe I'd have a shot with Johnny Depp after all... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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Jon Stewart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Know someone who saw him at the park and said he was cute and sweet with his kid, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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met him the other week after a show for a bit with "business" people working with him and he was so "normal" and relaxed and in love with his kids... so cool... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Owen Wilson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How long does baby nurse at each breast? Nervous she is not getting enough. 6wo. TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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depends on child. DS needed to be on each breast for 15 min and DD was able to finish each one in 5-7 minutes -- it was scary -- she had the death suck... [ Reply | More
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maybe half hour each side? i remember it took almost an hour for DD to nurse [ Reply | More
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[ - ] I spent the majority of my summer friday in bed! I needed that! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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that's nice. what did you do? sleep? watch tv? read? UB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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sleep, no tv. I am 14 weeks pg so I just wanted to do nothing. [ Reply | More
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sounds like a perfect day to me! [ Reply | More
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it was. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Anyone have a history of severe depression and went off of meds during pregnancy? I feel like I am literally in hell. I think going off of them was a big mostake... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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me... i had to white knuckle it through my entire pregnancy. the second i stopped nursing at 2 months, i got right back on. if i were to get PG another time, i wouldn't nurse at all because i would want to get ahead of the PPD that came along... [ Reply | More
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...just wanted to add that i hope things go better. i tried acupuncture and reiki massage and that seemed to help me a little at times... [ Reply | More
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I will never have another child after this. I had terrible PPD and this is much worse [ Reply | More
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I'm so sorry. I know there are some meds that aren't supposed to be bad after the first trimester like prozac. what do you normally take? i feel so bad because you were me three years ago... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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were you on an SSRI? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Check out: www.womensmentalhealth.org I saw a psychiatrist at Mass General in Boston who specializes in this topic. I stayed on my meds and am now 3 wks pp and have not had any issues in 10 months. [ Reply | More
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because of insurance I had to switch MDs and cannot get in to see anyone for 6 weeks. I'll check out that website, thanks [ Reply | More
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i'm sorry. GL. i stayed on celexa throughout pg and am still on it now. i have a long history of depression so it was better for me and the baby that i stay on it while pg. [ Reply | More
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I stayed on an SSRI for 16 weeks, but went off at my MD's urging bec. of risk of cardiovascular defects in the fetus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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I'm bipolar 2 (mostly depression, limited mania) and I went off meds a year before we started trying. it was rougher when we were trying, but pregnancy has been ok. no meds but have considered light therapy if things got bad. now at high risk for PPD and freaked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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bad idea!! educate yourself: http://www.womensmentalhealth.org/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Where besides buybuybaby and babiesrus can I buy baby "gear" online? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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target, jcpenney, walmart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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amazon, walmart, target, just do a google search for whatever product you want and tons of sites will show up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been in a suite at NY presbyterian? Curious what they are like. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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my friend was and it was very nice... nice view, large room. [ Reply | More
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Was it any trouble to reserve? Did she have a scheduled delivery...or it was just available? [ Reply | More
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it just happened to be available -- her DH didn't want to pay the extra $$$ but then she had a rough delivery... [ Reply | More
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np: there is a special # to call for the suites (not the private rooms which are first come first serve). I don't have it anymore. [ Reply | More
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I am having twins and have no idea when they will actually arrive...I think it will be a first come situation there too... [ Reply | More
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if you can find the # I think you can get on some sort of list. We thought it was the # for a private room and when they said it was only for a suite, we hung up. I think you might be able to reserve those b/c they are sooooo expensive and not that many people are using them. Ask your OB if they have the #. [ Reply | More
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then maybe my friend had a private room and not a suite -- but it was large and very nice... i had my baby in the Catherine Zeta Jones e-coli suite in a NJ hospital -seriously -- and it was no extra charge. [ Reply | More
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I had a private room and it was very nice, great views and huge. the suites are in the corners (except for 2 that are along the middle of the wall). They are huge and decorated in dark wood and have flat screens, really nice furniture, etc. [ Reply | More
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just had one a few weeks ago. they were out of private rooms and i reaaly didnt want to share so we popped for the suite. nice view of the river. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Twin Moms- What week did you deliver? Any NICU time? Tips for c-section recovery? tia 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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not a twin mom but walk ASAP after the c and keep moving. Also, take colace and the gasx that they offer you and make sure you take the percocet with the motrin - it really helps to take both of those together. GL!!! [ Reply | More
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Thanks! How long until you could take a brisk walk for exercise? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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#1 took a bit longer but I was really nervous; maybe 3 weeks or so. #2 I was walking well and for a long time by 2 weeks. [ Reply | More
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I would say take colace and fibercon. pooping after a c-sxn is really, really dreadful. load yourself up on stuff to make you poop before you are so uncomfortable they have to give you a suppository (that would be me). [ Reply | More
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I'm the OR and I was impacted after my c. The suppository didn't work. It was awful. I ate colace like candy after #2 and was totally fine! [ Reply | More
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I had my 3rd c-sxn this past December and, omg, it was the WORST I've experienced yet. I cried it hurt so much to poop. [ Reply | More
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oh no, was #2 easier then #1. #1 wasn't bad and #2 was really a breeze. I'm terrified to go for #3 b/c i'm so afraid it will all catch up with me. Aside from the pooping issue, how was the recovery? [ Reply | More
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it was fine! this hospital was not as liberal w/ the drugs as the hospital w/ my first. I would go all day w/o a percocet or prescription motrin and be crying at night b/c I was in pain. that was my fault. I should have been on top of the drug thing. but I was afraid of becoming constipated, which happened anyway. If I were to have another, I'd seriously just drink metamucil and take my percocets and double colace. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Just set up the crib. Paid all that $$ for the bedding and it just looks rather frump, not neat. Ideas? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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what's frump about it? did you pull the sheets tight enough? did you iron the bedskirt? [ Reply | More
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The bumper has some bulges instead of being completely flat. The bedskirt is hiked in places because of the way the crib is at the bottom. Seems like it will be a PITA to change... [ Reply | More
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sheets are always a pain -- that's why you need to get the miracle cribsheet -- makes life much easier. you can also pin the bed skirt down onto the mattress pad if you want it to look neater... [ Reply | More
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pin it how? [ Reply | More
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pull the crib skirt as taunt as possible and pin it to the underside of the mattress where your mattress cover is so it doesn't shift around... [ Reply | More
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iron it? [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Any updates from the mom who lost her ds in a freak accident. She is single and has a dd as well? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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was it an accident? I had the impression he had been ill. [ Reply | More
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oh, I saw the first post a few days ago. She said it was sudden and dd found him and it was unexpected; but she didn't get into specifics. What were you thinking? [ Reply | More
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that's me. dd and i are in a hotel which feels better for her, i think [ Reply | More
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what a great idea. How did her appt w/the therapist go? How are you doing? [ Reply | More
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the therapist suggested leaving the house. a friend is staying there so there is someone there to go back to. i think the therapist is good, so we will keep going. after the services and everything, i think i'll have to revisit and get to work making a different sort of life for us [ Reply | More
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Your strength is inspiring, I am in awe of what you are doing. You have a lot of random people here cheering you ladies on and hoping that one day you will both be ok. [ Reply | More
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i honestly cannot even picture the future yet, i'm sort of just worrying about now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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you don't need to picture the future. You need to focus on the now and how you are going to get through the next 5 minutes. You are doing it and ds would be proud of you for carrying on. [ Reply | More
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i think that sounds like a good plan for now. thinking of you and hope you're doing a little better each day. [ Reply | More
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thanks a lot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I read your first post (didn't have anything to add I'm afraid) but have been thinking of you quite a bit. Have only one DC but cannot imagine life w/out her. Hoping the therapist - and maybe a group for those who've been through the same thing - can help over time. [ Reply | More
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Joining in with more or less the same sentiments. I know someone who lost her oldest child, and they took a long vacation with the younger. I think it helped them to get away from everything. They lost their child after a long and grueling battle with cancer, though. [ Reply | More
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I hate to ask this, but what was the freak accident and how old is the dd? [ Reply | More
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I thought she said dd is 4 and the ds she lost 7 [ Reply | More
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So don't ask. It's nosy and unkind. Rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] what are some food cures for constipation. Prune juice... any thing else? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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for a child or adult? for an adult, i would take colace, a stool softener -- much better and more gentle than a laxative. [ Reply | More
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hijack: what about for a 2 yo? for an adult colace or a laxative works well. [ Reply | More
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for at three year old. [ Reply | More
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for a three yr old, prune juice, apple juice, and a baby enema.... [ Reply | More
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coffee coffee and a shot of espresso ! Stay close to home ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Is the only reason to take the SB for Hunter? We're talking for a four year old... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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yes. it used to work for Anderson too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Yep, but it's totally worth it if you can afford the test, and if not, you can apply for fee waiver. You don't get any details, just percentile, but getting hunter is like winning lotto, especially if your zoned school ain't great and you can't or won't move. [ Reply | More
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Hunter elementary is open to Manhattan residents only. [ Reply | More
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yes and while many manhattan gen eds are great, not all are. [ Reply | More
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If your dc bombs ERB but does well on SB, then you can submit SB score as well so the schools kknow your dc just had a bad day on ERB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] My 2yo has turned into one giant PITA. I know it only gets worse, but seriously, the drama and power struggles are unreal. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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DD or DS? my dd is 2yo and has been a PITA since the beginning... what's a mom to do? [ Reply | More
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dd. She is a PITA but so cute I can usually overlook it. Now she's just a huge PITA. [ Reply | More
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Don't engage. I know that sounds simplistic, but there is no struggle if you don't permit there to be one. What you say goes.. and repeat questions are answered with "asked and answered" [ Reply | More
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